Is she over reacting to our Daughter's facebook or am I irresponsible.
Q. Me and my wife split up over 2 years ago. I quickly found someone new and we have been living together for over a year. My ex has always let me see my daughters every other weekend and they have been allowed to sleep over at weekends and during ...
A. 13 July 2011: The wife cannot amend the divorce agreement. If he has weekends, she can't place a restriction stating that he can only be seen in the daytime. He is allowed to have her sleep over for the full amount of time the courts have given to him.
If yo... (read in full...)
Girls: Have you ever been rejected?
Q. Girls have you ever approached a guy and had him reject you? I am not talking about being dumped. I am talking about when you first meet a guy, you put yourself out there and ask him out and he shoots you down. I have this theory. Most girls seem ...
A. 12 July 2011: Oh...forgot to add...it's a rejection everytime a man takes you on a date and then he never calls back. At least a guy gets a definite rejection from the start, quick and easy. A woman's is drawn out for a week or so and is excruciating.
Don't... (read in full...)
Girls: Have you ever been rejected?
Q. Girls have you ever approached a guy and had him reject you? I am not talking about being dumped. I am talking about when you first meet a guy, you put yourself out there and ask him out and he shoots you down. I have this theory. Most girls seem ...
A. 12 July 2011: Sure, I've been rejected. The guy was nice about it said he saw me as more "friend" material than anything more. It stung some, but I quickly got over it. I've also rejected a few guys too and tried to be very nice about it as well.
Every... (read in full...)
Is she over reacting to our Daughter's facebook or am I irresponsible.
Q. Me and my wife split up over 2 years ago. I quickly found someone new and we have been living together for over a year. My ex has always let me see my daughters every other weekend and they have been allowed to sleep over at weekends and during ...
A. 12 July 2011: I hear what LoveGirl is saying, however disagreeing with the father about having a Facebook account is not grounds to cut him off from his daughter. Period.
Stoney, your divorce papers spell out your parental rights. She cannot deny you thos... (read in full...)
BF is married and lied to me about being separated from his wife, having sex with her and having another kid that I didnt know of. Does he deserve another chance?
Q. Five months ago I met this guy who seemed like a good guy and was fun to hang around. From the first moment we met he admitted to me that he had a son who was in the first grade, and showed me pictures like any proud father. Even though I myself ...
A. 12 July 2011: What would you give him a second chance to do, exactly??
He is still married, so give him a second chance to finalize his divorce? No way. He's still sleeping with her. You may be able to legally separate, but you haven't truly separate... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a two-year-old to want to nap/sleep/lay on her dad's chest?
Q. Is it normal for a two year old girl to want to nap/sleep/lay on her dad's chest? She's definitely a daddy's girl but a friend of mine told me she shouldn't want to lay on him. As soon as he lays down even if she's not going down for a nap or rea...
A. 12 July 2011: Aww...I think it's sweet that she wants to! That's totally normal and wonderful, to be honest. When my son was a two year old, he used to curl up with me and put his head on my shoulder. There's just a special thing when it comes to dads and ... (read in full...)
Guy breaks up with girlfriend to date me but now feels sorry for her!
Q. I have known this man from work for 4 years. It another department in another city so we rarely run into each other. It has been so obvious he had a crush on me. When he finally asked me out 2 YEARS later via email, I was very surprised but I was ...
A. 12 July 2011: I would run if someone I was dating were to say "You wouldn't lose me if you date other men". That always has the meaning that he either is or wants to date other women.
He's not over his ex, especially if he's talking about her being somethin... (read in full...)
My husband keeps taking money from our account!
Q. I just found out my husband took 3,000.00 from our account over the weekend and did not tell me. I found out when i went to pay my mortage of 2,800.00; there was 500.00 left in the account but he continued to use his debit card and now there is only ...
A. 11 July 2011: So, he says that he's bleeding money out of your joint account because you're not having sex with him? I'm interested to know where that money is going, to be honest. If he's using the lame excuse of sex, does this mean he's using this money for ... (read in full...)
Harassed by his ex, now she's threatening my 4 year old.
