My girlfriend of 19 years doesn't ever want to have sex. Should I leave her?
Q. I met my girlfriend 19 years ago. You might think that's a lot time for a woman to remain a girlfriend, but the primary reason I never married her is that we have not have had a sex life since about Year Two. I have told her several times that I l...
A. 5 July 2011: You say that you met your girlfriend 19 years ago, but that the primary reason you didn't marry her is because she hasn't had sex with you since year 2 Why have you stayed with her for 17 more years if sex is as important as you say it is to you? ... (read in full...)
Should I come clean to my boyfriend?
Q. I have a really complicated situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating off and on for about 5 years and in March of this year we got back together after having been separated for about 7 months. For most of our relationship, we have been long ...
A. 5 July 2011: I'm with CaringGuy 100% here, especially on his second point.
I wanted to add that it's a great deal different having a primarily long distance relationship, especially for as long as 5 years. You say he just came back in March after being go... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm missing out, knowing that he has had 12 partners before me!
Q. ok heres my story... im a 22 year old female and my boyfriend is 24 years old. he is my first EVERYTHING (i lost my virginity to him at 22 by the way). and i recently found out by him that he has been with 12 other girls before me. i already knew he ...
A. 5 July 2011: You are not missing out at all. The fact that he was your first and you've not had 12 other partners doesn't make your experience any less. If you do love him, don't consider dating just to even the playing field, because it won't, and you'll end ... (read in full...)
B/f says if he has sex too often he becomes emotionally attached
Q. im having a proplem with my bf of a year. i know he loves me but to me we dont have sex often enough. sometimes i can tell he wants me bad but he holds himself back and i dont know y. i am sought of afraid to start something im afraid hell reject me ...
A. 5 July 2011: That's the point of having sex! You're emotionally attached already and the sex makes you closer than you were before! That's how it's supposed to work.
He is immature, not scared. To him, he doesn't want to be out of control. He looks at... (read in full...)
Threesome damage and I knew better!
Q. So, another 3some gone bad. I have history with 3somes' they ruined my first marriage. After I stopped them, he went on to have affairs. I learned my lesson and for 15 years didn't have another while in a relationship. I met my sweetheart almos...
A. 5 July 2011: Your boyfriend just cheated on you.
Doesn't matter if the three of you got out of hand the night before, when he continued with the other woman after you left and clearly expressed your opinion about the situation, he betrayed and cheated on you. ... (read in full...)
Does it bother you if you are aware that your husband is seeing another woman for sex, but he will stay in your marriage and take all other responsibilities?
Q. If you are the wife... By reading so many questions /dramas caused by husbands' cheating (on wivies' side and the other women's side), it seems that most husbands cheat for 'sex'. If the sexual ife is not as good as it used to be (e.g., you...
A. 4 July 2011: It sounds like the question posed is "Would you open your marriage if you have a lower or nonexistant sex drive than your husband and it's just for sex?"
There are two things I want to address on here. One, you know the saying "Stolen apples t... (read in full...)
Does deleted message from my wife phone mean anything?
Q. A year ago there was this guy whom my wife befriended. She said he told he he love her but she declined his broposal. I told her to cut her cuntact with him to help him to deal with it and she agreed. But they kept texting since then. Yesterday ...
A. 4 July 2011: Yeah. If this guy has declared his feelings to her to be more than friendship, she should cut contact with him. Should she ever hide messages from him? No way! You're her husband.
Many women fall into the trap of thinking and intendin... (read in full...)
Does watching lesbian porn mean I'm a lesbian?
Q. Dear people Lately I've been thinking about my sexual orientation. I used to watch porn and I stopped because I hated it and I felt disgusted every time I do it. I watched lesbian porn and I felt aroused. But I HATED it afterwards. lesbian sex...
A. 4 July 2011: Ever yawn when someone else yawns? Ever watch a commercial for food and get hungry? Have you ever cried at a sad scene in a movie? Those are all natural things.
A woman's body is beautiful. A woman who has completely given herself to physical... (read in full...)
Does width really matter?
