Boyfriend's libido is so low
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 14 months. Sex has never been frequent or very passionate on his side... he doesn't even like to kiss either. However, recently he doesn't want sex at all and it's weeks and weeks before he gives it me again, but ...
A. 5 December 2016: Just because you are a size eight model does not mean you will look good to everyone, there is no perfect body, no one size fits it all. People are attracted to personal preference. It is clear that you two are not compatible with each other, you ... (read in full...)
How do I get over this rough patch?
Q. I feel so down today. I had no one to share it with so I came on here. I guess it's just a couple of things that have got to me. I have been working full time for a year, and this December within 3 days my whole months salary has gone leaving me ...
A. 5 December 2016: You are to nice for your own good. You need to man up and learn to say no to your girlfriend. If her friends give you a hard time then I would be questioning why your girlfriend allows them to treat you like that. You are wrong for giving her money ... (read in full...)
Can I trust his cousin?
Q. So, I'm dating this guy who is a year younger than me. And it's a long distance relationship, where I've never seen him before although we video chat a lot. He is kind, caring and sweet. I sometimes communicate with his favorite cousin, who is older ...
A. 5 December 2016: Sweetie is it not kind of pointless to date a guy that you are more than likely never going to spend quality time with? I mean you are worlds apart therefore how are you going to be together? There is a lot more to dating than video calling each ... (read in full...)
Think I love mother and daughter
Q. I'm in a relationship with a woman 18 years older than me. Lately we have been growing apart, the age difference and different interests are the main reasons. Her daughter, is 4 years younger then me. I'm 35. Her daughter and I have a great ...
A. 5 December 2016: End the relationship and stay away from her daughter. She is looking for you to reassure her that you love her, not wanting you to date her daughter. Please end it and remove yourself from both their lives. Don't come between a mother and daughter, ... (read in full...)
Like him but he has a girlfriend
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a while now. It's been going really well and then he asks me on a date. However, we didn't be go on it because I found out he has a girlfriend. I've said I can't do this and we shouldn't talk. The problem is,...
A. 5 December 2016: Block him from being able to contact you. You really like him? Enough to break someones heart? I am sure you are not the only one he is willing to cheat on his girlfriend with, have more respect for yourself and stop talking to him. ... (read in full...)
Help, how will this manager treat me now?? And how should I behave now? I did something where I should have first asked permission of the manager.
Q. When you do something at work you should have asked a manager for permission to do.. Not job threatening, but something that needed a managers permission, you should have asked first.. When he saw you he told you you needed to ask first.. yo...
A. 5 December 2016: I have to ask how did today go after all?... (read in full...)
Is she just using me, because I talk so nice to her?
Q. Hi, am wondering, i should keep, talking to this woman, I've been talking to for four years? We met on an online dating sire. We text each other, I've been really romantic with her, we have only met four times not on a date, she is very rich, a...
A. 5 December 2016: Yip you are wasting your time. If she was romantically interested then she would not bring others with her. I mean yes she may be busy travelling but she has met you on average once a year, nobody is that busy, if she was interested she would make ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend bored of me sexually, because he has suggested we use sex toys?
Q. Hello cupids. I am not sure where my boyfriend is coming from. I am afraid he is not as happy with me sexually as he once was. We have been together for close to 4 years. Our sex life has always been pretty amazing. I went ahead and booked a hot...
A. 5 December 2016: He probably wants to spice things up, he is telling you not to worry and I really think you should listen to him. You are over thinking this and worrying yourself over nothing. Enjoy his suggestions.... (read in full...)
We met online. Is he interested in me, or not? Do I contact him, or wait?
Q. I went on a date with a man i met on a dating site. ( i dont get many ) He gave the lines how he's not connected with someone like me in a while and hes very open with everything. We get on so well i could see a future with him . The other day he...
A. 2 December 2016: The lines he gave you sound cliched. After one date it seems that he may not be as interested as you are, I mean yes he is telling you all you want to hear but he is not exactly showing it.
It scares me that after one date you can see a futu... (read in full...)
Is my mom's behavior normal? Is she being unfair?
Q. I graduated from college and started working 2.5 years ago. My sister did the same half a year ago. In case it’s relevant, we were born and raised in California to immigrant Asian parents. Amongst our culture and friends, it’s quite common to still ...
A. 2 December 2016: I think it is normal enough, it is tough on parents to see there children become adults and take on the world. Try and see it from her point off view, you are beginning your life with your boyfriend and your mum is saying goodbye to her now adult ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether I should take her back or not!
Q. My girlfriend is in the us at college and I'm in the uk working, we are both British and 18 and have been together for a year. She met a friend at college very soon at August time (let's call him Jim) and he was just a friend, she told me this...