Q. My bf and I have been together for a 1 1/2 now and his wx wife who they have two wonderful children with happens to harrass me all the time through his cell phone, both verbel and text messages. She bi-polar and has issues!(I knew better then to ...
A. 11 July 2011: This is your boyfriend's baggage, not yours. He needs to stand up to her, record all of his conversations, and document everything she says down to the date and time. He needs to stick to the court appointed child support payments and send not a ... (read in full...)
How to show my ex FB what he's missing.
Q. I'm really angry towards this guy I used to see; it was more of a casual thing and things fizzled out because I told him that I wanted to talk about our situation - if there was a future. So lesson learnt and since then I became celibate until I am ...
A. 11 July 2011: So you're upset that he's rejected the notion of having a future with you, yet he wants to talk to you and hook up.
Tell him you're not interested in hooking up, and then live your life happy. You don't have to show him anything except that you... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with her sister, she won't leave me alone..
Q. Hello dear cupic and agony aunt,i have a problem,am 22, my gf is 20. Let me hit d nail on its head! My gf and i were having sex in her place (d girl's room) and her elder sister (who is my age) came in and saw us. Now she wants me to have sex with ...
A. 11 July 2011: You even have to ask this question? Should you break your girlfriend's heart? Should you destroy a family by facilitating an older sister to betray her younger sister just so you can have a cheap orgasm? This is how families get destroyed.
... (read in full...)
My GF wants me to remove a tattoo from my chest which spells my late sister's name, because my ex had the same name, and my GF doesn't want to be reminded of my ex!
Q. My twin sister died a few years ago in a car accident. I was really affected by her death. She wasn't just my sister but my best friend. I got a tattoo of her name on my chest so that she'll always be next to my heart. I have been seeing a...
A. 11 July 2011: Wow. Not only was your girlfriend's demand immature, the very act of asking you caused you a lot of pain. The name isn't even spelled the same as your ex. I would tell her that her request has seriously damaged your relationship. A brother's ... (read in full...)
Is she over reacting to our Daughter's facebook or am I irresponsible.
Q. Me and my wife split up over 2 years ago. I quickly found someone new and we have been living together for over a year. My ex has always let me see my daughters every other weekend and they have been allowed to sleep over at weekends and during ...
A. 11 July 2011: What are your legal rights as a father? What rules of custody have been laid out and agreed upon? If the judge has allowed you weekend visits, your ex cannot stop them.
Parenting differences are to be sat down and discussed. She can't arbitrar... (read in full...)
Why marry someone when it seems sure you'll get a divorce?
Q. I can't trust my fiance. He constantly lies to me, breaks promises, and walks away from arguments and the relationship. We were planning on going through an LDR, but I'm not so sure anymore. Only a week or so ago, we went through a huge falling out, ...
A. 10 July 2011: You already know your answer. You can't trust him, he turns everything on you, and he has problems communicating.
The only reason you haven't kicked him to the curb is because you're holding onto the insane idea that he will someday change. ... (read in full...)
B/f lied about porn plus he watches really violent pornography!
Q. why would a man randomly need skype? When I asked him about it he did not really give me an answer as to why he needs it. Also I just had a talk with my man about how I don't feel comfortable being with a man who watches or is addicted to porn and ...
A. 9 July 2011: What would you do if instead of getting off on violent porn, he gets off on child porn?? You'd run like hell!
You've gotta get away from him. Rape and torture of women is against the law and really disturbing. It's one thing to snack out on p... (read in full...)
Ex BF harrassing the hell out of me - why?
Q. Hi all, my ex boyfriend of 6 months ago (whom I dated for a year) treated me horribly during our relationship. Eventually he dumped me over the phone because according to him "he didn't love me, he was just with me because his mum thought I would ...
A. 9 July 2011: Your ex looks like a Grade A jackass now. Remember, his messages are reflecting on him, not you. He blames you for the bad rep that he acquired for how he treats women, and then posts crap about you on a public page? What a moron!
Nobod... (read in full...)
Moving on. Is two montha long enough to wait before I start dating again?
Q. I have just broke up from my girldfriend of 1 year, but to be honest the last 2 months I may as well have been single. The first few months went well, but then I started to get very judegmental about her past, and I was nasty to her about it and aske...
