He always puts his adult kids before me and does whatever they want
Q. how do you successfully date an older man that is so much into letting his family control him. his kids do not like me and he doesn't want to upset them so therefore we will never get married. i mean for goodness sakes .don't let them be sad. he ...
A. 7 February 2008: You deserve better. He's a grown man, and he's choosing to put other people before you (it's almost irrelevant that they're his kids - he still has a choice). Maybe he is trying to make up for past mistakes with them, maybe he is just disrespec... (read in full...)
He got back with his ex...but I feel I might love him...what do I do??
Q. One day the guy i liked allot(who liked me to but didn't ask me out after we hooked up and he dumped his girlfriend) asked if he could have a party at my house since no one was going to be home, and i said ok. So i invited 3 of my friends so i wou...
A. 7 February 2008: I can't see this guy changing anytime soon. He doesn't need to! He's treated you both badly, but you're both still there for him. Are you even sure that he ever split up with his girlfriend? Even if he did - she just called, and he went runn... (read in full...)
How do I convince my boyfriend to marry me?
Q. we have been dating for 7 years ,he had told me for several times that we will get married ,but last summer when i told him that i cant wait any more lets get married,he said "i am not ready for marriage" ,i love him so much ,and i know that he ...
A. 7 February 2008: Selam! Are you both Turkish? Or are you from different cultures?
As you will already know, it's unusual in Turkey for a courtship to last so long. In fact, it's more usual for a brief dating period and a quick engagement.
Do you know what hi... (read in full...)
Is it too much to ask for a phone call everyday in a long distance relationship?
Q. Is it too much to ask for a phone call everyday in a long distance relationship? This is my second long distance relationship where my other decides to not call or return calls for 4 days at a time, when we typically talk daily. I ended the first ...
A. 7 February 2008: Could he phone you every day? Maybe he could phone most days. Should he phone you every day? That is the tricky question!
Clearly you think he should, but from the fact that he isn't meeting that, he may either not want to call so often, o... (read in full...)
He never says he loves me first anymore...how do I bring it up??
Q. Recently, my boyfriend and I had a chat that almost resulted in a break-up. The next day, he called me and told me he couldn't live without me... but that our relationship needed work. We're working out how to see each other more (we're in a long d...
A. 6 February 2008: Give it a bit more time. Maybe he doesn't feel comfortable to say it at the moment, but the fact that he wasn't ready to let you go and wants to work things out says something! I'm not suggesting you play games, but perhaps if you don't say it... (read in full...)
Did I do wrong by taking my boyfriend's best mate out to get something for his house?
Q. Hello, Did i do wrong by taking my new boyfriends (now ex bf) best mate out to get something for his house? hes male and i think hes was trying to get between us for suggesting i took him to this place,as he told my bf what i was doing its really ...
A. 6 February 2008: No, I don't think you did wrong. I think your ex was looking for an excuse..... If he was really into you, these things would either not bother him or he would give you the benefit of the doubt. Ask yourself - would you be bothered by him ... (read in full...)
How can I solve our communication problem??
Q. hey.. I've been dating this guy for a year now, we will be celebrating our 1 yr anniversary 3 days before valentines day :) (yes we have had the exclusivity talk). My major problem has been communication.. he doesn't call me as often as i would...
A. 5 February 2008: Wow.... tough question, but it really strikes a chord with me.
Firstly, there is no rule that says wether couples should have daily contact or not. Some would say that to expect that level is excessive, but what is important here is what level yo... (read in full...)
I continued to be intimate with my roommate after he cheated on me. Why?
Q. hello, i was in a strange relationship, started with my roommate, we ended up having sex and creating a relationship, i knew he was going to stay for a few months . also we talked about having other people, i made him promise me to let me know if ...
A. 5 February 2008: Stop beating yourself up!! Attraction is a powerful feeling, and since when did your heart or even your hormones do what your head told them to? There could be several reasons why you carried on your relationship - plain old lust, w... (read in full...)
I aspired to find someone with the same level of professionalism and potential so should I go with the flow of the courtship and choose this man who is a seller?
