Is he into me, even though he has a girlfriend?
Q. Okay so I've just started in a new school where no one know eachother so it's a new fresh start. I like my class and everyone else in the school. But in my class, one guy has catched my attention. I started talking to him on our introduction trip to ...
A. 29 August 2011: You are accepting and enjoying his attentions of you.
The *only* thing you should be doing is telling him to leave you alone immediately.
Anything less, and you're an accessory to his lying and messing around behind his girlfriend's bac... (read in full...)
He says they're only text messages, but they're about trying to meet up for sex with another woman!
Q. I seen some text messages on my partners phone which indicate he trying to meet someone for sex but she turns him down when I confront him he pleads with me and begs me to stay saying its only messages and he regrets it. Now we been together 5 yrs ...
A. 28 August 2011: I would take it a step further and say that he already *is* cheating on you. Cheating starts before the sex act. His solicitation is already grounds for breakup. Had she not turned him down (and good for her!), he would have gone through with ... (read in full...)
Is he into me, even though he has a girlfriend?
Q. Okay so I've just started in a new school where no one know eachother so it's a new fresh start. I like my class and everyone else in the school. But in my class, one guy has catched my attention. I started talking to him on our introduction trip to ...
A. 28 August 2011: The walkin dude is right. I'll put it another way too:
If your best friend's boyfriend were cheating on her, and she was with you crying about it because her heart was shattered, you wouldn't be feeling sexual attraction towards him. You'd de... (read in full...)
Not ready to let this 'camp fish' go!
Q. Dear readers, I am in need of some serious advice. I worked at this day camp for two months. It just ended on Friday, August 26. There was this guy on the first day of pre-camp that I met through another guy I knew from last summer. We'll ca...
A. 28 August 2011: Okay, I read the whole thing. I was waiting for when you'd exhaust the alphabet and start referring to your friends by numbers or punctuation symbols. ;)
Anyways, you know what this boils down to? Honestly? S was amusing himself with stroking... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has disgusting habits, will he ever stop? Everything else about him is good
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for several years and live together. For the most part it's been smooth sailing. Then we moved to a big city a few months ago, which made me germaphobic and him less careful about things. I don't know what to ...
A. 28 August 2011: I've been thinking about this one. This guy is acting out vindictively against the original poster. If he's accusing her of mental issues in regards to cleanliness, you'd think that he would have either stopped her from kissing him and went to the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has disgusting habits, will he ever stop? Everything else about him is good
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for several years and live together. For the most part it's been smooth sailing. Then we moved to a big city a few months ago, which made me germaphobic and him less careful about things. I don't know what to ...
A. 28 August 2011: The toenail thing would deal break it for me. That's just beyond rude. I couldn't kiss him again because I'd be way too grossed out.
The candy too -- that is nasty.
As far as the hand rail thing -- that's a bit less disgusting. His... (read in full...)
My old friend from school turns our conversations sexual. What does he want from me?
Q. I'll really try to make this short. I have an old friend from high school (we are now in college) who has recently given me his number via facebook so we can talk and catch up. Lately we've been texting and the very first day we talked a lot about ...
A. 27 August 2011: In this situation, your gut instinct is the correct one.
He's not talking about seeing you or getting to know you. He's talking about "hooking up" and sex. If he were truly talking about a relationship, he wouldn't be trying to get you to agree... (read in full...)
My husband still works with his ex mistress
Q. I caught my husband of 16 years cheating on me last september with a woman who works in his office. He broke it off when I found out but he still works with her. I think about it everyday while he's at work. It torments me and I've told him that. ...
A. 27 August 2011: First of all, he should be grateful you didn't kick him to the curb when you found out about his cheating.
Second, you have every right not to trust him. He was the one who shattered your trust, and he should never forget that.
That be... (read in full...)
Would starting smoking affect the fact I'm taking birth control?
Q. Dear cupid...im 17 yrs old and i've been on birth control for about 6 to 7 months. I never smoked anything before but i've been tempted to lately since im always surrounded by people who do that. So i was wondering if i do smoke a cigarrette, how ...