Q. I've been generally comfortable with my equipment most of my life. It's a good size and I enjoy using it. :-) Lately I've learned a few things that have caused some insecurity, so I'm doing some research to get at the truth. I'm dating women in...
A. 4 July 2011: Anon, I'm sorry if you took my earlier response wrong. I would never pick on a man because of his width. And I didn't pick on him here in this case either. Please allow me to explain myself.
Maybe it's because I'm a woman, but I have never fi... (read in full...)
Do I ask her out after she dumped me?
Q. Okay so there's this girl who i really like, she's my ex infact and her friends keep bugging me to ask her out but im unsure and also i do not know how/what to say, she asked me out when we dated and also she dumped me so im lost. How do I ask her ...
A. 3 July 2011: I'm assuming she's the same age as you. It's true that when a girl's friends come to you, it's usually because the friend is wanting to.
However, your ex did the dumping. Tell her friends to tell HER to un-dump you. She ended the relation... (read in full...)
Why did my friends send 2 gay stripper for my birthday party?
Q. hello everyone.. i dont know from where to start. but yesterday was my birthday so i made a party to celebrate it..it was cool and so all my friends came and had fun. but they had a lil surprise for me/ they tied me up to a chair and put like a t...
A. 3 July 2011: Yeah, sounds like a frat joke, on the order of writing on your face while you were passed out or putting shaving cream on your face and tickling it with a feather.
They need to grow up. Luckily, maturity does catch up with most of us.... (read in full...)
Why does my husband take his penis out and squeeze it?
Q. My husband often takes his penis out to squeeze it himself, right when he is cuming... could that mean that my vagina is not tight enough to give him a pleasurable enough orgasm, and he is getting it with his hands? We are both able to orgasm from ...
A. 3 July 2011: You're all overlook the fact that he might be used to masturbating so often that it's the only way he can go all the way. Wouldn't matter if she were tight as a Pixy Stick..he'd still need his hand.
She could do enough Kegels to crack walnuts ... (read in full...)
Does width really matter?
Q. I've been generally comfortable with my equipment most of my life. It's a good size and I enjoy using it. :-) Lately I've learned a few things that have caused some insecurity, so I'm doing some research to get at the truth. I'm dating women in...
A. 3 July 2011: Hah! I was about to come in here and pick on you and tell you that I bring a tape measure to all my sexual encounters, but reading through your question, I am actually impressed with you!
GOOD FOR YOU that you invite extra help in pleasing... (read in full...)
Why do people smoke and drink?
Q. Why do people smoke and drink and enjoy it? I know this sounds stuck up, but I honestly cannot understand how people can not only enjoy but also become addicted to this nasty-smelling, nasty-tasting, just plain foul stuff... I have been sh**-faced ...
A. 3 July 2011: I have never tried pot, and when I've tried smoking, I couldn't take the feel of my lungs, or the smell of my breath and clothes, so I never get into it.
Alcohol in moderation is really nice. It's like the stress of the week melts away. However ... (read in full...)
We never talk about the future and it really bugs me...what can I do?
Q. Here’s some background: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and 8 months. I am 23 and he is 22. He is my first boyfriend and I am his second girlfriend. He is wonderful to me and we really try to treat each other well we have similar ...
A. 3 July 2011: He may truly not be ready to marry. He might have other aspirations in his life before marriage takes place. That is reasonable, since he's fresh out of college and is looking to establish his career.
However, I also tell you this. Your ins... (read in full...)
I have just had an abortion and would like advice on how to get over it?
Q. Hey, I'm looking for your help to cope with having a termination of my pregnancy last week. I had been on the pill, and it was an unplanned pregnancy with my bf of 7 months. We spent a long time discussing it, and decided it was too soon for us to ...
A. 3 July 2011: First, you are feeling a ton of emotions, I'm sure. This may sound anticlimactic, but being pregnant delivers a massive hormone cocktail to your brain, and ending a pregnancy sends those hormones out of whack. What you're feeling is your body's ... (read in full...)
I accidentally kicked a ball in my GF's face while playing football! Now she won't talk to me!
