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writes:Hi. My boyfriend and I want to move in together. I own, he rents. If he moves in with me what is the best way to split the bills if we earn about the same but he has child maintenance for 1 child which I don't have. Thanks for the advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2013): I don't see how his previous responsibilities matter to you. It's his child, not yours, and you are not married. I would go 50/50. He needs to pay you rent, it doesn't matter you own a house or not. He can't live there for free.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (20 September 2013):
 Yep, 50/50. His child is his problem, and you are neither married, nor do you need to shoulder his child support burden, which you WOULD be if you gave him a break on the bills.
How much does he pay each month in renting? It doesn't matter if you own the place. He'd be paying that sort of money by renting, so don't feel bad going 50/50.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2013): I agree....50/50 is more than fair!;
Also, I agree with 'iamheretohelpyou', be sure that you move in together when you are 100% ready. Its a HUGE step. Just make sure you know each other well enough.
Good Luck....Be Happy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2013): If you want to play house without the legal protection of marriage, then see a lawyer and get everything in writing.
A deadbeat shack-up boyfriend can try to avoid paying his share by claiming poverty due to child support payments, a deadbeat tenant in violation of his lease can be evicted.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 September 2013):
50-50 would be right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2013): Everything 50/50. So he has child maintenance well that's his responsibility and it he's renting at the moment surely he can afford to go 50/50 with you?
Have one account which you both pay your share into and that covers mortgage, council tax, utilities, food
Then whatever you have left each covers your own car insurance, fuel, etc...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 September 2013):
 Sit down and make a budget.
Then sit HIM down and go over said budget and then TALK about what is OK with the both of you.
If you both work I'd go with a 50/50 - but it really comes down to what you two can agree on.
I can't see that he should pay less because he pays child Maintenance (unless it is really high).
GET this done before he moves in. NOT after.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2013): Right down the middle.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 September 2013):
 What's wrong with 50-50?
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