A. 2 December 2016: I do believe she is being genuine and telling you the truth. She is on the other side off the world with no family or friends or home comforts. She fell in to the arms off another man and feels terrible about it. She rang you and told you the truth ... (read in full...)
Do I keep trying or just accept my husband doesn't give a damn?
Q. It has been a tiring and very eventful year. A lot of major events have happened. Though none of these events were a result of our marriage. However, I fear that these trials that have been tearing at us as individuals is starting to affect our ...
A. 2 December 2016: You have both found yourself in a rut. It sounds like you are going through the motions off a marriage, but you are not really connecting. You should be more to him that something sexual. Ask him to put his phone down when you talk to him. If he ... (read in full...)
Does he just want into my trousers?
Q. Hello there, Iv been talking to a boy I love for a few months now and we've been out together but he lives away from me, it's all being going great and he told me he loved me and it was going so well. He's now said that I don't make him Happy and he ...
A. 2 December 2016: He is not ready for a relationship. It seems you are more mature than he is. He really doesn't know what he wants. I know it is heartbreaking but you can do much better and you should stop allowing him to treat you like that. Going hot and cold is ... (read in full...)
Our sex drives are mismatched! Is he being selfish?
Q. Hiya I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now but the last couple of months he doesn't seem to want sex anymore when I ask him if anything is wrong if hes stressed etc he says he's fine he's just lazy and hasnt got a very high sex drive whereas I ...
A. 2 December 2016: anonymous you think someone should force themselves to have sex to please someone else? Really? You obviously have never been forced to do anything sexual or you would not have that attitude.
Look OP it seems you both are not compatible, he has ... (read in full...)
Facing dental work and afraid I'll have a nervous breakdown!
Q. This is going to be a very hard night for me. I have always been obsessed, literally obsessed with my teeth. Yet, cursed with bad genetics, so despite my taking care of my teeth I have had fillings and veneers since I was a teen... even earlier. I ...
A. 2 December 2016: I had a tooth removed because off an abscess as well and I was much younger than you at the time. You just need to get on with it. The abscess was the sorest part for me, it was agony. I would rather have all my teeth pulled and get implants in. I ... (read in full...)
Who do I go for? Dude A or B?
Q. Who do I really love? I'm 17 years of age and I'm in my final year in secondary school. I am in a love triangle(two boys). I love dude A a lot but he is a player and I've know him since primary school, he was my sitting mate in primary school. ...
A. 2 December 2016: If you stay with guy B then you need to end your friendship with guy A so that you have a chance to be with guy B properly and not use him. If you are not willing to do this then end it will guy B and I bet guy A will be nowhere to be seen as he ... (read in full...)
Wanting to confess to someone, that I want to date them
Q. I like someone who is three years older than me, were are good freinds and he moves to University next June/May. I don't want my confession to ruin our freindship, I really like him and think I could have something special with him, but I don't know ...
A. 2 December 2016: I agree with the others, when you are older a couple of years age gap is no big deal, but at your age it means he is on a whole different level to you. He is an adult now going to Uni but you are still a teenager attending school, The best thing for ... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about this Facebook friend?
Q. hiya everyone i was going through my friends list on facebook this afternoon just deleting contacts i dont speak to i noticed my boyfriend has added a woman who is very attractive and the type he told me he goes for i have looked on her profile and ...
A. 1 December 2016: I doubt that he is her only friend, it is possible that you only see him as she has her profile set to private. If you where going through your own friends list then why would his friends show? Or was it that you where checking up his friend list?
I... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he ask I be included?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together. He has been invited to a wedding of a friend that I don't know. He has not been given a plus one but still wants to go. I feel that as we are a proper couple an invite should have been extended to me. If it is a ...
A. 1 December 2016: You don't know this friend, so it is possible they just want people at there wedding that they know. I think that is a fair request. It might not be about money, it may just be that they don't want a stranger at there wedding. You need to remember ... (read in full...)
Do I believe him?
Q. Okay so I'm going to start with the fact that I'm 18 weeks pregnant by my ex. However I still haven't told him and I know that's it's a little messed up but when I texted him about two months ago asking him if we could meet up and talk he texted ...
A. 1 December 2016: No sweetie he does not love you. He doesn't even know you. He is talking to so many girls that he did not even know you from your picture. You are vulnerable at the moment so please do not let him take advantage off you.
First off you need to cont... (read in full...)
He thinks I led him on because I cant explain how I feel about him
Q. On the verge of breaking up, my boyfriend and I had a talk about whether we should be together or not. We don't have a lot in common so we really don't have much to talk about, as in deep passionate conversations that is.. Now I am terribly bad at ...
