Is there a time limit for how long I can keep a sugar Daddy interested?
Q. I turned 29 a fortnight ago. I will be 30 next year at this time. Throughout my 20s I have had several sugar daddies, older men who supported me financially whilst I was pursuing my musical aspirations. They've been good chaps over all, tho of cour...
A. 14 August 2011: Truly, I think you've hit your sugar daddy expiration date.
Unfortunately, you've wasted 12 years that most people have used to cultivate self-sufficiency and independence rather than selling sex for money.
Best thing for you now is to grow u... (read in full...)
Wife says the root of our arguing is that she does not trust me--even tho I have never lied or cheated!!
Q. Hello all. I recently asked for advice about how to renew the spark in a very argumentative marriage. I recently found out some news that explains a lot about the arguing. My wife told me last night that she doesn't trust me. She said she jus...
A. 14 August 2011: Actually, I have a much simpler possible explanation.
When a woman causes arguments and talks about distrust when the man has given her no cause to distrust her, she's actually saying one very important thing:
She doesn't believe she's go... (read in full...)
B/f cheated, broke up with me and I feel so empty inside now
Q. Why do I feel so empty? what is wrong with me? My ex boyfriend cheated on me with 2 girls and dumped me saying he doesn't want a relationship. I loved him so much. I never lied to him. I exercise stay in shape. I was there for him. I tr...
A. 14 August 2011: Yeah, he had a problem. Him cheating and breaking up with you has nothing to do with you...just his immaturity and womanizing.
You feel empty because you're not over it, and it's okay not to be over it. Sure, you may not be crying anymore,... (read in full...)
I missed a payment, I'm in tears I'm so worried.
Q. im very worried as im in an iva which ive been paying 3 years and in july missed a payment because my sisters had extreme cancer and her work stopped her pay so i helped her out. i didnt know what else to do but now the iva place has emailed me ...
A. 13 August 2011: Okay, as in any missed payment, you must communicate early and often. Like you said -- you haven't missed a payment in 3 years, so call them and make an arrangement with them right away!
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He's dumped me again, this time by text, and I feel unwanted. How do I get over this?
Q. My ex dumped me 3 days ago... And i can not stop thinking about it. I didnt think there was anything wrong this time. He has dumped me three times previously... Each time he distances his self from me. Deletes me from facebook. Stops texting me. ...
A. 13 August 2011: The truth is, when he broke up with you because you're saving yourself until marriage, that should have been the end of it. He's wanting sex, and you're not that kind of a girl.
You've got to let him go. He's not the guy for you, and he knows... (read in full...)
What are the odds he lied about being a virgin?
Q. I've been questioning whether or not my lover, whom I lost my virginity to, really told the truth about his virginity. He originally told me he was not a virgin. Later on, he came out to me, apologetic for lying, saying he was in fact a virgin. S...
A. 12 August 2011: Hmm. I have some questions for you.
1. How was your first night together with your boyfriend? You said you lost your virginity to him? How was it? What did he act like? How did he seem about it?
2. Why did his ex tell everyone that th... (read in full...)
He was coming on really strong sexually, why would he do that? Is he really sorry?
Q. Why would he do that? is he really sorry? should I give him a chance? I really like this guy at my work place. He always stares at me when am not looking and looks away when I catch him staring. Anyways I gave him my number and we were text...
A. 12 August 2011: Hopefully, I'm getting this right.
You both started this thing with different intentions. I'm thinking that you were looking for a relationship, the kind where you get to know each other and see if you're a fit for a relationship, whereas ... (read in full...)
My inexperienced boyfriend has a small penis. How do I improve our sex life? HELP
Q. Hello, aunts and uncles. Any advice or suggestions is well appreciated. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months. We have been becoming increasingly more intimate over the past few weeks. He is 21 and was, until tonight, a virgi...
A. 12 August 2011: Poor guy! He was terrified and intimidated! I wouldn't judge his performance and adequacy of his organ on one night alone. I predict that within 6 weeks, he'll be the best sex you've ever had. Why do I predict this? Because -- he's a blank ... (read in full...)
