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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 22 August 2007: Madam, I'm afraid that, in the end, you will have to decide whether you want to stay with him, as he is, or you will leave him. This is a tough decision, I know, but I think it will help you if you think of it this way.
Please count on us if yo... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 17 August 2007: I'm very sorry for you, madam. This must be very heartbreaking.
I cannot decide for you. Our role is to help, and we don't have full knowledge of what goes on, but here's my take.
Let's not judge him for being gay or bisexual. The t... (read in full...)
I don't know if my ex still has feelings for me. Any help?
Q. I don't know if my ex still has feelings for me. My girlfriend and I seperated in February. We had been together for four years and lived together for two. Those four years are the happiest I have ever been. She was completely devoted to me an...
A. 13 August 2007: It seems you need a little shaking: you are the one who needs to wake up. Just like you said, she has put you on a shelf to have you when she feels like it. You do not deserve this, nor the slagging off. And it is not your role to help her get ... (read in full...)
I don't know if my ex still has feelings for me. Any help?
Q. I don't know if my ex still has feelings for me. My girlfriend and I seperated in February. We had been together for four years and lived together for two. Those four years are the happiest I have ever been. She was completely devoted to me an...
A. 13 August 2007: It seems you need a little shaking: you are the one who needs to wake up. Just like you said, she has put you on a shelf to have you when she feels like it. You do not deserve this, nor the slagging off. And it is not your role to help her get ... (read in full...)
Do I make my move? Reading her emails, she doesn't seem sure about us!
Q. The situation is a little complex and hard to explain but I'll try my best to explain the essentials. I started going out with this girl knowing she was bisexual and into another girl. We had fun but after a few months, she broke up with me when she ...
A. 13 August 2007: I'm with Rythmandblues. And I will add, if she is not sure, don't push it.... (read in full...)
Do girlfriends often want to break up after graduating from University?
Q. Do girlfriends often want to break up after graduating from University? She does after me supporting her financially and mentally for 4 yrs+. What shall I do?...
A. 13 August 2007: As to what you should do, you need to move on. This must be very painful for you, but, there's no other way. If one of the parties wants out, it never works to try to get that party to stay.
Your question, whether girlfriends break up after gr... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 13 August 2007: Now you know for sure, for absolutely sure, that he is a liar and was cheating on you for who knows how long. The good part about your testing him was that it led to exposing it. I think your gut feelings warned you something was the matter.
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What do guys think of girls who make the first move?
Q. I need to know ..... what do guys think of girls who make the first move? Ive met someone I REALLY like, we exchanged numbers and have met up a few times. Each time, we get on great and theres a definite attraction between us. The only thing is, I...
A. 13 August 2007: I can only give an opinion as to what I would like. I would love it if the girl made the first move. That way I wouldn't have to ask myself what she is up to :-).
You mention you do all of the chasing. I'm with Kenny: stop this for a while, a... (read in full...)
Can you give me some advice on how to sit her down and tell her I am a lesbian or what a good conversation would be to get her feelings about the subject?
Q. Ok, So I've been on here a few times before and it seems everyone falls in love with their best friend. I too am one of those people. I feel as if the whole world is against me on this and I don't feel as if I am the same person without her. Sh...
A. 12 August 2007: First, I'm straight but I can very much understand your pain. It's so difficult to love someone to bits and be unable to show it.
It seems your friend is straight. Telling her you're a lesbian might not be an issue, but telling her you love... (read in full...)
How can I be there for her more and how can I help her through this?
Q. Hi, Both me and my girlfriend are 17 and have been going out for about 1 year and 5 months. I have recently moved in with her and her mum, dad and brother as i didn't get on with my mum. About a week ago she was in a car crash with her auntie, it ...
A. 12 August 2007: Now this is a good question. Perhaps it will take some time for her to open up and release the tension. I think you should try to visit her every day, hug her, do small but important things, bring her something that you know she likes, and, ... (read in full...)
When he comes with a condom on, should you feel it? Worried it broke!
Q. when having sex with a condom should u feel the man cuming because i did and worrying incase it split but i seen the cum in it afterwords and he said it didnt please help ...
A. 12 August 2007: Question: when he pulled out, did any of his semen came out of the tip of the condom? Did you check the condom for leakages? If there wasn't any, then, don't worry.... (read in full...)
