How can I make this work, with her? We both need to lose weight, but her motivation is waning.
Q. I want to be fit. I want that for my girlfriend too. So does she. She complains about how clothes look on her. She is very attractive but could be in better shape. Obviously, I’m on board. She is all talk but little action. I tried to make i...
A. 31 January 2017: If you want to break off the relationship because she is not losing weight and you are then that kinda makes you shallow. Did you not get with her for a reason? Is looks so important to you, do you not love her? Look it is your choice.... (read in full...)
I did the most stupid thing I've ever done. How to repair the damage? How can I make it up to him?
Q. Im an idiot for what i did . Theres 2 guys , one texts a lot and makes a lot of effort through texts the other could make me wait a few days for a reply . the one who texts me a lot i see a future with but he drags his feet wanting to spend ti...
A. 4 January 2017: For someone in your age bracket this sounds like a story coming from someone much younger. I am guessing these guys are in the same age range?
You are not dating this guy therefore you have no need to feel bad, you have done nothing wrong. To me h... (read in full...)
He is clearly lying, but why does he keep doing this? I don't know why??
Q. I'm so confused!! I was friends with my ex for 3 years and seeing him the last year. The break up was bad as I accused him of seeing someone. He repeatedly denied it but he had lied to me a couple of times previously (just white lies he said...
A. 4 January 2017: He does not want to be your friend. He is lying to you to avoid meeting up with you, this shows that he is no longer interested. He probably doesn't want to tell you outright. But what he is doing is giving you false hope and that is not fair. You ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid the kiss on the first date?
Q. Hi, I have a question and would appreciate your help. I'm not an American and this is the first time I'm dating here, 3 years after divorce. I'm 39 and my date is 42. He is single, indian and educated and moved to the US when he was so young. I'm ...
A. 4 January 2017: I am glad you where just honest with him, it is much more easier than that. Did you both have your date and how did it go?... (read in full...)
Messy situation with my housemate...we had sex and were almost a couple and now he doesn't want anything to do with me
Q. I need help! I've gotten myself into a really stupid situation with a guy and I have no idea how to behave with him! I moved into a new place around 7 months ago, sharing with three new housemates. I'd initially thought one of them (a guy) was...
A. 4 January 2017: You tried to see the best in him. When he was nice to you then you assumed he wanted to be in a relationship with you. He comforted you while sick and spent a day with you going to the cinema. Not exactly shouting out that he wants a relationship. I ... (read in full...)
Why has my Boyfriend changed his sexual style to a more conservative one, to the style he favoured previously? Could he be cheating?
Q. Hello friends. I have been in a long term relationship with my boyfriend. We have always had a good time experimenting with each other sexually. We have a good bond and have connected from the get go. And we have also had stellar chemistry and a gr...
A. 4 January 2017: I do understand why you are worried. But it sounds to me that he has probably been stressed if he has been busy and he just wanted some intimacy between you and him and no role playing. It sounds like he wanted it to be meaningful. I think you might ... (read in full...)
Can our relationship work? we have a baby on the way but the father of the baby has an addiction. Should I break up with him and move back with family?
Q. We have a baby on the way and he is addicted to marijuana. I had my own personal addiction to it myself but after realizing I was with child, I don't need it anymore. I want my child to have the extra money instead and to use it to benefit as a fam...
A. 4 January 2017: I can't see this working out. You have gave up the pot and wanting to make a life for you and your baby. But he doesn't seem to bothered. I mean he has other children so he should have stepped up when his first child was born. Am afraid it looks ... (read in full...)
I told him that I liked him but he just said that let's go with flow. Am I just a friend to him?
Q. I told one of my guy friend that I liked him but he just said that let's go with flow. From that day we started texting a lot. It's been 9 months.. I don't know where exactly we stand.. We talk and meet up sometimes but we haven't talk on this top...
A. 4 January 2017: I think you already know deep down that he is not interested romantically as if he was he would have told you he likes you also. It is clear he doesn't want to hurt you and thinks off you as a friend. ... (read in full...)
How can I make this work, with her? We both need to lose weight, but her motivation is waning.
Q. I want to be fit. I want that for my girlfriend too. So does she. She complains about how clothes look on her. She is very attractive but could be in better shape. Obviously, I’m on board. She is all talk but little action. I tried to make i...
A. 3 January 2017: It sounds like you have taken control off what you want. But are you sure she truly wants to lose weight? I mean most women do complain about how their clothes look on them but have no intentions off doing anything about it. You simply can only ... (read in full...)
