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anonymous
writes:i have been with my husband 5 years married nearly one. weve always been up and down..but thats just us. but as long as ive been with him and dated him..he alwayss crosses the line with female friends. hes always flirting etc. and it bothers me to no end. i dont do that crap to him why does he do it to me? he claims hes just being friendly etc but then hell text his random girl/friend lisa and 16 msgs and ill see it online..then when we get home the messages are deleted. this guy tells me im the love of his life..that he loves me and i know hed never cheat. but wtf is he doing that if he isnt doin anything wrong? and i cant exactly tell him i know bc hell be like omg ur looking online. helppppp
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): The simple fact is if you want to stay with someone who makes you feel this uncomfortable 24/7 then go ahead and stay with him - it is absolutely clear he is not going to change and has no respect for you (whatever he claims actions speak louder than words). On that basis you have two choices. Take it or leave it. Personally I'd leave it - and him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): He is same as my bf... He likes to flirt around with girls thinking he is single and sometimes text other girls especially the good looking once.
Everytime I tell him how I feel he will react negatively and tells me that I don't trust him.
I don't know if he had cheated once but I had this girl whom I think likes him very much and they usually text until I can't take it anymore so I confronted both of them and told my bf that if you won't stop it's better to be separated than be in a relationship but not knowing if he is honest or not.
It only shows that he doesn't respect you as a wife.
Stood up and tell him how you feel and nake him choose if needed....
Godluck!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): I know I don't know him and i really don't mean to put more fear in your mind, but i can't believe that a man who constantly flirts with women and has sexual conversation with them wont cheat. I think its just a matter of time. If you haven't told him yet that it bothers you, you should. Assuming you have told him and he won't stop I would suggest marriage counseling. But i have to ask if you knew he flirted with other women and pulled all this rubbish talk, then why on earth did you marry him?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 July 2011):
 Tell him honestly that his flirting with other women makes you feel uncomfortable, like he is keeping his options open as if he's still single. Every relationship has its ups and downs. The issues weren't worked through and he is looking for distractions, that spark outside of the relationship instead of asking what he wants from you. You also have to ask him what you wished him to do for you. Instead of talking about what you don't want, tell him what you want, such as more affection and more intimate, quality time together. If you are being very clear, polite and he still doesn't get it, he may not be the man for you. Then he is learning the hard way and he has to realize how much he would miss you if you were to leave him.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (8 July 2011):
 You already know the answer to this question.
You knew it when you married him.
You knew what kind of man he is.
He likes to prop himself up at your expense.
You put up with his lies and look the other way.
I'm not sure exactly what you want us to say to make you feel better about YOUR decision.
He isn't your partner. You may be his partner and love him and support him; but Hunnie, What are YOU getting out of this?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 July 2011):
 Look him in the eye and ask him this simple question:
"Would you like another man having the same flirtation, conversation, and interaction with me that you have with Lisa or someone else?"
Then just look into his eyes for that split second before he tries to spin a story.
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