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| Latest articles: Cyber-Sex - Cheating Or Not?
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12 June 2008: This has been on my mind after someone mentioned to me that she had cyber-sex with someone who wasn't her boyfriend without her boyfriend knowing about it. We've all seen or heard about someone (maybe even yourself) participating in cyber-sex, ri...
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Implant is making sex unenjoyable!
Q. Hi I have had the implanton in my left are for 8 months and I thought it would be a great type of protection except well I've lost all feeling down below and I mean everthing!:( oral feels lik nothing to me and I can't feel him inside me wit condoms ...
A. 9 May 2010: Are there any emergency doctors in your area? You can normally go and see them if it's a real concern and it's normally quite quick - just go when you have a free moment, maybe? Just a suggestion :)
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Implant is making sex unenjoyable!
Q. Hi I have had the implanton in my left are for 8 months and I thought it would be a great type of protection except well I've lost all feeling down below and I mean everthing!:( oral feels lik nothing to me and I can't feel him inside me wit condoms ...
A. 4 May 2010: I have had the implant for over a year now and have had nothing like this, and have heard of no side effect at all that is anything like this when the majority of my friends have it also, and have read nothing about it happening online Have you ... (read in full...)
These stretch marks are the bain of my life!
Q. hi. im really insecure about my body. ive got stretch marks all over my boobs, bum, in-between my thighs, and knees and starting to get some on my hips. the thing is im not even fat, im a size 8-10. i had this boyfriend and when ever we got closer ...
A. 30 March 2010: Sweety stretch marks really aren't as bad as you make them seem! I myself have had very bad stretch marks from weight fluctuations (the same colour as yours, and I got them all over my stomach, hips, and bum) and believe me, I absolutely despise ... (read in full...)
Concerned about going on the pill.
Q. I turned 16 four months ago, and i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. My mum has given me the ''all clear'' to go on the pill, any many of my friends are on it. There are only a couple of things im worried about. Im worried that i will put on ...
A. 17 March 2010: The pill should increase the regularity of your periods, and should also make them lighter and hurt less. That's why they prescribe the pill to people with incredibly irregular periods, or those who have such bad symptoms when they get it that it's ... (read in full...)
Can I purchase the pill even though I'm only fifteen?
Q. hey guys im 15 and in a month im 16 and have been with my boyfriend (16 years of age) for over a year. were not planning to have sex until im legal and we have talked about all the precautions. i was just wondering if u could go on the pill/imp...
A. 25 February 2010: Right then, I got the cervical cancer jabs but I still believe you have to go for certain tests but only every few years. Not painful or anything, so I've heard. Since you're under 16, it will be completely free for you on the NHS. It was for ... (read in full...)
Can I purchase the pill even though I'm only fifteen?
Q. hey guys im 15 and in a month im 16 and have been with my boyfriend (16 years of age) for over a year. were not planning to have sex until im legal and we have talked about all the precautions. i was just wondering if u could go on the pill/imp...
A. 24 February 2010: I'm 15 years old and I got the implant and went on the pill, both without my mum or a friend there. I did tell my mum but the doctors keep it all completely confidential if you do not want her to know. They will do it for people who are 13 and over, ... (read in full...)
The "pull out" method!
Q. My b/f and me were doing it doggie style and he always pulls out and relieves himself on the outside. Last night he pulled out but then he shot his stuff all over the outside of my privates. I asked him why he did that and he said he gets turned ...
A. 24 February 2010: There's probably a high chance you are pregnant. Before a man ejaculates, he releases a mini load of semen called pre-cum that also contains sperm. Men can't feel this so can't stop before this happens, and so there is a high chance you could be ... (read in full...)
Please someone help, I'm scared I'll fall pregnant!
Q. please somebody, im begging you for urgent help :( im due on my period on the 3rd march, but tonight (23rd) i had sex with my partner and for some stupid reason i had unprotected sex with him - we never do, please don't ask my why :( he didnt pul...
