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writes:ok i might just be seventeen years old but i have had some bad experiences in my life and i wish to share it with you.I was born on Monday 25 th june 1990 my real biological father didn't believe i was his so he had a bloo test it was proven i was his daughter he didn't see me till i was 6 months. Up till i was three he saw me now again than my mum meet a guy called Andy he was nice, my biloical father didn't want to cause confusin 4 me so he left and just paid my mum money for my up beinging. Andy moved in with us and asked my mum to marry him she said yes by now he was my daddy and loved him to pieces.By the time i was five mum wanted another child me and Andy were getting on good he adopted me as his own child and mum kept playing the song all she wants is another babay it was funny he caved in and on Feburary 3rd 1996 my babay brother kye was born that same year the day before my birthday we moved from penge to Orpington in a house as we used to live in a flat and i was growing up and boys and grils are not ment to share a room. In 1997 my grandad died on kye's birthday. My nan has earned a lot of money from my grandad so my nan wanted to do up her flat, Andy offered to help as he knew some DIY skills he stayed over nans house to get an early start but about couple of months before my birthday we was going away to florda Andy admited to mum he had been having a affair with my nan when my mum heard this is wanted to be sick it was a complete shock to her. Any way so that me and my brother wouldn't know that anything was wrong we still went on holiday with nan as well. but the pain was tarted to show that not everything was what it seemed mum stayed with Andy because she loved him and because of me and kye. mum and nan had an arguement on holiday and she never wanted nan to talk to us after the holiday. mum and Andt tried to keep the relationship working and it was going fine. But when we had our babysitter move in with us as mum and Andy were doing long shifts we needed to be looked after. But what we didn't know was Andy and our babysitter claire was having an affair mum always had a feeling somethink was going on and they had a lot of arguements about it. once Anday toke Kye up north with him to try and make mum relaise that they should be together still. Mum tried to kill herself that night. But in March 1999 Andy left with the babysitter and wrote a ote to mum and bout 2am mum came hone from home from work i had only just got kye back to sleep as kye was crying for dad i was in mums room as dad asked me to stay there with kye. Mum came runnin in crying tht daddy has left nicky daday's left with claire mum was so angry that night she threw everything of his in a black sack and burnt it we went to sleep with mum in her bed we didn't go to school the next couple of days.It toke its effect on us but he came back 4 times the third time really upset me he came back couple of days before my birthday and he promised me he wouldn't leave the next day he lied to me and kye that he was going to get mum and take her out so he droped us round a friends house but it turns out that he left again. The forth time he said lets move up north to see his family there is nothing here but bad memories it didn't last long he told mum he loved her and claire but claire was calling him to come back and he did he was on our way back home we stoped of at a prtrol satation he went in to call claire to tell her whats going on. Andy thinking mum wouldn't leave him at a petrol station left the keys in the car. But mum had another and wanted to prove him wrong so we drove off mum was telling us that he was leaving again for claire and we don't need him. But the ploice came after us but mum said she needed to get us home as we are young he let us go and take Andy back home. mum was crying all the way home and gave us a blacket to be able to fall a sleep she got us choclate and told us everything was going to be ok gave us a big hug. Mum got really bad both me and mum put on alot of weight kye stop eating. mum was depressed and toke it out on me and kye. I faied my year 4 exams and lost everything education wise anyway. Than the churc came a long and helped us to get through and help us to forgive dad and claire and nan. mum put her story into two mags she won a computions for the worst ma of the year and she got spur treatment with a friend that same year in 2000 she had a opration to help her lose weight by this time she weighed 22 stone wearing size 26 clothes. we stayed with some families from church and mum lost a lot of weight.We left chuch in 2003 it got too much and they were telling us what to do all the time by this time i was 13 and wanted to try new things. and my depression just went went out of control. Mum had a couple of boyfriends but by the end of 2003 she started dating a friend called brian he was really good and is still with him now. Mu bilogical father tried to contact me after Andy well the guy who thought he was dad tried to contact me. but i have lost alot of weight and still losing some now im between 14-16 and i started at 18-20 but i can almost reach 12-14 some are bit tight my target is 10-12. mum is now a size 16 and she is loving it. Andy ended up in prison in 2001 and we was visting him but now he is out and living with the babysitter up north and has a 7year old son called jake. Last time we saw him was 2003 and we call now again. We made up with nan but than again finished contact when our uncle went crazy and mum didn't want hm anaywhere near us nan told our uncle and he went crazy so mum learnt she couldn't trust her so she droped contact and that was it. i passed my GCSE i got five and now im doing Alevel health and social care, soiclaogy and history. kye is sort of eating normally but he hasn't got an eating disorder any more. Andy is now an alchloic and hates it that we have everything we ever wanted and he is job less and moneyless. i work as well. Even when we was at our worse at the point of suicide we kept going and now we are stronger than ever and i just want to prove to all ladies that we can live with out men and men need us more than we need them lol. bye be safe
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reader, sexi  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Hi
It just goes to show that when you think that everyithing that could possible going wrong with you, there is someone else experiencing something worse than you.You should be proud of yourself and continue to be that strong person that you are.
Regards
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reader, Bunnygirl +, writes (16 July 2007):
 You are the very reason i say that you cant judge a person or write them off because they are young. Life is about experiences how you deal with them and move on. No-one can judge unless they know. your a very special person and a credit to your family. Well done. x
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reader, samjb68 +, writes (11 July 2007):
i think you are a very stong person for what you have come through and you send a mesage to a lot of people who read your story that you can come through lifesjourneys sometimes they take a long time but its possable to do you never gave up even when you felt like it you have your whole life to enjoy go and grab it with both hands you deserve it look to the future not the past
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reader, xSarax +, writes (11 July 2007):
 Your mum is a gem aswell, look up to her as a role model and you wont go wrong x x x
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reader, xSarax +, writes (11 July 2007):
I admire your strong personality, you have come across bad men but that doesn't mean that all men are bad. And I'm sure you will find someone so special that will treat you like the princess that you are. I wish you all the best x x x
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reader, temy  +, writes (3 July 2007):
This is amazing! Can you imagine at such a tender age! You are quite right my dear, we can live and survice without them and this is what i always advocate for every young lady, please face your studies and make a success out of it, once you are armed no man can ill-treat you. We the older generation made the mistake of trusting men by falling in love with their antics, but times are changing, we learnt our lessons a little bit late though, but then we need to help the upcoming generations to beware!
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (2 July 2007):
i might be a girl but i can help is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank u dan but its my mum who is the greatest she is the one who went through it all and came back the best. Oh and the babysitter Andy left us for is now fat and my mum is now slim its really funny he left my mum for a slim 16yr old who is now a fat 23yr old my mum was a 32yrs ol quite big and now a size 14 its so good lol. thank u for all ur sopport i was just there for my mum and she is the greatest
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 July 2007):
 I'm impressed. You chose a wrong nickname, dear: Instead of "I might be a girl", you should have chosen "I'm a hell of a person". I'm moved.
Leave the past behind and be happy from now on. This is the best you can do.
I reserve my hugs to special occasions. This is one of them.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (28 June 2007):
i might be a girl but i can help is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Glad to hear you have come out the other side.
Take care.xx.
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reader, CherryVanilli  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 wow!this is a very touchy story, I don't know what to say but, God bless u!
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