I'm afraid if I get too close to this lovely man that I might cheat on my boyfriend
Q. I met a guy yesterday and he bought me lunch. I like him I find him attractive and I think he feels the same about me. We agreed yesterday that we will meet again today at some volunteering project but when he arrived I only greeted him and stayed ...
A. 22 September 2016: I am glad you have saw the warning signs. Long distance can be lonely at times, but is still no excuse to cheat. Now you have only met this guy, so it will be easy to avoid him. If he asks to meet again turn him down. Stay away from him if you want ... (read in full...)
Since the breakup of what I thought was a perfect LD relationship I can't stop thinking about him. How do I cope with this situation?
Q. Hi, I feel like I need a reality check and I don't have many people in my life to ask for advice or open up to. I was broken up with 2 months ago by the person I loved. The relationship ended solely because of distance and the fact that his jo...
A. 22 September 2016: I am glad I could help in some way. Yes am sure what I told you, you already knew deep down. It is tough, and it will be very hard for a while, the only thing is though it does get better in time. It will get easier not hearing from him, your ... (read in full...)
I'm having doubts that my fiance loves me
Q. I feel as though my fiancée is not in love with me anymore because our whole relationship has changed. We use to make love with no problem but now it seems like a complete drain for her. I do everything for her with all my love in heart but I am ...
A. 21 September 2016: You say your whole relationship has changed? Can you specify more? If her sex life has changed then maybe she needs to go to a doctor. Looking at your age bracket your wife may be going through menopause, with that the libido does sometimes ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes purchases with my credit and doesn't pay them off
Q. Hello. Last year my bf bought an iphone. He didnt have the money to buy it so he borrowed my credit card and he is making the payments. I realized he hasnt pay the full amount and it has been a year already but he makes monthly payments. Yesterday ...
A. 21 September 2016: It sounds to me like he is just using you, or else he knows he is able to walk all over you. Either way you need to put your foot down, this is your credit history he is ruining. Take the two phones and try and get as much money back as possible for ... (read in full...)
Should I just block this guy?
Q. I am in my 40s and did ask a question previously on here about this man who I had seen at our local coffee shop. The background I used to see him at my local pub but not to talk to many years ago and then he ended up moving to the same village that ...
A. 21 September 2016: He gets bored and hits you up a couple of times a year, it looks like he has thought about you as a booty call but nothing more, him avoiding you tells you all that you need to know about this guy. Find someone who treats you well and block this ... (read in full...)
Unexpected break-up. Can anyone give me any advice? Advice from guys would be much appreciated.
Q. Me and my boyfriend were together for nine months and I was so happy. Suddenly, he broke up with me on Monday and I don’t understand why. He said he thinks we’re not suited and have different life experiences but I don’t understand how this can...
A. 21 September 2016: I have no idea why he would introduce you to all his family and then break up with you. As I said only he has the answers. But you need to move on now. He obviously had his reasons, and it will be hard on you. But you will get past it, you will ... (read in full...)
I get so emotional I cry about this crush almost every day! How should I tell this single man I have a crush on him?
Q. I have been thinking of leaving my job and returning to full time education to start my career, however, I have been having a big crush on my male colleague for almost three years now. I really like him and he is always on my mind. He is so handsome ...
A. 21 September 2016: It is great that you have decided to change career. But do not pin your hopes on Mr Right coming along and chasing you. Sometimes that is not how the world works. Nobody is saying you cannot chase a man and ask him out, just that three years without ... (read in full...)
He's ten years younger. Should I wait for him to make the first move ? He did give me his number.
Q. I've been single for over a year so now ready to date again. I noticed a guy who works at my gym but he never smiles. I noticed little things that he made me wonder if he fancied me. I would catch him staring or often feel him staring. He woul...
A. 21 September 2016: I think the best thing you can do is keep your distance, it sounds like this man might be a bit of a player. If you are feeling hurt from him talking to another woman, then you need to cool things down. You are getting a bit to serious to quick, ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my Bf chase me again?
Q. As short as possible: my boyfriend of two months seems to be too relaxed in our relationship. What can i do to make him chase me again? I need him to start working for this relationship because i feel like he doesn't take me seriously anymore....
