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writes:I have always talked about my girlfriend have sex with other guys as a turn on.i met a girl 6 months ago and brought up this during sex. she started describing scenarios of what she would do with another guy. one day she asked if i would like her to arrange a meeting with a guy and she would film it, i agreed.nothing really came of this until she brought it up and asked if i would film myself having sex with my ex girlfriend.Everything was set up ready but my ex girlfriend canceled.last week my girlfriend arranged a meeting with her ex boyfriend to have sex with him and film it so i could watch. but her ex boyfriend had met someone else and did not want to cheat on her.so nothing has happened so far...i know its not normal to do this but i just want to know if there are any other young couples that do this??Thank you
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reader, lead +, writes (4 August 2007):
HiIf this is what you both want to do then why are you asking us! We can only answer with our opinions and past experiances!You do only live once so there is no time for regrets. It sounds like you both want it so go far it you can only learn from your mistakesMy wife and I have done many things like this some good, some bad and we have been together for 8 years and are only 24 and we have just had our first child.People need to loosen up its only sex!!!
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (16 July 2007):
 While it may be a turn on for some, I would strongly suggest that you just leave it as a fantasy. No good can come from your relationship in doing something like that.
Find something else that turns both of you on that you can do together, without resorting to intercourse with other parties.
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reader, AndreC  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 dnt do it man it will destroy ur relationship and all ur trust dnt do it trsut me if it were me i wouldnt i would feel betrayed and it would hurt me to see my gf having sex with someone else..and she can do it behind ur back after remeber that ur giving her x and her a second chance with this!!
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reader, youngcouple22 +, writes (6 July 2007):
youngcouple22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi, i have had some good answered but i was wondering if there are any couples out there who feel the same??
Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): Hi It is interesting to see what turns people on. Sex should be about adventure and exploring things that give you the buzz. I think most people agree that sex with the same person eventually turns a little dull and needs to be spiced up to keep the fires burning. As long as you are both aware that jealousy can intervene and can be harmful in many ways. You both really need to discuss this in-depth and see if its really what you want. Maybe just talking about it is enough to get you both horny and this fantasy can be played out by just the two of you rather than involving others. My girlfriend and I often fantasise about having sex with others and this is as far as it goes. Use your imaginations and let them free. After all sex is what goes on inside your head and a small percentage is visual. Enjoy and unleash your desires and don’t hold back!
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reader, A friendly thought +, writes (2 July 2007):
 Here is the thing my troubled friend. Your sex life should be restricted to marriage only. And filming, now come on... That's just not right. Do you honestly think that watching a film of your girlfriend having sex with another guy is going to turn you on, then you need some serious counseling.
Think about it... You only get to live life once, and you want it to be fun... I know. But having sex too often, man, the thrill is eventually going to run out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): First of all, there is no such thing as 'normal' behaviour. Everyone behaves differently. But there are tried and tested behaviours that do help people build successful lifelong relationships and sadly, this isn't it. If you are having a sexual relationship with your girlfriend in which the primary function is sexual gratification, then it will not last very long. There is NO POSSIBLE WAY TO CHANGE THAT NOW. It will start turning bad when the sexual thrills start to dissipate and one or both of you will look for other things in the relationship to compensate for it. Since you clearly haven't spent much time getting to know each other, the chances of finding enough to respect in each other is slim and you'll start blaming each other for not being the person you both met. The simple fact is that you were both looking for sex and not each other to begin with. If you want to prevent the long slow decline and save yourself a lot of heartache and anger, and perhaps have a chance at staying friends then you should agree to end the relationship as some point in the near future, on equal terms.
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reader, love-him +, writes (29 June 2007):
 erm this isnt a relationship that is going to last. you are both having sex with other people, she is having lads hands all over her, and pleasuring her.. and your just gona sit there and watch. this will destroy your relationship. you both deserve each other as you both think this is a good idea, but it will get too much and when it does, you will regret it - my thaughts.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (29 June 2007):
 This sounds like a good idea but believe me it could destroy your relationship.
You would become paranoid and both loose the trust.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Reality check, the idea of it might be fun and a turn on but you really need to consider what it might do to you as a couple if you actually go through with this.
Each to there own and i have no right to say you should or shouldn't, it's just that i have heard of situations like this happening and and it all going pear shaped.
ie; sex is better with the other person, or when it comes to it jealousy kicks in seeing someone else with your partner in front of you.
Think about this carefully.
Take care.xx.
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