A. 1 December 2016: You may love him but if you don't have much in common then you will struggle on what to say to each other. Also a lot of people struggle to explain there feelings so don't worry. If he feels you led him on then that is his beliefs. Just be honest ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't told his parents about our child
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 yrs I hadn't met his parents till recently and I found he hasn't told them about our child whose almost 3yrs old...how am I suppose to deal or take that??...
A. 1 December 2016: My guess is that they might not be impressed with a grand child outside off wedlock. To me it seems strange that you never questioned meeting his family after four years off being together. I take it he cannot be that close to his family? Do they ... (read in full...)
I didn't even ask him anything. He seems shy. What am I meant to conclude from the remark he made to me?
Q. I go to a local university and a shy guy in my class is friendly with me, gets a bit nervous , stares , seems jealous when another guy talks to me. One day while casually talking to me he said " I treat you with higher standards than anyone else her...
A. 30 November 2016: He treats you better. I guess the best person to have asked your question to was him. How did you respond? Did you not ask why he treated you different? It does sound like he likes you. All the signs are there, do you like him?... (read in full...)
He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...
A. 30 November 2016: Oh well that is horrible, at least you where true to yourself and you found out now. Hate when people use the love word to get what they want. At least your intuition was right. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop this destructive behavior?
Q. How can I get over the fear of being as ding up alone(not married with children) - this fear has lurked such insecurity that it had led me into the arms of men that are verbally abusive and self centered - I've had one bf since I was 19-25(self ...
A. 30 November 2016: To anon male, do you think god send someone to everyone? If that is the case then why is everyone not happily married? Why did I bother trying to get to know men if god had one lined up for me? I don't think it is fair to give the OP false hope that ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but I still have feelings for him
Q. Hello, I was seeing this guy who was very much into me since a month now. He used to tell me how much he loves me and how much he would want to work on our relationship. As I had exams, he told me that he would wait for me even if it means not tal...
A. 30 November 2016: You need to just learn that he was not as interested as he said he was. You believed his words and you saw passion in his eyes, but you just choose to see what you believed.
It is difficult but you need to accept that it is now over and move on w... (read in full...)
Giving it another chance
Q. Hi guys, I'm in a bad situation at the moment and have never felt so hurt before. I've never really trusted my partner 100% and I was correct for that as I found that he had the intention of sleeping with somebody behind my back which is extremel...
A. 30 November 2016: You have asked for advice on moving forward so that is what I am going to give you. I am not going to tell you what you should do as you don't want to hear that.
You need to sit down with him and ask him why he wants to be with you? He also need... (read in full...)
I think she might be cheating on me
Q. Hey i just like ask if im wrong in doing this. Me and my partner been together 13years. When we first met everything was great but now its so hard to just get a kiss or a cuddle from her for example. Last night she went to her pool game just lik...
A. 30 November 2016: It sounds to me like you have got stuck in a rut. You spend all your time with the children and doing the house work. Surely you must want to live your life more. You say you have no friends so why not change that, go out at the weekend and meet new ... (read in full...)
How do I finally get over her?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts I am a 26 year old man. I got married at 19 a large part of that was because we got pregnant. She was my first girlfriend. We were together 1 day short of 7 years, married a bit more than 5 of those. About 18 months ago she left...
A. 30 November 2016: You where both so young when you got married and had a child. Off course you are not going to get over that in a hurry. I am sorry that she left you for another man. It must be difficult. All I can say is it will get easier you just need to give it ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my husband's cousin
Q. My husband and I have been married for 6 months, but have been together for 9 years. Throughout our relationship my husband's cousin, we'll call him Tyler, has always been close with us. We have all always been great friends until he moved out of ...
A. 30 November 2016: You should keep your feelings to yourself. If you tell Tyler you will either make things awkward between everyone or else you will begin an affair which will all end it tears. You need to remember the vows that you took and spend your time working ... (read in full...)
My ex says she wants to be with me but won't leave her new boyfriend
Q. What should I do? I dated this girl for a long time , we broke up she got a new man and now has an baby she says she loved me and wants to start a family with me but I tell her when shes going to leave him and her answer is I dont know dont ask...
A. 30 November 2016: You need to let her go. She has no intention off leaving the father off her baby to start a family with you. My guess is that she wants you to show her attention on the side so she has best off both worlds. Be kind to yourself and cut the contact. ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I don't want to lose my relationship with my niece so soon
Q. Hi I know this is advice about love but I am writing about how much I love my niece and I think it is unfair that my brother in-law's parents get to see her on Christmas and I don't get to see her during Christmas at all. I help take care of her a...
A. 30 November 2016: I am getting to spend Christmas this year with my nieces and nephews, which is a first for me as they are in a different country so I am looking forward to that. I guess it is hard at Christmas not getting to see all your family, but cherish the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend made a online dating profile and when I confronted her she lied. Where to now, with this relationship??
