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28 November 2010: Recently, I found this poem by Maya Angelou. I think it pretty well summarizes how women should feel about themselves. Here it is, in case it benefits anyone. PHENOMENAL WOMAN by Maya Angelou Pretty women wonder where my secret lies I'm n...
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26 December 2008: Something one of my aunts sent me: When I was born, the doctor went to the waiting room and told my father: "We did all we could, but he was born alive". My mom didn't know whether she should keep me or the placenta. Since I was born before ...
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I have been cheating on my wife as I feel something is missing from my marriage
Q. Hi really need some advice i have been married for 3 yrs now and have a young boy of five. Things in my marriage have not been going to well i find that most days we argue over silly point less things and i feel as though we are growing apart. Over ...
A. 9 August 2007: The obvious advice is that you need to talk things through with your wife first. If that doesn't work, then you need to think whether divorcing her would be a wise thing. And then, after all this, could you consider this woman you're seeing as a ... (read in full...)
I'm becoming a nympho and when I can't get sex I can't help but pleasure myself! Help!
Q. I recently lost my girlfriend We didn't have sex as often as we liked due to not getting to see eachother that often. Usually, every few weekends. It was rough!! (not the sex, haha) Despite that, now that we have split, I find myself almost addicted ...
A. 9 August 2007: I can say this much: It will go away. Don't worry. It comes from the fact that now you're alone.... (read in full...)
I know my bf isn't cheating, so why do I keep looking for the signs and getting angry at him?
Q. Please help before I lose him!! Ok I need serious help here. I am being extremly paranoid and it's ruining my life. I'm depressed all the time. Long story short..... I am always suspecting my boyfriend is cheating on me. I have no concre...
A. 9 August 2007: The advice you need is very simple: you need to understand that the man isn't cheating, and that you're digging your own grave by suspecting him. Read the signs: he is started to get pissed off. There is nothing worse than scaring away someone ... (read in full...)
When he was supposed to move in, he moved on instead and told me to forget about him!
Q. I was with this guy 7 months,it was just sex really in the beginning,then a relationship did form and we got on really well,we was going to move in together but he got cold feet,he has never been married before and is in his 40s.anyway things were ...
A. 9 August 2007: Apparently this is one of those guys who are afraid of relationships, for psychological reasons, and keep making excuses for themselves not to get involved with women. I think you should forget about him.
Even if there were no unresolved issues, ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I can handle having sex for the first time with someone who doesn't want a relationship!
Q. URGENT HELP NEEDED i have been seeing this guy for less than a month.(he has been single for a year after being in a 5yr relationshp.his ex hooked up with his friend and they are getting married soon.)we are very attracted to each other.by the end ...
A. 9 August 2007: Dear, don't have sex with this man. You love him but he doesn't love you. He is using you. Don't make that mistake. Reserve your time and your body for someone who deserves it.... (read in full...)
should i start getting in touch or should i give her time and see if she gets back to me?
Q. am boy aged 25. i disaggreed with my girlfriend over chat, i stopped chatting with her, i even stopped emailing her hoping she beg. but since she has pulled off too. she doensnt text,nothing, i love her n i want, should i start ...
A. 9 August 2007: The golden rule here is, let her contact you.
Is it a long time since she stopped the contact? If it is, you can bet she is not interested.... (read in full...)
Do you think it is advisable that I voice my suspects to her? I don't want it to be an accusation, I want it to show her my solidarity. I really want to enjoy the evenings when it's the three of us.
Q. I started dating my boyfriend in February. He has been living with a very close friend (girl) ever since last summer. I get along with her very well if we're alone but sometimes if it's the three of us it gets a bit awkward. Lately I found out by ...
A. 9 August 2007: Well, Dora, first of all, I would say you have a very good grasp of what is going on, and you and your boyfriend are acting together. This is very good, as you would present a single opinion to your friend and she would be faced with solid truth.