A. 9 July 2011: I'm with the majority. Wait a month after the actual breakup, even though you were disconnecting while you were dating.
What's more important is to not repeat your mistakes of the past. That's part of the maturing process.
Remember in t... (read in full...)
Can I make it through life without learning how to drive?
Q. every one i know including my family thinks i am unintelligent just because i can not drive a car. Ive tried and tried and just cant grasp it. i have not even made it past the permit part yet because the test to me is so confusing and the answers ...
A. 9 July 2011: My grandmother didn't learn to drive until she was in her mid-50's. Driving terrified her, and she was happy with the bus and the train.
You being in a small town, it might be slightly tougher. Think of the bright side of your plight. You walk... (read in full...)
Are there any tips to help improve our situation? My GF and I have attitude issues.
Q. Ok, so my girlfriend always makes me so mad. She makes fun of me by calling me names like: freak and dork - all because i don't like harry potter? It gets annoying. I try not to but i always give her an attitude about that. Also she's always m...
A. 9 July 2011: Boy, with friends like that, who needs enemies?
A partner is there to support and love you, since it's the outside world that can be harsh. When you're having to guard yourself against someone you love, the relationship is doomed.
Sounds ... (read in full...)
Why did she kiss me?
Q. Me and my ex [both 18] go out clubbing together a lot because we have the same friends. Last night we were out and were both quite tipsy, and I bought her a drink. She said 'thank you, sexy' and quickly made out with me, not too ferociously, ...
A. 9 July 2011: As Jamie Foxx so accurately observed: "Blame it on the alcohol". That drops inhibitions, causes people to act out on passing urges, and given your history together, an echo of sexual times past could have her giving you a grope and a mini-makeout ... (read in full...)
I am married but this other woman will not leave me alone!! Help!
Q. Hi, I'm 35 and married. In March this year, I started flirting with my female colleague. After few weeks, we realised that we both had a lot of things in common and we're sexually attracted to each other. She told me that she wanted commitment, so I ...
A. 9 July 2011: I think the idea of "harshness" is stemming from the line that individuals believe is the 'point of no return' when it comes to cheating and unfaithful activities.
Some believe that the guy hasn't done anything yet, and others have. While it... (read in full...)
Is it really a bad idea to still have sex with my ex, if we are still great friends and care about each other?
Q. My boyfriend of almost a year and a half broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. We are very different people. We are great friends and will always support each other. We have different ideas about the future. I am actually considering still being ...
A. 9 July 2011: Boy, right away when I read this, the very first question that came to my mind was...if you're good enough to sleep with, why aren't you good enough to have a relationship with?
He dumped you 2 weeks ago. You have a relationship for a year and... (read in full...)
My married ex told me that he is still in love with me..
Q. My ex boyfriend and I have been apart for about 2 months. It was a 3 year relationship. There were a lot of events that happened shortly after that I learned to be okay with. He is now married to a girl who he's been friends with longer than I've ...
A. 9 July 2011: Okay, so he dated you for three years, then you broke up only 2 months ago and he got married to someone else?? Plus, he's also known this girl for longer than you've known him? Did he cheat on you? He must have had feelings for his friend while ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so badly when I should be excited?
Q. My question is more of a concern. I've been with my boyfriend 3 years and we are very much inlove. We've talked about marriage/kids etc and at the moment were looking to buy a house. However I am so nervous, I'm on complete eggshells every ...
A. 9 July 2011: NO!!!! Don't buy a house with someone who's been proven unreliable in the past and before you get married.
Here's why:
I don't have a problem per se with two people buying a house who aren't married, but if you rely on both of your incomes to ... (read in full...)
My nine year old son told me he has sexual feelings about me, and both men and women
Q. I have a son who is almost 10 years old and he resently told me that he's had sexual thoughts about me as well as men and women. What or how should I handle this.....I am concerned that he's thinking about men and myself in that way, but I don't ...
A. 9 July 2011: Okay, this is not exactly normal for a 9 year old to be dealing with this, but actually, you're really lucky that he's giving voice to these thoughts with you.
The first thing that would come into my head is "Where has he been getting these id... (read in full...)
Is there a subtle way to suggest trying bondage?
