When you squirt does it smell like pee?
Q. I think I just learned how to squirt I empty my bladder nd I had the feeling of Peeing nd I let go so I squirted bt it still smells alittle like pee so I got up and went to the bathroom to see if I needed to pee more bt I don't so is that pee or is ...
A. 15 July 2013: Actually, it's not exactly from the same hole. We urinate through our vulva, and true female ejaculation is through our vagina via the Skene's gland. They help lubricate the vagina and seem to be triggered by sexual stimulation (i.e. the act of ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend told me I had bad breath and now I'm paranoid
Q. Hi everyone my ex boyfriend who i split up with 4 month ago told me i had bad breath i have asked all my friends and family who i can trust to tell me the truth i have had a couple of dates with a new man but im so paranoid about the comment my ex ...
A. 15 July 2013: Two things you need to keep in your mind:
1. He's your EX. His opinion means nothing whatsoever.
2. EVERYONE in the universe has had bad breath!
Your ex is your ex. Leave the stuff your ex says to you in the past where it belongs, and ne... (read in full...)
He has nothing about us on any of his social media sites, he hinted today on a post then took it down. I quietly took down anything associated with him and now he's upset. Am I wrong? What would you do?
Q. Long story short I have talked to my boyfriend about how uncomfortable it makes me feel that he does not have anything on any social media websites that say he has a girlfriend. No pictures, no statuses, his relationship status on FB is blank. He ...
A. 14 July 2013: After having gotten new info from the OP, it looks as if his reluctance is limited to social media sites, and the OP isn't a secret to his entire life.
In that case, with the new information, I'd say let him be in regards to his social media. ... (read in full...)
He has nothing about us on any of his social media sites, he hinted today on a post then took it down. I quietly took down anything associated with him and now he's upset. Am I wrong? What would you do?
Q. Long story short I have talked to my boyfriend about how uncomfortable it makes me feel that he does not have anything on any social media websites that say he has a girlfriend. No pictures, no statuses, his relationship status on FB is blank. He ...
A. 14 July 2013: When we're married, we wear wedding rings. In high school days of old (maybe they still do this now, it's been a while for me!), we'd wear our boyfriend's class ring or a letterman jacket or something else.
Why do we do this? It's to show the... (read in full...)
Since I no longer pay for everything, he doesn't hardly see me at all!
Q. Ok I'm back with more questions. I am still in the LDR. But have made some much needed changes. I no longer pay for everything but with that change it means he doesn't see me hardly at all. So this is probably the last straw. This weekend I drive 3 ...
A. 14 July 2013: How desperate are you if you hold onto this loser? I read your other two threads, and you should have dumped him long ago. Not "made changes", but gone.
Every day now is on you and you're bringing this pain on yourself, because you know he ... (read in full...)
Should she just be up front about the nose job?
Q. Just a simple question, I know everybody has their own opinions on people who have nose jobs. But please don't be judgemental and say those who do are 'shallow, stupid, fake' or any other insulting and personal comment. Because it depends on the ...
A. 13 July 2013: If she were here instead of you, I'd advise her to tell the truth, as there is nothing to be ashamed of. However, there is, unfortunately, a stigma about plastic surgery. People do judge just like you said, calling those who use plastic surgery ... (read in full...)
He still looks at naked pics of his ex
Q. Can I still date the guy or pursue a marriage while he is still curious about his ex girlfriend and look for her online and look at her naked photos? Is this normal for a guy? ...
A. 13 July 2013: Not normal. I'd dump a guy who did that in a hot minute. This isn't like porn. This is ex-girlfriend unacceptable baggage. She's in his heart. There is no place for you. Telling him to get rid of the naked pictures isn't enough. You have to ... (read in full...)
How to win a mind game( push/pull game) at work place?
Q. Hi. I am wondering if someone could tell me how to win a mind game ( push/ pull game) a coworker guy is playing on me? Is there really any way to win this game as a girl. Thanks for all the help. ...
A. 13 July 2013: First of all, at your age, you're not a girl. You're a woman.
Second, this guy is doing it for the ego boost with no intention of starting something with you. You didn't mention if he has a wife or girlfriend, because he's acting like he does.... (read in full...)
What shall I say to make the break-up less harsh?
Q. I don't like my boyfriend anymore.? He never compliments me or says I look attractive/beautiful or tells me how he feels about me, he makes me feel fat because he flirts with other girls. He doesn't want a sexual relationship yet which makes me t...
A. 12 July 2013: You sound like a very truthful person, and I commend you on that. Just talk to him in person, tell him that you want to break up because the feelings aren't there for you as time went on, and that you want to go in another direction. It's to the ... (read in full...)
He just doesn't understand what I'm going through.
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend were together for nearly two years. We broke up for about a month and are now thinking of giving it another go. I found out a few days ago that he has been sleeping with another girl since we broke up. It broke my h...
