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writes:My b/f is absolutely hunky but in the 2 years I've been with him he takes no interest in his appearance. He still looks great but he doesn't fuss with his looks or his hair, which is long and curly so it looks sexy when it's touseled like he just rolled out of bed after a wild night of sex. I've never bugged him about his appearance because I kind of like his look. It suits his personality. But lately he's been dressing better when he goes to work and today, he even put on a silver necklace. Holy cow, did he look yummy but I couldn't help but wonder if there's a new cute girl at his office that he's trying to impress. I know his new look has nothing to do with a raise or promotion, or meetings he has attend. I know most of the people he works around, most are older and quite frumpy unless there's someone new. Unfortunately I don't have the luxury of just popping over to his office and checking it out. And I don't dare just ask him about it because his other g/friends in the past had jealousy issues, so I know he'll flip out on me if I go there. But it's bugging me. He looks great, and I told him I like the new look....I'm just wondering if I should be concerned?
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (1 July 2007):
 As the saying goes, don't look a gift horse in the mouth. If your man is paying more attention to his appearance then keep showering him with compliments. I'm sure he wants his ego stroked, and who better than to stroke it but you?
Don't analyze what he does through the lens of cheating because you'll end up convincing yourself that he's cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay Wild Thaing, Day two, he's added a really nice brushed silver bracelet that matches the chain(masculine looking of course) and he says "I bet you didn't know I owned things like this did you?".....so I teasingly said, "yeah, I've been meaning to ask you what flew up your nose to get you suddenly interested in jazzing up your look?...Is there some new female at your office you're trying to impress?"....He just laughed and says "No....but does this make me seem more interesting?" Of course I said yes. "Then he says, "So if some woman were to see me wearing this, do you think she'd see me as an interesting person?".....I said "Probably, why is there some new woman working at your office that you're trying to impress?..." Then he smirks and says "No, it's for you,sweetie....I have to find ways to keep you interested." But I just had a hard time buying that, because we've been together for 2 years and he's never dressed up like that for me. So I mentioned this, and he just laughed and said it was because he didn't want me to find any other guys interesting at my high school reunion which is coming up next week. Could that be true? I'm still having trouble thinking it has anything to do with me. What do you think from a male perspective?
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reader, Wild Thaing +, writes (28 June 2007):
Well, it's interesting that he didn't say "I did it for you baby".
I can see how his responses would give you pause. But you have to have some proof to back up your suspicions before you accuse him of adulterous intent. All you can do for now is to keep the communication lines open. If he chooses not to communicate with you then it's likely that stormy weather is in your future, and adulterous intent will be the least of your worries.
I hope this helps. Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Wild Thaing, he really didn't say anything. When he got to the restaurant, I smiled and said, "you look nice today, I like the necklace..." and I gave him a sexy little smirk. He just sort of grunted like he does whenever I pay him a compliment and he's feeling embarrassed by the attention. I didn't make a big deal out of it, but later I said, "So what made you decide to wear the chain?...It looks nice. You should do that more often." He just shrugged and really didn't answer so I dropped the subject. But I know by nature he just isn't one to fluff himself much for anyone. Not even me, so I know it has nothing to do with me.......what do you think?
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reader, Wild Thaing +, writes (28 June 2007):
So, when you complimented his appearance what did he say or do in response? Let us know!
I'm not heading towards any conclusions, so neither should you. I'm looking forward to your response.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Maybe he has just reached that point in his life where he wants to start taking pride in his appearance, relax and unless you see any thing else which is not the norm in him then just enjoy him.
Take care.xx.
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