A. 24 February 2010: Even if he did pull out before he ejaculated inside of you, you could still fall pregnant. Pre-cum has sperm cells inside it that can also get you pregnant. It's a myth that you can't get pregnant if he pulls out. It also doesn't matter how much, it ... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid about my penis size, so much so I cant even use urinals
Q. I'm 18 years old and i'm really self conscious about my penis size, whenever i'm out i need to use the cubicle instead of a urinal just in case someone notices. i dont know if i'm being too paranoid because i've got no one to compare mine to. would ...
A. 23 February 2010: Okay, do not listen to the previous post lol. Being a female I can honestly say that it is how you use it. Seriously. The guys in porn? They usually end up bruising the inside of the female or end up really hurting them. Watch interviews with female ... (read in full...)
He told me he just wants to get laid and not have to work for it! Should I leave him to find someone better suited to me?
Q. Ok so I have been dating a 22yr old guy now for about 7-8months and I am 23. Our sex life had not been very exciting so I finally got the courage to bring it to his attention recently. He only ever is either on top of me or me on top of him, those ...
A. 18 February 2010: Sounds like he's being sincere to me; he did try things and say he enjoyed them. Just make sure to give him a slap on the back of the wrist if he starts slipping back into old habits (metaphorically of course) ;). Good luck and let us know if it ... (read in full...)
His penis won't stay in!
Q. Hi, this is to anyone who can help. I have recently started dating a new guy and we have had sex twice and had a problem. When he first inserts his penis for what feels like 10 mins it just wont stay in. He was on top and when we got going we ...
A. 17 February 2010: It happens to most males/couples. Perfectly normal. No way you can stop it really. It's just a part of the act.
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Why won't he take me somewhere romantic to have sex?
Q. Me and my bf have been dating for about a year and i had never had sex before i met him as i had strong views about it. I always wanted it to be somewhere romantic like a nice hotel room where we could both relax and enjoy the time together all day ...
A. 17 February 2010: It could just be that he doesn't feel that it is an important thing for you. Sex for you could be more special than sex for him, which means that you want to do it properly and in a special place to match the act. He could just be fine with a quick ... (read in full...)
He told me he just wants to get laid and not have to work for it! Should I leave him to find someone better suited to me?
Q. Ok so I have been dating a 22yr old guy now for about 7-8months and I am 23. Our sex life had not been very exciting so I finally got the courage to bring it to his attention recently. He only ever is either on top of me or me on top of him, those ...
A. 17 February 2010: He's saying it to try and win you back! He'll try and hook you in, and then say that now he has you again he doesn't need to try anymore. Its just a technique used by men to reel you back in.... (read in full...)
He told me he just wants to get laid and not have to work for it! Should I leave him to find someone better suited to me?
Q. Ok so I have been dating a 22yr old guy now for about 7-8months and I am 23. Our sex life had not been very exciting so I finally got the courage to bring it to his attention recently. He only ever is either on top of me or me on top of him, those ...
A. 17 February 2010: Leave him! This guy is completely selfish and just because he's in a relationship with you does NOT mean that he should just give up trying. You need to try in a relationship to keep it working. He does not respect you or your wishes, feelings and ... (read in full...)
Am I labelling myself right?
Q. I am 15 an i have been using the term bisexual but recently realized that that term may be wrong. I date girls and guys and like both romantically but i dont want sex with either one. I have had sex with a guy but i didnt really care either way for ...
A. 17 February 2010: It probably means that you ARE bisexual but just not ready for that part of a relationship yet. You like both males and females romantically, meaning that you are bisexual, but just because you don't want sex yet doesn't mean that you're something ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend attended a "filthy" lap dancing club..and had a dance!
Q. Hi everyone ... Please read my story , because I just dont know what to do and Im constantly privately in tears . I found out by pressuring one of the guys ( and thats a story in itself ) That my b/f of 3 1/2 years attended a " filthy " lap d...