A. 12 July 2013: "Whenever I've tried to talk to him about it and ask him he just gets defensive and starts saying things like 'What i do when i'm single is my own business not yours so you don't need to know'. "
That right there should disqualify him from you... (read in full...)
Can a married man love his wife and mistress at the same time?
Q. Can a married man love his wife and mistress at the same time?...
A. 12 July 2013: If a married man has a wife and a mistress, he can love neither of them. Love doesn't betray a wife and be okay with it. Love can't also use a mistress as easy and cheap sex on the side. The only one he's loving is himself, getting domesticity ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends brothers girlfriend won't stop flirting with my boyfriend
Q. I caught My boyfriends brothers girlfriend seducing my boyfriend I confronted him we got into a whole fight over it. He denied it months passed before running into each other and now my boyfriend seems to be the one who seems like he is going an ...
A. 12 July 2013: How exactly was she seducing him?? Was she touching him inappropriately? Was she downright seducing him?
If it was obvious and went well beyond "eye contact", and she propositioned him or touched him inappropriately, then what is her boyfrien... (read in full...)
How to win a mind game( push/pull game) at work place?
Q. Hi. I am wondering if someone could tell me how to win a mind game ( push/ pull game) a coworker guy is playing on me? Is there really any way to win this game as a girl. Thanks for all the help. ...
A. 12 July 2013: Could you please elaborate? Your question is answerable, but I think more details are necessary, because there is no generic one-size-fits-all response to that broad question.... (read in full...)
I don`t want to cheat but I`d like some affection from my friend
Q. Ok heres the dilema, I'm married and have 2 kids. Years ago I met a guy who totally blew my world away, we only saw each other for a short time and were never intimate sexually. I had to break it off because my ex wanted me back in my life and ...
A. 11 July 2013: You are *already* cheating on your husband big time. Why do you think he's "grumpy and lazy"? I'll tell you why -- you're alienating affection from him. When was the last time you got your husband away for a weekend, a date, a vacation, and ... (read in full...)
He's done it all before, and I want the relationship to be as special for him as it is for me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months (both of us 20 years old). We both knew from the start that it would be a serious relationship and I think of him as my best friend as well as my boyfriend. The thing is this is my first relatio...
A. 11 July 2013: What you're going through is called retroactive jealousy, which means you're obsessing a bit over his past. It's common and can go in one of two ways -- you can either accept it, come to grips with it and let it fade with time, intimacy and ... (read in full...)
Should I worry about his porn use? He said he tried to give it up but lasted only 3 days!
Q. I know this is going to sound stupid to most people because it sounds stupid to me but it annoys me and set of my jealous streak.. (I know I'm going to get some 'hate' probably for what I've done) So me and my boyfriend have exchanged intima...
A. 10 July 2013: Your boyfriend is a porn addict, and that is *not* normal. If he can't stop using for 3 days, that is addiction. It's like alcohol or drugs. Alcohol is used by many people who use it occasionally, and responsibly. However, there are alcoholics ... (read in full...)
Should I be giving up my best friend just because I have feelings for him? He said he's happy to stop having sex, but doesn't wanna lose me as a mate?
Q. I have fallen for someone I can't have, but I knew that when we started and now its too late. I met this guy about 9 months ago, we clicked immediately, he had a gf but decided to sleep with me.. I knew it was wrong but he said it was just a bit of...
A. 10 July 2013: He's using you, and the "falling for him" feelings you have for him? He doesn't even remotely have them for you. If he did, he'd leave his girlfriend. Incidentally, can you not see how he treats the girl he says he loves? He's cheating on her ... (read in full...)
Am I shallow for thinking that the cosmetic surgery took something away?
Q. There's this girl that I used to date, she was so beautiful and now she's had a nose job. Nothing drastic, she just got rid of the bump on her nose to have it straightened and had the tip raised a bit. It looks really good, if I didn't know her ...
A. 10 July 2013: What interests me here is why you care at all? You used to date her, right? Apparently, before her nose job, you didn't find her enough to continue dating her, so what's the difference at any rate?
You're entitled to your opinion of how she look... (read in full...)
He shuts me out when things get rough!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend a little over a year and i care about him deeply, but he's a very proud and prideful person. He refuses any form of help or admitting he needs anyone in his life besides himself and his 3 year old daughter. Don't get me ...
A. 9 July 2013: Bottom line -- you can't deal with that. He's immature and has gotten himself into a lot of trouble. Obviously, he needs others in order to take care of his 3-year old, and he's pretty bitter about things in his past.
He's like an undercoo... (read in full...)
He hasn't introduced me to his parents, and they are here for only 2 more weeks!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and he has said he wants to marry me and even gave me a promise ring on Valentine's Day. We spend a lot of time together, and everything is good. I have yet to meet his parents, however, since t...