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I make all the effort with our long distance relationship while he makes next to none
Q. i feel like im putting all the effort into the communication side of my long distance realtionship and not getting anything back i always has to send the texts first and the only texts i recieve are replies(the texts from him are all the same) m...
A. 8 August 2007: Dear, any relationships takes two to exist. If he is not making the effort to sustain this one, I'm afraid you will have to let him go.
Don't feel bad about yourself: you did everything you could. And, maybe he did that, too, but found the long... (read in full...)
My penis curves to one side, what can I do about it?
Q. I have a problem with my penis, it bends to the left when it is erect. It takes the form of a banana. I have had this problem for as long as I could remember please help. ...
A. 8 August 2007: Man, that's no problem; it happens to many men. Don't worry.... (read in full...)
How do I trust women again after I've been cheated on twice?
Q. After my last 2 girlfriends cheated, how can I fully trust women or girls again?...
A. 8 August 2007: You can trust girls if you understand that nobody is responsible for anybody else's actions.... (read in full...)
Confused whether my ex still loves me or not!
Q. Me and I ex broke up almost two months now. I still love him dearly. But I'm confused on weather he still loves me or not. He call me but not like that. when he doo call he always talks about who is responsible for our break up. He just a type of ...
A. 8 August 2007: I think you should move on. He doesn't get his stuff because he doesn't want to meet with you.
I know this is very hard, but, you need to go on living. With time, you'll see that this is indeed possible. You had a life before him, and you will... (read in full...)
He's gotten obsessed with making me squirt (and it's making me sore)...
Q. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH My Boyfriend just figured out how to make me squirt, but now hes addicted!!!The problem is :S it doesnt even feel as amazing as people set it out to be. Hes been trying too hard lately to make me do it an...
A. 8 August 2007: Why don't you talk frankly to him about this issue?... (read in full...)
Do you think i could get him back?
Q. I've been friends with a man for almost 9 years now. When we met, each of us was married with two kids. Obviously we were married to other people. I left my husband in 2002 due to an alcohol addiction. Throughout this time, "Greg" was my bi...
A. 8 August 2007: You were very right in feeling insecure about his feelings for you. He stayed married to someone who had been cheating on him for years, and, at the same time, was having a relationship with you. I understand that he might have needed time to ... (read in full...)
She's having second thoughts about our relationship and now we're taking a break - it's driving me nuts!
Q. OK my relationship with Jill started on the wrong footing - she still loved the man she was with but they drifted apart and we were all vulnerable (i was ill) when our relationship began, it was not a clean break from her ex but as it happene...
A. 8 August 2007: Your fearing the worst is more than justified: she broke up with you the moment she knew her ex was available again, and then she wonders whether splitting with him was a mistake. That's all you need to know: she does not love you, and your best ... (read in full...)
We have sex 3 times a week... how many times is it therefore normal for him to please himself?
Q. Can someone please tell me what would be "reasonable" and "normal" number, for a guy in a relationship (have sex about 3 times weekly or even more when schedules are not so busy) to mastrubate? Lets say we have great sex three times a week. What ...
A. 7 August 2007: I'm with boyo9876. There's no "normal" or "abnormal" here. And I agree with Jamer70: this is not a message about you. It's simply a matter of sex drive. I assume you are feeling bad about the masturbation. Perhaps you can add a bit on this?... (read in full...)
Does he want more?
Q. It’s been a month or so since I got back together with this guy. The first night I spent with him he told me he didn’t want a relationship after his last girlfriend. That was fine with me and I still have no problem with it. Sometimes I think that ...
A. 6 August 2007: My experience is, in the world of love, you need to act according to cold, bare facts, even if your hot, beating heart wants to do otherwise. You need to act upon what you have on the table, and nothing else.
He said, right from the start, t... (read in full...)
I think he wants to break up with me.
Q. I have a boyfriend and since our three months vacation he called me just 3 times, he claims he is going through some family problems, but i think he wants to break up with me but doesnt know how to go about it,less he hurts me. am i assuming? what ...
A. 6 August 2007: Yep, eyeswideopen said it right. Ask him. Don't agonize over this.... (read in full...)
He stares at my chest.