A. 27 August 2011: It won't affect the "birth control" aspect of birth control, but it would exponantially increase the chance for one of the deadly side effects -- stroke. Birth control is bad for someone with high blood pressure, and smoking constricts your blood ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I want children now?
Q. Hi, I am 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend for two years. For awhile now me and him have been talking about getting married and living a happy life, but now I want kids. We have discussed having kids but we never really decided when. Bo...
A. 25 August 2011: Truthfully, if his or your plans are to continue education, then you should not be having kids now. If you do, you both will hamstring yourselves in that department big time. You don't realize how utterly upside down your lives will turn when you ... (read in full...)
How do I curb my wish to check on him? I want to quit doing this
Q. How do i change myself to where i don't check up on him so much? I didn't mean to make him think that I distrust him or that i am "checking up" on him. I just tend to get worried about him and want to make sure he is ok. I trust him completely ...
A. 24 August 2011: This has to do with you and how you see yourself.
You mentioned that you trust him but not the women around him. I totally understand that, and that is a very common feeling.
This anxiety stems from feelings in you that you are not good eno... (read in full...)
We broke up a year ago, but I still think about her every single day!
Q. Hi I broke up with my ex about a year ago. We lived together for 2 years and were together for about 4. I really miss her and think about her every day. I havent been with anyone since as every time I meet someone I shy away because I still love my ...
A. 23 August 2011: If you don't want to be with her, then let her go. You still think about her because you haven't ended communication with her.
So why did you break up with her in the first place? I know it's a lot more than "she drives me crazy". Did someone ... (read in full...)
My FWB creeps me out during sex
Q. Hey! Okay, so I've been messing around with my Friends and Benefits for a couple a months now and he does this thing in bed that kind of creeps me out but at the same time romantic. Whenever we are having sex, he constantly stares into my eyes and ...
A. 23 August 2011: Could be one of two things:
1. He might have feelings for you
or
2. He wants the "girlfriend experience" without actually having a girlfriend.
What this means is -- I've heard on this site and in other places that some men in one nigh... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says I'm not loud enough during sex
Q. My boyfriend and I have really good sex but he still asks me if I'm enjoying it. I know it's good that he wants to make sure I feel good but it's his reasoning that gets me. He says he's not sure because I'm not loud enough. I moan like the whole ...
A. 23 August 2011: I'm guessing that he's madly insecure, and at age 17, he's had more experience with sex because of watching porn than being with someone. You know, the stereotypical screeching, grunting, screaming "F*CK ME HARD POOKIE BEAR!" and the simultaneous ... (read in full...)
I'm disabled, how can I get more money when I can't work?
Q. Okay I know this is mostly a love related site but i know there are great people on here who can answer my question... Okay im 19 and I was born disabled and since I was born disabled I've never been able to work. SSI gives me $620 a month bec...
A. 20 August 2011: First of all, listen to me very carefully.
You are *not* a leech.
Second, research the SSA's "Ticket to Work" program. They will look at your disability and help you get vocational training and/or employment services. Look up the Maximus corp... (read in full...)
Why do people think its okay to berate women who sleep with married men?
Q. I'm so fed up reading people taking the moral high ground on every topic, especially that of married cheats and 'home wreckers' There is so much contraversy surrounding cheating at the moment on this site and I would like to express my views as...
A. 17 August 2011: Well, I can speak for myself. In my opinion, the reason why cheating creates such a visceral response in people usually emanates from either past experiences, or a friend that's been hurt by its effects. When a parent cheats on the other parent, ... (read in full...)
Am I too controlling?
Q. My boyfriend says im controlling. We both have very different views on the world and the way to act in a relationship. He told me he cheated on me in the first year and i said id forgive him because i knew he was in a bad place and had just broken ...
A. 17 August 2011: In my humble opinion, the fact that he cheated on you and you forgave him utterly disqualifies him from uttering a single syllable of protest at your distrust of him.
You were actually a lot more graceful to him than I would have been. I would ... (read in full...)
She asked me out for coffee, but is she wanting sex?