A. 9 July 2013: I think Honeypie is right, but I don't think you should let him off the hook for that. If it's been a year and he's breaking out the M word and promise rings, then it's high time you meet the family. He doesn't get to use his baggage from his ex ... (read in full...)
In love with two different guys
Q. First of all, this is going to be pretty long, so I just want to thank anyone who actually takes the time to read this and give advice. Let's do each other a favor and try to keep negative comments to a minimum. Basically, I'm in love with two di...
A. 9 July 2013: Alright, here it is straight:
Neither of them.
They're both flaky, and to recommend one would be like choosing between the lesser of the two evils, and truthfully, the fact that you could instantly love them both and go straight from on... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 9 July 2013: By the way, I'm not trying to be mean, but didn't your fishing and sucking up and seeking male attention get you into this mess in the first place??... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 9 July 2013: A male reader, mkateko +, writes (25 June 2013):
A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 June 2013):
A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2013):
A male reader, Serpico +, writes (11 June 2013):
A male reader, Sageoldguy1465... (read in full...)
My ex kissed me, he's married and I'm dating someone!
Q. i need major advice! my ex/daughters father and i have been broken up for a year. He's is married and has a new baby. i have been dating this guy for 5 months. I am very happy with my boyfriend now i wouldnt trade him for anything. last night m...
A. 9 July 2013: Let me get something straight here:
"When I go let go of him he leans in to kiss me. And i try to hurry and back away but he wouldn't let me i sorta pushed him away and it didnt work."
When you say "It didn't work", does that mean he forced h... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I'm abandoning my mom?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a caregiver for my mom I have four other siblings that really refuses to be apart of this situation with my mom.She is getting older she can't hold her body fluids like she use to so its and often clean up I have to do so my home ...
A. 9 July 2013: You need help. A good home is a Godsend, so why do you not want to do that? There are many who balance care with independence and offering the joys of life that she hasn't had access to. A good home takes care of the body and the mind, allowing ... (read in full...)
We've been together a week and now he wants to have sex! I don't know what to do!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a week now, he is asking me for sex ,we are both 14, i dont know what to do can you help me? x ...
A. 9 July 2013: You two having sex now within a week of being together is as crazy as giving a 2-year old toddler a chainsaw. Risky, foolish, pregnancy inducing, and you are on your way to getting used and discarded.
You're scared that he won't like you if you s... (read in full...)
She is the only one who turns me on -- is this a problem?
Q. Hi I'm not too sure if this is a problem or not. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 3 and a half years. We had a 2 month break at one stage. To the point, my girlfriend is the only girl that turns me on... It's strange,, I look at a pretty...
A. 9 July 2013: It's feelings like what you have that made a group called the Flamingos to record the hit song "I Only Have Eyes For You".
You love her.... (read in full...)
How old were you when you kissed someone?
Q. just asking, how old where you when you kissed somebody or anybody?????...
A. 9 July 2013: I was 15 when I had my first real kiss, the kind that made time stand still and made me weak in the knees.... (read in full...)
Deep Throat a Very Thick Dick..can it be done?
Q. I have a boyfriend with a very thick dick. I want to be able to deep throat him but I haven't been able to. I know the secret to it is relaxing my throat but he's so thick its almost impossible for me. Are there any tips where it'll be possible for ...
A. 9 July 2013: Don't laugh, but get some Chloraseptic spray. The numbing attribute of the stuff will help resist the gagging reflex. Use it the first few times to get used to it, then try it straight up. It really works!
The other thing that works pretty w... (read in full...)
I'm scared my boyfriend will leave me for someone with a bigger dick
Q. Hi I have a boyfriend (I'm gay) and we've been dating for a good while now and are very committed to each other. When we have sex normally both of us get off and we kind feed off each other's energies. We constantly tell each other how much we love ...
A. 9 July 2013: Relax! There's more to life than a couple of inches! I know size is a thing with guys, but so is technique, caring, adventurous, and did I mention sexual innovation??
Which one would you take, the guy with elephantitus of the penis, or a guy... (read in full...)
could it be that I've always had a thing there but didn't realize it until he WAS in uniform?
Q. What is it about a man in uniform that drives a woman crazy? My best friend (who I've never looked at sexually) enlisted in the USAF in the middle of senior year of high school; he went into basic two days after graduation two months ago. He's ...
A. 9 July 2013: I think you see a new facet of him and your feelings have evolved. There is something about a guy in uniform, and not only that, but military training instills a sense of strength and self-confidence that might have not been there before.
I act... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 9 July 2013: I'm sorry, but why are you here then? We're not qualified to be your therapist, and it's become clear at least to me that you need professional help instead of an anonymous advice column. We can only give advice, but if you won't, don't, or can't ... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 8 July 2013: How to stay strong?