Q. Two weeks back while playing soccer, my shot on goal hit my girlfriend on face, she was standing close to goalpost, which left her in extreme pain and swelling. It was an incident and I made apology but she made issue of it and dumped saying that I ...
A. 2 July 2011: I agree with the majority. Anyone used to sports knows that accidents happen. In truth, people usually wear the black eyes and fat lips as a badge of honor.
If she's been ignoring you for 10 days, it's really not about the accident. Stop com... (read in full...)
We have a great relationship except for the fact that I am just his girlfriend, and he doesn't EVER want to marry me.
Q. I hope someone can help me with this problem. I am back in the dating scene after 10 years of marriage. I NEVER thought I would want to get married again, but I have found someone that I don't want to live without. When we began dating, I made i...
A. 1 July 2011: This one is pretty simple on paper, but nerve-wracking emotionally. You have a choice.
1. To be with him and love him.
or
2. To want a relationship where marriage is the inevitable result.
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To threesome or not to threesome...mature answers only please!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years now. Recently, we've hit a few rough patches and I'm trying to spice up and revive our relationship. One of his fantasies is to have a threesome with a woman that neither one of us ...
A. 1 July 2011: Chigirl's last paragraph hits it spot on. Threesomes should only be on the table if both of you are in a very close and extremely strong relationship, and you both share an equal passion, fantasy and taste for threesomes.
No way should two peop... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any advice for me until my doctor clears me?
Q. I was raped two years ago, and the guy gave me HPV. I have been cleared of the virus, but I still have cancer cells that my doctor is trying to remove. He just performed a procedure where the cells were frozen. He has instructed me not to have sex ...
A. 29 June 2011: First, my heart goes out to you. I can't imagine the sheer shattering impact that you've been living with the past two years. You have my good thoughts and prayers for your continued steps toward your physical, mental and emotional recovery.
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I feel I should also sleep with someone else while I'm single to get this out of my system.
Q. Im a in a real bad moral situation that i cannot seem to make a decision on. I had a 5 year relationship with a girl who i love dearly. We started growing distant and she broke up with me on the day my dog died. It was a real heartache and i asked ...
A. 29 June 2011: If you sleep with someone else, you will not even things out or get it out of your system. Your hurt won't decrease, nor will your trust of her not to devastate you at will.
If you want to feel better, stay single and don't look back. She brok... (read in full...)
I'm not sure where I stand with my FWB
Q. I'm married but its falling apart he cheated on me lied constantly, hurt me, ignored me. I started an affair with a friend, I know its wrong. We've been on and off for about 9 months now. When it started I didn't mean for it all but i fell for my ...
A. 29 June 2011: You know, you didn't deserve your husband cheating on you and mistreating you. However, the path you took in order to "be bad" is a self-destructive one that will only hurt you more.
You want to know if this guy has real feelings for you? Th... (read in full...)
Does he still want to marry me even though he knows that's not possible?
Q. Hello.. well my boyfriend is Christian and i am a Muslim girl and we have been together for over 2 years. lately we have been talking about marriage and kids, but the problem is that i cant marry him because his not Muslims. lately we both be...
A. 28 June 2011: He sounds like a keeper who really loves you with all of his heart. Good luck to you both!... (read in full...)
It seems she is looser, could she be cheating?
Q. i have this curious question about a vagina fart,I know that its caused by air being pushed from the penis,but is it mostly cause by a bigger penis,for example-I've been with the mother of my kids for 18yrs. And I don't know if because she gave ...
A. 28 June 2011: Okay, a looser vagina does not mean that she's cheating. She gave birth to 3 kids. Those things rip perineums, and you have entire 6-8 pound babies being birthed over and over.
Not to mention that if she was 16 when you two met, she's grown so... (read in full...)
I'm not sure where I stand with my FWB
Q. I'm married but its falling apart he cheated on me lied constantly, hurt me, ignored me. I started an affair with a friend, I know its wrong. We've been on and off for about 9 months now. When it started I didn't mean for it all but i fell for my ...
A. 28 June 2011: I think you're too young to be in such a messy situation. Addressing your post is going to feel like detangling a ball of string, so let's do it one step at a time, shall we?
