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writes:I used to miss my boyfriend very much all the time. I might be considered a clingy girlfriend. My boyfriend lives 2 hours drive away from me and we can only spend weekends together. I used to look forward to all the weekends we get to see each other and wait for his call every night. Recently, I noticed I'm not as clingy anymore. If my boyfriend doesn't call me, I won't have a problem. I won't even think about how much I miss him. If my boyfriend decides to spend a weekend away from me, I seem to feel okay about it too. I'm starting to wonder if there's something wrong with that. I keep telling myself it's because I started a new job and that's why it keeps me busy. But is it healthy for me to be like that? Reply to this Question
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 It could be that you are becoming more independent, more confident about yourself as a person, and thus less clingy and insecure. If you still feel like you love your b/f and do look forward to his visits, and the two of you still have fun together, then I wouldn't worry too much that something's wrong. Be glad the clingy phase has passed. It drives most men nuts anyhow! You're on the right track girlfriend!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 I wouldn't use the word "healthy", as it would mean assuming there is a disease somewhere.
I think this either means a) you are in the "comfortable" stage, when you don't need to be around all the time, or b) your feelings are starting to fade.
If you were clingy, did you call him all the time? where you all over him all the time?
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reader, missconfused  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 ya its totally normal and believe me your better like that, clingy people get annoying and especially a gf or bf believe me i have the clingiest bf in the world i see him in da morning and in the afternoon he drives me crazy !!!!! and its not that you stop loving him as much its just your focusing on yourself for a change which is good dont feel bad and it makes the relationship stronger your showing respect and thats something you really need to have respect and space live your life and he can live his
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