One night stand, now I'm pregnant and uncertain of who the father is
Q. Im not sure who the father of my child is. My boyfriend and I had been having problems for quite sometime then last month I just couldn't take it anymore. I had met someone and one thing lead to another. We only had one encounter. Now I'm pregnant. ...
A. 17 September 2011: Condoms aren't 100% effective. Only celibacy is.
A DNA test is the only sure way to determine responsibility. Either way, doesn't matter if it was your boyfriend or this one-shot guy.
I assume that since you say "boyfriend", you... (read in full...)
Pregnant by fwb what do I do
Q. Hi everyone here is my problem I have a fwb didn't intend to I wanted a relationship with him he just wanted sex so that was that but here's my problem I think I might be pregnant but he doesn't want to be with me as we have talked about this before ...
A. 17 September 2011: I agree with Tennisstar in that your first step before you start thinking about what to say or do is to take the test and know for sure. If you're not pregnant, then it's all good!
If you are, in fact, pregnant, then the first thing you'll c... (read in full...)
My sexting friend has made it clear he's going to have sex with other girls until we meet up!
Q. I recently started talking to a guy i used to go to school with and we been flirting and sex-txting back and forth. He says he really likes me but however he lives quite a bit away. We have talked about meeting up again and seeing how we get on but ...
A. 16 September 2011: This means that if you two do meet up, he intends to use you for sex. Think about it -- would you ever in real life start a relationship with a guy who then informs you that until you "give in", he's going to get his rocks off with other women and ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my wife, but I am having a hard time forgiving and forgetting her cheating
Q. I was a virgin when I met my wife. She wasn't. She had had about 6-10 other lovers before me. I have never been with anyone else, but I found out recently that she has not been faithful. She didn't have any emotional attachment to anyone, but she ...
A. 15 September 2011: Oh boy. Yeah, I would have a really hard time forgiving and forgetting too. That's a very natural response, and your healing will take a long time, no matter what you decide to do in the future.
But keep in mind -- in order to not lose her, you... (read in full...)
I feel bad that he's doing all the work
Q. Whenever me and my partner have sex it is always him doing the work. I always feel bad about it even though he has never mentioned it. I do try to take control but I have pain in my knees which makes going on top very unpleasant and painful for me. ...
A. 15 September 2011: Trust me -- you're not useless. Let me ask you this:
Is he thrusting? Check.
Does he have an orgasm? Check.
Does the night end with him being satisfied? BIG CHECK.
You do *not* have to go on top. Don't look at sex as "work". Gu... (read in full...)
My 41 year old boyfriend fancies teenage girls
Q. My partner is 41. However, he says he feels like he is 18 years old. Now thats great, as it keeps him active etc. However, the downside is that he fancies women or rather girls that are very young- I'm talking 16-18. This really creeps me out. I ...
A. 15 September 2011: Let me get this straight. He's 41 years old. You're a beautiful 25 year old woman at the very pinnacle of youth and beauty, yet he still wants to go younger?? He should be grateful that he's got a 25 year old! Many 41 year old guys would get a ... (read in full...)
My BF says I don't love him enough. Who's right?
Q. So my boyfriend of 8yrs decides now that he has come to his senses that he cannot be with me cuz he feels that I'm not there for him..Mind you thru infedility, mental abuse and all his other baggage he states since he can't count on me cuz he's been ...
A. 14 September 2011: LMAO!!!!!!
Sorry, I know this is a serious question, but I almost spat my water all over my laptop when I read your post! I truly don't mean to offend you, but your boyfriend of 8 years is a real piece of work...a prime specimen of the genus as... (read in full...)
Does it seem from this conversation that my ex FWB wants to cheat on his girlfriend with me?
Q. I was on Skype the other day and he came online. We were FWB before but now he has a girlfriend: Him: So why did you get into bed with me? Him: The first time? Me: it wasn't the drink is all i'm saying Him: So what was it? Him: I know it w...
A. 14 September 2011: The litmus test for any conversation between two former intimate partners has to be "Would I show this transcript to my girlfriend?"
In this case, the answer is in neon lights: YES.
He's testing the waters to try and cheat with you on his ... (read in full...)