Q. OK so I met this guy two days ago when he sold me my new mobile phone. He is 35 I'm 33 we are both single and from the same religion. We hit it off quickly and spent like a half hour talking about our personal lives. He seemed very interested and ...
A. 5 February 2008: You might be losing out on a great relationship by having such a view, but it does sound pretty embedded. For all you know this guy might have the potential to become a lot more than a phone salesman. Then again, he doesn't deserve to have ... (read in full...)
What "nick" names do ladies like to be called?
Q. What do you ladz like to be called in a relashionship? e.g girls mostly get called babe...
A. 5 February 2008: I call my hubby 'babe' mostly, sometimes Honey, occasionally Sexy, Gorgeous or Handsome. Depends on your relationship - it can sound a bit full-on if you say the wrong thing early on. But I think men like anything complimentary. ... (read in full...)
Bi-sexual and homophobic... simultaneously?
Q. what is the name for someone who is bi-sexual but is also homophobic ?? . I know someone who is bi but despises gay people. Strange any answers?...
A. 5 February 2008: The word that comes to mind is.... confused! Maybe they would rather not have these feelings, rather not have to face prejudice, and despise themself for feelings they can't control. Maybe they come from a background where this is thought to be... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my form tutor
Q. I am in a horrible mess. iv already fallen for one teacher and now im falling for my form tutor. hes like 41 ands im 15. BIG diffrence. he is married with 3 kids. The thing i dont get thou is, he flirts with me and like always seems to touch me...
A. 5 February 2008: When you're 15 and he's 41, most people are going to assume it's you with the crush - but if what you say is true about the kind of conversations he's having, perhaps he DOES have an interest in you. BUT!!! There are lots of reasons why he ... (read in full...)
Last time we went out we didnt talk, but I want to try again.
Q. Hi, Im 14 and i have fell in love with a girl whos 15 i dont majorly care about the age difference but the last time we went out we had a big distance and didnt talk and things but i want to try again any ideas? p.s: was going to ask her out on v...
A. 5 February 2008: Why do you think you didn't talk? Could you both be shy, or do you think she was a bit bored? If you think it was just one bad date, but that you like each other - sure, ask her out again. If she says no, at least you tried.
My advice is - don... (read in full...)
My Mom said she would leave and didnt care if I was left alone. Does she still love me?
Q. I need advice. (I'm a 13yr old girl) so, Me and my mother usually get along but yesterday she kind of had a really bad mood swing. Worse one I have ever heard in my 13 years. She said she would leave our home and she wouldent care if i was alone. Do ...
A. 5 February 2008: Oh sweetheart, that must have been very upsetting to hear. I don't think parents always realise the damage they could be doing with a flippant comment. On the other hand, I think we all (even adults) sometimes forget that our parents are humans ... (read in full...)
Can my long distance lover ever show more emotion?
Q. How do I summarise my relationship in just a few lines, to give you the background?! I'm 36, and until now I think I've only ever been in love once before (when I was too young to realise!), but my fiance is definitely the one I've been waitin...
A. 5 February 2008: I do appreciate your reply - but thankfully for me, you are so wrong! As you'll see from the update I posted, I am now married to him, and that break up was a turning point in our relationship, in a very good way. We've been married for 18 mont... (read in full...)
Can my long distance lover ever show more emotion?
Q. How do I summarise my relationship in just a few lines, to give you the background?! I'm 36, and until now I think I've only ever been in love once before (when I was too young to realise!), but my fiance is definitely the one I've been waitin...
A. 26 November 2007: Wow, I'd forgotten I wrote this! Ok, an update for you, since you ask....
Yes, we got back together. We have now been happily married for 17 months, and he's sitting on the sofa next to me drinking milkshake and watching a crappy movie.
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Can my long distance lover ever show more emotion?
Q. How do I summarise my relationship in just a few lines, to give you the background?! I'm 36, and until now I think I've only ever been in love once before (when I was too young to realise!), but my fiance is definitely the one I've been waitin...
A. 8 January 2006: An update - After talking with a friend, and a lot of soul seeking today, I have to acknowledge that a lot of the problem is me. I see problems where there are none - overreact and nag instead of giving him some space. I think I'm suffocating my ... (read in full...)
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