Should I have kicked out my boyfriend for yelling at my son?
Q. Should I have kicked my boyfriend out for shouting at my son? I'm torn by what's recently happened and don't know whether to defend my son and throw my boyfriend out or dissipline my son? He's 6 years old and a bit boystrous at times. Yesterday...
A. 12 August 2011: The anonymous female reader whose son tripped her is absolutely right on this one.
I'd like to add something though. What do you mean by "my boyfriend and I were playing around"?? How were you playing around? Were you wrestling? Play-sla... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had sex with a girl when we broke up for only 2 days!
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend went and had sex with a girl once when we broke up for only 2 days. Technically he didn't cheat but it feels like it. He never told me, I had to find out from another person months later. He told me he regretted it ...
A. 12 August 2011: Oh my. Hold on here for a second.
Your boyfriend did make a grave error in this whole situation that I think most of those who answered you have failed to pick up on.
The error wasn't in the sleeping with someone else after you two had brok... (read in full...)
After being on birth control, sex stings!
Q. I've been on Logynon birth control pills for a month now, and sex seems to be really painful - stingy, almost as if my BFs penis doesn't fit anymore (I've never had this problem until I started the pill) Has anyone else had an experience like ...
A. 11 August 2011: Since it's hormone therapy, your moisture balance has changed some. Until your body truly gets used to the medicine, you might want some extra lube to supplement until your own body kicks back in producing what you need.
If it's still stingy a... (read in full...)
I told my partner that she smells awful down there and she won't let me go anywhere near her intimately, she is paranoid and her confidence ruined.
Q. I've done a terrible thing. I have been seeing a girl for around a month and been going out with her for about two weeks. We had a shaky start to the relationship but since then things have been going great. We have been enjoying a great sex l...
A. 11 August 2011: That's pretty rough, and it put you in a spot to be sure. You told her the truth, and I'm sure that she wanted to hear it. It's just that it's devastating to her. I hope you used tact and not said "you smell awful". There's diplomatic ways to do ... (read in full...)
My ex is friendly to me in person, but just ignored a casual text? why?
Q. Right after the breakup, I got a little nasty..but not too bad. We have to run into each other in town every once in a while. At first I ignored him and he me, but gradually we started to warm up to each other enough to say "hi" (his initiative.) He ...
A. 11 August 2011: He's your ex. You two have broken up. Why are you talking to him? Why are you sending him "are you alright" texts??
It's one thing to be cordial because you have to ride the elevator with him, but you two don't have a relationship now, nor... (read in full...)
My ex suggests having a sort of FWB relationship and I don't know how I feel about it
Q. Is it possible to remain friends and have sex with a man you love deeply and have spent many years with while moving on? He never cheated,or physical abuse but was very unhappy with himself and no matter what I did could not prove the the tr...
A. 11 August 2011: Okay, this is what I hear this guy saying when I read everything here:
"Blah Blah Blah Blah I want to have sex Blah Blah Blah with you and other people blah blah blah."
All the crap about not wanting to distrust you so he wants you to see other... (read in full...)
Do I tell b/f I know he kept a card a cheating ex?
Q. My bf was going through old boxes in front of me, and out a corner of my eye I saw him keep a card from a ex who he cheated on me with in our early relationship [they are not longer in contact]. I feel upset inside. Do I tell him? ...
A. 11 August 2011: Yeah, I'd say you do tell him. It's one thing to keep a memory, but since he's already cheated on you with her, his keeping the card does look like he's burning a candle for her still.
You didn't say this here, but I'm sure that for you to keep ... (read in full...)
I need to end things with this married man
Q. I'm in love with a married man and I'm married as well. I can't get him out of my heart. It's over a year now that I feel this way. I'm dying here, please show a way to stop loving him, please....
A. 11 August 2011: Think of it this way -- you are in an addiction with this married guy since you're unable to break away, and you know that it's what you need to do.
You also have a strike against you because society has always vilified the "other woman", not to m... (read in full...)
What can I do about dealing with my trust issues? He has hurt me so badly
Q. My b/f and I broke up over trust issues... he had a std and had not told me, I found out 6 mnths ago but continued the relationship as I loved him, found he was emailing ex's as friends he said .. now I have trust issues as the truth about the std ...
