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writes:Hi everyone, I would like advice from guys and girls on this subject: Ok my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months now. There are so many times when we are falling asleep that he hold me and tells me how much he loves me. He is very compassionate about it. He will kiss my shoulder while I fall asleep in his arms. But during the day it is not always like this. When we meet for lunch since we work so close together there are times when he just seems like he is in such a bad mood and when I ask him what is wrong he says that he is bored. Now I dont know if he is bored with hanging out with me or what but it kinda hurts my feelings because he doesn't seem like he really wants to be spending time with me at that moment. And another thing, when I ask him what is wrong he gets very defensive and says that he hates it when I ask him that because he says there is nothing worng but I keep on asking. I love him very much and I want us always to be happy spending time together. So does anyone have any advice on keeping him in a good mood when we are out in public? And is it wrong for me to ask him what is wrong every once in a while? Any comments will help. I just dont want to be doing something wrong when I ask him things like that and I most importantly dont want him to be bored when we are together. Thanks guys. Reply to this Question
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Yes it sounds to me that the routine scenario may have set in here and perhaps you see one another too often.
How often do you see one another during the week, i.e. evenings and lunchtimes?
Get him to decide where you are going, don't always be the one to make the plans.
Also perhaps go out with friends instead from work for a lunchtime instead of your bf.
We get set in routine sometimes and I used to ask my ex whether something was wrong but he could be having a hard day at work and he has a lot on his mind, he could be worried about money.
Asking someone constantly if they look miserable can actually be the wrong thing to do.
Change the subject and ask about doing something fun or say how do you fancy I don't know bowling, or swimming or something that is just for a laugh.
Work mode and relaxing modes are different so don't stress too much about this OK.
Take care.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, flower girl +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Maybe you should only meet for lunch once a week, as it might just be like routine now which can get very boring, it's probably not that he is bored with you.
Do you go to different places for lunch?
Maybe you could try meeting somewhere different if not just so you have a change of senary.
When it comes to the point of him looking bored and like there is something wrong, maybe thats just the way his facial expressions come accross and it probably is not intentional, my mum always looks miserable it's just the way she looks, so there probably is nothing wrong but if you keep on asking someone that it does get to the point after a while where there is something wrong and thats you keep asking.
Take care.xx.
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