Go tell his wife. I guarantee that his squirming and verbal degrading of you to her would strengthen you in a hot minute.... (read in full...)
He sent me a critique of our night together!
Q. Dear Cupid, Okay this is embarrassing.. I started to see a guy, very smart, kind and fun to be around. Last night was the 1st we had sex. I am a bit shy by nature but quite open minded sexually. Anyway the sex I thought was quite good, and when I...
A. 8 July 2013: This guy sounds like he's either joking, or he's the type that has a Microsoft Office Spreadsheet detailing all of his sexual escapades with other women. That is without a doubt the most anal retentive quirk I have ever read on here!
You could ma... (read in full...)
Five dates and his profile's still active? Should I move on?
Q. I met this guy online on an online dating site. After writing to each other for two days, we decided to meet. I really like him and we went on our fifth date last weekend. It has been four weeks since we started meeting each other. He has ne...
A. 8 July 2013: You've only been dating for a month? Slow down just a little bit here. So far, he's not under any obligation to become exclusive, and you two aren't yet having sex, so there is no unspoken exclusivity either.
In an online relationship that goe... (read in full...)
What makes someone like my husband so immature and extreme in his reactions?
Q. Why is my husband so selfish? He was the oldest of 8 kids but I swear he acts like an only child sometimes; someone who never learned how to compromise, or share things, or accept another person's ideas and viewpoints. Case in point; we bought some ...
A. 8 July 2013: I'm also a wife to a firstborn, and I have a simple explanation as well as a good way to deal with it.
He uses this behavior simply because it works. He's rigid "my way or the highway" because he just is. Like Wiseowle said, that will never ch... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married woman. Her husband knows and she broke it off saying she can't live with the lies!
Q. well were to start really, Actually I am rather a pathetic person and very weak I think. In January this year I met a very beautiful woman on a site for language exchange we got talking I knew she was married but unhappy. he is from Ukraine and...
A. 4 July 2013: James, you know full well that no matter what we say or what we advise, you're going to go see her when you go to Ukraine. Wild horses couldn't drag you from her doorstep unless you were somehow knocked unconscious for your entire stay there.
... (read in full...)
He's lost and confused after a major trauma, so he ended our relationship
Q. Hello again dear cupid. right now i feel my life is in shambles. Me and my bf broke up yesterday night. He told me that something inside him was broken since his work accident (building blew up, people died) this has affected our relationship from ...
A. 3 July 2013: You need to do what is best for you. If you "stay friends" in hopes that he will see if whatever, then you will keep getting hurt, and you will also not free yourself to live your own life, which is the biggest waster of your time and life.
He ne... (read in full...)
Ex has made breaking up harder than usual. How do I move on now?
Q. Me and my ex broke up about a month ago and its been very hard. We broke due to him cheating on me, and it came as a huge shock and throughout it all he blamed me for it. He had cheated on me in the past but after he did the...
A. 3 July 2013: Do not have limited contact with this guy. Have *NO* contact with the guy. You are doing the right thing by deleting him from everything and ignoring him.
However, at the same time, you're learning about a bunch of things like his addition... (read in full...)
My virgin boyfriend can't stay hard to have sex and makes me feel totally unattractive
Q. I'm 17, nearly 18 and I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 and a half months. I was not a virgin when I first started dating him - I lost my virginity to my ex boyfriend - but my current boyfriend is still a virgin. At the beginning of our ...
A. 3 July 2013: Heh, you know, he may be the virgin, but you must not have a lot of experience either. You missed the entire point of first-time sex. It's so easy to get misled in the cliche of guys wanting the whole fantasy girl thing, that we forget that men ... (read in full...)
Uneasy over his lack of interest in condoms
Q. Is it a red flag if my boyfriend doesn't want to use condoms? (We use them for intercourse.) Am I likely to get a sexually transmitted infection/disease from giving fellatio if no semen is present? Background: I have only been in two...
A. 3 July 2013: For one, if you've only been dating him for a month, you hardly know him. You say he's had a very active sexual history, right? There may be STI's that even *he* might not know he has, and if he's as careless about unprotected sex, and furthermore ... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 26 June 2013: Reference to the first thread:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/fooled-around-with-a-married-man-last-night.html... (read in full...)
Married man dumped me and I am feeling so used and stupid!!
Q. I had a fling with a married man. I posted here not long ago but I think my question reached a max with 27 answers because I tried to post a follow up and the site would not allow me. This is my follow up. You can say I TOLD YOU SO and I had it ...
A. 26 June 2013: I remember your other post. I was on it.
I have doubts as to your remorse, because you sounded this way before, and then as time went on, you started becoming defensive and saying that you were the one using him and all that. I hope you have... (read in full...)
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