A. 16 February 2010: Cheating is whatever you think of it as. Some people consider kissing cheating, others don't. It's all down to you. If you feel that it is cheating, then it is. Personally I'd say that this is completely wrong and I'm sorry to say but I think you ... (read in full...)
Married and bi. I want my wife to watch me have m2m relations, how can I convince her?
Q. Hey hi im a married male and im bi and i want her to watch me have sex with anouther guy but she says no any ideas how to get her to say yes or should i keep just having m2m sex behind her back?...
A. 30 January 2010: If she says no, she means no. You can't force her to do something you're not comfortable with. If you keep having these affairs, why don't you leave her? You're obviously not happy with just her and want to have open relationships. Stop cheating on ... (read in full...)
My friend said the reason boys don't ask me out is because I am hyper
Q. ok well ive been single since i was in 5th grade and i want a bf but i dont know who likes me i liked these two boys last year and i didnt know they liked me til this year cuz one of my guy friends told me and they knew i liked they so why didnt ...
A. 24 January 2010: That's definitely not true. I'm sure there's absolutely nothing wrong with you at all! Your friend probably doesn't know what she's talking about. The boys are probably not asking you out because, like your friend said, you are pretty and guys are ... (read in full...)
We are cousins and madly in love, should we tell?
Q. ok, well a few years ago my cousin came to stay with us for a while and we imediately became really close, then one night he kissed me (although i had been wanting too for ages i didnt, because i wasnt sure how he would react.) anyway we ended up ...
A. 24 January 2010: Its probably best to tell them. It's not illegal, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it at all. If they're your family then they should understand - no one can help who they fall in love with and you can't force yourself to fall out of love with ... (read in full...)
Wondering if my periods are normal
Q. I'm 13 and I've been a woman for a little over a year now, but my periods aren't regular and sometimes I miss 3 or 4 at a time and then a heavy one in the middle of the month that lasted bout a week for the flow to finally stop, and then last month ...
A. 24 January 2010: A year is no time at all for periods to settle down. Some women it can take three to four years, maybe longer, maybe less. It's nasty at first, but when it settles down it should be fine. I don't really think that when your mother/grandmother ... (read in full...)
First time sex and he wants me to plan everything
Q. Me and my boyfriend are going to have sex it is my first time but not his. He wants me to plan everything but idk what a comfortable position is. Can anyone please help me and tell me so i know. He also wants to know if he should finger me and eat ...
A. 31 December 2009: When the time is right for you two to have sex, then it should come naturally. It's not supposed to be planned and executed with times and positions. It's good to have an idea of what you want, but not to plan it. Spontaneity. If you two do come ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend asked if his was biggest
Q. I wanted to be honest and open with my boyfriend who I adore. It was about my past in bed, past boyfriends. I was only serious with one other. The question of size came up. It wasn't good, actually bad with my first serious boyfriend. Is great ...
A. 31 December 2009: Have you let him know that your ex's size actually hurt you, caused you pain, and that his size is the perfect size for you? Just try and keep reassuring him that the larger the size, the more pain it's causing you. The only thing you can do... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to split the cost of a big ticket item with me, but I don't think I'll be with him that long!
Q. so my boyfriend wants to get a ps3 (he lives with me)he wants us to split the cost to get it. the thing is i do not want to since i do not think i will be with him for that long. he thinks everything is going great but i am just not that happy wi...
A. 31 December 2009: There's one of 3 possibilities. 1) He's using you for money. 2) He's taking advantage of you. Still loves you but just assumes you're going to be there no matter what. 3) He's just not into you anymore. You need to think of everything, write it... (read in full...)
Tightness causing pain
Q. hi does anyone have any advice. been with girlfriend for 3 years but she has an extremely tight vagina and it causes pain on entrance during sex. it is also hard for me to get it in and im only a normal average sized guy. she went docters and he s...
