Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?
Q. My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...
A. 29 September 2016: I am not judging you or calling you a unfit mother, I am simply saying that he can use you drinking and smoking daily in court to gain access to your children. Maybe you could use some help getting off the booze? Why not join a support group it can ... (read in full...)
I have a great relationship and love him but want to be single
Q. Hey! First of all thanks in advance for any questions! I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and 7 months. No breaks or anything in between. We generally have the most amazing relationship. We have everything in common, I find him...
A. 29 September 2016: I think you have made the right choice, let us know how you get on.... (read in full...)
I can't stop wondering about her
Q. Everything my logical brain thinks of says DO NOT CONTACT HER, yet I still want to know how she's doing. I want to know if she is doing well. Obviously this is about my ex'. Im curious and hoping she's doing well. I can list a number a of reas...
A. 28 September 2016: Okay lets talk about your ex, why did the relationship end? What do you hope off getting out of contacting her? A sorry? A reunion? Think about it, what do you need from her?
Also think about your current relationship, is it worth putting it at risk... (read in full...)
Why can't he find more time for me?
Q. I am dating a divorced man with two children of 12 and 13 he has shared custody with them and it's amicable and settled. I haven't met the children yet as we have only been dating two months but plan to in time and he wants me to. He also works away ...
A. 28 September 2016: Once a week does not seem to be by choice it just seems he is a busy man. Now you need to decide if this is enough for you?
You say you are lonely already but you don't need to be, you are child free so enjoy yourself make the most of life. Get ... (read in full...)
How can I believe him ?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has always said that he doesn't get anything from looking at pictures/movies of women (porn, etc). He has also said that he doesn't like fake boobs and that natural big boobs get gross over time. He made a big point of ...
A. 28 September 2016: Look he is with you, he shows he loves you what more are you looking for? The thing is you are a person you are not a set off boobs. So why be focused on them so much? I honestly think you are dwelling way to much on this and finding a reason to get ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend fails on work related questions
Q. Please help me understand his thoughts. I can't seem to be able to talk to my boyfriend about work related things. I'm senior management and when talking to my boyfriend about taking on new tasks or training/motivating my team, his one and only res...
A. 28 September 2016: He is looking at it from his point of view, which is okay as it is his opinion. He is different to you, wired up to think about the financial side of things while you think about opportunity and wanting to learn more. It is okay to think ... (read in full...)
Should I back off and forget about him or am I being a bit dramatic?
Q. Hi, I really fancy this guy at work, the other girls have been trying to set us up for months but we're both a bit shy so nothing's ever happened. We were out with everyone from work a couple of weeks ago and he told one of the girls he was inte...
A. 28 September 2016: I agree you should back off. He may have passed a comment on a night out, but if you saw him with another girl then your best to stay well away. No point in you getting hurt and also it being very awkward at work. ... (read in full...)
How Can one forgive BETRAYAL of someone you love, cheating and now the the woman is pregnant?
Q. I met the man of my dreams, my best friend over a year ago. we live together and his kids come over every other weekend " I Love Them". we went on vacation 5- months ago and I saw a girl kept calling? I asked who is she then my life forever cha...
A. 28 September 2016: I am sorry for your loss. What strikes me is the doctors tell you it could be down to stress and still you forgive this pig? He is possibly the reason you lost your precious angels and still you stay with him? Am sorry honey but he is going to keep ... (read in full...)
Struggling with my sexuality because of bad experiences with women
Q. I know what the problem is, I just don't know how to fix it. Growing up, every experience I've ever had with women was bad, including my own psycho mother. A part from just being friends, women left a really bad taste in my mouth. Sometime ...
A. 28 September 2016: It seems that all you think about is yourself. You tar all women with one brush, maybe because of your mother maybe not. But you judge people and seem to only care about one person and that is yourself. Go to therapy and work on your issues then ... (read in full...)
Do just forgive and forget? He called out the name of his ex, twice, during sex with me. How do I deal with this? He was drunk at the time
Q. My fiance (together 4 years), called me by his ex girlfriends name during sex (twice in one sentence) when he was drunk after his bachelor party. I dont know how to deal with it. This ex caused a lot of rubbish at the start of our relation...