A. 21 September 2016: It could be he has ran out of interest. Does he show you that he cares? Am afraid there is no way you can make him chase you unless he wants to. He probably does not feel the need to chase you now that he has you, but he should still treat you well, ... (read in full...)
Broke up with friends. What was my former friend trying to say? should I be worried?
Q. I had friends who i just broke up with because they were beginning to be close friends with someone I know very well. She can't be trusted. I explained to them why i don't trust her and since we live in the same commune i know her better than they ...
A. 21 September 2016: You are cutting off your friends and your housemate picked up on that. Look it is not your business who your friends are friends with. You might not trust this girl, but that does not give you the right to tell them she is not to be trusted. It is ... (read in full...)
Could his actions when near me mean anything at all? Psychologically? Or am I being delusional?
Q. So Today In class during a lab, the guy i am badly crushing on was standing right next to me. We attend all classes together, he almost all the time stands very quietly, but when he was standing next to me, he was moving a lot and cracking...
A. 21 September 2016: I think you are reading to much in to it, you are very aware off him because you are crushing on him. But he could have been moving and cracking his fingers over anything, maybe he was deep in thought, maybe something was making him anxious. If you ... (read in full...)
What do I do? I love him, but I don't feel loved in return
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now he had a bad childhood which has affected his adult life the problem is he doesn't know how to show love or deal with normal things in a relationship. He is nearly 30 yr old but acts like a teenager...
A. 21 September 2016: If you don't feel loved and he refuses to talk to you about it then the only option you have is to walk away. Yes it will be hard, but what is the point in staying with someone and being unhappy.
I am sorry he had a bad childhood, but many do and ... (read in full...)
Male coworker blows hot and cold
Q. I'm wondering about this situation. Explanation is a bit long so bear with me. I have a new coworker who is in the cubicle next to mine. He is probably 5 or so years younger than me. He is best friends with another coworker (female), which is how he ...
A. 21 September 2016: I don't think he is blowing hot and cold, he likes hanging out with you, he also probably gets a thrill knowing that it makes Jen jealous. It is stroking his male ego. Him calling you darling, well maybe he calls his friends that, I know people who ... (read in full...)
Since the breakup of what I thought was a perfect LD relationship I can't stop thinking about him. How do I cope with this situation?
Q. Hi, I feel like I need a reality check and I don't have many people in my life to ask for advice or open up to. I was broken up with 2 months ago by the person I loved. The relationship ended solely because of distance and the fact that his jo...
A. 21 September 2016: The thing is you don't want to let him go because you are scared he will never come back. But you need to come to terms with the fact that he probably won't come back. Whatever his reasons are, he has ended this relationship. Distance is an excuse, ... (read in full...)
Do you think he just wants to have me in his life in some type of way??
Q. After almost 2 years and no advancement I guess moving on is best, but what's confusing is when I cut him off he makes effort with the "I miss you and I love you" and he tells me he does want marriage and to be happy with me but he never stress me ...
A. 20 September 2016: He can tell you he loves you and misses you, but they are only words, does he actually show you this when you are together? My guess is not. It sounds like when you pull away from him he tries to get you back, it is almost like a game to him. It ... (read in full...)
Should I go home? How do I ask if I can go home? Please help
Q. Dear Cupid, I left home 6 months ago before I sat my final school exams because I was in a really bad place emotionally and I felt I needed to get away. The day I left my mother begged me to go home and I told her i couldn't do that. But now I wa...
A. 20 September 2016: I agree with Honey Pie, call home and speak to your mother, my guess is that she wants you back just as much as you want to come back. We all make mistakes. You needed space to clear your head and now you have done that. So pick up the phone and ... (read in full...)
Would the average guy spend 1.5 hours in a store or was he lying?
Q. Is it possible for a guy - your boyfriend - to be in a store for 1.5 hours??? The same store??? He was out for awhile and I asked him about it and he said he was at an auto parts store for that long. He said he was browsing. That there were lots ...
A. 20 September 2016: Your dad may have cheated on your mother, that does not mean that all guys are going to do the same. Have you thought about seeing a counselor? You are going to drive your poor boyfriend away, it is almost like he is in prison and you need to keep ... (read in full...)
Missed chance, did I do the right thing letting him go
Q. I was in love with someone for 2 years in high school but he wasn't single. When I was 21, 3 years after we left he contacted me but I wasn't single. I let him go as my feelings were no longer as strong. I stayed with my boyfriend as I wasn't going ...