Do I try to get him to forgive me or do I just give up on him?
Q. Hi, I promised one of my best friends that I wouldn't talk to this guy for two months because she wanted me to get over him. Well after about a week I caved in and started talking to him again. Word got around and he found out about the promise and ...
A. 12 August 2007: It seems you should give up on him. Look at it this way: you promised your friend you wouldn't be talking to him. You didn't keep your word, because you feel for him. Why should he be mad at you? Did you do anything against him? What about the ... (read in full...)
She masturbates to gay movies and says it's normal but I find it weird
Q. Recently my girlfriend who Ive been seeing for 8 months moved in with me. Everything was fine until just over a week ago I discovered that she downloads movies to masturbate to that have scenes in them where 2 men are having sex! She doesnt download ...
A. 12 August 2007: I don't think you are. Many people feel this way about their partner using porn for stimulation. This site is full of stories of women complaining about just this. It's the first time I see a man complaining about it, but, I think the issue is ... (read in full...)
Can anybody recommend me anything which will make my teeth bright white asap!
Q. My smile is so bad. My teeth are stained a little yellow. I brush twice a day but because my teeth are all not even and I still haven't got braces it's hard to keep them clean. Can anybody recommend me anything which will make my teeth bright w...
A. 12 August 2007: If your teeth are naturally yellow, whitening is not a good option.
Dentists have procedures to whiten your teeth. I suppose this is the best option. There are also some whitening toothpastes, but I think the dental procedure is best.... (read in full...)
After I went down on him and we had sex...he dropped me off at my house and he didn't even get my number! Any advice?
Q. So last night a whole bunch of us got together and drank. I ended up hooking up with my friend's friend who I actually just met that night. I slept over at his house and we basically made out all night and I went down on him...I'm so confused now ...
A. 12 August 2007: It seems like this was a one-night stand for him. He doesn't seem interested in seeing you.... (read in full...)
I think I might be abusive.
Q. I think I might be abusive. I got in a fight with my fiance because he said when we go on a trip back home for a week he doesn't want me to go out one of the days because he wants to go out with his friends (girls and guys) without me. I said he ...
A. 12 August 2007: Breaking the window was very wrong.
I'm not sure if I understand this problem well, but apparently your fiancé said he didn't want you to be with him on one particular day, and then, when he saw you would go anyways, he said he didn't want to ... (read in full...)
He hasn't mentioned when he wants to see me again? Do you think it is just he is preoccupied with his work?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 2 months. My previous relationships haven't lasted very long. I tend to find it very hard to create intimacy and I always look for things that are wrong in the relationship which I don't want to ...
A. 12 August 2007: It's difficult to tell, but I have a good hunch that he is busy with his job. I think he has shown real interest in you.
By the way, I think you would be much better off if you tried to find the positive things in a relationship. Not that you... (read in full...)
She's also really hyper and active and stuff, and I'm basically the opposite in so many ways. I'm worried about boring her and she's worried about overwhelming me.
Q. So, I'm not sure how to start this because there's way too much background maybe. But anyways, after talking to her for a month I dated a girl for about two weeks. After those two weeks a fight over a night we were both feeling terrible on made us ...
A. 11 August 2007: It's a Catch 22, really. If you don't give it a try, you will always wonder whether it could have worked. If you do, and you fail, you will know, but you might end up hurting each other.
I was in a similar situation and the girl decided she woul... (read in full...)
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Q. Hi everyone After the recent spate of "spammings" I've introduced some anti-spam measures. I don't want to go into them all in detail here but there are numerous systems in place now to help stop, mitigate and allow you to report spam. The...
A. 11 August 2007: Very good! The spammers could have spoiled the site, and its many benefits for a great number of people around the world. Another good one from Andrew.... (read in full...)
I have several untrustworthy relationships, does that say something is wrong with me? If so, how do I fix it?
Q. Okay, I previously asked a question about how to tell if someone is a player. (thanks to all those who responded). I have since discovered that yes, the guy I was seeing and thinking about taking it to the next level was indeed a player. First of ...
A. 10 August 2007: I'm afraid I couldn't ask why people play in relationships. Apparently they don't feel guilt at all when they know they are pulling your strings and getting things they wouldn't be getting if they were true.
You can't avoid being in the hands of... (read in full...)