He left money for me on the bedside table and left without saying goodbye
Q. Hi I met a guy at a festival and we had really good sex so we arranged to meet up again back home. We live different sides of the country so we met in the middle and got a hotel for the night. I was aware that this was just sex however what hap...
A. 13 September 2011: You weren't mistreated. It was a one-night stand, or casual sex. He could have said goodbye rather than vanished, but casual sex is never the first step to a relationship.
I'm thinking he deleted you off of Facebook because he has people o... (read in full...)
I caught my fiancé's dad cheating
Q. Yesterday I caught my future father in law cheating, I know it would break my fiancé's heart if I told him, not to mention if his mother finds out, it will tear his family apart. I don't know what to do. I don't think I would ever say anything to ...
A. 13 September 2011: Wow, really? I read the question, but I was honestly shocked by most of the responses to it, especially the ones who berate the poor woman by calling her thoughts "petty". First of all, she CAUGHT the dad cheating. This isn't a vague rumor. ... (read in full...)
Why do men treat me better when I am not nice to them?
Q. When I was with my ex , I was a nightmare. I was demanding, disrespectful and very manipulative. In return he was a great bf. I broke up with him after a few years when I got a job in another country. So, now I have a new bf and for some reason,...
A. 13 September 2011: You might not like what I have to say, but you are setting yourself up for serious heartache, and hopefully my post will help you to truly open your eyes and avoid a lot of pain.
When you were less of a "bitch", you say that he was less attentiv... (read in full...)
I despise my married lover...he's a liar...so how do I get out of this one?
Q. How am I going to be able to last the next 7 weeks with my boyfriend when he makes my skin crawl? He is married and I've been seeing him for a couple of years. Earlier this year we booked a holiday for november but I'm having serious second t...
A. 12 September 2011: If you hate him, why not break it off and send him back to his wife?
Seriously, when you put the words "married lover" together, there are lies that make that happen, both spoken and unspoken. So you didn't have any problems with him lying to... (read in full...)
I am worried he may feel smothered in this relationship...what should I do?
Q. Lately my bf and I have been spending lots of time together. We have been with each other every day for 3 weeks. I also have been staying his place even though i have my own place. Previously was not like that and im really quite happy to be with ...
A. 12 September 2011: This is extremely simple. Take a couple days off! Pick up a hobby you like to do or find a couple of your friends and hit the town.
You're right. A relationship must breathe in order to survive. If you want him in your life for the long hau... (read in full...)
My married lover puts me in awkward situations where I have to meet his wife. Why would he do this?
Q. Hi, I am having an affair with a married man and have been for over 6 yrs, we are both in our late 50's,we both care for each other very much and get on really well and enjoy seeing each other. we can't break it off so please no moral judgments. i...
A. 10 September 2011: This could be one of two things I think.
1. He's trying to hasten a crisis. I'm with Abella. If he's mixing you up with his wife, he might have additional women on the side. He doesn't want to break it off with you, but he might want you to b... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still hurt over his failed marriage, and is freaking out and scared of being close to me!
Q. Dear all, please advise. I have been seeing a man for around six months who split with his wife and kids around 2.5 years ago. He recently told me that he took it very badly, and that the house in which he lives whic I visit was his family and ...
A. 9 September 2011: You should be scared. He sounds a bit unstable to be honest, and I would be worried that he would snap and do something violent.
He divorced 2 1/2 years ago. This isn't a case of a fresh, raw betrayal. This has been enough time for a person w... (read in full...)
I just found out he used to be involved with my sister!
Q. Ahhh! lol I need some serious advice! I have been seeing this guy for almost 2 years. He's good friends with my step sister. It started out as friends with benefits. We only talked to each other basically when we wanted sex. And then, the sex be...
A. 9 September 2011: Dating someone who used to date your sister can be a very touchy and usually advised-against thing, but I believe that your case is a special exception to that rule. Here's why:
1. Your relationship didn't start out with the normal progress... (read in full...)
My ex has forgotten when my birthday is. Do I have a right to be peeved or am I making a big deal of nothing?
Q. My ex and me were together for just under six months. It's been several months now since we broke up. We've tried to be friends since then but it has been difficult for me because she ended it and then got a new boyfriend soon after. Anyway, t...
