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writes:Well... i dont really have a problem but i really want a bf! i no its daft but all my mates have one and i am startin to feel left out! i dont want one but i think i need one to fit in! i feel stupid writin this but hey thats what your here for! Reply to this Question
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reader, carebearer +, writes (2 July 2007):
Awwww,
Dont feel stupid just cos you dont have a boyfriend. I think it shows great strength of character, that you are your own person in your own right and that a man does make you.
I understand it can mean your friends treat you differently or may even tease you because of it. Dont rise to the bait, stay positive and hopeful. While you dont have a boyfriend, make sure that you are keeping on top of things career/study wise or even fitness wise. There was a time when all my friends had boyfriends and I didnt and I used that time to focus on other aspects in my life and now have a fantastic career (thats very appealing trust me!)and now very few of them do, as a relationship can be very time consuming.
If your friends dont have time to see you as much, you could use this time to socialise outside your circle and meet new people- this could also increase your chances on meeting a potential love interest.
Remember to do stuff that makes you feel good and groom yourself, this is stuff for you and it can also make you feel more attractive. Paint your nails, get your hair done, be flattering outfits and enjoy life. Then see how much you pull! You'll have to beat them off with a stick, then I reckon all your friends with boyfriends will suddenly be like 'Oh your having such fun dating, I soo wanna be single too.'
Good Luck and Enjoy. x
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (28 June 2007):
 You don't need a boyfriend to fit in hunni. I know that's how it feels and it's harder when all your mates are dating. Just relax and a lad will come along you like :)
xxxxxx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Hey you certainly do not need one to fit in, young free and single is the best way to be sometimes, you can please yourself totally.
There is plenty of time for all that when you feel ready and just because your mates are doing it does not mean you have to.
Take care.xx.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Hey lovely,
I know how you feel, I think everyone's been there but now's the time to tell yourself that you don't need a man to be happy.
Count yourself lucky, relationships can be more trouble then they're worth, I can assure you that a lot of the friends who have boyrfriends atm may not have them in a couple of years time and they will probably end up in the same position as you are right now whilst you have a boyfriend.
You can be happy one your own, you can do things that you enjoy alone and can do what ever you want without having to be careful what you say or what you do. Being single can be a blessing. Look on the upside and remain confident because I can guarantee that once you stop looking, some really good looking guy will turn up and ask you out - it's the way it works.
If a guy does ask you out, don't just go out with him because you want a boyfriend, have some fun, go on dates but only if you really like him, don't get yourself wrapped into something that you don't want to be in.
Look after yourself lovely. Chin up! It could be A LOT worse.
xxxx
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reader, Vane  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Well if you don't want a boyfriend then don't get one. If you feel left out talk to your friends about it and if they are really your friends they will listen and tell you something that won't make you feel left out. But remember don't get in peer pressure if you get a boyfriend it's because you want to have one and not because all your friends have one. Good luck!!! And i hope i helped.
-Vanessa(Vane)
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