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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello, the past 2 girls I have had sex with have bled after the intercourse was over while they weren't on their period. It didnt happen everytime we had sex but it did happen the 2nd or 3rd time. This has also happened a few times in the past and has turned an otherwise very enjoyable and sensual experiences into embarrasment.I use alot of foreplay and the girls really get into it. I'm at times somewhat aggressive but only when they favorably respond to it. I don't think I'm particularly huge down there (7.5 inches).This is really bothering me.Could someone provide some insight as to why this is happening?Thanks
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reader, CMMP +, writes (6 September 2013):
Lube.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2013): I occasionally bleed with men of your penis size and its not because the sex was rough..
I went to a gyno about it and he said it was because I had a minor (and very common) operation due to an abnormal papsmear. The blood is from scar tissue being rubbed.
Trust me, if she is into you this won't put her off!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2013): Wonderful advices ladies, thanks a bunch.
Now I'm sitting here waiting hoping she will call me again. This girl seems special and I hope last night's experience won't scar her to the point where she stops seeing me...
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (6 September 2013):
 You're being too rough.
The vaginal walls are comprised of a delicate mucous membrane and can be bruised and damaged easily.
The vaginal canal is between 7cm to 9cm long when un-aroused but actually expands when sexually aroused so your length should not be an issue.
The pounding is an issue and although your partners may enjoy it in the heat of the moment they will certainly feel uncomfortable the next day.
The abrasions caused to the internal vaginal walls also makes them susceptible to any infections whilst they heal.
I think you should consider alternative sexual positions and increased foreplay (for you) so that you're aroused and able to achieve an orgasm with less aggression.
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, YouWish +, writes (6 September 2013):
 Yep, you are being way too rough when it comes to intercourse. That is another reason why I firmly advise guys on here to never consider porn as a way to learn how to have sex, because that whole jackhammer pounding for several minutes at a super-fast speed can damage the sensitive delicate skin of a vagina, especially if you're also wearing a condom (ahem!).
I also suggest to you that your penis may be too desensitized. Don't answer this here, but how do you masturbate? If it's ultra-fast with a lot of friction, you may have de-sensitized it to the natural rhythm and feel of a vagina, especially if you have to really compensate for the condom. If you have to hurt a girl to get off, then hold off on self-stimulation, or at least change it up.
In solo-play, slow your hand down. Same with intercourse. 7.5 inches is a decent length, but it isn't Ron Jeremy, so your size isn't the issue. The type of stimulation you need to get off *is* the issue.
But you're doing right on the foreplay! However, when it gets too rough, no amount of lube, natural or artificial, will stop the damage. Train your penis to need less stimulation, and you will find your problem with making women bleed to be better. Some of it is your age -- many guys your age are feeling less potent orgasms, so to compensate, they stimulate more aggressively.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 September 2013):
 You're too rough. Tons of women are scared to say what they really want in bed, and goes along with whatever the guy does. You'd be surprised to know just how many women NEVER tell the truth about what they want in bed.
You make them bleed! It shouldn't be that hard to figure out that you're going at it with too much force. Be more gentle, if they still bleed then ask her how she feels and what you can do differently.
And yes, you're big. Why do you guys always think you are small, no matter if you've got a horses dick you still think it is too small. Btw your length it totally irrelevant, it's your girth that matters. So how thick are you? If you're got a thick penis then that will explain why they bleed, it's just too much for them and you need to go veeeeeeeery slow! And probably you could benefit from buying lubricant, even if a woman is wet, if you're thick then you need extra lubricant.
I suggest just buying the lubricant, go slow and see if it doesn't make a difference.
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female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 September 2013):
 My guess is that either you are to well endowed for them or else they are just not relaxed enough for sex. Now that is presuming that they are not virgins. I guess the best advise that I can give to you is to use some lube during intercourse to make things more smoother.
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