A. 8 September 2011: She's your ex, not your girlfriend. She has moved on more than you have, which was why it bothers you that she didn't remember. She has a new boyfriend whose birthday is more important to her now. Not to sound cold, but you will need to move ... (read in full...)
To tell? Or not to tell? I cheated twice on him
Q. Hi everyone! I've asked two questions before about my relationship with my bf of 4 1/2 years. Well I have another question for everyone. I cheated on my boyfriend twice wit 2 different guys. SHould I tell him? I mean I know if I tell him everything ...
A. 8 September 2011: There are three important issues here.
1. If your boyfriend had cheated twice on you, and you loved him, wouldn't you want to know? And, since you know full well that your boyfriend *will* find out about your cheating, would you rather have him... (read in full...)
My husband won't have sex until I dress up like a man??
Q. I'm 32, and my husband's 36, and I work in website design/corporate sites on a freelance basis, my husband's a chef at a local restaurant/Indian place. Over the past 3-4 weeks or so, he's been begging me to dress up differently when having sex. ...
A. 7 September 2011: The real sticking point in this is what he said -- that he won't have sex with you until you do what he wants you to. This, even more than what he wants you to do, is what is concerning.
You are uncomfortable with what his fetish is and of cours... (read in full...)
Why did I bleed after being fingered for the first time?
Q. Hello So, I am a virgin but was fingered for the first time, and it hurt a lot whilst it happened, in fact it was really, really painful(Yes, I know, I should have said something). However, the strange thing is, two days after this, I started b...
A. 6 September 2011: Sounds like your hymen. Did he know what he was doing? "fingering" doesn't have to mean ramming his fingers so far up you that he can flick your spleen!
I'm guessing he tore your hymen. Don't worry -- you're still a virgin if that's your nex... (read in full...)
After a lot of history, some of it painful, I now know he is The One. How can I tell him?
Q. I need advice.....almost 2 years ago i was involved with with a married man, a lot of things happened, a lot of hurt and lies and he finally ended his marriage. i did not stay with him because a lot of things hapened and i was beyond hurt. after him ...
A. 6 September 2011: Let me get this straight.
He cheated on his wife with you. The marriage eventually blew up, devastating his wife, and you didn't stay with him. I would be very interested in why you didn't stay with him. I have a good idea though.
Then, h... (read in full...)
We were supposed to be friends but he didnt even tell me he is married and expecting a baby!
Q. I'm having a bit of a crisis and I'm probably mad but here goes. I split with my ex partner in November last year, though we dragged it out until January with sweet I miss you type e-mails (there was never a doubt of still loving each other, j...
A. 5 September 2011: Oh my lord.
When I read your post, I started doing math in my head.
You two broke up in November of last year. (10 months ago)
You drug the emotional break until January (8 months ago).
You lost touch until March. (6 months ago).
You contin... (read in full...)
Why do certain men have a girlfriend if they're just going to cheat?
Q. Why do certain men have a girlfriend if they're just going to cheat? What's the point in being in a relationship in the first place? I mean the men who have a girlfriend but cheat on her any chance they get. Do you think they do it just because they ...
A. 5 September 2011: Walkin, I think that the issue with a guy who has a wife/girlfriend who cheats long term with one other woman has a very different set of causes and characteristics.
(I do recognize that women cheat just the same as men, but to avoid confusio... (read in full...)
I hate kissing
Q. So, I know this may sound weird and it is but I really don't like kissing. Like, I hate it. I don't even know if I can get over it? Anyone have this problem? Btw, I have a boyfriend now and this problem has been since my first boyfriend like 5 years ...
A. 5 September 2011: It's okay not to like it. I didn't like it at first until I came across a guy who really knew how to kiss. Then it was mind-blowing.
However, it's okay not to like it. Many germophobes hate it because of the spit-swapping aspect. Many others h... (read in full...)
Why do certain men have a girlfriend if they're just going to cheat?
Q. Why do certain men have a girlfriend if they're just going to cheat? What's the point in being in a relationship in the first place? I mean the men who have a girlfriend but cheat on her any chance they get. Do you think they do it just because they ...
A. 5 September 2011: Hey Walkin'. :)
This is my personal opinion.
I think to understand why a guy could do this, you need to put aside morality and strip it down to its basic wiring so we can see what, exactly, we're looking at.
