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writes:Alright, I'm 17 and I met this guy at work who is 19 but he's a sophomore in college (kind of young for his grade) while I'm only a junior. We started hanging out and just like fooling around, nothing serious. But now we've kind of developed into an actual relationship with really strong feelings. He's going to school 2 hours away though, so I don't see him very much. Also, my parents don't know about our relationship. My mom told me a long time ago that I can't pursue him because he is WAY too old for me, not in just the age sense, but since he is in college and the college mind set is completely different. I should probably mention that I'm a virgin and he's been with many girls. But I can truly tell that he does care about me.I really want to actually start dating him, but my parents have never met him and I don't know if I can lie about the entire thing because that has already proven to be hard enough. I think that if my parents met him they would really like him, but I don't know how to get to that point. Any advice?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 Don't lie about him cause thats just setting them up to hate him. Invite him over for dinner or something where your parents can meet him and see that the age gap isn't big deal at all. Also introduce to them as your boyfriend. You are at that age where they can't make these kind of choices for you and they have to realize this. I'm sure once they meet him things will get better but make sure that is soon, the sooner the better.
I'm sure he does care about you and his past shouldn't be a concern. I was not a virgin when I met my then virgin girlfriend and that had no effect on the overall relationship.
Good luck.
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