Q. This is going to sound strange, but I want to experiment with bondage. I love being controlled in the bedroom and I want to ask my boyfriend about it. What is the most subtle way I can suggest this to him? Is there a subtle way to do this?...
A. 9 July 2011: Ahh...there's no subtle way of asking. Just tell him that it's a fantasy of yours, and that would he be interested in trying it. If he's not into it, respect his wishes, but who knows! Guys like adventurous girls, so he might give it a spin!
... (read in full...)
Giving Away My Girl to My Best Friend
Q. No actual names are used My name is Steve and I am a junior at the University of South Caroline. I have been dating Jenifer for nearly 5 months, no rings yet. The other day I had a massive scheduling conflict and had to choose between taking J...
A. 9 July 2011: Actually, the tone of your question answers it. Let's look at the facts: 1. You had been dating for nearly 5 months, yet weren't exclusive. 2. You suggested that your best friend "sub" for you taking her to a party she really wanted to g... (read in full...)
Will I end up lonely ? Should I lower my standards ?
Q. I think I am the most complicated person ever! I'm 25 but have been though more in my life them most people twice my age. Thing is I'm terribly lonely but I have huge issues that stop me finding anyone. I'm a lesbian, I'm more feminine then most ...
A. 8 July 2011: First, you are beautiful, not shallow. You are attracted to who you're attracted to. And this conundrum you now find yourself in is easier to figure out than you think.
Second, stay true to yourself. You do not have to become sexual right aw... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he share his fetishes with me? Why is he hiding them?
Q. my bf watches asian soft porn when im not with him have never discussed this and i found out by accident . im not asian by any means . he also has a pantyhose fetish and shoe fetish why dont he share this with me ....
A. 8 July 2011: Well, it could be the Madonna/whore complex. He sees you as good, clean, smart, and worthy of his love and emotions. As such, he might subconsciously (or consciously for that matter!) see the Asian porn, pantyhose, and shoe stuff as dirty and ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to cry so much, in front of my girlfriend?
Q. Im in a distant relationship with my cute girlfriend, i really love her so much, i always write poems and songs for her, Everytime im with her as we talk deeply i really lose it and cry in front of her, even when she is not there, everytime i send ...
A. 8 July 2011: Well, being emotional is okay, but the mommy stuff is a bit creepy. Women like men they can look up to. Men who are strong and can protect them and stuff like that.
If you're looking to fulfill a "mommy/baby" urge, a boyfrien... (read in full...)
I am married but this other woman will not leave me alone!! Help!
Q. Hi, I'm 35 and married. In March this year, I started flirting with my female colleague. After few weeks, we realised that we both had a lot of things in common and we're sexually attracted to each other. She told me that she wanted commitment, so I ...
A. 8 July 2011: You played with fire by flirting with her, and now you're getting burned a little bit. She's also so unbalanced that if you had had a sexual affair instead of an emotional one, your life would be a living hell right now.
She gets off on your att... (read in full...)
My husband is always crossing the line with females!
Q. i have been with my husband 5 years married nearly one. weve always been up and down..but thats just us. but as long as ive been with him and dated him..he alwayss crosses the line with female friends. hes always flirting etc. and it bothers me to ...
A. 8 July 2011: Look him in the eye and ask him this simple question:
"Would you like another man having the same flirtation, conversation, and interaction with me that you have with Lisa or someone else?"
Then just look into his eyes for that split second bef... (read in full...)
He went too far, and freaked me out, but I miss our friendship..!
Q. Ok this is kinda of longish story but I’ll try and cut it down. Basically I went to a end of exams house party last Saturday and I got a bit drunk and so did my friend (who I will call Sarah) and we decided to play “black, white, brown” and ...
A. 7 July 2011: First of all, not to sound like your mom, but you need to lay off the alcohol until you're a lot older, and stay away from drunken parties, because this is what can happen when horny meets drunk meets too young.
I'm just glad he didn't force hi... (read in full...)
Do all girlfriends steal from their boyfriends?
Q. My favorite soft drink is Mountain Dew and I have a Mountain Dew T-shirt. After my girlfriend came up in my room and when I wasn't in my room with her, I think she took my T-shirt. I'm not 100% sure she took it, but my T-shirt has been missing for a ...
