New nickname for my bofriend please?
Q. i am 15 and just was want some ideas as like other things to call my boyfriend. i contsantly call him babe and i cant really think of anything different. he calls me alot of different things like babe baby hun sweetheart and cupcake. so i was just ...
A. 5 August 2011: The best nicknames are often spontaneous, inside ones (inside meaning they come out of a shared experience). Some of the generic ones are the "babe", "tiger", "love", etc. Just try not to make them seem forced.
I say give it time...t... (read in full...)
Humiliated betrayed and heartbroken by my ex fiance!
Q. I've been horrribly humilated, betrayed, and heartbroken by my ex fiance of over 2 years . Every time we had an argument, he would give me the cold shoulder until I would cave in a week later and ask him to discuss the problem. I have been married ...
A. 5 August 2011: I'm sorry that you're feeling humiliated, betrayed, and heartbroken by your ex. It's no fun breaking off of a relationship, and even worse feeling that he's moved on so quickly after playing tons of games with you.
May I suggest another emotion ... (read in full...)
I still find the school girl uniform sexy! Am I pervert?
Q. Hello guys. I am quite young and I have just left school to go to College. The thing is I still find the whole school girl thing sexy (the uniform, pigtails and so on) I'm worried I might have a problem. I don't want to be a pervert! Am I weird!? ...
A. 5 August 2011: Nah, on the contrary, it's a nice fantasy. You're not specificly getting off on underage girls specifically for their "underageness". The "naughty schoolgirl" is second cousin to the "naughty librarian", the "lusty nun" or the "secret hussy ... (read in full...)
Why can't I forget about the one who treated me badly?
Q. It's 2 in the morning and I'm wide awake thinking about a guy I shouldn't be thinking about. The logical/rational part of me knows this is ridiculous so i can't figure out why I can't stop thinking of him. I met him online almost a year ago. We t...
A. 5 August 2011: It's very simple. Rejection makes you crazy. This is a guy who you developed feelings for who you met once and then he started cancelling, then disappearing.
Always when our ego takes a hit, we want to know why. Our inability to accept rejectio... (read in full...)
I want my 6 year old son to have my last name, will he be able to adapt to this change? Or will it be too much for him to understand?
Q. This is more a question about my son. His father hasn't seen him in 2 years and has made it clear he has no intention of ever having a relationship with him. Same with his family. Me and my son have come to terms with this and he has a steady r...
A. 2 August 2011: I gave this question a lot of thought. Here's the thing. I know it feels like you deserve the child you raise to carry your surname, especially since it has felt like since you and your child were abandoned by the father, that he has disqualified ... (read in full...)
Why did he move on so fast after he said he wanted to be single?
Q. I was dating this guy for a little while not that long then he broke up with me saying i became too clingy and that he doesn't want to be with anyone for a while but it has been two days i called him and he had someone over and he hung up in my ...
A. 29 July 2011: Yeah, there's a difference between "wanting to be single" and "wanting to be alone". When a guy talks about wanting to "be single", it usually translates to "I want to have casual relationship-free sex and have it not be cheating".
Shrug off his ... (read in full...)
Whats the problem......why don't I want to have sex? Do I not love him? Am I not attracted to him?
Q. ive been going out with my boyfriend for 11 months and im a virgin and hes not. im 16 hes 18 (hes not pushy At ALL) im afraid because for some reason early this month i wasnt sure how i felt about him..i was feeling that i maybe should be his friend ...
A. 28 July 2011: Well, you're not ready to have sex. That's perfectly okay! You don't need to feel bad because you're not ready. And, you're not sure he's the one you want to have sex with. That's also okay!
I think the pressure people put on the relation... (read in full...)
Would you be embarrassed if your husband did this?
Q. Would you be embarrassed if your husband did this? I was invited to a cosmetic party along with another friend. All participated have their husbands and kids there because we all knew each other. My husband also went along. Important info:...
A. 28 July 2011: I think your husband acted boorish in front of your friends. He should have waited to tell you how he felt in private out of respect for not berating his wife in public. That part I can't excuse.
However, did you consult with him before offering... (read in full...)
Is it normal for him to masturbate daily? Is porn the problem?
Q. Hello everybody.I discovered this site accidentally and I started to like it ,so i will also tell my story to you all,to find out what you think and other opinions.First of all,sorry if I’ll be making some grammar mistakes,English’s not my mother ...
