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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 2 months. My previous relationships haven't lasted very long. I tend to find it very hard to create intimacy and I always look for things that are wrong in the relationship which I don't want to do anymore. Even with this one, I am doing the same thing. I have this romantic ideal which is totally unrealistic and cannot be achieved. So, this is an area I would appreciate your help on. Anyway, there was a one-off occasion where I felt we got carried away sexually too soon (not full sex though) and I fully expected him to dump me like my previous partner because he had got what he wanted. So I was overjoyed that he did still want to see me. He has introduced me to his family and said he wanted us to spend more time together once I returned off holiday. I have been abroad on holiday for the last 2 weeks, and he was sending me loads of texts which was lovely. Anyway, when I returned I expected him to be wanting to see me instantly but it hasn't been like that at all. He has sent me a couple of texts but when I asked him when he wanted to meet up again he hasn't answered although he has sent me texts since. I don't know if I am worrying unneccesarily. He is working extremely hard at work at the moment (about 12 hours today) which I think may be getting to him abit although he hasn't complained about it. I have asked him when he would like to meet up so the ball is in his court now. Why would he be sending me heaps of texts while I am away, but now I am back he hasn't mentioned when he wants to see me again? Do you think it is just he is preoccupied with his work or something else? I am not sure what I can do to help him on the work front or how I can cheer him up? I don't want to pester him as one of his ex's was very possessive and he has told me he likes his space (which I am fine about as I do too), but I care about him a great deal and would love to hear his voice even just for 5 minutes once a day.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 August 2007):
 It's difficult to tell, but I have a good hunch that he is busy with his job. I think he has shown real interest in you.
By the way, I think you would be much better off if you tried to find the positive things in a relationship. Not that you should not see the bad points, but, if you try to build on something, perhaps you will achieve a lot. I hope you achieve just that this time.
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