Q. Can everyone tell me why a MARRIED woman has just asked me out for coffee??? I am married, too. Is she looking to start an affair with me or could she just like me as a friend only? Is there something wrong with two married people going out for ...
A. 17 August 2011: I don't think it's a good idea, to be honest. How would you feel if your wife were going out to coffee with another man?? Maybe I'm not that "enlightened" or "evolved", but a married woman and a married man have no business carrying on deep, ... (read in full...)
My wife is having an emotional affair and I can't stop her
Q. Hi guys. I am hoping somebody can help me. I am at the end of my rope. My wife has been having an emotional affair with a married man whose children go to the same school as ours. It has been going on for a year and she is very deeply involved....
A. 17 August 2011: Unfortunately, you can't stop her. She's already told you that she wants out of your marriage, so let her out. In fact, tell her she has to move out, because you won't stand for someone else in her life. She is cheating on you.
You have to ... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to be happy with my contribution to the household
Q. Hi. My live-in boyfriend thinks i do not do as much housework as him when i do. He also thinks that whilst he does it to make me be happier in a clean home that i only do it if i occasionally feel like it. He doesnt seem to care what my opinion of ...
A. 17 August 2011: I don't know how long your lease is, but you fell into a trap a lot of couples fall into. Luckily for you, there is a pretty easy way out of it, but it might take a few months...more specificly, the balance of your lease, to get out of it.
While... (read in full...)
Can someone explain French kissing to me?
Q. So french kissing is new to me and today, my bf and i were making out and he slipped the tongue for the first time but i didn't know what to do with it! i found myself wrapping my lip on it and I'm about 100% sure that's not what you're supposed to ...
A. 17 August 2011: Heh...you brought back memories for me. The first time I was French-kissed, my boyfriend at the time was less than experienced, and made me gag because I think he was trying to touch my uvula. I'll never forget that as long as I live and file the ... (read in full...)
Filled with regret for the way things ended with BF.
Q. I am filled with dread and regret after breaking up with my boyfriend of 9 months. I don't want it to end but it couldn't stay as it was. He was being cold, not returning my phone calls for days and then I found evidence that he was flirting wit...
A. 17 August 2011: Yeah, he played you. He wanted to break up with you, but was too chickensh*t to do it himself, so he made it so that you would get fed up, start the fight, and then dump him.
Trust me on this -- he did you a favor by having you toss him. Yo... (read in full...)
I can't have her it would destroy too many people but I love my girlfriend's best friend
Q. Hello, I have been with my girlfriend for 10 years, we have two kids and a whole life together. She loves me with all her heart. Over the past year though I have started to have feelings for someone else. The problem is the girl is my ...
A. 17 August 2011: Holy cats! What?!? Where the hell do I even begin??
I'm going to number my thoughts because it keeps me organized and on task here, and I hope it makes things easier to read.
1. 10 years?? Really?? Guess what? In your country (Canada)... (read in full...)
He is a great boyfriend, but he's into sex
Q. So,I have been in relation with this guy since when i was in 9th grade and now I am in 11th.We were together for a year and went very well.Now I am in USA,he loves me alot and we trust each other.He does not flirt with other girls and never hurts my ...
A. 16 August 2011: Yeah, that's normal. Teenage guys are feeling a massive rush of hormones, and the vast majority of them eat, drink, and think sex.
However, I *must* warn you. Stop immediately going naked online. Don't do it! It only takes one breakup ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to masturbate during pregnancy?
Q. My question's very short. I'm 8 weeks pregnant and live miles away from my fiance (who's the father of my babe). I miss sex so much and always find myself masturbating. Is masturbating harmful to me and or my unborn baby?...
A. 16 August 2011: No! On the contrary, it's very GOOD for you and baby! You being relaxed drops blood pressure and the release you feel enhanced your well-being! So go with gusto!
By the way, heh, you'll find the difference between non-pregnant orgasm and preg... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but she makes no effort with sex
Q. Hi, I've been in a long distance relationship for about 2,5 years now (we are both in our early 20s). We see each other about 2-3 times a month. Everything is great (aside from the long distance part and the fact that this won't be changing anytime ...