1. You're married. You say he's cheated and lied. Why haven't ... (read in full...)
Am I an ass?
Q. Honestly am I? I've realized something, I can't seem to get over my ex. She was my first serious gf. Like I really loved her. We had a good year 1/2 or 2 together. We broke up bc I found out she cheated. It took a year before we were able to be cool ...
A. 28 June 2011: It's interesting that you're wondering whether you're an ass or not. That is even more telling than the answer, because it reveals your unresolved anger about her cheating.
Your ego wants to be with her, and so do your feelings for her that are... (read in full...)
Why is my fiancé acting so distant all of a sudden? She's up late, sleeps on the couch, and has had a panic attack. What should I do?
Q. My fiancé is the love of my life but lately she has been acting really weird. She has been staying up late (5 am) and she has been falling asleep on the couch lately. I have been getting up and waking her up to go bed with me. She shakes when she...
A. 28 June 2011: Oh boy. Sounds like something really did happen to her. She needs to talk to someone about it. Stop being a jerk and focusing on her 5am bedtime. Find out what's wrong, because it's serious.... (read in full...)
I'm in a FWB with a married woman who used to be more loving. I'm confused, what happened?
Q. I am a married separated man in mid 40's, i have been separated for 5 years and am still friends with wife, we see each other 3 times a week but there is no sex. I have had 2 serious relationships in the past 5 years, niether worked out because ...
A. 28 June 2011: It's simple. This is what you want, and she has decided to match your feelings.
Understand, that the long cuddles afterwards, the loving attitude, the massages, those are all expressions of feelings.
In a sense, she stopped them because you... (read in full...)
I love my FWB but he is flirting with other girls! What should I do?
Q. Me and this guy have been friends for ages and we both decided to be friends with benefits he is 3 years older than me, anyway i was supposed to see him on a certain night but i couldn't get to him so i told him and he got sorta ignorant with me, ...
A. 27 June 2011: Well, FWB means friends with benefits. This basically means that he can flirt with anyone, sleep with anyone, and do anything with anyone he feels like. Friends with benefits simply means that the two of you have "no strings attached" sex whenever ... (read in full...)
Crazy Sexist Guy Keeps Calling Me
Q. This guy and I have been dating for like a few months so far. He has proven to be a person I don't feel I can trust. He seems like the player/liar type and when he doesn't get his way he tends to try to guilt trip you or make you feel like your the ...
A. 26 June 2011: Yeah, break it off once and for all. Do not take him back. If it's not working, it's not working. Tell him to stop communicating with you as well. Then ignore him. His calls, his texts, everything. Don't play around and take him back. You ... (read in full...)
Broke up and now I want him back!
Q. So i guess i need advice? im 15 ME AND MY BOYFRIEND broke up a few weeeks ago. He might b goin to collage next fall and he said he might c me again this summer. :( i decided to stop calling and just wait untill hes ready.... We had a bad break up. I ...
A. 26 June 2011: He took advantage of you, as in he forced you against your will? Or were you just drunk and lost your inhibitions and he was there and went right with it? There is a difference.
From what it sounds like, you got drunk. You must have gotten d... (read in full...)
A threesome that went bad. Is b/f blaming me?
Q. My boyfriend has been asking to have been wanting to have a 3some for the last 7 months. One with a girl and one with a boy. He have been talking about this female who would like to. But she was concern if I was sexually attracted to her. So we ...
A. 26 June 2011: Sounds like it was the other woman who had the problem and was uncomfortable. He pressured her and she didn't like it. Also, her comment of "didn't want me to mess up the vibe" makes me wonder if she wasn't attracted to your boyfriend and more ... (read in full...)
How can my girlfriend not feel anything?
Q. my girlfriend says she does not "feel" anything when i touch her vagina...what does that mean???!! um so much worried...what should i do??? ...
A. 25 June 2011: Actually, that's to be expected in a great deal of women, since the vagina isn't where the feeling is. You have to touch and rub her clitoris for maximum feeling. That is where the pleasurable nerves are, not the vagina. Imagine if your girl only ... (read in full...)
