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writes:My Friend is a complete fantasist. She has always been a fantasist scince we were young kids. As time moved on and we went to secondary school she began to struggle socialy and came out with outrageous lies for attention. Lies like "she'd been cutting herself" and "her parents were divorcing" and "she was hearing voises" all of which were proven to be untrue. Some of her lies have landed us (her mates) in trouble.Her parents are letting her leave school to be home-schooled if she wants. i don't know if i should persuade her to stay or let her go... Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 April 2008):
First question - who told you she was leaving? Did she? Do you have any proof it could happen?
I'll assume you know this is true, like her parents have confirmed it to you.
This girl obviously has problems and needs help from a counsellor to find out why she is lying all the time. If she doesn't get it solved now she is going to get sacked from jobs, never have a stable relationship, and never have permanent friends. People will put up with it from a teenager in school, they won't put up with it in the real world. She could get in real trouble.
Compulsive lying is a real condition, put it into google and do some research.
Her parents could just be letting her hide from the problem by home schooling her. Or they could be getting her help because they know what is wrong.
If they don't realise what is wrong and have to teach her themselves, then they will soon start hearing her lies and hopefully get her to see a doctor.
Home schooling doesn't mean you'll never see her again, just not during the day. The most important thing is to get her to admit that she is lying and get her to talk to her doctor about it. He / She should be able to sort stuff out from there.
Talk to her about it the home schooling, but don't try and push her one way or the other. Do what is best for her and be her friend. You sound like a really nice person to have stood by her.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, rcn  +, writes (12 April 2008):
 It may be time to let her go. A different environment may be what she needs. Someone who needs attentions to this extreme needs help beyond school too. She needs to sort her emotions, and learn techniques to do so. With this untruthful behavior, I'd say she's experiencing a narcissistic behavioral disorder. That's the abnormal desire to be in the spotlight all the time. If it doesn't happen naturally, untruths are made up to draw that attention.
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reader, LoveButLost +, writes (12 April 2008):
Only time will tell. Maybe time away from each other will determine if it was really meant to be...Sorry!
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