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anonymous
writes:my bf watches asian soft porn when im not with him have never discussed this and i found out by accident . im not asian by any means . he also has a pantyhose fetish and shoe fetish why dont he share this with me .
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): I think he is probably just scared that you will find it horrifying or discusting and that you may leave him for it. Also as far as porn most women arent as accepting of it. For example my ex was a porn addict and because of that and other things that happened in the past i have trust issues so if my bf looked at porn i would think he would want to leave me for a women that resembled the one in the porn. Ive even gone so far as breaking up with my bfs because i think they dont want me. So i think ur bf is just playing it safe. But talk to him about it and he will prob open up to you.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (8 July 2011):
 Have you asked him if he wants to explore more kinky stuff with you? I bet he will come up with some suggestions!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 July 2011):
 Does he know that unlike some women you don't have a hangup about his fetish and/or porn in general.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 July 2011):
 Well, it could be the Madonna/whore complex. He sees you as good, clean, smart, and worthy of his love and emotions. As such, he might subconsciously (or consciously for that matter!) see the Asian porn, pantyhose, and shoe stuff as dirty and shameful, which would make sense not wanting to 'soil' you by introducing those fetishes or sharing them with you.
I understand it bothering you, so it's okay to talk to him about that stuff. But I wouldn't be worried! He might think he'd lose you if he revealed the fetishes to you.
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