A. 7 July 2011: Ahh...heh. Yeah, it's like the proverbial letterman jacket of old. She wants a piece of you to wear, and I'm guessing that if the MD shirt is special to you, she might want it.
Just be really nice when asking her. It's also possible that if ... (read in full...)
She is known as a homewrecker.....should I run for the hills?
Q. I've been seeing a woman for the past seven weeks. We get on well and she has all the makings of the type of woman I want to settle down with. She's been hinting at a deeper commitment which I'm all for but there's one obstacle. I found out from ...
A. 6 July 2011: CaringGuy is right, and I agree that this one has red flag written all over it.
Even if she didn't have the reputation that she does, two weeks is no kind of time for her to recover from any sort of relationship. "Latched" is a perfect word in ... (read in full...)
Parents, do you think a 19 year old female should have a curfew??
Q. Several months ago my family "adopted" a 19 year old girl who was in need of some help and guidance to get her life back on track and graduate high school. Things are going really well, except for one thing. We dissagree on what time she should ...
A. 6 July 2011: LOL!! Sorry about that Gee Gee! It's good that you two are talking about this though!
Good luck on whatever the two of you iron out!... (read in full...)
My virgin husband is making me get an std test before he will marry me...
Q. My fiance is making me get an STD test before he marries me. He is a virgin and I'm not. I have been with 2 guys before him. He told me he just wants to be sure I am clean before he marries me because he does not want to catch an std. He is ...
A. 6 July 2011: Okay, yes, it's perfectly reasonable for him to request that you have an STD test. In fact, both of you should do it together. You both get tested. It would be interesting to see his reaction to you saying that you want one as well.
While... (read in full...)
Parents, do you think a 19 year old female should have a curfew??
Q. Several months ago my family "adopted" a 19 year old girl who was in need of some help and guidance to get her life back on track and graduate high school. Things are going really well, except for one thing. We dissagree on what time she should ...
A. 6 July 2011: I have a unique perspective on this, as well as a possible solution to the question.
There is a fine line here. One one hand, a 19 year old is a legal adult who is no longer a child subject to grounding or other disciplines that parents have for... (read in full...)
I don't think my bf is cheating but why was she so awkward?
Q. I've been dating a guy for nearly a year. We were casual for the first 6 months, both dating other people while we dated each other. About 6 months ago, we started dating more exclusive. During the first few months of commitment, I was sceptical ...
A. 5 July 2011: Actually, I believe your boyfriend on this one.
Anytime there's an ex meeting the girl he sees right after her, and there might have been unresolved feelings or possibly a messy breakup, it's going to be awkward.
She might have still had feelin... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of these feelings for my boyfirend's friend?
Q. This is going to be long so bare with me! I've been with my current boyfriend for about 1 year 4 months. At first he wasn't very caring and tended to be very selfish, it took him 6 months to say 'love you' he never says 'I love you'. He's been ...
A. 5 July 2011: First, there is something you need to come to grips with. The boyfriend you're with is not the one for you. You should break up with him at your earliest convenience. He's not the one for you. You already know this, or you wouldn't be having ... (read in full...)
He says he's not ready for a relationship - is this just an excuse? Should I wait for him?
Q. hi everyone i was just wondering what to do about this situation. i met a man at the beggining of the year, i really like him he has been very hurt before and says he,s not ready for another relationship yet. should i wait for him until he is ready ...
A. 5 July 2011: I think we need a little more information here.
The big question is, you met him, but have you had sex with him? That changes everything about your question.
If you simply met him and was interested in him, yet he made no moves and told y... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 19 years doesn't ever want to have sex. Should I leave her?
Q. I met my girlfriend 19 years ago. You might think that's a lot time for a woman to remain a girlfriend, but the primary reason I never married her is that we have not have had a sex life since about Year Two. I have told her several times that I l...
A. 5 July 2011: You say that you met your girlfriend 19 years ago, but that the primary reason you didn't marry her is because she hasn't had sex with you since year 2 Why have you stayed with her for 17 more years if sex is as important as you say it is to you? ... (read in full...)
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