A. 10 August 2011: Okay, I wouldn't call what you have "trust issues". That implies that you're the one with the problem, and his breaking up with you is him sending the message that you have the problem.
Believe me, you don't have a problem. If I was with a g... (read in full...)
My BF hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his birthday and intends disappearing on that day and turning his phone off!
Q. So i recently learned my bf hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his bday. I had planned to spend the entire day with him and his family and he shocked me by saying he was gonna disappear on everyone that day because he wants that day ...
A. 10 August 2011: He needs to have some sense knocked into him. When people care about someone, they want to celebrate them. His disappearing on them means that he doesn't like their esteem for him. It's a bit spoiled in my opinion. What if no one cared whether ... (read in full...)
My wife kisses and sucks her high heels??
Q. My wife is so crazy for her shoes and high heels that she kisses her shoes and sucks her heels when we have sex. Although I too find high heeled shoes sexy isn't this going a bit too overboard? Is it normal for women to do that?...
A. 10 August 2011: Must be a full moon tonight.
Usually wives kiss their HUSBANDS during sex. She might be thinking it turns you on, maybe if you have a thing for high heeled shoes and she's mimicking your penis as the heel.
If it's not doing it for you, just te... (read in full...)
Do women mind if guys feel their breasts during sex?
Q. Once I was with a prostitute and she seemed to feel uncomfortable because I touched her breasts. I don't know if all women are like this or if I had done something wrong. I understand that you shouldn't do anything to make someone feel uncomfortable ...
A. 10 August 2011: This has to be a joke post.
Preferably, I wrap myself in cellophane every time I "do the nasty". That way the menfolk don't get ideas.... (read in full...)
Despite his toxic actions? Why does he hate me after I ended our friendship ? Or does he want to be friends? Despite his toxic actions?
Q. I could use some advice please. About 7 months ago i fell out with all my friends (except one) one boy in particular I'll call him X. Out of all my friends X was the hardest to drop because he did have a really good sense of humour. he was very ...
A. 10 August 2011: I read your post twice and thought about it some. What struck me about it was that you mentioned some key things here. One was that you felt like you could help "rescue" him, so to speak. You thought that he was misunderstood, you gave him money, ... (read in full...)
My sister's ex is coming on to me -- hard -- and I don't want anything to do with him
Q. I don't know how to explain this situation. I just know that it's the worst thing that could have possibly happened. Basically, my sister and her ex had been together for almost 14 years and they have two children. They only split up a few months ...
A. 10 August 2011: I agree with QuantumModulus.
You've got to start talking...a lot...to EVERYONE. You are in no position to try to fend him off on your own. He knows you don't like him (you've never said it, but you avoid him. Any man not oblivious knows if... (read in full...)
He won't marry me. Should I issue an ultimatum?
Q. Okay, I made a mistake by moving in with my boyfriend, but the damage is done and if anyone can help me, I would appreciate it. Basically, I want to get married and he does not. I have been with him for four years, and have lived with him for thr...
A. 10 August 2011: Janniepeg's on the right track here. This guy moved across country for you. You don't know how emotionally devastating on a person it is to not have a job. And even in this day and age of women's equality, it's still buried in the man's psyche to ... (read in full...)
He wants visitation but does not want to pay back child support.Does the father pay in these circumstances?
Q. My ex found out that a child I had a year ago may be his. He had a paternity test and my son is his. However, he knew I was pregnant with his kid but I told him I had a miscarriage early on. He saw me a month before I was due and asked about my bell...
A. 10 August 2011: Something's missing from this story. You told him you miscarried his baby. Then you tell him when he sees you at 8 months pregnant that it was "someone else's". Then, a year later, he sees you with a child and is convinced that it's his. You get ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me but still wants to be friends. I can't because I'm still in love with him
Q. Why wont my ex boyfriend let us part ways? he wont let me go:(? My ex bf dumped me saying he doesn't want a relationship. He broke my heart. I loved him so much. Is been 4months now and he won't leave me alone. No matter how long we go ...
