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writes:I haven't seen my second cousin in 28 years and she a complete knock out. I asked her if she wanted to do lunch and she accepted. We did lunch. I'm just not sure if it's okay to continue this fraternizing. We talk a lot with each other. We have good communication with each other. I think we are attracted to each other, but don't know which one will break the ice first. She has been divorced for 11 years and lives alone. We converse like if we we're having some sort of relationship and we aren't. We haven't even kissed yet. I need to ask someone out there if i should make the first initial move to break the ice. I sure want to - because she is so fine and want to spank that ass. She is a fitness freak and she looks better now then when she was in higschool. She is every bit of 5'7' and 120-125lbs.I am just curious if it's as good as it looks.I need opinions. Is it okay to date or have a sexual relationship with your cousin?
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reader, dolla18  +, writes (17 May 2008):
 Hi, let me 1st put your mind at rest. Going out, sleeping together or even marrying your cousin is not illegal. (im in a relationship myself with my cousin, so i know how you feel, i truly do)If you can't stop thinking about her, an your heart skips a beat when you see her, then go for it. You got nothing to lose an everything to gain. You never know she may feel the same way about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): The first,the second and the third in my country are illegal.!I don't think that is a good idea..Men you have so many girls out there and you want your cousin?Just read that:YOU want a RELATIONSHIP with your COUSIN!not good!you see?And if that be a serious relationship.i don't know what your decision will be..and about children..have you ever thought about incest?Make the right choice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): If you feel you are both attracted to each other, I would go for it. Teddy Roosevelt and his wife were cousins and got married, so second cousins probably isn't against the law. I say it's OK as long as you both want it and you both enjoy it, though if it happens, you will probably want to have a talk about what to tell your relatives. But don't make it just about sex. Make her feel like you really love and care for her, and then the sex will come about. I would also try to be sure that you both have at least one drink before you have sex with her so that you both will be relaxed and more open to the idea of sex. Post back here if you do have sex with her, and let us know how it turned out.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (26 April 2008):
 Second cousin is generally considered not to be a problem as far as relationships/marriage goes - but laws are not consistent throught the USA and your particular state may possibly still have laws that make it illegal. Although there is a movement to rationalize the law throughout the USA, it's worth checking first.
If there's any possibility you might marry and have children (or not marry and have children) then you need to be aware that the closer the blood relationship the higher the risk of any child having deformities - which is primarily why incest laws exist. Experts disagree on the level of risk, but between brother and sister it is likely to be as high as 50/50; between first cousins it's probably nearer 1 in 75.
If your only motive is "I am just curious if it's as good as it looks" then my suggestion would be don't bother to find out. It's going to be difficult to deal with an ex-relationship later if that relationship is within a family and therefore you don't have the option of staying away altogether if it all goes badly wrong. If you think you might want to make it something more permanent and assuming it's legal where you are, then take it very slowly and make sure she feels the same before you move too far - otherwise the whole thing could end up being very embarrassing.
Good luck.
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 April 2008):
 check in the state you live. most states it is unlawful if first cousin.
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (26 April 2008):
I think that it is likely that you are mistaking being friends with a family member with more romantic possibilities.
My advice ...
Wait. Just be you and do not try to pretend. If she is attracted to you then she will let you know. But if you take that first move and you have misread the signs you could tear apart your family.
It would also be worth checking the incest laws in your state. You may well find that an intimate relationship between you is illegal anyway and the last thing that you want is your name on a sexual offenders register.
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