A. 21 July 2011: Oh absolutely he's addicted. You may be the best, most sexually satisfying woman in the world, and he's so caught in porn that there's nothing you can do to replace or break him of it.
Even an addict can tell you that porn can never be a substi... (read in full...)
He disappeared after our second date...and I miss him so much I cry myself to sleep!
Q. I dated someone twice. Then, he disappeared - he didn't make contact with me after the second date. I haven't seen / heard from him for 2 weeks now. I'm disappointed and confused. I'm too embarrassed to call him because the last time we met (2nd...
A. 21 July 2011: He is not worth a single tear shed. He is not worth a single sleepless hour. He is no gentleman. He is a good actor, and he put on a fine performance as a gentleman in order for you to slip into the sack with him.
You got smacked in the face... (read in full...)
I have a really bad feeling about him and his ex....what can I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and we went out last night for a couple of drinks ans we started talking about stuff. He said that his ex was texting him on his birthday (two months ago) and they were both saying that they should ...
A. 21 July 2011: I don't often disagree with chigirl, as she gives excellent advice. However, I think you shouldn't let them meet, especially if his response to "do you still have feelings" is "why are you asking me that?"
As for whether he thinks you are "tha... (read in full...)
Will I stay with my guy or go with the guy I can't stop thinking about?
Q. So, I have a boyfriend. We have been together for five years now, and I love him. In the mean time, there is this other amazing guy that I can't stop thinking about. I kissed the other guy once a couple of years ago, and ever since we met, I have ...
A. 21 July 2011: Does your boyfriend know that you kissed someone else a couple of years ago? I'm guessing that he wouldn't be okay with it any more than if you'd heard that your boyfriend were secretly making out with another girl.
What is holding you back is ... (read in full...)
I cheated but feel no guilt...should I stay or should I go?
Q. My girlfriend and I are having intimacy problems. We've been together for 5 years. It seems to me like things fizzled very early in our relationship. She is perfect in so many ways, but this is killing me. She's 28 and I'm 30. which means its almost ...
A. 21 July 2011: That's a good question. Why don't you feel guilty? Make no mistake, cheating is a completely unjustifiable act, no matter what the circumstances. If your girlfriend of 5 years is mistreating you in the intimacy department, the proper way to ... (read in full...)
My anger made him leave me
Q. Dear Cupid. I've been in a 10 month relationship and im so happy with my boyfriend. In some situations, when the girlfriend gets the boyfriend angry, he'll tell her off or lay his hands on her. Obviously we all know he's a douchebag if it gets to ...
A. 20 July 2011: There is no magic fix on how to change or make it up to him. Words are so cutting, especially in a relationship. Add to that the part where he said that he just wants friendship with you.
You can't use someone like a verbal toilet to just dro... (read in full...)
Is cybersex cheating?
Q. I have a cybersex habit. I had it before I met my wife and I still have it. I have a very high sex drive and my wife just doesn't keep up with me by any stretch. To me it is just a step beyond jerking myself off. In fact, that's what it is. Some...
A. 20 July 2011: You *are* cheating on your wife. Let me ask you a pointed question. Are you masturbating while having cybersex with other people? This means you're using a live person for your sexual release other than your wife. The fact that you used the very ... (read in full...)
I don't earn money so it's his way or no way
Q. I have a complicated problem. I have been married for 3years now.. I have three kids and my husband has three kids. Two of his kids are grown and out of the house . Well when ever it comes to his kids he tells me he makes all the decisions ...
A. 20 July 2011: First of all, this little petty tyrant needs to have the riot act read out to him. However, first things first. You need to realize that you *do* have an equal voice in the finances and decision making of the household. Legally, you are also an ... (read in full...)
Can being nervous mean a man can't keep an erection?
Q. I recently went home with a man I've had a crush on for the past year or so. He is twice my age and we've known each other in a strictly professional capacity, so it was quite unusual and exciting to have the chance to sleep with him. When we got to ...
A. 18 July 2011: Oh yes...he most definitely was nervous. Trust me, it's because he was *too* attracted to you that the thought of not performing was terrifying to him, which unnerved his erection.
I'm guessing that he's had some erection problems in the past as ... (read in full...)
What did this married man mean when he described his relationship to me?