We had a wonderful relationship and, in the space of 4 days, everything went wrong, from what he said it's over and he communicated this by text message, and I haven't been given any reasons...
Q. Hi All My marriage recently broke down and, when I thought I would take my time before entering another relationship, I met this most incredible man through an online dating website. We immediately clicked, and our first "conversation" was over ...
A. 10 August 2007: I'd like to start saying that you were incredible to him, caring and loving, and that you sound like every man's dream in terms of how you managed the relationship.
Now, I will try to say where you stand. Since a wonderful relationship went wro... (read in full...)
Shouldn't I be missing him more than I do?
Q. I used to miss my boyfriend very much all the time. I might be considered a clingy girlfriend. My boyfriend lives 2 hours drive away from me and we can only spend weekends together. I used to look forward to all the weekends we get to see each other ...
A. 10 August 2007: I wouldn't use the word "healthy", as it would mean assuming there is a disease somewhere.
I think this either means a) you are in the "comfortable" stage, when you don't need to be around all the time, or b) your feelings are starting to fade.
... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 10 August 2007: In my opinion, he is gay but he won't admit it. It will not escalate, but in the sense that he's gay already and he will continue to do the same things he's been doing. Not that I'm being judgmental; I just think what I said, he's gay but won't ... (read in full...)
Can men enjoy slow passionate sex just as much as hard and fast sex? Also, can they ejaculate just as much through this as well?
Q. Can men enjoy slow passionate sex just as much as hard and fast sex? Also, can they ejaculate just as much through this as well?...
A. 10 August 2007: A definite yes to the first question, and a definite "we can ejaculate even more, and much, much more pleasurably" to the second.... (read in full...)
I thought my ex fiancee and I were just on a bit of a break, I didn't know he had met someone on the internet from another country and gone over to see her.
Q. I thought my ex fiancee and I were just on a bit of a break, I didn't know he had met someone on the internet from another country and gone over to see her. The next time they met they married in a quickie marriage over there and he brought her back ...
A. 10 August 2007: I think you should forget about this man.
This man played with your feelings. His was not a quick marriage: arranging it took a long time. He did not marry out of love, but lust; he kept you in the dark about what he was doing, and then he ... (read in full...)
But there have been a few questionable things that have happened in the past that made me wonder whether I should worry about these strange little disappearences or not...?
Q. Maybe I'm being paranoid but why is it every time my boyfriend's cell phone is on the "charger" here at the house, everyone can still reach him. Meaning it still rings, while it's charging and he can answer it and talk while it's on the charger. ...
A. 10 August 2007: It's hard to say.
If the cell phone works while recharging WHEN HE'S AT HOME, but it doesn't work when he's away, it's obvious that he's keeping it off.
He said he went to Denny's but obviously he went somewhere else, too.
However, I cann... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are a compulsive liar?
Q. For the past 3 years I have been lying every single day, about things from what I've eaten that day to telling a lad I'd had an abortion. My lies have got way out of hand, but I can't tell people I've lied. At the same time, I can't stop. I feel the ...
A. 10 August 2007: Well, it feels like you are indeed a compulsive liar. Lying all the time is the definition of it, I guess.
Why do you lie? Do you feel that people wouldn't love you for who you are?
The way out of this is very simple. Stop lying. In addit... (read in full...)
I have a feeling that he doesn't love me anymore...
Q. Hello everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for the last 2 years now. For our 1st year together he was okay and active in our relationship but now he seems changed, he doesn't even say anymore that he loves me, where he used to say before. He ...
A. 10 August 2007: Apparently his feelings have indeed changed, and he doesn't love you as much as he used to.
What worries me is the fact that he won't discuss it. You need to communicate if you are to overcome any problems. Try to get him to talk things through.... (read in full...)
I need to know how to make this relationship work because I truly do love him and want to be with him.
Q. My boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years cheated on me while I was on vacation and I'm torn. I have decided to stay with him and it has been close to 3 months since I found out. I know he feels awful but so do I, and I can't get it off of my mind. He says ...
A. 10 August 2007: His being under the influence has no importance at all. He cheated.
Not to cheat is a decision. If he makes this decision, and he stands by it, then there should be no problem ON HIS SIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP.
Now, if you feel you can't trust ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and he's 32 and I'm very afraid of hurting cos even though it all sounds fine it's still on internet and he may be "fake" even though I dont think so.