Q. So I found out my girlfriend had made a online dating profile and when I confronted her she lied straight to my face about it and after a little while she finally admitted she made it. When I asked her why she made it she told me she was bored an...
A. 30 November 2016: How did you find out? Where you snooping?
The thing is you both need to try and fix this, if you are faithful then that is great but this relationship seems to have broken down. Is there still romance there? Passion? Or could it be that you have... (read in full...)
He's playing with my head! What more can I do?
Q. Hello. I'm after so advise,I'm very confused I was seeing this guy since 2010 with him moving in with me, anyway 2013 he moved to another place out of town with me saying I think he had met someone else,we carried on speaking never saw each other ...
A. 30 November 2016: It is not fair on you or your daughter to continue to see him. You know deep down that he is lying to you and that he is in a relationship and has a child. Stop being the other woman. Tell him it is over and block him from contacting you.... (read in full...)
He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...
A. 30 November 2016: Yip it is pretty clear that he wants sex. However if you tell him you want to wait then maybe he will wait and maybe it will show that he wants more than that. I mean he is human after all so don't shut him down to quickly. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my controlling dad?
Q. Dear Cupid, I feel like my dad is very controlling and it's uncomfortable for me being that I'm a 19 year old woman. He is someone who doesn't like people and has something negative to say about everything. He works from home so he is ALWAYS home ...
A. 29 November 2016: I think it is normal, he is struggling to see you grow up. It is hard to have your own space when you are still living in the family home so why not look to rent accommodation or ask your mum can you put a lock on your door for privacy. Try and be ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating but there's only one life
Q. I'm a guy who is happily married in a long term relationship. While sex can sometimes be an issue between us- she has a very low sex drive- and it's often a discussion/argument that we have, it's not so bad that I would consider ending the ...
A. 29 November 2016: Yeah go ahead and start the affair. Enjoy the sex, the lust, the secrecy and the passion. It will be great. Then it will change the mistress may develop feelings, start wanting more. You are happy where things are but she wants more, she is ... (read in full...)
Is she in the wrong more than me?
Q. I have been with C----- for 2 years, engaged for 5 month. Pretty solid relationship, love her to pieces but our communication is off, she yells at/threatens me to get her point across and I just plain ignore her to spite her. This situation is a ...
A. 29 November 2016: It is not a competition between you both about who is more wrong. It sounds like you both are the children. These petty arguments and trying to get better than one another need to stop before you even consider marriage. It is her family and it ... (read in full...)
Is my online boyfriend hiding something?
Q. i got this online boyfriend we never seen each other yet been in a relationship nearly 2months we always video call, phone call and chat. we exchange password before in instagram. 1st he trusted me his instagram and i get jealous to the girl he ...
A. 29 November 2016: Why have you both not went on a date after two months off online chatting? May I add it is only online chatting, he is not your boyfriend if you have never physically met him. He may have twenty different online girls.
It does sound like you are ... (read in full...)
I'd like to ask her out, should I text her again?
Q. Looking for advice on a woman I just met recently and really like. Text her last night and she replied a few times but didn't reply since last night then. How long should I wait to text her again or should I not text her at all if she doesn't text ...
A. 29 November 2016: Yip ask her straight out and hopefully she will give you an honest answer so you know where you stand. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He says he is too old for me
Q. Dear cupid, this I been talk to on okcupid he is very nice guy hes59 and I'm 47 we been talk over a month he ask me if move down here if I go out with him I say yes and now he's say he's to old for me but he still wants to move down here he ask me ...
A. 29 November 2016: I would be worrying about his mixed signals and the reason he feels he needs to move to be close to you. I think it is best to avoid this guy as something just doesn't add up.... (read in full...)
He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...
A. 29 November 2016: Did he say all he wants is sex? ... (read in full...)
He told me that he is falling in love with me but is he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. I've been friends and getting to know this guy for a month now. We hang out and he messages me everyday through text without fail. So two days ago we were texting because both of us were about to go to bed, before he says goodnight he say...
A. 29 November 2016: Just be honest with him, tell him that it is lovely to hear, but that it takes you a while longer to trust someone to let your guard fully down. If he does love you then he will respect your decision and honesty. If am going to be honest though I ... (read in full...)
How can I stop this destructive behavior?
Q. How can I get over the fear of being as ding up alone(not married with children) - this fear has lurked such insecurity that it had led me into the arms of men that are verbally abusive and self centered - I've had one bf since I was 19-25(self ...
A. 29 November 2016: Look OP god is not going to send someone just for you, that is not how life works, as if it was it would be much more a black and white world.
You are attracting the wrong guys because you are coming across as desperate. The moment you learn to l... (read in full...)
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