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writes:while i was sitting on her bed. I could feel her breast on my leg while she laying down, she didn't even move. She is like 36a for her breast size. Next she putted her breast on my shoulder, when she hugged me from behind. I must admit it felt really good. Then i noticed her breast were like coming out of her top, her strap was coming sliding off. I told my girlfriend that her strap was coming off, and she told me to fix it. When i tried to fix it, she moved a bit and my hand touched her breast. Her nipple felt hard when i touched it. But does she want me to touch her breast, this is my first time in a relationship. We are both 19 and dated for a year. Reply to this Question
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reader, 11muds11 +, writes (12 October 2016):
From what you are telling us, undoubtedly she's trying to give you signals that she wants you to get a little more forward in your relationship.
My rule of thumb when doing something new is do it very slowly, make sure she fully wants to do it, and that you're fully aware of her feelings and reaction to it. Touch slowly around the area, not on the actual area, and move only when she gives you the signal. If she starts to kiss you more, or do the things that tells you she likes it, then try a little more. If she doesn't respond well, or is not giving you the go ahead, then stop, and do things you are used to and both make you happy. Then at the end, it's time for pillow talk, and a great time to talk about it.
You should never do anything that she doesn't want to do. But some couples have a terrible time with pre-communication. At the same time, you have been dating for a year, so you both should trust each other. If you move slowly, and watch her signs, you can find out easily what she'll like and what she doesn't, in almost every aspect of physical communication in a relationship. It's a very good lesson from a former girlfriend I wish I had learned earlier. If you don't know her signs, that's what you ask for in pillow talk. Those are essential for positive physical communication.
Equally, you also have to be comfortable in doing things. A lot of times as a guy, we are pushed by society as having to do "that" and you should be extra forward. No you do not, and that is also your choice. It works both ways.
If you're not great with pre sexual communication, try your own variation to talk with her before. Many women do not necessarily want to talk about it before with a trusted partner, but most I've met fully expressed their feelings afterwards.
Good communication is the key to a healthy and long lasting relationship, even if it's afterwards.
Hope this helps
Good luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 October 2016):
 It is your first relationship so I can see why you are unsure off what to do or what she wants. But you guys have been dating now for a year, so surely you can both talk about these things? You are both adults in a relationship, so you should be able to talk about the sexual side of things and see what each other are comfortable with.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 October 2016):
 ASK her.
She can't hug you from behind and NOT have her breast touch you. They are ATTACHED to her chest. So that in itself is NOT an invitation to touch her boobs.
Maybe do a few mutual massages WITH clothes on and later without.
And if she is OK with you touching her... don't go straight for the boobs, OK? They are like 2% of a woman's body.
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