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writes:I'm really angry towards this guy I used to see; it was more of a casual thing and things fizzled out because I told him that I wanted to talk about our situation - if there was a future. So lesson learnt and since then I became celibate until I am in a proper, meaningful relationship.To make things slightly difficult, we have the same set of friends and we were at a friend's house a few weeks ago. When I noticed him I was shocked at first and tried to avoid him, but eventually things were ok; I was friendly and civil but didn't imply that I was interested.Last week, he texted me when on holiday asking if I wanted to meet up with him, which I didn't mention when replying back and he later asked if I wanted him to come and visit me sometime. Which I decided to ignore after confirmation from a friend telling me to be careful given that he randomly decides to text me. So since then, I have been angry at him because of this. And the thought has crossed me to ask him as to why he texted me when on the other hand, I should just forget this and move on.How can I let him know that I have moved on from him?Also, he might be coming to a friend's party next weekend - any tips on how to make him show what he's missing?Thanks for reading :)
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reader, Fate100percent  +, writes (12 July 2011):
The fact you want to 'show him what he is missing' just proves you haven't moved on from him yet (sorry)
If you had genuinely had, you would just be indifferent to him.
If you want to be friends with him (at some point in the future) I suggest you text him to say you are trying to move on and will text him in the future when/if you want to be friends.
(Why are you angry with him for texting you, if you have not made it clear that you don't want him to text you? If you were friendly with him at a mutual friends house a few weeks ago, he probably assumed you are ok with him texting you and you wanted to be friends?)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): I agree with (youwish) If you have moved on then you shouldn't have to show him what he is missing. He wants no strings attached and you can't give him that so move on and find a nice guy who can give you what you deserve and stop fretting over this guy, once he see;s your happy without him he will back off.. :)
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 So you're upset that he's rejected the notion of having a future with you, yet he wants to talk to you and hook up.
Tell him you're not interested in hooking up, and then live your life happy. You don't have to show him anything except that you're living your life without considering him.
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