A. 20 September 2016: I think you are holding on to the past and who he was then, not who he is now. There may be unresolved feelings as you are the one that got away and vice versa, but as adults you both probably don't know a huge lot about each other. Also his wife ... (read in full...)
He's married and much older.... and I've a serious crush on him. what advice can you suggest for me?
Q. Hi. So i'm sure this has been discussed countless times, but i still feel the need to get my situation out there and hear your opinions on it... So i have this guy in my life, he's my trainer of sorts, and i see him a couple times a week. He's way...
A. 20 September 2016: It really is tough to fall for someone who is married, but please do not go there. I think the best thing that you can do is create distance between you both. He probably loves the idea off being with someone half his age, but he is married and it ... (read in full...)
Dating has gotten me confused about what I want!
Q. Dating and making decisions... Need advice! I am on a dating site. I agreed to meet two men on there. One I have been writing to for a few days, and we share the same goals in life, he is very handsome, and I can see a future with a man like him. He ...
A. 20 September 2016: It sounds like things are off to a great start, hopefully now he can quit smoking. Try and support him through it as it is a hard habit to break. Hopefully it continues to go well for you, it is nice to hear a happy ending.... (read in full...)
What to do? I'm dating a woman aged 30 and I can't handle her "sleeping around" in the past.
Q. I'm in my early 20s, not perfect but I met a woman who's 30 recently and we really hit it off. However shes has a LOT of bad things in her past. I'm not misogynist and I have obviously slept with girlfriends but she did a load of crazy stuff when...
A. 20 September 2016: It does not sound like you both are a good fit at all, she sounds like she is a bit wild. You need to take some time and consider if getting together with her is really what you want, her being hot is not a good enough reason, do you see a future ... (read in full...)
Husband constantly nagging and critiquing
Q. My husband is constantly nagging and correcting. He is a generally likeable guy but when he gets close to somebody like wife or kids he critiques all the time where it sounds verbally abusive. He sees very little wrong with himself. He has a lo...
A. 20 September 2016: You need to talk to him about it. He probably has low self esteem and takes it out on you and the children. It is not fair on any off you and he needs to stop this. You need to tell him how this is effecting family life, he needs to be the one to ... (read in full...)
How does this plan look to you?
Q. So I have posted about a guy I met online. I managed to find cheap plane tickets to visit him, so I am going there in a little bit. We have been messaging for over a month and skyping/texting for over 2 weeks. I really like him and I just want to ...
A. 20 September 2016: Sweetie without bursting your bubble, just because he is talking about a relationship does not mean he is super interested. People say these sort off things over the internet every day without meaning one word off it. Off course I hope for your sake ... (read in full...)
LDR has it cooled, he finds it boring or...???
Q. I would really appreciate some advice and your opinion. I've been in a LDR for a little over a month. We were together for a week before he had to leave and go back home (another continent!). We've been texting and talked over the phone a bit (I'...
A. 19 September 2016: You where only together for a week before he had to leave, that is such a short time and impossible to get to know someone enough to want to be in a relationship with them. You are making all the effort here, and it sounds like he is just passing ... (read in full...)
Should I separate from my husband? Or push on in what feels like a dead marriage ?
Q. I've been with my hubby for nearly 11 years now and his cousin is one of his best friends and as a product of that, his cousin is also MY best friend. In fact we are closer than my hubby and his cousin is, our style of communication is the same...
A. 19 September 2016: This is a dangerous situation being so close to his cousin, it will only have one outcome and that is hurt. If you act on it his family will be hurt and if you don't you will continue to keep hurting yourself.
Try marriage counselling and make an e... (read in full...)
She's no longer into sex. What to do?
Q. The problem I have is. My wife is totally uninterested in sex and lovemaking, and has been for about 3 years now. Its to hot, its to cold, I have a headache?backache/earache whatever. We have discussed it and she assures me that it is not me. I h...
A. 19 September 2016: It sounds like you are dealing with this in a great way and not throwing blame at your wife or going out seeking an affair. I can only imagine how frustrating this is for you. If she has lost her libido fair enough but she needs to make an effort to ... (read in full...)
Do I assume he's not intereted?
