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writes:Ok this is kinda of longish story but I’ll try and cut it down. Basically I went to a end of exams house party last Saturday and I got a bit drunk and so did my friend (who I will call Sarah) and we decided to play “black, white, brown” and basically we had to kiss a black, white and brown guy so we both kissed one of our good friends who was black he seemed a little confused but not really bothered then I went inside having completely forgotten the game to get another drink when this guy (who for identity purposes I’ll call Ben) from my school came up to me. Just too clear things up we were quite good friends and used to text practically every day beforehand. But anyway he came up to me and started talking and kept telling me how drunk I was and then I kept debating that I wasn’t and then he started snogging me. Which I didn’t really mind but then he started pushing me up against the wall and really obviously feeling me up in front of everyone in the room so I pushed him off me and said I need to find Sarah. Then I went outside again and came back in after 5 minutes then I started to feel a little tired so I sat down on the stairs been then came over and sat next to me and once again started snogging me I didn’t really respond but I didn’t stop him but then he started putting his hand down my top to which I pushed him off me again because we were in front of lots of people. I just got up and walked outside. When I was outside I went on the trampoline with a bunch of people and just lay there for a bit. Little did I know he had followed me and got on lying behind me and kissing me again and saying “come on lets go up stairs” I just pushed him away again and said “but I want my drink” so I grabbed my bottle which at the time was filled with water and just kept pretending to drink it so he would stop kissing me because it was getting annoying. He then eventually got off and went somewhere else.I then went inside and Sarah needed the toilet so I went up and waited outside the bathroom door for her while sitting on some mattresses. And surprise surprise Ben came up and started kissing me again and kept saying “come on gorgeous, let’s get a room” and he was trying to get his hands down my shorts. I then pushed him off and said no I’m waiting for Sarah but he was really persistent and wouldn’t get off so I had to really shove him off then I spent the rest of the night avoiding him. But the day after a lot of the guys in my school had been calling him a rapist as a joke then one of them asked me what I thought and I said well it was fine the first couple times but it was kinda forceful the last few times.Ever since it’s been so awkward when I see him and we don’t even make eye contact. It’s really annoying and I miss talking to him what can I do/say to stop it being so weird between us?Thank you
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reader, alexneedslove  +, writes (8 July 2011):
I find it quite shocking how young you are but hey im sure youve heard that millions of times and its your life.. however.I am curious to whether he was drunk? I may have missed that in your story but as the same time I sympathize with you because if he was your friend you probally want to know why he was trying to rape you. You need to get his number and call him. Do not meet him anywhere alone because he sounds a little creepy. And you need to ask him upfront why he did that to you and you miss being friends with you. If he keeps giving you an unreasonably answer (uhm uh i dont know blah blah)forget him. Hes not worth it. He tried to get you in bed with him for christ sakes.
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reader, alexneedslove +, writes (8 July 2011):
I find it quite shocking how young you are but hey im sure youve heard that millions of times and its your life.. however.I am curious to whether he was drunk? I may have missed that in your story but as the same time I sympathize with you because if he was your friend you probally want to know why he was trying to rape you. You need to get his number and call him. Do not meet him anywhere alone because he sounds a little creepy. And you need to ask him upfront why he did that to you and you miss being friends with you. If he keeps giving you an unreasonably answer (uhm uh i dont know blah blah)forget him. Hes not worth it. He tried to get you in bed with him for christ sakes.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 July 2011):
 First of all, not to sound like your mom, but you need to lay off the alcohol until you're a lot older, and stay away from drunken parties, because this is what can happen when horny meets drunk meets too young.
I'm just glad he didn't force himself on you because that can happen as well. As for this other guy, just don't force the awkward talking. Don't be alone with him, don't play "black white brown" and save the kissing for someone you actually care about vs. a game.
He is not your friend. He was very disrespectful and lacked manners.
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