A. 9 August 2011: Tell him that "friends" isn't going to work, and will impede your ability to move on, which is what you need to do for your mental health. He wants to be free, yet make sure you're not free emotionally.
He needs to grow up. If he breaks up with ... (read in full...)
Is it legal for a 24 year old to date a 17 year old?
Q. Hi to all I've just found out that a friend of mine (24 years old male) is dating a (17 year old female) and just would like know is this legal or illegal and is this right or wrong as i really dont know myself what to say to them both....
A. 9 August 2011: It's not morally wrong! She's not a child according to the UK's laws, and it's only a 5 year age difference! Think of it this way -- when she's 25, he'll be 30. Nothing wrong whatsoever.... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with my FWB
Q. Hi people, I have a problem getting rid of the feelings I developed for my FWB. When she met me, she came out of a 1-year relationship with someone who had her emotionally wrecked, as she says. The breakup was only a month prior. We had sex on th...
A. 9 August 2011: You've told her that you want more than FWB and she said she wasn't ready for commitment?
I would say that her not wanting to call you and not caring if you call her might not be a good sign...at least for now.
You are her salve -- her soo... (read in full...)
Is it legal for a 24 year old to date a 17 year old?
Q. Hi to all I've just found out that a friend of mine (24 years old male) is dating a (17 year old female) and just would like know is this legal or illegal and is this right or wrong as i really dont know myself what to say to them both....
A. 9 August 2011: I assume your friend is in the UK the same as you? In that case, yes, it is legal as the age of consent there is 16.
In the US, the age of consent is 18, so therefore it gets dicier. I know individual states have marriage laws that make some exc... (read in full...)
Why would he prefer for me to hold his arms rather his hand?
Q. my partner and i of 3 years occasionally hold hands when we are out and about but not for very long periods of time. he will grab my hand when we are crossing the road and will let it go after a while or if hes in the mood he will hold my hand if ...
A. 8 August 2011: Hmm...is he a germophobe? Many people who are scared of diseases or germs will wash hands frequently and dislike holding hands. He could be afraid of becoming sick! That's usually the cause of a dislike for hand-holding. I tend to think this ... (read in full...)
I feel horrible for feeling that his 'size' is an issue!
Q. This is rather embarrassing for me to ask, but I really don't know how to handle this. I've been going with my new boyfriend for a few months now and we finally decided to have sex. I feel so very shallow about this, but size is somewhat an issue ...
A. 8 August 2011: First of all, take comfort. It's not horrible that you're distressed over feeling the difference. Remember, there's more to life than just sex. If there wasn't, you'd be with your ex-boyfriend still.
Anyways, the time to get creative is now. Yo... (read in full...)
Sometimes my boyfriend gets really mean with my children. Should I listen to the voice in my head telling me to end things?
Q. Dear Aunts, I am a single mother of two loving boys, 12 and 5 years old. I am currently in nursing college. I have a boyfriend and we've been together for five years. We met 6 months after I got my second child. My children adore and loves hi...
A. 7 August 2011: I PROFOUNDLY second Cindy's advice. That isn't "Mr. Mean" who deserves a talking to. He is a hateful abuser who is HURTING your kids. This guy's heart deserves not one IOTA of consideration. If he is laying a finger on your kids (tripping?! Are ... (read in full...)
My instructor commented on my weight and inability to lose weight. Should I have commented back?
Q. right i'll try to be brief, sorry if i'm not.. i've been doing loads of high intensity training over the past year and for the first 6 months i was losing weight but since then i've not lost any weight and i could do with losing some. thats n...
A. 6 August 2011: Your instructor? Are you talking about a personal exercise trainer, or a schoolteacher? If you're talking about a fitness instructor, he's just doing his job! If you're talking about a schoolteacher that teaches math or something, it's none of ... (read in full...)
Onesided sex life
Q. Okay over the last 5 days me and my girl have become sexually active. Now we both were virgins so when have to take it slow when it comes to actually have sex because i end up hurting her which i comepletly understand. The thing that i really dont ...