What causes a heroin addict t... (read in full...)
Snooped and found out that my some guy kissed my GF! Now what?
Q. So i did something bad. I snooped my GF facebook. I found a conversation that she had with her friend. They are talking about a party that my GF friend attended. her friend said something like "3 guys tried to make out with me , they pretty much...
A. 5 September 2011: Why the hell are you snooping her Facebook?? You should get dumped for that fact alone. Whatever happened to talking and getting to know the one you're interested in?? Snooping is a VIOLATION. And you wonder why she didn't tell you??? Hah! Do... (read in full...)
Texting male friends constantly while we were watching a movie, should I be okay with this?
Q. So I met this girl, we hit it off And started seeing eachother. One of the things we talked about was how her last boyfriend was very controling, wouldn't let her have male friends, go out to the bar with her girlfriends And so forth. Well I don't ...
A. 4 September 2011: First, don't ever feel you have to "compensate" for her past boyfriends. How they were has nothing to do with who you are.
Second, whether it's a guy friend or a girlfriend, it's rude for her to constantly be texting while she's spending... (read in full...)
How do I stop putting her on a pedestal?
Q. Hi, my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 4 years. we are currently doing a LDR where shes in Boston and im in NJ. She will be there for a year. We had gone to college together and spent almost every waking minute with each other. I ...
A. 4 September 2011: Actually, I don't think that this is about you putting her on any pedestals, though that does sound better to your conscience and ego to say that.
The truth is far simpler. You are insecure about the relationship and are afraid to lose her, and... (read in full...)
A girl made a mockery of me at a party, how do I recover from this?
Q. Tonight I attended a party my cousin was holding. There were a few members of the family there, but it was mostly friends of my cousin. Anyway, there were a lot of drunk people there, while I was acting as designated driver for my parents. I figured ...
A. 3 September 2011: Hold on a second. Am I missing something here? How did they "take the piss out of you"?? Just because a girl's friends smiled and laughed while you two were dancing could mean many things, not the least of which was that their friend liked you ... (read in full...)
I didn't trust my b/f and now he's distant to me
Q. I messed up and invaded my boyfriend's privacy by going into his email and reading chat logs between him and another girl he used to like right before we met but whom he is still friends with even after we started dating. My behaviour was fueled by ...
A. 2 September 2011: I have good advice. Drop this guy.
Did you screw up by invading his privacy? Yes you did. However, it should never have even gotten to that point.
This guy has the nerve to ask YOU if he can sleep over at an ex's place? Who CARES if he had ... (read in full...)
She asked me to put lipstick on her
Q. This girl i really like asked me to put her lipstick on her and at the time i thought she just asked me because she didnt have a mirror and thought i could do it better but does it mean more than that? and i said i wouldn't trust myself in a jokey ...
A. 2 September 2011: Oooh...it's intimate! It's like when a woman ties a man's tie for him or shaves his face. She wants you to touch her face. She wants you touching her lips.
You got all nervous. Next time, take the chance if you like her! Or better yet, if ... (read in full...)
She says she can't get pregnant and its ok not to use condoms
Q. She says she can't have baby any more... Hello, the girl who I am going to have sex with told me that she can not have any more babies...she said it is safe for me to cum gallons of sperms inside her, and she doesn't want me to use condoms...sh...
A. 1 September 2011: Oooh! Gallons of sperm. How appetizing!
**grin**
Seriously, unless she put in your hands a doctor's report complete with STD test results and an OFFICIAL report of infertility dated within this past week, do not even consider dropping your pr... (read in full...)
Ex wants to know I stopped contact
Q. my question is my boyfriend called it off but claimed he still loved me as a friend. he kept calling me but a time came when i completely stopped picking up his calls because i needed to heal from pain. and he started asking his sisters why i wa...
A. 1 September 2011: Cindy's right. And you did the right thing by cutting off contact and moving on.
I suggest you take it a step further and not keep track of him either. He dumped you, and his interest in keeping you around as a friend isn't a hope that you two ... (read in full...)
Devastated! Husband not happy with Pregnancy
Q. I have two wonderful children and my husband and I love them very much. My husband has two brothers with schizophrenia and he watched in despair as their lives spiralled out of controlled. He always worries that one of our children could have ...
