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writes:I really like this girl. I met her at work. she's beautiful, sexy and smart. She is oozing with breath taking sex appeal. she knows how to dress well and very down to earth. The problem is, I learned that she is older than me by 7 years. I didn't have the clue. The girl looks so young. In fact looking younger than me. Most of all, I overheard her saying she only goes for rich men. I am not. I was trying so hard to get her attention. She seem friendly and entertains me but whenever I asked her about dating she always changed the subject. I really like her, I wanted to have sex with her. Just one night would be fun but i just can't score with her. what should i do to get her attention and think of me more than a friend? anyone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): IMO women seem to think they are entitled to a double standard about casual sex approaches. Women have the right to want casual sex, they have the right to accept offers from men they want, but men they don't want are wrong for making the same approach on them. Usually the only difference between a casual sex offer being "sexy and assertive" or "rude and disrespectful" is the woman's attraction to the guy.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (7 September 2013):
 Okay you have a women that only likes providers. Lessons teach you this all men want sex not love not providing not dating sex. She knows this we know this. She much probaly rather have been dating or asked out to a movie. But she could be a gold digger or just not interested or attracted to you I get that alot. Money money money is the business. No money no honey unless you get lucky cause all women have slept around a few times without it for sure. Some more than others Ive been instructed.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 September 2013):
 I think YouWish hit it all.
She doesn't want to be some young guys notch in the bedpost.
YOU might want to have sex with her, but she might NOT want to have sex with you.
I think the whole "want a rich BF" means she wants a guy who can and will TAKE CARE of her and spoil her. Not just have sex and walk away.
Sorry, I don't see you having a chance with her.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 September 2013):
 I think that you got her attention allright- and she turned it down. Meaning, 7 years older than you, and a very attractive woman who, I suppose, gets hit on a lot ?... She can read all the signals and she can spot a guy who wants to score from miles afar. She knows exactly what you would like - but she does not want the same, and she prefers being evasive rather than a blunt " In your dreams ,pal ! " which , since you are cowoworkers, may create unpleasantness in the workplace.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 September 2013):
 I think YouWish has it. This woman you are interested in has had plenty of practice dealing with men who want to have sex with her. What's the dating culture at work? Accepted? Frowned on?If you want to date her, don't act like a lovestruck puppy with a leg-humping issue. (Yes, she can tell you want to have sex with her.) You were trying too hard. Back off, figure out whose opinion she respects and convince that person you are very dateable.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (7 September 2013):
Magic tricks. Women LOVE magic tricks. If that doesn't make her pants fall down I don't know what will (besides lots of money).
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 September 2013):
 You want to "score" with her??
If she's older than you, she's probably tired of guys wanting to merely "score" with her. She probably knows your interest is only about having sex with her, which is why she changes the subject.
As far as her saying she "goes for rich men", that may be a subtle way of her saying she's not interested in you but didn't want to say that to you directly (further evidence by her changing the subject instead of a direct "not interested" reply.
I can't help but wonder if she might consider you if you were NOT trying to score with her. Women, especially those who have been around the block, can smell a guy who's just after sex a mile away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013): She specified her type...you understood you were not it. Anything more can become uncomfortable. U run the risk of getting embarrassed too. Let her go and accept it.
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