A. 28 September 2016: He is making a huge commitment to you getting married, do you trust him? I would be upset as well if it was me. It sounds like he may have been thinking about old times. Does not mean that he wants to be back with her, but sounds like he was having ... (read in full...)
Partner no longer enjoys lovemaking and it is becoming a dealbreaker
Q. Hey all, I've been with my partner for 2 and a half years now and for the first while our sex life was crazy good. We were both on exactly the same page with the things we were into and the high sex drive we both had. One day it was really sore for...
A. 28 September 2016: I think there is a lot more going on here than just painful sex. You say this was almost two years ago. Doctors cannot see anything wrong. My guess is that her pain may be psychological and now she has lost all interest. If there is no affection at ... (read in full...)
He always wants to hang out but then starts talking about other girls. Where do I stand with him?
Q. So a couple months ago i met a nice guy at a friends party. We hit it off since that night and exchanged numbers and have been talking ever since. We've gone on several dates now and hang out often. He always seems to send me mix signals. He always ...
A. 28 September 2016: Are you sure these are dates and not just hang outs? If there is nothing sexual between you then he might just see you as a friend and you have your wires crossed.
If you do make out or are being sexual and he is talking about other girls then I th... (read in full...)
I told my chick friend who has kids that I won’t date women who have kids and she seems to have taken offense?
Q. A couple of months ago I moved to a bigger city along with my chick friend who has kids. We don't live together but since we don't know anybody in this town we occasionally hang out. We are both really close since we went through a big ordeal in our ...
A. 28 September 2016: She sided with you over her best friend, that is telling me this girl might like you as more than a friend, and it is possible that is why you hit a nerve because she has children and maybe she realized she never had a chance with you if that was ... (read in full...)
She confessed to cheating just 2 weeks into our LDR, I’d love to resolve this but don’t know what she’s thinking! Any advice appreciated!
Q. Hello, today im requesting a bit of relationship advice Me and my girl met a while ago and remained freinds but this year we got a lot closer and started going out for a month, just before the month was up i had to leave and go overseas for wor...
A. 28 September 2016: I don't think she has what it takes to be in a LDR. Some people don't. It was only two weeks and she cheated, maybe if you both lived in the same area it would be worth giving it a shot, but truthfully I cannot see this working out long distance. ... (read in full...)
I've been catfishing my ex for 8 months to discover out what kind of father he would be to the child he doesn't know he has with me
Q. I have been catfishing my ex for the last 8 months. I originally did it for information because after he moved away, I discovered i was pregnant. I couldn't reach him for 2 years and when I came across him I was scared so I made up a Facebook ...
A. 28 September 2016: I simply cannot agree to what you have done. You are playing with his emotions by making a person up, that really is such a horrible thing to do to someone, and I urge you now to stop, get rid of Isabella as this is so cruel to him.
The moment you ... (read in full...)
He shut me out for 3 months, contacted me again but now is ignoring me again?
Q. So I have met this guy once, it went well, he texts me straight after to say he wanted to see me again. He then had a close friend die suddenly and so we didn't talk for 3 months since he completely shut me out ( to grieve I suppose ) he then texts ...
A. 28 September 2016: He barely knew you when his friend died so I can see why it was not you he turned to for comfort, my guess is that it was hard on him and that is why he did not think about dating while he was grieving.
If you want to give him a second chance then... (read in full...)
I found oral contraceptives and condoms in my boyfriend's room. What should I do?
Q. I found used oral contraceptive in my boyfriend room which I didn't use and also found 3 condoms under his pillow I asked him and he said he just bought it. Please what should I do ...
A. 28 September 2016: I guess you mean a empty packed for the pill? Or morning after pill? If that is the case, I would end things. I would not be able to trust someone who had this in there room without a very good explanation. ... (read in full...)
How do you know if an ex genuinely wants you back or just wants attention/validation?
Q. I just had a recent experience with an ex who came back in my life after a year and 7 months of No contact. He immeditely started dating someone else after we broke up.He sent me a message on Facebook just saying he would love to hear from me and ...