Q. "Being Married but not to each other" When a married man say this about his marriage, what does it exactly mean?...
A. 18 July 2011: Listen, if he lied to you and led you to believe that he wasn't married, and then after you got into a relationship with him, you found out that he was married, that's when you drop him.
A lot of wives are more understanding about women who thei... (read in full...)
What did this married man mean when he described his relationship to me?
Q. "Being Married but not to each other" When a married man say this about his marriage, what does it exactly mean?...
A. 17 July 2011: Gah. "We're married but not to each other". You've gotta be kidding me. Any man who uses that line should be hit with icy cold water. What a cop out!
The only time "married but not to each other" can be validly used is if he's married,... (read in full...)
Is there any way for this relationship to maybe return from sexual interest to our original real connection?
Q. I met a guy on the internet a few months ago, and he and I have been talking regularly ever since. Since day one, I really feel like the two of us have had a connection. Everything clicks. But recently things have taken a turn from genuine interest ...
A. 17 July 2011: "Either I have sex with him and risk never hearing from him again or I say "no" and risk never hearing from him again. Help!"
You have hit it on the head, and he brought up sex first, so he has established his intentions regarding you. There's ... (read in full...)
To give head or not to give head? That is the question!
Q. To give head or to not give head? That is the question. Okay, talk about an icebreaker! Here's my situation. I've been dating a guy officially for a month this coming Saturday. Before officially dating, we casually dated for another month. W...
A. 16 July 2011: Ahhh....first, you two are in a relationship that is going in a forward direction. You sound like you're comfortable enough to take it further sexually. Since you're ready, it'll be your boyfriend who is the one to signal whether or not he's ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is always afraid of pregnancy even though we use protection...how do I calm her down?
Q. My girlfriend and I are worried about a potential pregnancy. She's a little later than usual for her period. She's almost always ~3 days late, but we're getting into a day or two past that point. To the best of our knowledge, she *shouldn't* be p...
A. 16 July 2011: By the way, you're doing *great*. Any guy who will reassure his girl by examining the condom to make sure it's sound is really thoughtful. That's the mark of a keeper and a real man in my opinion. Keep it up!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is always afraid of pregnancy even though we use protection...how do I calm her down?
Q. My girlfriend and I are worried about a potential pregnancy. She's a little later than usual for her period. She's almost always ~3 days late, but we're getting into a day or two past that point. To the best of our knowledge, she *shouldn't* be p...
A. 16 July 2011: Awww, I totally know how she feels. Poor girl, and poor you too! I would recommend that she visits her Doctor so that he can evaluate her and put her on a good first line birth control, such as the IUD, the pill, the patch, or the birth control ... (read in full...)
Should I consider my cowork an occassional hook up or a partner?
Q. another one of these coworker hook up stories...just kind of confused and wanted to express my thoughts. so basically last year a coworker and i wound up making out..after a night out with coworkers we went back to his place..i have been there ...
A. 16 July 2011: The biggest thing is -- he's seeing his ex again. That means she's not out of the picture, and "seeing" and "ex" usually means sex.
Also, if you want to be known as a relatioship type of girl, why are you giving him hand jobs? Why not have a f... (read in full...)
She was upset because I was looking at porn again and then I left.
Q. long story short. me and my exgf had a controlling and abusive relationship. we are really crazy about each other. i betrayed her trust with a porn issue I was working on but didn't fix fast enough. she found out each time and basically never ...
A. 16 July 2011: You know, some women really do get bothered by porn watching by the man, so it's best to keep it on the down low for future reference. It's one thing to snack on the silicone body parts for a little escape time, but it's another to have a glaring ... (read in full...)
Could he have felt my privates? And was this dry sex?
Q. I was at my boyfriend's house and we were making out. It ended up with him on top and he kept grabbing my butt. Thing was, he kept grabbing closer and closer to my private part till eventually he was almost fingering me. Could he tell the difference ...
A. 16 July 2011: Yep, that was called "dry humping". He could have eventually had an orgasm that way (you could have too). Kinda messy for him though.
And I'm betting he was looking for your privates as well. Nothing to be worried about, but of course y... (read in full...)
She is becoming a whore and I care about her too much to let her do this to herself!
Q. Big problem. I have a friend that has been known to get around. I just became really good friends with her about 6 months ago and things between us got closer. I started to want to just have sex with her, but then she told me that she had feelings ...
A. 15 July 2011: How old are you? 13-15? You just wanted sex from her to start with, and you didn't want her feelings complicating that fact. You're mad because she didn't have sex with you. How does that make her a whore?