A. 31 December 2009: You can buy flavoured lubes. Maybe try telling her that you'd heard about this idea from a friend, and you really wanted to try it out. A fantasy as such. When she sees how much more you enjoy it, she'll keep doing it. It will also make it a lot ... (read in full...)
B/f says I'm selfish and keeping him away from his family
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years and living together for 3 years! We have a two year old boy and i am pregnant with our second!! I know our relationship has never been the best in the world or the healthiest Lately we have been ...
A. 31 December 2009: The sooner you leave, the sooner you can be happy. When my parents were still together, the most upsetting thing to me was how upset my mother always looked. She never looked healthy and hardly ever smiled. That was the most haunting image in my ... (read in full...)
My husband went to sex therpist promised to be with me,and lied!
Q. WellI caught my husband masterbating after he promised he would come to me after we went to a sex therpist, he is addicted for sure, please only decent replys, any proverbed replies will be reported. sure everyone masterbates, but a husband doesn't ...
A. 31 December 2009: I may be completely wrong here, but is this post about your husband masturbating INSTEAD of being with you?... So he no longer has any sexual contact with you, only himself? Because if that's so, then you are right to leave him. If it makes you ... (read in full...)
Will my long labia be a turn off to my boyfriend?
Q. i am 15 and i have extremely long inner labia and like all of my friends, well lets just say you cant even see theirs, and i dont know if it is abnormal. My boyfriend wants to go 'down there' and play around but i am nervous that he will be turned ...
A. 31 December 2009: Sweetie, every single vagina is different. If your boyfriend loves you enough to take that step with you, then he'll love what he sees down there. Most people are insecure about something, but others don't even see it. You ever hear any of your ... (read in full...)
Sex w/o condoms safe?
Q. Well, I'm a 15 year old male that has a very honest girlfriend. For the past year or so, we have been expiramenting with sexual touching, oral sex, ect,. When we we're on teh phone the other day, she asked me if I wanted to have sex. I told her I ...
A. 31 December 2009: I'm not going to lecture you, as I'm assuming that if you two are ready to make a decision like this then you are both fully aware of all risks, consequences, and have both decided on an action of what to do if something went wrong (such as ... (read in full...)
What gift can I get my online boyfriend?
Q. I have an online boyfriend, the only problem is I want to get him something for his birthday, and he's isn't comfortable giving me his adress. Any ideas for what I can get him? ...
A. 28 October 2009: You can send him an e-card, and a few sites have virtual presents. You could write him poems or songs or something, and if you two are comfortable talking over the phone you could recite the poem you wrote. Heartfelt letter maybe... If you're a good ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for the semen to come back down and out?
Q. I have the implant, me and my boyfriend have both been for check-ups and we are both disease free! We have started having sex without a condom, I'm wondering if it's normal for the semen to come back down/out of me? It's abit messy sometimes and ge...
A. 14 August 2009: It's not because of the implant. If you think about it, not all of the semen that goes in can travel up. Some of it has to come out as well. It would happen whether you used the implant or not - it's completely normal, and don't worry.
xx... (read in full...)
I easily obsess over a girl when I have feelings for her
Q. everytime i like a girl, i obsess... big time! i'm 20 years of age + i cant get this 14 year old girl outta my head! it's crazy!! i've never met her + probably never will because we live in different countries but i do know what she looks like. it's ...
A. 2 May 2009: People may get the wrong idea; however, if you two are keeping it strictly away from sexual natures then it's perfectly legal. If you get told that it's wrong then ignore it. When she's twenty and you're twenty-six, it really doesn't seem that bad, ... (read in full...)
Started dating my ex gf's friend but now she wants me back! I want heer back too,, Help!
Q. Hi. Please help! I'm 21 years old and in a relationship which is seemingly going no-where. It all started 4 years ago when i dated a girl, who i was madly in love with. I lost my virginity to her and everything seemed perfect. Then one day, ou...
A. 26 April 2009: If you love this other woman and would want to be with her, you cannot keep leading your girlfriend on. It is unfair on both her, and you. You have to be with who you would rather be with. How would you feel if you found out your girlfriend was ... (read in full...)