Q. My mom's freind has a son. He's 3 years older then me. Whenever I see him, he makes me feel uncomfortable. He always stares at my chest. One time I asked him if he could please keep his stares to himself. He said sure, but he still does it. What ...
A. 6 August 2007: Talk to your mom about this, and let the mothers handle it. You're too young to handle it yourself. Good for you that you're speaking up.... (read in full...)
Do you think he is interested?
Q. I used to live near a guy until last year but he moved away. We would see each other quite often and things were flirty but no more than that. I saw him yesterday and he apologised for not saying goodbye before he left and how he had meant to call...
A. 6 August 2007: I couldn't tell. Perhaps he was just polite. But, you are right: if he wanted to, he could have called you by now. Wait a little more and this will tell you what he has in mind. Don't contact him in the meantime.... (read in full...)
I need some space, how do i tell him this?
Q. How do I let my boyfriend know that I need some breathing space without hurting his feelings. We have been dating for 3 weeks and he visits EVERY evening?...
A. 6 August 2007: Tell him exactly what you have told us. You don't want him in there every night. Make sure he understands that you DO love him, but need some time to do things of your own.
The man is all over you and he might not like it at first. But, if ... (read in full...)
Is there a nice way to let this guy down who I met at school reunion?
Q. Hi, sorry this would be a bit long, but am in a confusing situiation and I was wondering if u could help...well am turning 23, and about 10 days ago I went out to a small school reunion and there was this guy from school whom I didnt know at ...
A. 6 August 2007: Trust me on this one, dear: By letting him know early and clearly what he can expect from you, you'll be showing him the greatest respect possible. I was in his situation; I'll be damned if I don't know what I'm talking about.
Believe me: if ... (read in full...)
For me there is no way I would do this as I think its rather disgusting and I see my anus as a one way system. Am I being silly for not letting my boyfriend try this?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and we are completely in love. We have been sexually active for about 9 months and we have done everything apart from anal sex. My boyfriend makes little jokes about doing it all the time and when I come ...
A. 6 August 2007: Well, I must commend you for the way you two managed the issue. Now it's settled. Well done.... (read in full...)
We've traded our lovey-dovey affection for sex!
Q. here it is Ive been seeing this man for two months. The first month we had no sex, and I was trying to wait longer than that. I sort of tooted my horn so to speak about my values and how I really enjoyed the "getting to know you" stage. So anyway...
A. 6 August 2007: Of course he is into you! He is feeling very comfortable with you and it is showing. Don't let him go! He's yours to keep.... (read in full...)
Is there a nice way to let this guy down who I met at school reunion?
Q. Hi, sorry this would be a bit long, but am in a confusing situiation and I was wondering if u could help...well am turning 23, and about 10 days ago I went out to a small school reunion and there was this guy from school whom I didnt know at ...
A. 6 August 2007: I've been there, in the nice guy situation, and I can tell you what to do.
First, pay attention to Polly Russell-Furse's advice. This is solid, and I want to commend her on her views.
Why do you not find him a good option for love?
I see t... (read in full...)
How can I move on from the guy I fell in love with in Africa?
Q. Hi there, Please help. I have recently split up with my boyfriend and went travelling to Africa for 3 weeks, on my second day i met a great man and we fell in love, unfortunatly he has a partner and two children which he would leave for me. We spent...
A. 6 August 2007: Your question is, how you move on. So, you have made a decision not to have a relationship with this man.
I wonder what he tells you when you text him. From what you wrote here, I assume he says he wants to be with you. So, a good way to move ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me... How do I move on!?
Q. My life story is very strange, I need a help..i was madly in love with my girlfriend, its been two months now i broke up with her the reason was she cheated on me by having an affair with some other guy..more than 10 people told me that she was ...
A. 6 August 2007: Man, you know this girl doesn't love you or respect you. You have better things to do with yourself than being with her. Just make the firm decision to stay away from her no matter what, and your life will improve after some time.
