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writes:why would a man randomly need skype? When I asked him about it he did not really give me an answer as to why he needs it. Also I just had a talk with my man about how I don't feel comfortable being with a man who watches or is addicted to porn and he told me he has not watched porn for over a year and has not interest in it well I go to check his history and not only do I find porn but I find porn that is white girls being beating a raped by a black guy so not only am i upset that he lied to me about porn but I am also upset that he is watching something like that and that when I wanted sex today he said he was to tired probably cause he has not cum now no wonder. I am so upset with this I have no clue how to deal with it. I want to blow it up in his face but I think it will be the end of us I really love him but this is something I just don't like especially since he can't even have sex with me now I feel so unattractive or something. What should I do btw we have been together for 8 months now
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 July 2011):
 What would you do if instead of getting off on violent porn, he gets off on child porn?? You'd run like hell!
You've gotta get away from him. Rape and torture of women is against the law and really disturbing. It's one thing to snack out on porn, which is normal to find sexual images erotic, but violence and rape are a totally different thing.
Be thankful you're not stimulating someone who gets off on violent porn! That's the thing about a porn addiction...normal sex doesn't give him the "high", hence his diminished sexual appetite for you. I'd run for the hills if I were you. I wouldn't want to be there when he wants to experiment with his fantasy.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (9 July 2011):
 Lots of people have skype, but that is not your big issue.
You do not trust your bf. Unfortunately, some people with an addiction to porn can not have a normal sex life.
I do not have a problem with my guy watching porn, but I would be disturbed if he found violent porn stimulating.
If that is a dealbreaker for you, let him know and move on with your life.
As for feeling unattractive, it is not that anything is wrong with you. He has a distorted view of sex and what arouses him. Trust me on this one, later on in life a GREAT guy is going to think you are THE BOMB.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): If he is lying, does not want to have sex with you and he is sexually excited by violent pornography of girls being beaten and raped. I would not waste my time trying to make an sense of him. I would just leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): That's seriously worrying. Why are you afraid to 'blow it up in his face' knowing it will be the end? You should be running as fast as you can away from him, he sounds seriously disturbed.
Porn I have no problem with. The kind of porn you described should be against the law if not already. That's disgusting.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (9 July 2011):
 NOT normal, you need to find a new bf he's not right in the head if he thinks violence is sexy
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (9 July 2011):
i would have a serious talk to him about his porn watching and especially of what it involved i personally would tell him to stop watching it or you are over
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