That is a really terrible thing to... (read in full...)
He pretended to be young, when really he is a 44 year old man! What should I do?
Q. hi ... i'm a girl 18 ... i met some guy on on internet on a 3D game ..he told me his name is Paul and he is 18 ... i loved him ...he shown me some pic for young boy pretending its him.. after being his gf ... in some night he told me he is Ahmed ...
A. 15 July 2011: You asked me how I know he was after sex?
It's simple. An 18-21 year old typically aren't rich enough to pull off a money fraud scam, and if he were really interested in you as a person, he would want you to get to know the real him.
He want... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever developed a crush on a sales/service worker when they use endearing words?
Q. I'll admit it, I am asking this question because misery loves company. A few days ago a cute guy that works at a coffee shop I go to said "Hey beautiful" when I got to the counter. I have been spending far too much of my energy ever since reminding ...
A. 15 July 2011: A coffee shop worker doesn't usually get much in tips. He was flirting with you! He might have been doing it because flirting is fun, OR he might really be looking forward to your visits!
Did you find out something about him as in he has a gi... (read in full...)
He pretended to be young, when really he is a 44 year old man! What should I do?
Q. hi ... i'm a girl 18 ... i met some guy on on internet on a 3D game ..he told me his name is Paul and he is 18 ... i loved him ...he shown me some pic for young boy pretending its him.. after being his gf ... in some night he told me he is Ahmed ...
A. 15 July 2011: Hold it. He lied to you. Cut him off! He's not a true person, and if you continue to have anything to do with him, you are in trouble! He cannot destroy your dreams unless you let him. He misrepresented himself on the internet, which ... (read in full...)
24 and never had an orgasm! Help!
Q. hi everyone sorry to be so personal heres my problem in 24 and i have never had a orgasm my new partners getting very impatient with me it just never seems to happen ive even got a vibrator which doesnt help any tips please...
A. 15 July 2011: First of all, your partner needs to learn that getting impatient is actually counterproductive because for you to have an orgasm, you need to mentally let yourself go. Hard to do that when you're anxious about your performance or worried about your ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin? It didnt hurt or bleed!
Q. This is very confusing and sometimes i think am still a virgin. i had sex with my first boyfriend and i did not bleed nor did it hurt. is this normal? i told my friends and they said am either abnormal or my boyfriend's dick was too small or wea...
A. 15 July 2011: Not everyone feels pain or bleeds on their first time. You could also have accidentally broken your hymen on a number of things as insignificant as horseback riding or inserting a tampon. You're lucky!
Otherwise, the act of losing your virginit... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear I don't want it to just be a one night stand without it being a massive turn off?
Q. Hi, I'm looking for a bit of advice. Firstly, im not a slag, so please don't accuse me of being one. I admit that I have very low self-estem, and having sex makes me feel better about myself. There's a guy I really like, and I'm planning to have sex ...
A. 15 July 2011: Maybe you should feel better about yourself in less risky ways. If you have other hobbies and interests, a sense of accomplishment in them can give you a huge ego boost.
As far as having sex to get a guy interested, you're putting the cart bef... (read in full...)
Broke it off with BF but cant help but want to talk to him. Do I miss him?
Q. There's this guy, let's call him JD. Well, first off, we have been friends for months and we've dated and about 4 days ago I told him I thought it was time to let go and find new people. I've never gone through with leaving him; I've tried it ...
A. 15 July 2011: Can you provide a lot more information? There are a lot of questions I have.
1. Why did you tell him to let go and find new people? What caused you to have that conversation in the first place?
2. Why have you tried to leave him multiple tim... (read in full...)
Psycho boyfriend broke up with me, stiffed me for money, now sends email to brother worried about my mental health? huh?
Q. Why is my ex-boyfriend of three years contacting my brother asking about me? He dumped me nine months ago. To say it was an ugly break-up is an understatement. He left me in a callous manner(at a destination wedding for my best friend). I was so ...
A. 15 July 2011: Well, I hope one of the lessons you take out of this is to NEVER under any circumstances lend money to a boyfriend. Money and loans will take a really good relationship and flush it down the toilet. Leave money out of it, and if you ever feel like ... (read in full...)
Dating for a year and never gone on a "date" yet!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. We get along fine and time with just ourselves is great. We have never gone on a date yet. I've tried to plan 3 but always something came up with my bf and the date would be called off. Afte...
