My brother and his wife is spreading rumours about me? Its driving me demented I'm also pregnant

A female age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I'm 21 , married and moved in with my mother about 12 months ago after our rent rose sky high. We are living with my mother as we were saving for a wedding and a deposit for a home. My wedding is over with and we have our deposit with the house almost saved for. I am also almost 5 months pregnant, my dad died before we moved in however he and my mother invited us to stay before he died to give us some help in prep of the wedding and house. My brother is 17 years older than me he is 38 and his wife are both causing me a great deal of stress. When my Dad died and we moved in my brother became aggressive with me for moving in, he shouted at me the day after I buried my father saying the house is his to f off and move away that the entire place is his . He even tells people like my sister in London that he has no problem if she wants to stay in HIS HOUSE AKA MY MOTHERS ! However it is my mothers she pays the rent. This drives my sisters crazy and hurts my mother. For some reason my brother claims it is his acting as if my mother does not exist. My bother has a 6 bedroom house 2 cars and lives very comfortably. Me and my husband have slept in a single bed this past year in order to get married and save for a rented home because we were not earning a huge pile. My brother now has started telling family neighbours and anyone he can disgusting lies that I live off my mother that we bully her and that we wont move out of the house. Infact these rumours even started when my father as laying in his death bed . All of which is un true. He bullies my mother and she is afraid of him. I asked her one day mom why wont you tell him to stop telling you how to paint the house or tell him to stop building walls around the house that you dont want or changing the house? I then said are you scared of him or what?! She replied I am and I can't do nothing about it. Even last week we fixed up my dads grave taking the dead flowers off, my brother cornered my mother in the church that night and said you never told me you were clearing up the grave, you tell me nothing! My mother is so afraid of him it kills me. She does not want me to move out, but we are for the sake of our baby as the stress is cause me pains in the stomach high blood pressure and heart palpitations. My two sisters have tried to clear my name with many people but its getting so out of hand and I don't know how to deal with it. When go to stand up for myself his wife screams at me then my brother uses suicide to get out of it, he says im going to hang myself! Then my mother lets him off over and over. My sisters have told him I am pregnant that i dont need this stress and that i will lose the baby if it keeps up and his wife said if I am pregnant then f me ! Its like they just don't care, they see me as a threat with the home even though i have explained we are living here to save for a home. The lies are so wrong that I cry so much because I notice cousins etc wont even look at me. My brother is clearly sick and mentally ill because he has done this to my other sisters years ago. It clear he is greedy and his wife. He says there is a will made and the house is his, wthe house is a council house so went my sister sid you cant hand over a council house he has changed the wording to the tendancy is his. I ask my mother and she tells me that she does not know whats on my fathers will because all she was told was to sign a piece of paper! Sometimes I wonder is there a will? Maybe there isnt , and thats why he is possessive with the house as he didnt expect my father to die. He has never bothered with my parents for the past 15 years, he only came around the day before my dad died. Now he calls intimidating me with chainsaws, blocking the driveway with blocks etc. I dont give a crap about the house but the rumours of me he is putting out are upsetting me so bad! I work hard with my own business and look after my mother so much , especially the past year after Dad died she has told this to family that he poisoned against me. My sister even cries at what he has done to me, what do I do? When i try to sort it he says im sucidal making it out I am a monster stressing and upsetting him when it is clearly the other way around. The way his wife told me to f myself if I am pregnant also hurt me as i felt they were bringing the unborn baby into it. My mother will let him walk all over her , me and my to sisters have told her not to let him tell you what to do but its no good the fear is there. What advice would you give me ? My brother does not feel like one, he is basically a middle aged man bullying me a 21 year old!! The rumours kill me because he knows I am shy and wont have courage to tell people the truth he plays on it, and I cant take what he is doing much longer.He tells the lies sneaky to people so i have no idea who he has told and what. What do you think is up with him? Is it greed jealously or sibling rivalry to another level? His wife is as bad! Is this normal???

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