A. 6 August 2011: You guys have just started this stuff 5 days ago! Give her some slack. Sucking on a penis is a huge acquired taste to be sure. Also, if you both have just started having sex, I take it that you are having an orgasm while inside her? Yes? No? ... (read in full...)
Sometimes my boyfriend gets really mean with my children. Should I listen to the voice in my head telling me to end things?
Q. Dear Aunts, I am a single mother of two loving boys, 12 and 5 years old. I am currently in nursing college. I have a boyfriend and we've been together for five years. We met 6 months after I got my second child. My children adore and loves hi...
A. 6 August 2011: Yes, what does "mean" mean? If he's hitting them or calling them names or demeaning them, I'd say this is a no-brainer. Get rid of the guy LIGHTNING quick.
However, if "meanness" simply means impatience or a slightly raised voice when telling ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is wide. I've never had kids, so what is he talking about?
Q. I'm 18. I've sex with my bf. But he said my vaginal is wide, he feels its empty when he puts it in. I dont know why my vaginal is wide. He's normal, not too big and not too small. I never have kid or abortion. I dont know why. Who can explain it to ...
A. 6 August 2011: He could be too used to his hand. :P
Don't worry about it. Vaginas come in all shapes and sizes same as penises. Heh...I like chigirl's response to this one.... (read in full...)
Does getting turned on by 2 girls porn make me gay?
Q. i have got turned on by watching two girls have sex on t.v. i was watching porn with my hubby. Does getting turned on make me gay?...
A. 6 August 2011: Not at all! It is an erotic image. Being turned on by two girls on TV no more makes you gay than getting hungry by seeing corn on the cob makes you vegetarian! You are a sexual being.... (read in full...)
I really thought we had something special but now he won't reply to texts or answer my calls
Q. Please help I am so hurt and confused I really need some positive advice. I met this guy 2 weeks ago, at first I really didn't hold any hope that anything would become of it. We met in a park and went back to his place. At first it was intended ...
A. 6 August 2011: I think you experienced a "flameout" meaning this guy loves the "boyfriend" experience. He wanted the feel of intimacy without putting the time in to cultivating true intimacy.
Think about this for a second and get past the flowery words he... (read in full...)
How can we rely solely on my income? Is boyfriend careless or lazy?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost four months and things are going fairly well, but like most relationships, can be improved. In my case, it is about work. When we got together, he was starting a new job which was pretty well paid. ...
A. 6 August 2011: I'm with Chigirl. You've been dating for 4 months. You're not married. You're not engaged.
I have sympathy for your boyfriend in this economy, but at the same time, he needs to keep track of his documents. Also, you shouldn't be "develop... (read in full...)
My husband left me so I got someone else. Husband wanted me back so I got an abortion for him, now he doesn't want me
Q. Help please.....my life has taken a complete turn. I was with my husband for nine years. Married for six.separated for two years. Well he left me two yrs ago. I died that day. Well I was so hurt and in grief I met someone whom I liked. My husband ...
A. 6 August 2011: Okay, you have got to finalize your divorce, get a lawyer, and file for spousal and child support. You also need to talk to someone, because you have an unhealthy view going when you're running back and forth to guys for approval to the point of ... (read in full...)
Why do people take an instant dislike to me ?
Q. Hey, well i was wondering why people seem to take an instant dislike to me, or simpley start on me for no reason what so ever. i currently have one friend, i have tryed to get along with other people but they seem to either t...
A. 6 August 2011: Mmm....well, the best people to ask may just be those who are closest to you. You have a friend? That's a good question for that friend.
You know, people are drawn to who makes them feel good. Read Andrew Carnegie's book "How to Make Friends ... (read in full...)
New nickname for my bofriend please?
Q. i am 15 and just was want some ideas as like other things to call my boyfriend. i contsantly call him babe and i cant really think of anything different. he calls me alot of different things like babe baby hun sweetheart and cupcake. so i was just ...
A. 5 August 2011: The best nicknames are often spontaneous, inside ones (inside meaning they come out of a shared experience). Some of the generic ones are the "babe", "tiger", "love", etc. Just try not to make them seem forced.
I say give it time...t... (read in full...)
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