A. 16 August 2011: I'm going to start my advice by doing a little math with you which hopefully will both make you feel a little better as will as give you some perspective on what's happening in your relationship.
You say that you've been dating for 2 1/2 years, r... (read in full...)
His partner died 9 years ago, is it still healthy that he's grieving over him?
Q. Hi I am in a relationship with a guy for the last two years and we live together for the last 6 months, my partner had a partner who died 9 years ago and they were together for 18 years and were very happy My partner is very close with his partner...
A. 16 August 2011: Everyone has made great points, so I won't reiterate them so as to become redundant.
But I'll point out something else that might give you different perspective on his spending time with his ex's family and being part of them.
He's not the ... (read in full...)
Filled with regret for the way things ended with BF.
Q. I am filled with dread and regret after breaking up with my boyfriend of 9 months. I don't want it to end but it couldn't stay as it was. He was being cold, not returning my phone calls for days and then I found evidence that he was flirting wit...
A. 16 August 2011: That's just it. A lot of people break up with other people, or ask them to move out, or end things with their partners not because they wanted to end things, but because they wanted the other party to wake up and see what they were missing and come ... (read in full...)
What kind of immature cop-out is the "the chase"?
Q. Why can't guys have honest, loving relationships? Are they not man enough to have them? If I care for a guy, why do I have to play coy and hard to get for his attention? Mind-games are disrespectful and hurtful. If he doesn't want the comfort, ...
A. 16 August 2011: Ahh geeze. Listen, your boyfriend acting like a complete tool has nothing to do with you. Remember the first thing you said about him being "honest and loving"? Your boyfriend may be honest, but he's not loving.
His saying that he likes the atte... (read in full...)
How can I make sure my lover's wife found out about us without him knowing I did it?
Q. I am having an affair with a man from work. I am single, he has been with his partner for about 5 years and they have lived together for one or two years. We worked very closely together for over a year. he had feelings for me throughout this ...
A. 16 August 2011: This makes me want to cry. This guy's girlfriend just found out one of the most devastating things imaginable for a woman who desires kids. She's shattered. What she doesn't realize is that her boyfriend is cheating on her. She'll be far more ... (read in full...)
Virgin wants to have an affair with a married man
Q. Okay. This is really crazy but I want to have an affair with a married man. He wants me, too. BUT, I am a virgin!!!! He has no idea. I have been putting it off because I am a virgin but it has come to the point where we can't hold off sex any ...
A. 16 August 2011: I'll make you a deal. I promise not to morally judge YOU as long as I get to throw in a lecture or two. I also promise to directly answer your virginity issue. Fair enough??
Okay! You have to tell this guy that you're a virgin before you both... (read in full...)
What kind of immature cop-out is the "the chase"?
Q. Why can't guys have honest, loving relationships? Are they not man enough to have them? If I care for a guy, why do I have to play coy and hard to get for his attention? Mind-games are disrespectful and hurtful. If he doesn't want the comfort, ...
A. 16 August 2011: I hear what you mean, and I understand it. Games of "playing coy and hard to get" to snare a man make for good black and white movies of the 30's, but there are different rules today. However, there is still a gleam of truth behind the concept. ... (read in full...)
Would you pursue a forbidden relationship just because he is your astrological match?
Q. Do you believe that there are people who astrologically are meant to meet each other? (not necessarily stick together forever) You might find astrology silly, but it shows that there are people who will eventually find each other, no matter the ...
A. 16 August 2011: So, he's married.
He's a serial cheater.
He is 24 years older than you.
He wants to you "service him" during sex.
He's lazy.
He's MARRIED.
A piece of advice?? This guy is an absolute disgusting, demeaning, wife-cheating, bottom-fee... (read in full...)
Is this guy a creeper or harmless?
Q. Ok here goes. I am a single woman with two teen daughters. One of my daughters is in a theater group. I help out a lot there. I run the lobby and give the parents their jobs. In the spring play I needed a 50/50 person and asked this very nice ...