Think of this ... (read in full...)
Slept with the ex and all the old feelings have come flooding back!!!
Q. My ex broke up with me and i was devastated because i was deeply inlove with him. After going through alot of pain, i managed to pick myself up but still stuggled to accept and come to terms with it all. Its been about a month now. A couple of days ...
A. 6 August 2007: I am with hlskitten. In a painful and twisted way, he did you a favor by showing you who he really is. Now you know that he used you, and he doesn't love you; you just don't use people you love. Pick up all the pieces again, and move on. Resist ... (read in full...)
He can't cum, even after an hour.
Q. me and my b/f have sex for like an hour and I can't get him to cum is there something wrong with me...
A. 6 August 2007: No. He must have some unresolved psychological issues. You are simply not the problem. Talk to him and try to find a solution together, if he will agree to it, as this is like the root of problems in the future.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: We had over quarter of a million people visit the site over the past month!
Q. Just checking the site stats. We had another milestone... for the first time, in the past 30 days, we had over quarter of a million people visit the site... not 250,000 "hits" or "visits" but actual unique visitors! As counted by Google Anal...
A. 6 August 2007: I think we should all look at this figure as success in another way: whatever our failures or shortcomings, all of us, together, are making a huge difference in the lives of an increasing number of people from around the world. We should all take ... (read in full...)
I turned him down, now he's with someone else.
Q. i really like this boy he is so nice and cute he liked me but i turned him down and i no he still likes me but i think he has a girl now and i am afraid of what my friends might say what sould i do????!!!!!!!...
A. 6 August 2007: You should not be afraid of what your friends might say. You turned him down, period. I assume you had reasons for it.... (read in full...)
He more or less told me he doesn't want to sleep with me because I'm the heaviest I've ever been!
Q. Hi Friends! Thanks in advance to any advice you can give me. My best friend/lover have been together for like 20 years. We recently have had some problems with the sexual aspect of our relationship because I was under the impression he wa...
A. 6 August 2007: Dear Steen, from your update, it sounds like moving to Austin would be a good idea in terms of doing for a living and the well-being of your girls. I think you should give it a try. I believe it would also be good for you: it would allow you to ... (read in full...)
He more or less told me he doesn't want to sleep with me because I'm the heaviest I've ever been!
Q. Hi Friends! Thanks in advance to any advice you can give me. My best friend/lover have been together for like 20 years. We recently have had some problems with the sexual aspect of our relationship because I was under the impression he wa...
A. 6 August 2007: The real problem, deep down, is that he doesn't want a relationship with you now. The fact that he isn't moving, the lack of sex, whatever, those are secondary issues; the primary one is, the relationship is over.
I understand your situatio... (read in full...)
How can I make sure she likes me enough to not be offended or say "I only like you as a friend" when I make a move?
Q. Well, I've known this girl for about four days now, were already getting along like we've known each other for ages, were both quite touchy feely when were hanging out. My problem is that I'm so madly attracted to her that I can't sleep very well ...
A. 5 August 2007: Man, I would recommend that you keep hanging out with her until you see some clear signs. The question here is whether she likes you enough, and that comes from HER. If she likes you, well, fine; if she doesn't, fine, too. If she likes you at ... (read in full...)
Don't have problems with erections usually, but when I'm with my girl and fiddling with a condom I get a floppy!
Q. hello. i am 17 years old and i have a problem..every time me and my girl try to have sex, i can't seem to hold an erection...or sometimes even get it up.the other day i got it up, put on a condom and when i tried to put it in i lost my erection. ...
A. 5 August 2007: If you can sustain an erection when you're not using a condom, then perhaps the issue is indeed a pyschological one, even if you're not aware of it. Or, you abused masturbation not so long ago, and now you have some sensitivity loss (which will go ... (read in full...)
Is he too clingy or is it that I just have commitment issues?
Q. My boyfriend is starting to really annoy me. He phones and texts me ALL the time, and tells me he loves me and that i'm perfect and the hottest girl he has ever seen and stuff like that. It was really nice at first, but now i'm being put off a li...