Q. I met a guy on internet just for cybering about a year ago, then I didn't enter for about 10 months, after 10 months I started to enter and blocked all the people except for one in particular. Anyway we started to chat not only cybering, I mean ...
A. 10 August 2007: You don't know who this man is. He might be faking a lot of things, for all you know. So, this is the first reason why you should move slowly.
Second, the age gap is very important. I don't think you could work a relationship out.
My advi... (read in full...)
We have only been married a year, but she says she has no feelings for me
Q. Hello, I have only been married with my wife for 1 year and we have been together for 3. We got married right after the birth of my son. I have been married for 1-year, with a 1-year old son. I haven't been the best husband and recently she fo...
A. 10 August 2007: My thoughts on this: Keep trying hard to do for a better living in the future, keep the counselling, keep trying to sort things with her, and, if she won't stay with you, accept it, and keep going.... (read in full...)
He's a commitmentphobe or says he is...and it making me needy and desperate...help
Q. hi, ive been seeing someone for ten months. the first two or three months he was desperately in love with me and wanted me to reciprocate but I couldnt love him yet and that bugged him. the reason I couldnt love him or trust him right away was t...
A. 10 August 2007: Madam, with time you will surely be all right. You know, when you go through hard times with someone and you break up, you might miss the relationship, but then one day you find yourself breathing fresh air and feeling relaxed. That's when you ... (read in full...)
We split up and we are friends now but...will I get over this guy?
Q. hello i need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and he finished it with me on sunday. he said he still loves me as a person but wants to be single. im gutted...i feel so crap and cant stop thinking about him. Fair ...
A. 10 August 2007: The basic point here is, you still love him, but he doesn't love you anymore. This is why he broke up with you. And this is the foundation of any relationship between you two in the future.
You should not expect love from him, dear. This sho... (read in full...)
We dated once and he asked me out again but I felt he was only being polite. What do you think?
Q. I met a man recently, and i am not sure if he likes me. We are from two different worlds but a few things in common, i got mixed feelings on this date and the next day he didn't call, i saw him on msn the next day and he didn't even say hello. I am ...
A. 10 August 2007: He was very clear about describing what happened here: he picked up on your doubts, and was wondering whether YOU wanted to continue to see him. This fully explains his behavior and the waiting.
I think you should give it a try with this man... (read in full...)
MY bf is emotionally abusive, but it's hard to break up with him! Help!
Q. My bf has been emotionally abusive towards me. He tells me no one else will put up with me. He threatens to break up with me to get his own way. Whenever he's not in a good mood he yells at me and makes me feel guilty for anything I do until I say ...
A. 10 August 2007: Here I see the problem that we all have had: we know, with our brain, what we should do; but our heart doesn't let us do it.
You have correctly described this guy as abusive. I would add, controlling. However, he is not decent to you: he shoul... (read in full...)
If muscle weighs more than fat...then how am I to loose actual weight?
Q. i want to loose weight and im on a dieting site but its best to exercise aswell whilst eating better foods but then i will develop more muscle and muscle weighs more than fat and i have a goal to reach but by doing exercises muscle will develop and ...
A. 10 August 2007: You will lose weight because, though muscle weighs more than fat, it also consumes more calories to be maintained. And then, if you gain, say, five pounds of muscle, but drop ten pounds of fat, that's your gain.... (read in full...)
What is the consensus on the difference between men and women's differences in fantasy and drawing the line with including other people for visual stimulation versus tactile?
Q. I need some discussion on masturbation, my mate only wants sex with me 1-2 times a month but masturbates to porn almost daily, it has become a huge issue since I would like sex more often and feel sexually frustrated. Recently he told me that I ...
A. 10 August 2007: Madam, I am with deejuliet and the anonymous female poster. Leave this man! He's plain bad.... (read in full...)
She loves me but said that whenever we argue, she thinks of this other guy she likes!
Q. I need help. The other week my girlfriend said, she likes someone else. But she insists she still loves me. She told me that whenever we argue she cant get him out of her mind. But she insists she still loves me and is willing not to talk to him e...
A. 10 August 2007: I'm afraid that she might be having second thoughts about the relationship. Perhaps the relationship is not that good, and she is beginning to think she'd be better off with someone else.