Q. I'm feeling very confused about a guy at work!! I've like him for quite a while and we always have fun sort of banter, and went on a group holiday where we just got on really well and I sort of thought he might like me. anyway, a couple of weeks ago ...
A. 19 September 2016: I think you should leave it now, if he was interested he would have texted you by now. It sounds like he may still be caught up with his ex. What he said to you was great, but only words, his actions tell a different story. If he wanted to start ... (read in full...)
I'm married. Should I be trying to contact my school crush from many years ago?
Q. Hi I'm about to reach my 30. I'm married and have a child. Living life happily with lovable wife. Recently, I got the contact of a girl who was my classmate in middle school. I had a crush on her but it was untold as my family moved out of tow...
A. 19 September 2016: I think it would be silly for you to keep having a friendship with this woman when you have feelings for her. The best thing you can do for your wife and child is to stop contact with this woman and be a good husband and Father. ... (read in full...)
Some advice please on how to ensure that things do not go any further and do not lead to sex? Because I don't want that until I'm older
Q. I am 13 years old, female and is currently in a relationship of 4 months. My boyfriend and I haven't gone any further than straddling and French kissing until yesterday. No clothes were removed but there was grinding involved. And to be complete...
A. 19 September 2016: Well done for realizing you are to young, you are showing a lot of maturity for your age. However these things do lead on to sex, so do talk to your boyfriend about this, tell him you are much to young, and tell him no more grinding, as this does ... (read in full...)
How does this plan look to you?
Q. So I have posted about a guy I met online. I managed to find cheap plane tickets to visit him, so I am going there in a little bit. We have been messaging for over a month and skyping/texting for over 2 weeks. I really like him and I just want to ...
A. 19 September 2016: Okay the tickets are booked now so you should go, stay in public and see how things go. Hopefully you both hit it off. Let us know how things go, and good luck with it.... (read in full...)
I'm feeling hurt after finding a photo of my Gf giving a kiss to an older guy at an outing with work colleagues. How do I get over this?
Q. i found a picture of my girlfriend kissing an older guy at a bar. My girlfriend an i have been dating for almost 6 years now and i always let her know that i do not mind her going out to hang with co-workers or friends. She never goes anywhere so...
A. 19 September 2016: I would be upset and hurt if I was you as well. It will be difficult to move on from it and get the trust back, but I don't think it is a good enough reason to end a 6 year relationship. It does sound innocent, however how can she guarantee nothing ... (read in full...)
Unexpected break-up. Can anyone give me any advice? Advice from guys would be much appreciated.
Q. Me and my boyfriend were together for nine months and I was so happy. Suddenly, he broke up with me on Monday and I don’t understand why. He said he thinks we’re not suited and have different life experiences but I don’t understand how this can...
A. 19 September 2016: The answers he gave you sound like excuses. It is obvious he does not want to be with you any more and my guess is that he tried to let you down gently. Sadly he is the only one that has the answers. Maybe he just did not want a girlfriend anymore, ... (read in full...)
I'm alarmed at my LDR boyfriend's interest in a receptionist
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. We only see each other about once a month. We've been together over 3 years. My boyfriend enjoys buying old cars from auctions, fixing them up, then reselling them. He has always brought his cars to a friend's...
A. 19 September 2016: Only seeing each other once a month must be very hard. If your gut is telling you something is wrong then maybe you should listen to it. Have you both spoke about when the long distance is going to be over? Have you both a plan. I think you both ... (read in full...)
Is my fiancée (f/40) losing interest in maintaining our relationship?
Q. Hello Would appreciate any advice on an uneasy feeling I have about my fiancée. We've been together for 4 years, very happy, a great match in almost every way. When I proposed to her in January she was ecstatic. I mean this lady couldn't have be...
A. 19 September 2016: My guess is that her parents situation is probably causing her a lot of stress, when she needs you the most you are both on different ships. I know how hard it can be working on ships as I have done it myself, so I guess with her parents news and ... (read in full...)
He says he can't date for two years
Q. Hello. i'm a freshman girl in high school and I honestly have liked this kid for the past few months now. We started talking a lot and things started as very little friends to flirting all the time. He calls me beautiful, i'm perfect, i could be a ...
A. 19 September 2016: While it is frustrating for you, there is no harm in just being friends for the two years, he won't forget about you if you two still hang out together, and at least in two years you will be a bit older to make better decisions, enjoy being a ... (read in full...)