A. 28 September 2016: He is an ex for a reason. It sounds like you where right, he was lonely and thought he would reach out to you. You deserve better than that. I am sorry you are hurt again, but I hope it has made you realize never to contact him back again. Block him ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for allowing my husband to sleep with other men and women?
Q. My husband and I have been together off and on for 25 years and been married 13. He has cheated on me a lot in the past and I've forgiven him, he promised it would never happen again unless he talked to me about it. He works in another state, h...
A. 27 September 2016: Drinking and smoking every night really is not fair on your children, one off you need to put them first. You have agreed to this but it is not what you want. If you are lonely get help. First you need to give up smoking and drinking. Do it for your ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy or is this gaslighting?
Q. Am I crazy? My husband has the habit of lying to me about little things. For example, he'll say he has nothing planned for the weekend and the weekend will roll around and he'll tell me that he has to go to work (and he does- I can verify that and ...
A. 27 September 2016: It sounds like he is walking on egg shells, you may have changed now and have stopped making him feel bad for working at the weekend, but the memories are still with him, he wants to avoid all conflict now so he avoids the topic.
Talk to him abou... (read in full...)
My fiance is disrespectful to me. Do I make him jealous?
Q. My fiance has been disrespectful to me. Whenever we argue, he quickly storm up and get out from the room. But while he is nice, hes so thoughtful about me. I feel he has avoidant personality and doesnt have much empathy. He is not used to be l...
A. 27 September 2016: It sounds like he does not like talking about his feelings. You cannot go around making him feel jealous, that is cold and calculating. Are you a very sick person? Am afraid when you are an adult you just have to get up and get on with being sick, ... (read in full...)
Is it selfish if I get mad at my boyfriend's appearance and silly behavior?
Q. Is it selfish if I get mad at my boyfriend's appearance and silly behavior? Once he joked about we're having budget marriage with other bridegrooms in a ballroom. He also joked about the pressure of marriage in front of my friends. He said marriage ...
A. 27 September 2016: I think you should end things with him. You can never change a person, you are either in a relationship with the person he is not or else you leave. You should never try and change him. You don't like his humor, his size, or his sense off style. It ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't like me wearing makeup and criticizes me
Q. My husband hates the fact that I wear makeup. When we first met I was into more of a "barefaced" look (meaning I only wore mascara). Once I started working again(after taking care of babies for a few years), I went back to my glam-girl ways and ...
A. 27 September 2016: He is trying to control you. There is only one way this will go and it will be a lot worse if you don't end things now. First it is what you wear, then it is who you speak to, then you need to give up work, stop going shopping, basically before you ... (read in full...)
May boyfriend just doesn't seem to be what I need. Do I leave him?
Q. My brother got into a serious accident yesterday, I ran out of work to see him. It was my old car I had left for my mom to go to work. The car was demolished. I was counting on that car for income and now I'm in such financial trouble I can't sleep. ...
A. 27 September 2016: You should be honest with him, talk to him, tell him how he has made you feel. He does sound like a cold person. If he cannot be there for you when you need him, then he may not be the person for you.
Is this behavior a once off or is he alwa... (read in full...)
I am never going to feel better until I perform better sexually then her ex
Q. Ok readers please help. Please be honest and blatantly straightforward. I am so tired of reading the answers that men want or NEED to hear as opposed to the real truth. Experienced women can surely help me out here. Ok, I'm a nice looking 38 year ...
A. 26 September 2016: She does not think about sex the way that you do, I can guarantee it. Men and Women really are wired differently. She had an orgasm while on top of her ex because it stimulated her Clitoris not because he was bigger or better. Concentrate on giving ... (read in full...)
I have a great relationship and love him but want to be single
Q. Hey! First of all thanks in advance for any questions! I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and 7 months. No breaks or anything in between. We generally have the most amazing relationship. We have everything in common, I find him...
A. 26 September 2016: It sounds like you are ready to let go. Ending a relationship is never easy, but if you are already thinking about you and him getting with other people then you are already at a stage where you want out. I know it is hard because you love him, but ... (read in full...)
Is my partner setting things up to look for a fight?
