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writes:Ok so, I have no desire to have sex or do anything sexual at all. I’m in those years where I should be horny and thinking about sexual things but I don’t at all, I don’t even masturbate(Nor do I want to). And on the rare occasions that I do get horny; I don’t do anything. I don’t touch myself or do anything to fix it; I just wait for it to pass. I did have a boyfriend who wanted to do things but I never really wanted to and I always go scared when it happened. I literally don’t want to do anything sexual, the most I want to do is kiss, cuddle, hold hands ect. Why am I like this?
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reader, veronika  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 I don't know why you're like this, no one here can really answer that truthfully because we aren't you.
But I can say that you're not weird or abnormal. People develop sexually at different ages. Some people just have naturally low sex drives. I'm not saying you definitely do, you're still young and growing, but I'm just letting you know that not being highly interested in sex is not a bad thing.
Try not to worry about what other people are doing and try and focus on things that make you happy, like hobbies or hanging around with friends, or even school.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 This is still normal for someone your age. I say take advantage of it and enjoy life with your friends before sex starts to become a big part of your life. It will come eventually but I'm almost twenty and have friends that are still not interested in that sort of thing and they are not religious in any way.
You're like that because that is just who you are so don't worry about it and just have fun with life.
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reader, jazzy09 +, writes (12 February 2010):
Girl you shouldnt worry.
you are still young not every one masterbates.
i never have. and im 19.
i find that to be "not for me"
also dont to anything if you are not ready. your too young. trust me if i could go back i wound have waited. take your time. dont rush things. kissing and holding hands are good. because once a guy gets what he wants he is going to want to stop holding hands and kissing. hes gunna wanna do the dirty dirty all the time.
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reader, HarryFlashman +, writes (12 February 2010):
Well, could be that you are just a late bloomer. Some are.
Or, it could be that you are not highly sexed. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexual
Either way, don't worry about it. Being different is not bad (even though all the cliques, etc. common at your age may make it out to be). Plenty of famous, successful, happy people have had low sex drive.
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