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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Went on a site that is for people looking for fun. Met one guy but I felt no attraction but he great to talk to. I wasn't bothered if I saw him again. He said I knew where he was and I said the same to him so I thought he would get in touch .He didn't kiss me not even on the cheek nor did he contact me. Met another who is 9 years younger. I thought he seemed genuine and I liked what I saw. He is separated with two kids. We messaged for over a week on line he didn't ask to meet so I thought he was wasting my time. Most guys want to meet and not message for ages. Told him it wasn't going anywhere but he said he didn't want to seem to pushy. It was me who said to meet up. We met and I felt attracted to him straight away and we seem to get on well. He said about meeting again and texted me to say it was lovely to meet me. I expected he would kiss me but nothing. I wanted him to so badly and I even thought if I should kiss him first but I thought that didn't seem right, I wanted him to do it first to show he liked me and felt attracted to me. I didn't even get a peck on the cheek so what's wrong with me? I looked nice and I'm a nice looking woman but I don't stand out in a crowd. I don't have much confidence in myself and I am shy when I meet someone for the first time.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 October 2016):
 Correction, no guy that you have come across wants a relationship. But that should not make you lower your standards. Give dating a go, take it slow and go at your own pace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2016): I am the person who this topic is about. He texted me at 6 45pm asking how I was and he didn't know if texting the day after was over keen lol. I replied im glad he did and to text anytime. I was so glad he texted me and I think even if I had loads of confidence if he hadn't heard of got back to me I would wonder why and was it my looks or how I came across, I know it's all apart of dating. Deep down I want a man to love me but no matter what sites I go on they are all after only fun so I think that's why I went on a site just to have fun and be like everyone else because no guy seems to want a relationship.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (6 October 2016):
If you are looking for fun do you think that is going to do much for your confidence? As if a man is looking for fun then he won't take you serious, and you seem to want to find someone who likes you and finds you attractive. So to start with you need to figure out what it is you want from a man before you meet him, do you want casual or do you want potential love?
Maybe he did not kiss you because it was the first time meeting you and he did not want to be to forward, I know I wouldn't want to be kissed on the first date especially if it was someone I met online. He told you he enjoyed meeting you and said he would like to do it again, so I think you should slow down and see how things go. Why are you in such a rush for a kiss? Take your time and get to know him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2016): You just stated you dont have much confidence in yourself. That means you should be working on self-love and self-esteem instead of wondering why men wont kiss you. Also men are as shy as women and feel insecure and may be waiting for girl to make the first move. However in some cases, if the men didn't follow up he prob didn't feel a strong enough attraction to you but don't take it personally. That's part of dating. You date till sparks fly with one person and they feel same way.Personally I think you should work on your self confidence before you start dating again. Good luck
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (6 October 2016):
 I think you're awfully pushy for someone who only wants some light fun. You're way too hungry and men can smell that. It's unsettling.
Slow down, pace yourself. Not all men throw caution to the wind and hop into bed with just about anyone.
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