Q. My partner is very forgretful. He puts his phone down and forgets where and says he cant find it. Then he pushes up the stress by indirectly accusing me or someone else of taking it. Then he gets aggressive and abusive to me, telling me I get...
A. 26 September 2016: You don't mention how long you both have been together, but at this moment it sounds toxic. I really think you need to get out of this relationship before this progresses worse. He is showing signs of abuse, and that will only get worse over time. ... (read in full...)
How do I take things to the next level without getting hurt?
Q. Dear agony aunts This is part 2 of a question i have asked here before I hooked up with this guy like 2 weeks ago and suddenly while having sex i stopped midway and left, i messaged him and clarified went wrong and he only gave me an okay, he hasn...
A. 26 September 2016: It sounds to me like he wants sex from you, he was probably taking a back when you up and left, however if he cared for you he would have made sure you where okay. Instead he has ignored you until now and is starting small talk so he can start ... (read in full...)
I don't want to cut all contact with him. But he has been distant with me ever since I asked if he was interested in anything serious. What do I do now?
Q. Hi everyone. I hope someone can shed some light on my situation. Recently, due to a change in jobs, my weekends are free, giving me more time to go out and socialise. Back in April, I went out to a local pub with my best friend where I bump...
A. 23 September 2016: You already know you need to cut contact. Yes it is hard when you love him, but believe me it will be so much harder in six months when he is still using you for sex and you are still letting him. That will rip your heart open and leave you with no ... (read in full...)
How should I handle her reaction? I feel I'm being completely blown off by my FWB friend
Q. So I've got a Fwb relationship that's been on going for quite some time now. Roughly 10 months. We have been friends since 2012 but the sleeping together started last November. This is not your typical fwb relationship. I've never had a relation...
A. 23 September 2016: You say it was a FWB but the way you talk about it sounds like you are in a relationship with her. It could be it is to much for her now and that is why she is backing off. Believe me you cannot go back to being just friends after having sex with ... (read in full...)
Tactless? Outspoken? He says he was just thinking out loud. How do I deal with his remarks?
Q. My new boyfriend said he was really shocked how different I look without make up when I stayed at his last week. I dont wear that much make up and have been complimented on my natural skin and facial features. I was really taken back. He does seem ...
A. 23 September 2016: Off course you look different without make up on, all women do, if they didn't then we wouldn't wear make up. Try not take it to personally, he didn't say you where ugly just different. It is a case of foot in mouth. I doubt he meant any harm. ... (read in full...)
Should my ex and I get back together? We were Bf and Gf together since adolescene until we broke up in February
Q. I split up with my boyfriend in Feb. We were together nearly 20'years but we had a rocky relationship as he has a lot of issues. He had a rebound relationship pretty quickly after we ended and now he has split from his girlfriend. ...
A. 22 September 2016: You where together such a long time, so why after all that time did his issues effect you? Was it building up for a long time? Making you unhappy for a long time? Or was his issues recent to the break up?
Rebound relationships happen, he wanted to f... (read in full...)
Should I hang on to this relationship or part ways so we both can recover and finally move on?
Q. Hi , my boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost 9 months now and it's been a long distance relationship since the beginning ! We had entered this relationship thinking that we wanted to marry each other . He had even proposed...
A. 22 September 2016: Okay so you have only been together 9 months, and it has been long distance from the start, so I guess you both haven't spent a huge lot of quality time together. I assume most of this relationship is communicating over the phone with an odd ... (read in full...)
Am I mad for wanting to be with a guy that much older than me?
Q. Hi. So as you pretty much know I'm 17. I've always had the problem of falling for older guys that I obviously can't have because of the age difference. I guess it's because I'm quite mature for my age, as I've also been told, so I'm rarely attracte...
A. 22 September 2016: You say you are mature for your age, but from reading your post I can tell you are like most 17 year olds, your imagination is running wild on you, and you think about him as your boyfriend and being a decent and kind one who will wait until you are ... (read in full...)
Frustrated by petty character assassinations and deceptions. Am I caught between two rather exploitive "friends!" ?