Was I unreasonable about his cheating?
Q. My bf cheated on me in feb with his ex gf and after alot of tears on both sides i agreed to take him back,On the condition he have NO contact with her.My exact words were "no calls,texts,online talk, Dont talk to her in lessons or anything at scho...
A. 15 April 2009: Go you! It's a very nice thing of you to take him back and he can't expect to get away with no punishment at all. This is a great way to make sure he won't cheat again. It's a fanstastic way to do it and I'm glad you made a stand with your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be fingered!
Q. Okay... Right so ive started seeing this boy in year nine and im in year eight... We were talking and i realise that the boys in his year have fingered girls. I dont want to be fingered and i told him that but i dont know if he expects me to let ...
A. 8 March 2009: Well at some point in your relationship, I'm sure you are going to want it. If he has told you he's not going to push you then trust his words. He said them for a reason, so trust him. He may want to finger you, but if you've told him you don't want ... (read in full...)
Could anyone please tell me, what stage of puberty I am in?
Q. okay i really wnat to know what stage of puberty im in right now..i dont kow i'v got got armpit hair, hair around my anus, alot of pubic hair, some hair starting to grow on my chest/stomach, i've got a bit of a mustach and is starting to grow ...
A. 22 February 2009: Males grow, sometimes, until they're around 21 so I wouldn't worry at all. Seems perfectly normal for your age.
xx... (read in full...)
I love him even though we're 5 years apart... is it right?
Q. I have the most amazing boyfriend, but I'm sure you've heard that before. Anyways, I've never felt so happy before. I love him so much. Too bad my mother doesn't let me date. And the fact that he's 20 and I'm 15 becomes a problem. He promised...
A. 21 February 2009: I think that 5 years is hardly anything these days and if you're happy with him, and don't have sex until it's legal, then it's absolutely fine :)
You can't help who you fall in love with... When he's 37 and you're 32 does it really seem like tha... (read in full...)
If I get lost during sex, what do I do?
Q. I'm a 14 year old female. I'm about to have sex for the first time. I'm not totally clueless about sex like I know what it is and how to do some stuff, but I'm afraid I'll be bad at it. What happens if I get lost and don't know what to do?...
A. 17 February 2009: I'm not going to give age related answers, as that is not what the question entails. If you feel ready then by all means go for it, as long as you are aware of the possible consequences. I lost my virginity at 14 and don't regret a second of it...
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How do I make a move on my boyfriend when I don't have the guts to?
Q. I need some help. My bf and me have been together now for 2 weeks now.We love eachother very much. I would want to do a move but im so scared.I would love to have the guts! Do you guys have any tips to help me through this?...
A. 6 January 2009: What kind of move are we talking about? Sex or just kissing? The question is unclear... If sex, then if you are unsure don't do it. But the pleasure each other in other ways is a good idea.
If kissing then just take it slow and steady. No one says... (read in full...)
Sex life not good and he said "you're gammy!"
Q. My husband and I have a shocking sex life. it consists of me trying to make him orgasm by giving him an hour or so of foreplay and him finishing off by having sex with me - I might get a 2 minute one handed fumble before we have sex. As a result we ...
A. 4 January 2009: Does he not know a single thing about sex at all?... Girls get wet for lubrication... He sounds cruel and heartless from that comment, but I can't say as I do not know him. You could try getting him ready and then telling him "no, you'll make me ... (read in full...)
I think my body is unattractive and it's holding me back from sex.
Q. I find my body very un-attractive i am an english size 12-14 a 36C bust size. I have a boyfriend and am afraid to further the relationship into a sexual one because my body holds me back, please can someone help me?...
A. 4 January 2009: A 12-14 is a gorgeous size. It's so much nicer to look at than the size 6 people you see walking around. And your bust size is slightly above average, too, so don't worry about it. Your boyfriend is with you for a reason - he must love you and your ... (read in full...)
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