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writes:Recently my girlfriend who Ive been seeing for 8 months moved in with me. Everything was fine until just over a week ago I discovered that she downloads movies to masturbate to that have scenes in them where 2 men are having sex! She doesnt download porn, just ordinary movies with a gay theme featuring sex scenes like Brokeback Mountain [although most of them have slightly more graphic sex scenes than the ones in that film; I don't mean creepy graphic like rape scenes, just very full-on gay scenes] I confronted her about why she hadnt ever told me about this habit of hers, and she said she never thought to mention it because she doesnt see it as a big deal. She says everyone masturbates and its an individuals choice what they want to use for stimulation, and that homoerotic stuff just turns her on. She has a couple of movies where there are 2 women having sex too, but no straight sex scene films. Shes never made any secret about liking girls too even though shes never been with one. The gay guys movies bugs me more than anything. What does this mean? I dont really want her watching that stuff. She says I can watch whatever I like if I choose to, and she says her solo practises are harmless fun and that she doesnt see why it has to be a problem. So am I wrong to feel weird about this???
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reader, Blackruby +, writes (12 August 2007):
It is down to the individuals own choice, lots of men and women like porn. Just as lots of men and women don't like their partners looking at porn or their choice of porn.
You can't stop her, and you shouldn't. What you need to decide is if this is that big a problem for you. If it is, then you shouldn't be with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2007): I'm not giving you any details but straight girls can be turned on by gay or lesbian porn and still be totally straight.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 August 2007):
 I don't think you are. Many people feel this way about their partner using porn for stimulation. This site is full of stories of women complaining about just this. It's the first time I see a man complaining about it, but, I think the issue is the same.
Apparently she is bisexual. How do you feel about it?
Do you think you can stay with her, knowing this? It's an issue you will need to solve.
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