Meeting with the only guy in my life I never got bored of
Q. Hello agony aunts! I am 27 living in Europe. I'm asking for advice with regard to my longest crush ever. When I was 20 years old, I went into yahoo chatrooms and met D. We started chatting and just LOVED talking to him. Initially he hadnt taken m...
A. 19 September 2016: I say go for it, you have nothing to lose. Seven years is a long time, I really do think it is time you both met and see if there is anything between you both. I would say to him he is more than welcome to visit your country anytime and that you ... (read in full...)
My mum won't let us marry, should we run away?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a secret relationship for 6 years now. This is because my mum simply won't allow us to marry or be together. She strictly forbids it due to past conflict with their family against ours. (As you can imagine it's ...
A. 19 September 2016: Doing it behind her back is going to make the situation so much worse. You are an adult now, so be honest with her, if she kicks you out then find your own place. Stand on your own two feet and be honest with her. It is the only way. ... (read in full...)
I need a way to get him to meet my desires
Q. My boyfriend and I are busy people. He works 6 days out of the week,8 hours per day. I'm in school part time and works 40 hours a week. Therefore, when we are together, I want to cuddle and have sex. He just enjoys my company. I talked to him about ...
A. 19 September 2016: No your not wrong, if you are not feeling that there is enough affection then you are not getting what you need from this relationship. It sounds like your boyfriend is comfortable with your sex life at the moment, but you are not. I can understand ... (read in full...)
Dating has gotten me confused about what I want!
Q. Dating and making decisions... Need advice! I am on a dating site. I agreed to meet two men on there. One I have been writing to for a few days, and we share the same goals in life, he is very handsome, and I can see a future with a man like him. He ...
A. 19 September 2016: At least you went on the date and where not left wondering what if. Good luck with your second date with guy 2.... (read in full...)
How can I find a way to trust my boyfriend? Because I feel I can't trust him
Q. PLEASE HELP ME. I am at the END of my rope. I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and I just CANNOT trust him no matter what. No matter what he says or does. I CANNOT trust him. I CANNOT DO IT. It is making me paranoid, jealous, ins...
A. 16 September 2016: You say you want him to be a good man, but you don't mention why you don't trust him, we cannot give you a lot of advice until you share with us what he has done wrong for you not to trust him?
If he has cheated and he has admitted it then I can ... (read in full...)
He's ten years younger. Should I wait for him to make the first move ? He did give me his number.
Q. I've been single for over a year so now ready to date again. I noticed a guy who works at my gym but he never smiles. I noticed little things that he made me wonder if he fancied me. I would catch him staring or often feel him staring. He woul...
A. 16 September 2016: Yes go to the personal training session, see how you both get on and who knows what may happen from there, good luck!!... (read in full...)
Dating has gotten me confused about what I want!
Q. Dating and making decisions... Need advice! I am on a dating site. I agreed to meet two men on there. One I have been writing to for a few days, and we share the same goals in life, he is very handsome, and I can see a future with a man like him. He ...
A. 15 September 2016: You have only met guy number 2 once, so yes you should go for your dad with guy number 1. It is still early days so you are doing nothing wrong by keeping your options open. You talk a lot about pressure from your family, and the type of guy your ... (read in full...)
I get so emotional I cry about this crush almost every day! How should I tell this single man I have a crush on him?
Q. I have been thinking of leaving my job and returning to full time education to start my career, however, I have been having a big crush on my male colleague for almost three years now. I really like him and he is always on my mind. He is so handsome ...
A. 14 September 2016: Three years and you are emotional daily? Sweetie this is not a normal crush at all. It should not have went on so long. You have built this man up in your head to be Mr perfect and you have convinced yourself that you are in love with him.
I thin... (read in full...)
He's ten years younger. Should I wait for him to make the first move ? He did give me his number.
Q. I've been single for over a year so now ready to date again. I noticed a guy who works at my gym but he never smiles. I noticed little things that he made me wonder if he fancied me. I would catch him staring or often feel him staring. He woul...
A. 14 September 2016: You are ready to date again which is great, you are out flirting and enjoying life great. Don't rush in to thinking you have found the one, as I would hate to see you get hurt. You could ask him casually would he like to go for a drink, and then see ... (read in full...)
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