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writes: Ok, so Ive been going out with my boyfriend for a very long time now, and we fell in love, I love him soooooooooo much, he's everything Ive ever wanted and Id rather die than live without him. But my mom HATES him! Idk why, she just does, and she wont tell me why when i ask her. It hurts that she doesnt understand, i cant even tell him i love him back when were talking on the phone, and it hurts his feelings that im afraid of what my parents are going to say and do, but he tries to understand. But now his dad is getting mad that hes still going out with me, and so is his sister, now his dad has started making him get off the phone more frequently and he keeps telling my boyfriend to break up with me. We love each other so much that we cant even stand going a few hours without talking to each other. I love him sooo much, i cant even begin to explain how much i love him. But if his dad eventually makes him breakk up with me, im not going to be able to handle it. I used to be a lil suisidle and i dont wanna feel that way again, but hes helped me recover from all of that, and im fine now. But my mom doesnt understand at all, she doesnt even try to understand, my dads ok with us, he understands. But i cant live without him. I know i know, parents know best, and as long as im under their roof i have to follow their rules. But why cant i be free to love someone? Whats so wrong about that? We're in love. So what are we supposed to do about our parents?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (6 February 2010):
 Parents don't know best! They may have the right intentions but they make plenty of mistakes too. Its time that you two, especially if you know that your going to get married to tell them to deal with it.
I don't know where you're from but most contraries have laws about kicking a student out of the house. It would still be best if you two had some sort of plan to live on your own. Sometimes the parents need a little wake up call when you realize that you're going to be an adult and have to make your own choices in life.
They might not like it at first but if they love you they will accept your choices, and if they don't then you live your life apart from them. I know it doesn't sound nice but I know people who have done it.
Best of luck to you.
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