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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for just under a year. In the last two months he has said to me he's been really busy and needs some time and space. He hasn't contacted me for 2 months everytime I message him on what's app he says well chat next week which never happens. He hasn't told me what he is busy with he just said he would like some time and space. It's been 2 months. I have tried calling him but it ring once and then it goes to voicemail. I have tried on private number and it rings more than once. This clearly shows he has blocked me but does this also mean he don't want to talk to me and is trying to let me down gently? I don't know what to do or think? HELP!! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 October 2016):
 I'm sorry to say this but he is done with you.
Stop calling him. Delete his number. Delete his email. Block him on social media (so you can't see him at all)
It's over and done and he's too much of a coward and a child to let you know. He's not adult enough to face something that is clearly going to be uncomfortable for him, telling you he's not that into you and does not want to see you anymore.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (11 October 2016):
 What a jerk! He obviously doesn't have the guts to even send you a text message breaking it off.
He is showing you what he is really like - believe him. Surely you don't want someone so inconsiderate in your life?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 October 2016):
 He is not letting you down gently !, he is being rather brutal in doing it.
Normally I am all for partners allowing each other space and not suffocating each other, but , two months without even a 3 minutes catch-up ?... That's not space- that's intentional neglect.
I don't know if he has basically already dumped you , without having the courtesy to tell you , or if he plans coming back in a few weeks or mnths, anyway as soon as he is tired of his space ( and of the romps he is probabaky having with somebody else )- either way, in your place, I'd consider the relationship over and done , and would try to move on without too many regrets.
What use would you have anyway for a bf who feels free to go AWOL at the drop of a hat, no warning, no explanations, no apologies, no reason offered ?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (11 October 2016):
 NOBODY is too busy to chat. He is just rude, selfish and spineless. Instead of telling you straight that he wants out of the relationship, he is just leaving you to realize it is over.
Why are you still hanging in there after all this time? He has made his plain by his rudeness that he has no time for you. Your time is too precious to waste on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2016): Not knowing all the details, it's safe to believe your boyfriend has broken-up with you. He has avoided the breakup drama by pretending he's on hiatus.
Truth is, he has gone no contact without official notification that he has ended the relationship. Not knowing his reasons, I will not take it upon myself to accuse him of being a coward. Only because some people go psycho, threaten to harm themselves, or exhibit very dramatic unstable behavior when they get dumped.
He did dump you cold, and it is best that you just accept this as the end if the relationship; regardless of the way he chose to go about it. Two months without contact is pretty certain a relationship is over.
Depending on the reasons a relationship has to end, sometimes you can't just tell people it is over and they will comply. You may have to ease your way out, and hope they figure it out and move on.
I say this often. Closure is what people ask for when they are told it is over. They don't get closure from rejection, they plead a case. They cling to hope, and try to persuade their ex not to leave them. Some guys just hate drama and emotionalizing that much. Yes, some just drop everything.
He has moved on, now so should you.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 October 2016):
 It looks like he was to much off a coward to end things with you so he blocked you instead and has decided that the longer he ignores you then you will just accept it is over. How unfair on you, but sweetie am surprised you have tried to contact him for two months, if I was dating someone who asked for space and didn't speak to me for a week I would consider it over.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (10 October 2016):
 I'd be taking it as a sign, yes. Sounds like a gutless dweeb to be carrying on like this. Leave him to his cowardly ways and find someone worthy of your time. Good luck, you dont need this type of crap
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reader, N91 +, writes (10 October 2016):
 Stop wasting your time. If he wanted to speak to you he would do.
What a childish way to try and end things with someone. I think you can do much better than this guy.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (10 October 2016):
 Whether he's ending it or not, I would. It's pointless to take this behaviour from anyone without a good reason, which he doesn't seem bothered about giving.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 October 2016):
 I think it's over. At least THAT is how I would take it if someone I was dating stopped talking to me for 2 months.
So I'd send him an "I wish you well, good luck in life" text and then BLOCK him. Why should you wait around for him to be "not busy" ? Why should YOU put your life on hold for him?
After blocking him, I'd work on moving on.
How on Earth is is it OK to refuse to pick up your phone or see/talk to a GF/BF for 2 months? WHY are you allowing this? Sure you can't "make" him want to see you/talk to you, but you CAN decide that this is NOT how you want to be treated and end it.
Time for you to move on, I think he already has.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2016): Are you sure hes your boyfriend or just someone youve been casually dating? It sounds likes doing the fade and has blocked you. Im sorry but I hate to break it to honey, hes gone. Some people are rude and have no integrity to break it off cleanly. Stop chasing him and let it go.
Move on, its going to be hard but it will get easier.
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