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41-50,
anonymous
writes:If I slept with a girl after our 2nd date and after a 10-minute intercourse where I orgasmed, she proceeded to immediately start masturbating and even asked me to do it for her the next 20 mins. Does it mean she didn't enjoy the intercourse or wasn't it long enough for her where she found the need to enjoy herself longer?Thanks for your insights.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (12 September 2013):
 Sex is like a race, you both get hot sweaty, should both get out of breath and BOTH reach the finishing line.
The only difference is that the woman takes gold and you, my dear silver.
In other words, she should come first!
So in answer to your question, I don't know if she enjoyed the 10 minutes you had but she certainly wasn't satisfied otherwise she wouldn't have been masturbating.
You need to be a little more considerate in bed :)
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2013): I'm having a hard time believing that this question isn't a joke, but in case you are serious...
Just because you had an orgasm does NOT mean she had one too. Many women don't reach orgasm without stimulation of their clitoris. And why shouldn't she want to finish? Imagine it this way... what if you stuck your **** in her and she came IMMEDIATELY and said "Cool, I'm done, enjoy those blue balls"? Would you be satisfied with that? I doubt it.
Even if you don't know her that well, sex is a two-way street and GOOD sex is satisfying to both partners. If I were that girl there would be no "3rd date."
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 September 2013):
This question is unreal. "I came. Shouldn't she be satisfied?"
Did she come? If not, that's why she continued. If she did, she wanted more action. Not everybody operates at the same level.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 September 2013):
 What a coincidence. Just a few inquiries away from your's, is another, to which I submitted this reply:
"Unfortunately, you've encountered a guy who has never read my best-selling pamphlet titled "When you do nik-nik, it's all about HER, you idiot!!!!"....."
I haven't heard from that lady yet. But... do YOU want a copy?????
Good luck....
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (11 September 2013):
 OP, have a look at this recent post from a woman's point of view. It might help. I'm not saying the sex you had was so awful, but the female poster complains about lack of attention to various areas....
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-you-just-not-care-if-your.html
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 September 2013):
 Maybe since you got yours, she wanted to get hers?
In your book is sex over once YOU reach orgasm? And if so, maybe you should ensure she gets her rocks off first.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 September 2013):
 It can have been good and exciting, but not conducive to orgasm,just to the brink of, so she wanted to finish off manually. Or, she may have had an orgasm ...and want another one too right away , women do not have a refractory time. Or, she does not orgasm through penetration ( very common ), no matter how long it lasts, and she can only climax manually.
Talk about it with her, don't guess. At least, if she is a type that can't come through penetration only ( there are plenty ! ) ... you can save yourself the exertion of tryng to last 30 or 40 minutes, and satisfy her manually or orally before intercourse, or after.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 September 2013):
 You mentioned 10 minutes of intercourse? What about before that or after that? Many women are unable to have an orgasm through intercourse alone, because many positions don't allow for adequate stimulation of the clitoris.
Could you have an orgasm if all you were allowed was stimulation of your testicles? No touching of your penis, except by accident during testicle play? I'm guessing it would be 15 seconds before you'd guide the hand touching your balls and dragged it onto your penis, where the real pleasure is derived, right?
That's how it is with most women. The vagina is NOT the seat of pleasure. The clitoris is. She kept masturbating because she either didn't have an orgasm, or she wanted multiples. Did you get a chance to watch and study how she did it?? I know you were shocked, but did you make a mental note of exactly what she did to give herself pleasure?? Not often do you see a woman demonstrating the proper way to give herself an orgasm. Many times, women have a hard time verbalizing it.
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reader, ModelCitizen +, writes (11 September 2013):
It means she didn't have enough stimulation during the intercourse itself to reach orgasm. This is very common for women, hardly any can orgasm from penetration alone. The clitoris isn't in the right spot for that to be possible for many. It doesn't mean she didn't enjoy it, just that she needs some extra stimulation to get herself there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2013): Its simple really. She would like to have an orgasm too just like you did. But since you already orgasmed you can't continue the intercourse so how else is she supposed to "finish" except by masturbation? Also many women can only orgasm from masturbation and not from intercourse.
Why are you so surprised that your gf would like to have an orgasm too and that sex doesn't end just because you have achieved your orgasm?
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