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male
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*ixth sense
writes:My girlfriend has always screwed up things in the relationship and we seperated but still lived together. I cheated a few times and she knew because I stayed out all night. We got back together and started new then we broke up for a week. She instantly went to a bar had a one night stand and is pregnant. She is getting an abortion. I feel like her crime was worse than mine and that she needs to go for good. Am I right for wanting to get rid of her?
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reader, sixth sense +, writes (29 June 2007):
sixth sense is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your input and yes I was wrong and I pushed my ego to the side and turned the other cheek two wrongs don't make a right and even though the relationship is on the rocks. We have learned to be friends again instead of enemies. And i wasn't trying to say that I was good I was definitely wrong and we both have learned the hard way. Once again thanks.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): so just cause u dont have the correct body parts to get pregnant shes worse than u? hmm i dont think so
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): you are a hypocrite and no you are both wrong and her getting an abortion is her choice. why is it so wrong for her to cheat but you not to? i think it's pathetic to pass the blame, it takes two to tango you know?
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female
reader, love-him  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Erm ok, my opinion on this is, you are both as bad as each other, only she ended up pregnant. stay away from each other, that is not a relationship worth working on. x x x
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male
reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 By trying to deflect us away from your indiscretions you only prove to us that you need to grow up and take responsibility for your own choices and actions and the consequences that flow from them.
Look at yourself in the mirror - you're an angel right? You're the one who has been hard done by. Oh puhleeze.
Honestly, what the hell do you want here? A pat on the head and "it's ok that you cheated because your partner cheated too"?
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female
reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Why even be in this relationship at all? I wouldn't say her crime is WORSE. You could've gotten a girl pregnant, and you cheated first anyways. Not to mention, the two of you were broken up when she went out and had that one night stand, so technically she's in the clear for the "cheating" stamp of blame. Not that I condone any form of cheating at all.
This is a pretty childish game, as the other aunts have noted. I think both of you need to end this for good. If you love this girl, then take a long break from each other and BOTH of you take some time to grow up before starting a relationship again.
Alright, sweetness. Sorry to be harsh, but that's just the way I see it.
xxIndia
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female
reader, YummyMummy +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Her crime isn't worse then yours. That's a childish game to play! You both cheated and have caused a lot of hurt to each other.
Technically when she slept with the person that got her pregnant you weren't together so how is that cheating???
I think you are both better off with each other. You seem set on blaming her for everything when you are at fault aswell. Why not be a man and stand up and admit your mistakes and apologise to her. She should do the same as she's just as much at fault.
You need to stop handing out blame and support each other if you want a relationship to work but while you both can't keep your pants on you might aswell stay single!
How can you be sure you never got somebody you cheated with pregnant? So your ex/girfriend made a fuck up. Big deal! We all do it. But by your own writing you cheated on her first!Sounds to me like you two aare playing tit-for-tat which is a very childish game to play.
xxxxx
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): ye both cheated, as a man u did not become pregnant but ant of ur other women could have.
so ye both cheated, end of story, grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): I have an issue with someone who can use an absolute "always" and who assigns blame. I don't think this is being honest.
That you even want anyone to declare her worse, wrong, evil and you the hero...I am really suspicious.
You cheated FIRST. And now you stand in judgement that she cheated, like you are some hero? WRONG.
You are both acting like retards and you either deserve one another as no strong woman who loves herself and respects herself would put up with the likes of you.
She forgave you and now you won't do this for her? Dumb.
No you are not right.
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female
reader, flower girl +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Personally i think if neither of you can be faithful to each other there is no point in the relationship at all.
So yeah you are right to want her to go, go your own separate ways and start again, hopefully learning from your mistakes.
Take care.xx.
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