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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I got very drunk last week and wanted sex. i made him get a condom but he hates them and to my dismay did not put it on for about 10 seconds when he was inside me... im afraid there was pre cum on his penis.. im so scared.. am i pregnant? i was ovulating which makes it even worse.... i always tell him no , i dont want sex without the condom but he says it sucks for him if it is not on...guys... is it actually any different?? please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): You have to lay down the law over your body: no condom, no sex. If he doesn't wear a condom and you allow him to penetrate you, you are equally to blame as he for consenting to it. You MUST refuse to allow penetration unless there is a condom on and you MUST make it clear to your boyfriend that if he then forces you to have sex then he is raping you.About getting pregnant: while there is always the chance of getting pregnant from even a drop of any kind of semen, it may be comforting to know that only about 1 in 5 sperm are active in the average male and only one in about 10,000 are sufficiently motile to make it to your ovaries. Therefore, the chances of falling pregnant from a drop of pre-ejaculate are about 1 in 100000. Your most fertile time is about two weeks after you ovulate so there is only a very small chance of your falling pregnantat this time. Most couples have to copulate dozens of times before falling pregnant. Even so, there is still a chance.As far as men and condom-protected sex is concerned: yes, it is better without a condom, but sex is about giving and receiving pleasure, not just receiving it. So if you are anxious and worried when he doesn't wear a condom, then you are not receiving equal pleasure and he is being selfish. Also, while sex is fun, it has important consequences and any man who is capable of producing active semen has a moral responsibility for where he delivers it. If your boyfriend doesn't VOLUNTARILY bring and wear condoms each and every time he wants to have sex with you, then he is not mature enough to have sex in the first place and you are morally obliged to withhold it from him. With the world's population rising exponentially, an wanted pregnancy is the last thing any of us need.Sweetie, have faith and courage, tell your guy to wise up or you will leave him. Then do it. Really.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (28 June 2007):
 It is possible you could be. I would have a serious chat with your man about this. You asked him to put a condom on and he didn't because he "hates" them. What's he going to say if you turn out pregnant now because yes you could be.
There is sperm in pre-cum. I would go to your doctors and get tested. Also are you sure this guy hasn't got STIs or Aids before you start having proper unprotected sex. If you are sure ask your doctor to put you on the pill so you don't have to go through this all the time!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (28 June 2007):
 It is always possible no matter how look they were in for so it would be advisable to get a pregnancy test, better to be safe then sorry.
Next time he goes no where nere you unless you have seen it on him first.
I feel that it is better without one and my husband agrees, but until you are in a stable enough relationship and want children he will just have to accept the fact no condom, no sex.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): Of course it is different for him without a condom, but if he was a responsible adult, which he is not, if he cared about you, he would wear one....Listen, if you are willing to risk your life, if you are willing to risk having an unwanted pregnancy to appease this immature boy, then there is something wrong with you....you don't need this guy that much do you?
If you are going to be continuing to be sexually active, get on the birth control pill, condoms break at a rate of 3 to 10, and they are not 100% effective against pregnancy, condoms and spermicial foam together can be more effective....Don't leave birth control up to the guy, they are not the ones who are biologically at risk, you are....take your own reproductive life into your own hands, because if you don't you have no one to blame for the outcome except yourself....buy a pregnancy test or get a morning after pill at your pharmacy...but hurry if you are doing that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): look u don't want to have sex right without a condom so tell him if u don't get a condom next time we have sex break up with him
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