A. 1 September 2011: First of all, he needs to seriously calm down and get a grip. I understand that he had a really rough past that has emotionally scarred him. However, he needs to look forward. More than his fear of a child with a mental illness, he needs to ... (read in full...)
I want the husband and family. Am I too old now?
Q. I am 27 and my partner of 4 years has just left me for a younger woman. I was meant to get married to him and have a family and no near my 30s I find myself single. Is it too late for me to have the husband and kids? ...
A. 31 August 2011: You're in your prime!! You've got lots of time, and lots of strength, and lots to offer.
Just because your partner is a complete dirtbag cheater only says that he's a used up scumbag. The good news is -- he's no longer wasting your time with his... (read in full...)
Can insecurities prevent a woman from having an orgasm?
Q. Can a girls insecurities about her body (weight, how her vagina looks, birthmarks on her face) inhibit her ability to have an orgasm?...
A. 31 August 2011: Oh absolutely insecurities can hinder orgasm. For a woman, her success greatly increases if she's able to relax and let go. If she's nervous and clenched, it'll most likely not happen.
What you have to do is make her feel like a supermod... (read in full...)
I'm devastated. He left me because he is still in love with his ex
Q. Hey guys , My boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago And I'm absoloutly shattered ..when we got together he had just come out of a relationship of 6 years (I wasn't aware of the duration ) ...he knew i liked him so he asked me out , everything was ...
A. 30 August 2011: Here's the thing. Sounds like you two met right after he broke up with her. You were a rebound it sounds like.
He never got over her. This is what the messiness is all about. His ego never got over the breakup, and it sounds like they met... (read in full...)
Is he into me, even though he has a girlfriend?
Q. Okay so I've just started in a new school where no one know eachother so it's a new fresh start. I like my class and everyone else in the school. But in my class, one guy has catched my attention. I started talking to him on our introduction trip to ...
A. 29 August 2011: You are accepting and enjoying his attentions of you.
The *only* thing you should be doing is telling him to leave you alone immediately.
Anything less, and you're an accessory to his lying and messing around behind his girlfriend's bac... (read in full...)
Am I just paranoid or do guys really get sidetracked and focused on these Facebook girls?
Q. Hey everyone, got a slight issue and would love both girls and guys opinion on this. This guy that I'm seeing/dating at the moment, he's a model and he's ALWAYS adding hot, gorgeous random girls on Facebook in mass amounts (like 10 a day). then ...
A. 28 August 2011: He's getting off on their attention. They may add him, but he can turn them down. He stokes things by offering inappropriate attention to them with the "sexy, gorgeous, etc" comments.
You're not paranoid, but you'll always be second place to... (read in full...)
How can I kick the habit of swearing?
Q. How can I kick the habit of swearing? I feel very bad mannered and want to kick the habit alltogether but how? I feel guilty everytime I swear but I need to learn to control my language before it comes out. I find it really difficult becaus...
A. 28 August 2011: Wow! First, I'm really impressed by you!
You're totally bettering yourself by looking to kick swearing, and you're totally upgrading both your opportunities, image, and self-respect by doing so.
So let me make it really easy for you. It fee... (read in full...)
He says they're only text messages, but they're about trying to meet up for sex with another woman!
Q. I seen some text messages on my partners phone which indicate he trying to meet someone for sex but she turns him down when I confront him he pleads with me and begs me to stay saying its only messages and he regrets it. Now we been together 5 yrs ...
A. 28 August 2011: I would take it a step further and say that he already *is* cheating on you. Cheating starts before the sex act. His solicitation is already grounds for breakup. Had she not turned him down (and good for her!), he would have gone through with ... (read in full...)
Is he into me, even though he has a girlfriend?
Q. Okay so I've just started in a new school where no one know eachother so it's a new fresh start. I like my class and everyone else in the school. But in my class, one guy has catched my attention. I started talking to him on our introduction trip to ...
A. 28 August 2011: The walkin dude is right. I'll put it another way too:
If your best friend's boyfriend were cheating on her, and she was with you crying about it because her heart was shattered, you wouldn't be feeling sexual attraction towards him. You'd de... (read in full...)
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