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writes:My girlfriend has a guy friend she has known since she was really young.Since she is going out with me, the guy friend still wants to stay over at my girlfriend's place all the time. I felt a bit awkward. Is this normal? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): I'm 28 and all of my closest friends are guys. There are four of them that often spend the night at my apartment, and there is nothing more to it. Sometimes they stay on the couch, sometimes we share my bed, but there's no touching or anything even close.
That said, go with your gut. If you really feel that something's up, you very likely may be right. You should talk to your gf, but be gentle about it. If you're angry and accusatory she will only be defensive and it will get you nowhere.
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reader, curious0hot  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 You say "still", so I guess they are just continuing their relationship the way it normally went; which is less suspicious.
You should talk to her about it. I doubt she would be "understanding" if the shoe was on the other foot.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 This is normal for you to feel this way and you should talk to her about her. By you not showing any anger that I can tell it means you trust her and there probably is no reason to not trust her. They are probably like brother and sister and this guy wants to keep that conection.
Let her know that it bothers you and see if you two can come to an understanding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): I have guy friends who I have stay over at mine, and to think of me doing any thing with him would just feel like incest and he's like a brother to me.
She and him are probably the same - however if its upsetting you so much then talk to her and tell her, it will just eat you up inside else x
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