A. 15 August 2011: Yes, he is a major creeper. If he disclosed to you that he has temper issues, and if he's dumping a ton of issues on you from the get go, he is and will continue to stalk you. Yes, you are being stalked.
Here's what to do:
1. Stop any and EVE... (read in full...)
My pot smoking husband is causing lots of money problems with his habit!
Q. So my husband smoke pot, and I don't. My big issue on the whole thing is that he is constantly smoking more and more, and our money is really tight. I end up using all of the money I earn to pay my half of the bills and then whatever he can't cover. ...
A. 15 August 2011: Oh boy. This is only going to get worse for you. He's nursing an addiction.
Financially, he's going to blow your credit rating for the long term by ignoring bills. Right now, you're carrying things, but eventually you will crumble under th... (read in full...)
Leave a condom inside?
Q. Why would a guy leave the condom he used inside the girl?...
A. 15 August 2011: He does it on PURPOSE??
Sorry, but this guy does not ever deserve sex again.
That's borderline psychopathic. She could get an infection like toxic shock syndrome...or pregnant, or an STI, anything!
That's really freaky to want to do it ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guys to tell white lies?
Q. Hi! Any help would be greatly appreciated! Is it normal for guys to tell white lies? I keep catching my bf telling me little white lies. It actually bothers me, but I can learn to accept it if all/most guys tend to be like this. Examp...
A. 15 August 2011: No, it's not normal for a guy to tell little white lies like that. It's possible once in awhile for him to get the days mixed up, but not all the time.
What you need to know is why THIS GUY is doing it.
If he's getting mixed up a LOT on his ... (read in full...)
Leave a condom inside?
Q. Why would a guy leave the condom he used inside the girl?...
A. 15 August 2011: Why would he leave it? Probably partially for the same reason some men leave socks on the floor or wet towels in the bathtub. Because they don't clean up their messes.
Another reason is because the girl is freaked out and livid the condom f... (read in full...)
He's left me after 3 years... to go back with the ex!!!
Q. The love of my life has left me after 3 years and gone back to his ex and I'm completely devastated. He says its for the kids sakes and he's broken his own heart by leaving me, that I was also the love of his life, his soulmate and that he will nev...
A. 15 August 2011: Sorry, I hit return too fast!
If he's saying he did it for the kids, pretty soon that won't be reason enough. That's like saying "I decided to get thrown into a pit of alligators for the kids". He might have romanticized his good times wi... (read in full...)
He's left me after 3 years... to go back with the ex!!!
Q. The love of my life has left me after 3 years and gone back to his ex and I'm completely devastated. He says its for the kids sakes and he's broken his own heart by leaving me, that I was also the love of his life, his soulmate and that he will nev...
A. 15 August 2011: I'm really sorry this happened. I honestly don't know how long you will feel this way, but suffice it to say, if you have the desire to heal, it won't be for long.
I'll tell you what, though. If this woman is doing this crap to you after he... (read in full...)
How can I un-do how fake I've been and not lose her? I've been presenting myself as a fake and that's not me
Q. I have been in relationship with an American girl who happens to be 5 years younger than me. It's been one since we got off to a start and we both seem to be clicking well. However, I am faking too much in front her. The way I talk , the way I wa...
A. 14 August 2011: Depends on what kind of "fake" you're being.
If you're, say, married, or a woman, or gay, then I'd say that you're sunk and she shouldn't be with you in the first place.
However, what you're describing here sounds like you think that the r... (read in full...)
Is there a time limit for how long I can keep a sugar Daddy interested?
Q. I turned 29 a fortnight ago. I will be 30 next year at this time. Throughout my 20s I have had several sugar daddies, older men who supported me financially whilst I was pursuing my musical aspirations. They've been good chaps over all, tho of cour...
A. 14 August 2011: Truly, I think you've hit your sugar daddy expiration date.
Unfortunately, you've wasted 12 years that most people have used to cultivate self-sufficiency and independence rather than selling sex for money.
Best thing for you now is to grow u... (read in full...)
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