Q. I think i might be caught between two rather exploitive "friends!" Being of a kind nature i tend to help rather than hurt but if my intuition is anywhere over 50% ,then i believe i have seen my situation for exactly what it is! It is draining to m...
A. 22 September 2016: Don't allow yourself to be caught in other peoples drama. Leave that in the playground where it belongs. Just do not get involved. If they try and get you involved tell them straight you don't want anything to do with there drama. ... (read in full...)
My family doesn't want us to be together
Q. I hav a boyfriend whom I love so much,and he loves me in return but my parent don't want us together and I can't leave him for another man so pls help me out on what to do....
A. 22 September 2016: You are an adult now, so you are able to make your own choices, just because your parents are not happy does not mean you should be unhappy. Talk to them about there reasons and tell them it is your future and your choice. ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to dread sex because it takes my husband so long to finish
Q. Hello everyone.. I have a sexual problem with my husband.. It takes him too long to ejaculate, even if we have exquisite foreplay or so on.. Even if I do everything I can in the foreplay.. It has to end with him mostly taking a long time or masturba...
A. 22 September 2016: A lot of people would not see this as a problem. It could be the other way around, your husband could finish in a minute and then it would all be over. The only suggestion I have is plenty of foreplay, explore each others bodies, if sex gets sore, ... (read in full...)
How can I introduce the topic of budgeting to my Bf and tips on living with and coping with a budget ?
Q. Hi I came across this page and hoped someone may be able to help me. I'm going to give a bit of background as it may help with your advice. I've just returned from traveling with my long term boyfriend of 8 years. We were gone for 18 month...
A. 22 September 2016: You don't need money to show someone you appreciate and love them. First rule is to always tell him how thankful you are. Remind him off the great time you both have spent together. Make up a scrap book of photos and memories from your trip, ... (read in full...)
Why would my Bf's penis go limp after foreplay? Does it suggest that he's cheated on me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. He is 63. I am 45. He is not married. Neither am I. Just to clarify. We are good friends. Our sexual relationship has always been quite wonderful too. And for a man in his 60's, my boy...
A. 22 September 2016: He is not some sex machine, and you are not some prize. You really need to take yourself down from that pedestal you have put yourself up on. I am glad you feel like you are some sort off goddess, but that does not mean that all he wants from you is ... (read in full...)
How should I approach asking this cute girl out?
Q. There's a girl in class that I've got feelings for. She's super cute and we talk a lot, as we share many interests. I know that she is bisexual, as I've asked a while back. But she is extremley shy... It's easy for me to talk to her usually,...
A. 22 September 2016: why don't you ask her out to lunch or to go to the cinema or something. You don't need to tell her straight away that you like her but maybe spend more time with her outside of school and get to know her better.... (read in full...)
I can't get over him (he seems interested too). But he's in a long distance relationship!
Q. (Sorry for the very very lengthy explanation, there is a quick summary at the end if you want to skip the novella) A while back a guy started in my office and I was immediately interested. We started as friends but I knew he'd never like me ...
A. 22 September 2016: Am sorry that you are going through this, off course it is difficult to like someone and have to see them every single day at work.
If am being honest reading your post it sounds like this was a one night stand. He told you he was not as inve... (read in full...)
Am I insecure? Or just a fool for wanting to be loved?
Q. I'm finally trying to keep the strength of avoiding contact with someone who Never clearly took me serious in the 1st place it hurts soo bad..we've driven past eachother twice and both occasions he pretends to be on his phone or put his head down ...
A. 22 September 2016: It is not nice when someone who we care about hurts us. You need to let him go. He is pretending not to see you so that he does not have to communicate with you. There could be a lot of reasons for this. It could be that he simply has no interest in ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid if I get too close to this lovely man that I might cheat on my boyfriend
Q. I met a guy yesterday and he bought me lunch. I like him I find him attractive and I think he feels the same about me. We agreed yesterday that we will meet again today at some volunteering project but when he arrived I only greeted him and stayed ...
A. 22 September 2016: I am glad you have saw the warning signs. Long distance can be lonely at times, but is still no excuse to cheat. Now you have only met this guy, so it will be easy to avoid him. If he asks to meet again turn him down. Stay away from him if you want ... (read in full...)
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