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writes:I thought my ex fiancee and I were just on a bit of a break, I didn't know he had met someone on the internet from another country and gone over to see her. The next time they met they married in a quickie marriage over there and he brought her back to the UK. We have been in touch ever since. At first he said he had made a mistake and asked me to wait, all along he has told me he has missed me and he still 'liked' me not to mention the rest of it. There has been nothing sexual between us and I thought he meant everything he said to me, but lately he has stopped contact apart from the odd message saying he is fed up and depressed (I may be the cause of this) he has also told me he doesn't want to end it with me but the way he is behaving towards me says he has. I don't think he had any feelings for me to do this to me. He has really hurt me more than he will know by telling me there was hope for us. He was the one who always called me and suggested seeing me then always backed out. I just feel so depressed and used. I really thought he still cared about me. He is 53 and she is 27 !
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): is the woman he married on a meal ticket, if he is 53 and she is only 27 you dont need a degree to work out why she is here with him ! It isnt the ex.fiancee that is being used but HIM ! !
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (11 August 2007):
 The first Red Flag...a FIANCE that wants to take a break.
Next, he MARRIED someone else.
Why in the world would you STILL be waiting around for that guy? Is he exceptionally rich, handsome or something?
You are still young enough to build your own family with a potential soul mate, but you will never find him if you continue to use up your time with bozo the user.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Blimey sometimes i feel a bit sorry for the people in these things, like your ex.
Hes a prize idiot!
Who tells someone they want a break, takes off to another country only to marry someone on the 2nd date then string the scorned one along in such a selfish way?
The guy is proper messed up.
I would be laughing my head off at this joke! Then calmly stick to fingers up, tell him to get lost & walk away with your head held high.
I certainly wouldnt of given him enought time to even mention getting back with me! Not without laughing at him & thinking it was a joke.
Good luck
C xxxxx
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 You'll have to help me out here. What part makes you think you had something to do with it? What does a bit of a break mean? Did you fight, argue, bored with each other? You wrote, "At first he asked you to wait?" At first when? Just after you split or before you split? After he met this girl?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 I think you should forget about this man.
This man played with your feelings. His was not a quick marriage: arranging it took a long time. He did not marry out of love, but lust; he kept you in the dark about what he was doing, and then he comes back, with wife and all, and still wants you to be around, for when he needs you. It's only so good you have refused to see him.
He "broke up" with you to marry someone ele, but sill says "you two have hope"? I thought I had heard it all.
Don't believe the bastard: you have no hope with him. I say, consider yourself very lucky that the relationship is over.
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