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writes:I'm 27 years old and a virgin, and I always thought about waiting for the right girl that I liked or was into me, however I just grew impatient. I'm shy, I don't feel comfortable in myself so I feel that I'm not any girls type and not attractive to anyone because I'm brown skin from a mixture of Indian and Latin. Also I just don't know where to meet women, I also don't know how when it is right to approach a girl and I don't know how to start a conversation with a girl and not sure if I can maintain a conversation with one. I can maintain a conversation with a guy with no problem. I'm a senior in college and people tell me college is a great place to meet girls. To be honest its not, everyone is off to themselves at least from what I see. If I do meet a girl she already has a boyfriend every time or more likely she is not going to be interested in me.After I have a sex with a prostitute I'm not sure how I will feel, but I'm sure the outcome will be okay.
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (10 September 2013):
 Have you tried dating websites? They're a good way of meeting people.
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reader, locust +, writes (7 September 2013):
locust is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do have my own interest and hobbies, I'm into science I like modelling things out and discovering how things work which why I'm a science major in college. Music not really a big fan but I do like computer software mixing and I do like tennis but have not played due to leg injury in the knee area.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 September 2013):
 And just how will you explain to your future wife or serious girlfriend exactly how you lost your virginity?
I don't know about you, but if I found out that a guy I was into lost it to a prostitute/escort, I'd be going for an STI test and thinking about the fact that our sexual values are very incompatible. The word "deal breaker" would be in my mind a long time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013): I feel that you are only trying to date flawlessly beautiful white girls, that is why you are not meeting much success. Why not try to date Indian or Latin girls? there are some beautiful girls among them too. Also I think you should work on your personality because girls are attracted to interesting guys. Take up a hobby like music or sports also read lots of classical litrature books to widen your knowledge of human nature.Also work hard to be successful in your life, remember that the female of all species seek the male who can defend and provide for her and their future offsprings.As for the escort it is not such a big deal.It is all to do with money so try to pay a little extra to make your first time a worthwhile practical lesson to learn and take the opportunity to ask questions to satisfy your curiosity about sex .Most of them like talking and are quite friendly as long as you are generous with the money.Good luck.
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (6 September 2013):
 You're clearly a man who thinks about things.
I think that going to a prostitute would leave you feeling terrible the next day.
Ok so you will no longer be a virgin, big whoop! Who's going to know? Will it change who you are and how you perceive yourself? Sorry but no.
You say you're mixed race with Indian and Latin heritage, well that sounds a pretty gorgeous combination to me.
I think the reason you haven't met a nice girl is because you have such low self esteem and spend too much time worrying about how others might see you. You may not realise it but you will be projecting this self image when you chat to people.
Stop focusing on sex and relationships and first concentrate on yourself and learn to accept who you are and get some hobbies and interests that will encourage you to go out and meet people. It will also give you something to talk about when you do.
If you can't see your potential who else is going too?
Point to think about, if you were to meet "Miss Right" how would you feel if you found out she went to male prostitutes because she was tired of waiting?
If you don't agree with me that's ok but please be safe, be sure you have good quality condoms and plenty of money.
I wish you well AB x
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reader, DKW +, writes (6 September 2013):
Visiting this escort won't change you, you'll still be the same guy afterwards. Is this just because you need sex, or is to somehow boost your self esteem?
Just work on becoming the man you want to be, then get out there and mix with people. take it easy, slow steps, just saying hi and smiling to girls a few times a day is a start, then just work on talking to women as human beings, not just someone to have sex with.
Still see the escort if you want, I guess at least you'll learn what sex is like, but then put it behind you and use that experience to build up your personality.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 September 2013):
 You certainly sound a little "down," now.... but at least you still have your soul. After your incident with the hooker, there's a good chance you won't have the soul any more.... Be patient.
Good luck....
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reader, Makar  +, writes (6 September 2013):
 Condoms and money, I suppose. That's all
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