A. 15 July 2011: You've been dating but never been on a date? What does that mean? What do you do for fun? Dating doesn't always have to be the traditional "dinner and a movie".
You've been together for a year, and he's not had you meet his family and friends ... (read in full...)
What is an estimate of a healthy amount of time between relationships?
Q. Hi there What is an estimate of a healthy amount of time between relationships? I was in a long term relationship for 3 years and its like I'm clueless about dating. I'm in my late 20s and only 2 serious relationships. Last time, it was 3 months b...
A. 15 July 2011: It's different for everyone. Some relationships that break off mean more than others. Frequently, the longer ones (like marriages or long term relationships) take longer to get over. There's healing that takes place.
You'll soon find yourself... (read in full...)
At times I just feel like I should just let myself be used, but at least then I'll have somefriends...
Q. dear Cupid, I have a problem finding quality friends. It seems with in my circle of aquaintances of people I know the drama queens, mooches/users,pill poppers,selfish,materialistic, boastful/self important and just the average jerk seem to have all...
A. 15 July 2011: Why do you find fault with people and break off all of your relationships? Why did your mom do the same? What makes you do that?
My philosophy is pretty simple. Instead of looking for quality friends, you should devote that energy into BECOMING... (read in full...)
Is she over reacting to our Daughter's facebook or am I irresponsible.
Q. Me and my wife split up over 2 years ago. I quickly found someone new and we have been living together for over a year. My ex has always let me see my daughters every other weekend and they have been allowed to sleep over at weekends and during ...
A. 13 July 2011: The wife cannot amend the divorce agreement. If he has weekends, she can't place a restriction stating that he can only be seen in the daytime. He is allowed to have her sleep over for the full amount of time the courts have given to him.
If yo... (read in full...)
I don't hate my ex anymore and want to congratulate him on having a baby, how should I do this?
Q. Today I read a question about a guy that calls his gf names and wont let her eat til he says its ok. It made me feel sad and horrible for her because thats what my exbf did to me but he was badder. I treated him so good but he would always find ...
A. 13 July 2011: You have a new boyfriend and a new future. Your ex is in your history. I wouldn't ever communicate with your ex again. He has moved on, and so have you.
You said this guy really mistreated you? Why the hell do you feel the need to let him ... (read in full...)
Girls: Have you ever been rejected?
Q. Girls have you ever approached a guy and had him reject you? I am not talking about being dumped. I am talking about when you first meet a guy, you put yourself out there and ask him out and he shoots you down. I have this theory. Most girls seem ...
A. 12 July 2011: Oh...forgot to add...it's a rejection everytime a man takes you on a date and then he never calls back. At least a guy gets a definite rejection from the start, quick and easy. A woman's is drawn out for a week or so and is excruciating.
Don't... (read in full...)
Girls: Have you ever been rejected?
Q. Girls have you ever approached a guy and had him reject you? I am not talking about being dumped. I am talking about when you first meet a guy, you put yourself out there and ask him out and he shoots you down. I have this theory. Most girls seem ...
A. 12 July 2011: Sure, I've been rejected. The guy was nice about it said he saw me as more "friend" material than anything more. It stung some, but I quickly got over it. I've also rejected a few guys too and tried to be very nice about it as well.
Every... (read in full...)
Is she over reacting to our Daughter's facebook or am I irresponsible.
Q. Me and my wife split up over 2 years ago. I quickly found someone new and we have been living together for over a year. My ex has always let me see my daughters every other weekend and they have been allowed to sleep over at weekends and during ...
A. 12 July 2011: I hear what LoveGirl is saying, however disagreeing with the father about having a Facebook account is not grounds to cut him off from his daughter. Period.
Stoney, your divorce papers spell out your parental rights. She cannot deny you thos... (read in full...)
Is she over reacting to our Daughter's facebook or am I irresponsible.
Q. Me and my wife split up over 2 years ago. I quickly found someone new and we have been living together for over a year. My ex has always let me see my daughters every other weekend and they have been allowed to sleep over at weekends and during ...
A. 11 July 2011: What are your legal rights as a father? What rules of custody have been laid out and agreed upon? If the judge has allowed you weekend visits, your ex cannot stop them.
Parenting differences are to be sat down and discussed. She can't arbitrar... (read in full...)
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