Does he still want to marry me even though he knows that's not possible?
Q. Hello.. well my boyfriend is Christian and i am a Muslim girl and we have been together for over 2 years. lately we have been talking about marriage and kids, but the problem is that i cant marry him because his not Muslims. lately we both be...
A. 25 June 2011: Sounds like he loves you enough to contemplate converstion to Islam. Are you saying that even if he converts you can't marry him because he'll never be regarded as anything but a Christian, or if he converts, would you be able to then?
Also,... (read in full...)
I just found out the guy my wife lost her viginity to had a bigger penis
Q. hi just found out the guy my wife lost her virginty to was my 2nd cousin after 22 years of married life when she blurted out his name by mistake i asked her his name and found out he had a bigger penis and said she was sorry had i known this i would ...
A. 24 June 2011: What the hell? How did she blurt out his name? And how did the conversation come up about her losing her virginity? And OMG...what the hell difference does it possibly make what size his penis is???
Come on, after 22 years, you still sound li... (read in full...)
Somebody is 'planting' panties
Q. My wife recently discovered a pair of panties which were obviously planted by (we suspect) during a recent visit by an envious/jealous guests (younger adult neice). Luckily, my wife knows I had nothing to do with the matter. Any suggestions on how ...
A. 24 June 2011: Okay, there is a lot that isn't being told here. Why would she plant panties? Why would she be envious or jealous? There are a lot of things you're leaving out of this.
Bottom line, if she's underage and under guardianship of parents, then you... (read in full...)
Do you ever have sex like a porn star???
Q. Just out of curiosity, do you ever have sex like a pornstar? If so, how often? All the time? Once in a while? Special occasions? (And by pornstar sex, I'm talking about stuff you would expect to see in a fairly vanilla porn video - no insane, dem...
A. 23 June 2011: Interesting question! I had a few thoughts about this one.
First and foremost, most guys don't last as long as pornstar men do, which I suspect many of those encounters are the result of more than one sex act, meaning that it may look like the... (read in full...)
Does he disrespect me or am I taking the touching and dirty jokes personally?
Q. I have been good friends with my boyfriend before we started dating. This are going fairly smoothly but I get annoyed with him when he touches me up when we just have a casual hug or kiss. He also makes personalized dirty jokes, and my opinion, it's ...
A. 23 June 2011: Without knowing exactly what his dirty jokes are about, I'd say it's less that he's disrespecting you and more that this is how he expresses his sexuality. In truth, you really turn him on, yet he needs to realize that simple hugs and kisses are ... (read in full...)
I feel awful for dating and being dumped by such an young guy!!
Q. I am with a guy 8 years younger to me for the past few months. Initially everything went well, but lately he started hanging out with his friends more and his freinds are not happy about us cause of the age diff. For the past two days he didnt call ...
A. 23 June 2011: Heh, well he showed his age by breaking up with you via text. I'm thinking his friends put the pressure on him because the whole "I don't like myself anymore" is a creative breakup, but a cop out that hides his true reasons.
The only other re... (read in full...)
I went to a strip club and my wife suspects. Should I come clean?
Q. I have been with my wife (dating and married) for 19 years now. We have had our ups and downs and during a down period (about 10 years into our relationship) I went to a strip club for the first time. I always had this bad idea about strip clubs an...
A. 19 June 2011: Wait a second. On here, your age shows as 26-29 but you've been dating your wife for 19 years? Does that mean that you've been dating her from age 10 on up?
Also, do you realize how you sound? You're going to a strip club, yet you're not sexu... (read in full...)
Married for 6 months - now some disturbing things coming out about my wife?
Q. After a drunken night of wine last night, a few things came out about my wife that I probably didnt want to hear. I have a big thing about honesty, as I have a fair few trust issues of my own, and after a few lies that she's came out with, I feel a ...
A. 19 June 2011: Do not mistake honesty for jealousy. She has never cheated on you. Whether she kissed or tried to kiss or stopped another guy from kissing her within the first two weeks of meeting you (?!) should not be an issue.
You say that you "complet... (read in full...)
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