You should try to work things out in the relation... (read in full...)
He's a commitmentphobe or says he is...and it making me needy and desperate...help
Q. hi, ive been seeing someone for ten months. the first two or three months he was desperately in love with me and wanted me to reciprocate but I couldnt love him yet and that bugged him. the reason I couldnt love him or trust him right away was t...
A. 10 August 2007: We can always be wrong in our opinion about people, but I think this man is not crazy. He knows you are a very good woman to be with, but he has succeeded in hurting your self-esteem so that you will feel you can't live without him.
My opinion ... (read in full...)
What kind of game is this guy playing with me?
Q. I dont Understand him at all...A couple days ago he wanted me to sneak out of the house so I could spend the night with him...I didnt sneak out of the house because I wuz to afraid...SO today when I check my myspace friends I find out that he had ...
A. 10 August 2007: I'm with Midge and DeeJuliet. All this guy wanted was to take you to bed. If you had agreed to, he would have thrown you away just like he is doing now. You were very smart not to sneak out.... (read in full...)
Does he think i'm not interested?
Q. After our second date i-mailed him the next day saying how much i had a good time and i hope w can meet up again soo, he replied the next day and said he hope we can meet up sometime again and when am i available. He then wenton saying how he had a ...
A. 10 August 2007: I agree with duskyrowe. He knows you are interested, but is telling you he isn't, since he is going away for a long time, and doesn't want you to wait for him.... (read in full...)
She sent an email..please read it and tell me what you think?
Q. Help, After 18 month split(We lived together for 3 years), I still desperately love my ex girlfriend. Saw her tonight with new boyfriend. Received the below. How do you interpret it? Penny lecture Re your earlier email - I haven't "broken...
A. 10 August 2007: I agree: she's over you and is letting you down. Not so gently, though.... (read in full...)
I have finally found what has seemed to be the man of my dreams... so why am I so hurt?... I am very ashamed for feeling so sad....
Q. "Oh, What A Tangled Web I Weave!" I have two children 8 and 2 (ex husband) and I am engaged to a father of four other children (two ex wives). He is great with my children but I know he is empty from not being able to see his other children at ...
A. 10 August 2007: I understand your feelings. I think you have to choose between taking him, as he is, or losing him. Think hard what you want.
Now, I don't know this particular man and I am aware that parents have preferences, but, let me tell you a true sto... (read in full...)
I have been cheating on my wife as I feel something is missing from my marriage
Q. Hi really need some advice i have been married for 3 yrs now and have a young boy of five. Things in my marriage have not been going to well i find that most days we argue over silly point less things and i feel as though we are growing apart. Over ...
A. 9 August 2007: The obvious advice is that you need to talk things through with your wife first. If that doesn't work, then you need to think whether divorcing her would be a wise thing. And then, after all this, could you consider this woman you're seeing as a ... (read in full...)
We dated once and he asked me out again but I felt he was only being polite. What do you think?
Q. I met a man recently, and i am not sure if he likes me. We are from two different worlds but a few things in common, i got mixed feelings on this date and the next day he didn't call, i saw him on msn the next day and he didn't even say hello. I am ...
A. 30 July 2007: I feel the same way about this. I'm afraid he is being polite. I suggest you stay away from him for a while and see if he comes your way spontaneously.... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 25 July 2007: I'm happy for you. You managed.... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 20 July 2007: The civilized peace you mention is worth in itself and I would go for it. After all, you had a love relationship. Sometimes problems like the one you had are good, in a way, because they expose what is not working well, and, with the right ... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 10 July 2007: All right, Butterflyfly. We don't know when you'll find the right guy, but I hope you do find him. I hope we've helped you.... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 9 July 2007: I'm with you, Butterflyfly. Only he who has never been through the horrible experience of finding out someone is cheating can disagree with the reason for the testing.
I think you're doing things the right way: you are giving him an option. ... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 9 July 2007: Well, with the information you give, it's obvious he was not just curious about knowin who his mistery admirer is. I'm happy to see that you and I are in the same wavelength, but now I want to add something. I'm with you, not in the test itself,... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 8 July 2007: I agree that you shouldn't play this games. However, I also think there is a reason for you to. If he constantly says he loves you and you found reason not to believe him, there is a problem here.
I also think he should not go with this game, le... (read in full...)
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