A. 5 August 2007: I'm a man and I will give you an opinion from the other side of the fence. Men who become clingy belong to two categories: the sick ones, or the insecure and very loving ones. I suppose that sometimes it's hard to tell the difference, but it ... (read in full...)
What's the best reply?
Q. whats the best response to a guy that says "i love you"? if you are not sure you are ready to honestly say that back to him??...
A. 5 August 2007: I am a man, and, if I had told the poster I loved her, the answer I would expect from her would be "I love you, too" or "I care for you but I can't tell you I love you". Forget about saying "at the moment", as this is very confusing and gives false ... (read in full...)
Whenever I initiate sex he shies away. It frustrates me and I don't know what to do.
Q. I have been seeing a guy for close to two months. Lovely guy, know he likes me a lot, I like him a lot, issue is about sex. We have gone to do it a few times and each time it has not happened. First time he was uncomfortable because I am quite ...
A. 5 August 2007: It seems he has erectile dysfunction. He should not make any excuses, but address the problem. Tell him that you'd want to help him and that he should enjoy that. You can't go on like that.... (read in full...)
Be honest... do men like larger women?
Q. please help! do men honestly like larger women? im confused, im a bigger girl myself and seem to have no problem in finding guys who just want to be friends but nothing more? ...
A. 5 August 2007: Some guys do like larger girls. Some others don't. It's a matter of personal preference only. Don't worry.... (read in full...)
He joined a dogging website and uploaded a photo of his erect "thing"... all while I'm having chemo
Q. My partner of 9 months regularly looks at porn on the internet. I have accepted this. I have just discovered that last week he joined a 'dogging' website and even uploaded a photo of his erect penis! I am currently receiving treatment for breast ...
A. 5 August 2007: I very much sympathize with you, madam. You're going through a lot and you need all the support you can get. Now, I understand he has his preferences, but I find it somewhat wrong that he finds the time to upload pictures of himself. I am not ... (read in full...)
For me there is no way I would do this as I think its rather disgusting and I see my anus as a one way system. Am I being silly for not letting my boyfriend try this?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and we are completely in love. We have been sexually active for about 9 months and we have done everything apart from anal sex. My boyfriend makes little jokes about doing it all the time and when I come ...
A. 5 August 2007: No. If you don't want to do it, he won't get it. Period.... (read in full...)
He's been cheating on me. Do you think trust can be re-built and relationships survive this?
Q. Hello. I found out 6 weeks ago that my boyfriend of nearly 8 years has been sleeping with a girl he met through work. We moved in together last summer. He says he met her last January 06 but they just spoke and he only slept with her bewteen January ...
A. 5 August 2007: Rebuilding trust is always very difficult, and I have the feeling that the odds are always against it.
My first concern here would be what he said about your drifting apart and wanting different things. Your relationship cannot work if this is ... (read in full...)
He more or less told me he doesn't want to sleep with me because I'm the heaviest I've ever been!
Q. Hi Friends! Thanks in advance to any advice you can give me. My best friend/lover have been together for like 20 years. We recently have had some problems with the sexual aspect of our relationship because I was under the impression he wa...
A. 5 August 2007: I won't be judgmental, but there is something I cannot understand and I will bring it up for you to consider: If you're in an open relationship, why would it be important to know who else he or you are sleeping with? Why would it be important if ... (read in full...)
Do you think it is advisable that I voice my suspects to her? I don't want it to be an accusation, I want it to show her my solidarity. I really want to enjoy the evenings when it's the three of us.
Q. I started dating my boyfriend in February. He has been living with a very close friend (girl) ever since last summer. I get along with her very well if we're alone but sometimes if it's the three of us it gets a bit awkward. Lately I found out by ...
A. 3 August 2007: I think she is keeping her feelings to herself because she doesn't want to complicate things with you or your boyfriend. If this is the best way she can manage it, let her have her way.
I am afraid that she won't see any words from you as "soli... (read in full...)
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