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writes: hi again plz read my other question:She went away for 4 months and I missed her terribly. Now she's dumped me. What can I do? iv tryed giving her space but she txt me last night saying "hope your doing ok" but i didnt txt back. So she phoned me today but i didnt answer so she txt me again saying "just wanted to know if your ok txt bk i thought we were trying to be friends" so i called her back but she didnt answer. dont know if i done the right move?? So she called me back and we spoke for 5mins, so i asked her at the end if she wanted to meet 4 a little bit and she said no. I need help?? should i ignore her calls and txtes??should i show that im hurt??what sould i do?i just want her to give it one more go Her feelings could change. before she went away we where so close together. i cant see her with another boy that will kill me from inside. How should i play this?? i want to fight for this relationship. The holiday has changed her mind about things, because shes done it before about 2years ago she said she "was confused about things and wants to be friend" thats when she moved out from home to stay at uni.But i said i cont be friends coz i love her and i have feelings. Then within 2 weeks she got back with me.should i do the same thing again? i really need as much advice as possiblethanks people
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reader, Brandi  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Well I think you should be her friends if you really have felings for her and you will consider her choice. At least she wants to be friends. SHe could hate you and never want to see you again so be thankful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): I think that you should be clear with her. You should call her or meet here somewhere and tell her the way you feel. But I think this girl is just using you. She obviously doesn't like you as a partner because instead of missing you while away she did the opposite. She's now just hoping to find somebody new to fall in love with and if she doesn't in a while she will turn back to you, because she doesn't want to be alone. You need to stop answering her calls. You should tell her to stop texting and calling you for a while because you still have feelings for her and this is not fair to you. She is very comfortable having your friendship and attention and using you just when she needs you. She is taking advantage of your feelings for her. I know this because I've done it. It's very good to feel loved even if you don't like the guy. Knowing you have someone you can count on if there's nobody else. I think you should not fight for this relationship. I think you should fight for a marriage but when someone doesn't appreciate you the way you deserve you should let go. I'm going through a break-up too and it's not easy. Sometimes you cry, some days you are stronger but you have to keep in mind that time heals everything. Be strong! Good Luck.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Hi,
Difficult situation because you love her so it's your call.
If you carry on receiving texts and phone calls from her it's likely to mess your head up even more as it's giving you a glimmer of hope even though she says she does not want to try again.
She knows how you feel about her and she has made her choice.
Like you have said she has done this before, so how long are you prepared to wait around for someone that is messing with your feelings.
I think you should tell her again how you feel about her as to make it very clear to her, and just tell her that for that reason you would prefer no contact with her as it is too painful knowing that she does not feel the same.
Wish her all the best for the future so there are no hard feelings and leave it at that.
Sometimes it takes this sort of responce to make people realise what they are losing, and if it does not then you are better off out of it anyway.
Take care.xx.
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