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writes: I recently suggested to my girlfriend that she could buy my car off me in about a year or so when she has passed her test. She hasn't even started learning yet. The car itself is in perfect condition and everyone who sees it wished they had a car like it in the condition its in. It is also perfectly suitable for her as it is small and an easy car to drive and park etc. and she knows this however when i suggest it to her she says 'I want a black one though' and throws it right back at me. She has done this three times now and then continues to go on about how her dad is an expert on cars and he will find her one thats good in black.Why is she acting like this to me? Im helping her out. Reply to this Question
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reader, tux  +, writes (30 June 2007):
 I make it a policy not to do business with people I want to talk to still.. If I do business with them, it's free and if i can afford it. If anything happens to it, who is she going to turn to? You are better off selling it to someone else, otherwise if this perfect car breaks down on her a week later , she won't came back to you to take care of it. I would stick with selling it to someone else. You can get more money on it because they won't be looking for a special deal because you are dating them.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (30 June 2007):
 umm girls dont always get what they want.. but i dont understand if ur planning on gettin a new car, then just share it or share ur current car.. she may not like ur car, may have bad memories.. there are plenty of reasons, just dont jump to the conclusion girls get everythin they want cos they DONT! mail me if u wanna talk x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): See that's not it at all. It's about she is her own person and has a right to say no. You just have to be a big boy and say kewl.
You're still being a baby about it. :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLoL! Blimey okay! I took it a bit personal but now I understand. I'll leave her be but my main point is that you can't be too fussy with your first car you just accept anything that is good and she even agrees with me about this. When you first pass your test you have to get used to driving alone and getting road sense so why be fussy and look for months for a black car that is the same as my silver one lol! to me it doesn't make sense but I understand that girls get what they want. :)
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 If she don't want the car, she don't want the car, get someone else to buy your car. I'm sure if it's in the condition you say it's in you could find a willing buyer but don't try to force your girlfriend into buying yours if she's not interested, respect her wishes.
Take care.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Life is too short to make a big deal about this. PICK YOUR BATTLES, sweetness. You offered, which was nice, and she said no for whatever reason. Sure, the color is a dumb reason not to buy a car, but regardless. She's made up her mind and you need to let it go.
Just tell her that the offer stands, and if she ever changes her mind the choice is still available to her, and then leave. it. be.
Again, pick your battles, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, breezer +, writes (28 June 2007):
I don't really see what is the big issue! She should have her own choice, but if she really wants a car of the same type and model as yours but in black, why don't you suggest painting it in black? But honestly leave her make her own decisions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): Well you offered or suggested and she declined so why keep insisting? That would be bothersome. Why does she have to buy it? If you want to get rid of it then place an ad?
Really, you are making this out to be some big problem and it really isn't.
Helping one out does not mean brow beating them so lay off already. Respect her decision and things will be fine. And don't go making this out to be something more...it's just not worth it.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Hey this is from a women when it comes to cars the only thing that bothers us is the colour, so if she wants a black one just let her have one and sell your car you would probably get more money selling it to someone else anyway.
It's too smaller issue for you to be worrying about life is too short.
Take care.xx.
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 June 2007):
umm my boyfriend isnt making me buy his car, ive got a year before i can start driving.. why does she have to buy it and if she does she may want a different one.. cut her some slack!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Sorry, how are you helping her out.
You did say you were selling it to her and not giving it away. Well if she has to buy her own car maybe she wants one that she really likes and she feels looks good.
Why do you think women wear massive high heels? it's not because they are practical and comfy. ITS BECAUSE WE WANT THEM, AND THEY LOOK GOOD.
Its her first car, and she wants it to be a cool one. Being in good condition has nothing to do with it.
Hope this will give you an in-site to what women really want. Were a funny lot you know XX
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Hey, relax a little here! The fact that she doesnt want to buy your car is not a reflection on whether it is a great car or not! She may agree that it is a great car, it just isnt the car she wants! Let it be. If you keep harangueing her to buy your car (by your admission you have suggested it and been shot down 3 times already) you are going to end up in a major fight. Drop it!
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reader, stina +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Why is she acting like what? She doesn't want your car, so leave her alone. I don't really see why this is such a big deal.
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