The way he treats me makes me so confused. Can we develop our relationship?
Q. Hi all, I have met a guy on Tinder. He is an expat and will work in my home country for a few months. Yes, I had sex with him on a second time we met but we have not labelled our relationship or even set any rules and agreements between us two. ...
A. 3 January 2017: I am interested to hear what happened next? Have you heard from him?... (read in full...)
I like men but sometimes I want to see what it would be like to have a relationship with a woman also.
Q. I like men alot but I want to see what it would be like to date a woman since I once had a fantasy of my fourth grade teacher years ago in my mind. She had ginger hai I also would look for red haired women in the Internet and would kiss their ...
A. 3 January 2017: You don't need to tell your family anything unless off course you want to. I would simply just begin by chatting to some women who may be interested and see how it goes.... (read in full...)
If you are a parent or a carer of special needs child can you help advise me on any of my questions ? I am not asking for experts, just parents in a similar situation
Q. My severly disabled son has to go into residential care soon . We don't want this but he is very aggressive and they need to take him in to stabilise him because he is on too many medications and they think he will be better going to school and ...
A. 3 January 2017: Nobody in the residential care wants to be his mother. They will care for him the best that they can. I totally understand why you are finding it hard to let go, he is all you have known the last 14 years and it is hard for any parent to let go off ... (read in full...)
Should I continue this? Let him visit and spend more time together? Or is it sounding too unhealthy?
Q. This is a hard question for me to put out there because it involves a relationship I am in with someone I really like and care about. However, I have made so many unhealthy choices in my past and I don't want to do that anymore. I think some...
A. 3 January 2017: I understand why you are worried, but you only have one life and you cannot live it wondering what if. I say go for it. Allow him to visit take it slow and see how things go. ... (read in full...)
It's now 2/3 days, is he uninterested? Should I just leave it, or pursue him?
Q. Hi, I work with a guy I really fancy but was unsure if he was interested in me so I backed off. Co-workers have been trying to set us up for the past 6 months but I know he's incredibly shy. He's always asking where I'm going out at at the week...
A. 3 January 2017: It doesn't sound like he is interested. If he was shy then he would hide behind his phone. Flirting while drunk doesn't really stand for much. I would move on. If your co-workers have failed after 6 months, I would use that as a sign that it is not ... (read in full...)
Unsure what to do in this dating situation
Q. I've been seeing a girl for the past month or so. We have very similar ambitions, goals and interests and both really like each other. Currently our dates consist of dinner drinks and dog walks as well as long phone calls. We've met...
A. 3 January 2017: I think it is a lovely idea, however staying away together might be rushing it for her. It has only just been over a month, and the idea off spending a few nights alone with you might scare her a little. Maybe you should talk to her about it before ... (read in full...)
Did I make the correct decision ending the "fwb"?
Q. We only made out once. No sex. Nothing more than just kissing and touching to be honest. He was very affectionate (kissing forehead, hands, etc) We've been talking everyday for the past 4 months (but I knew him from like 7 yrs ago but only reconnec...
A. 3 January 2017: I think you should ask him what he meant. Talk to him and if you like him then tell him, be honest with him. ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to handle the situation with this guy
Q. Hello, So I have been seeing someone for past couple of weeks and every time we are together things are fine. We have had intercourse, we're the same age. He has a son and so I understand he needs time to be with his son and I give him that sp...
A. 3 January 2017: I don't think either off you are ready to date am afraid. I think you should end it and concentrate on yourself. You have had a rough time so be single for a while and learn to be independent. ... (read in full...)
My partner is very into camping and shoes no interest in getting to know my best friend at all! Advice?
Q. Hi. My partner and I have been together for just over two years (2 and a half years in March 2017).. My partner and I are both only children. I'm 23, partner is 22. My partner is fully into camping, 4wding. He goes with just me, or we go w...
A. 3 January 2017: How did New Years go? Are you sure this is the relationship for you?... (read in full...)
Go out on New Year's Eve alone? Is it safe?
Q. The last 5 years I've been single and primarily friendless so I've stayed in watching tv trying to convince myself I wasn't bored. This year I'm still single, but my friends are coupled or will be out of town and I just can't stand the thought of ...
A. 3 January 2017: I saw the exact same question posted yet it was by a female some time back. Word for word. Did you go out alone? ... (read in full...)
In a committed, passionate, loving relationship. Am I wrong for feeling 'put down' or like a 'one night stand'?
Q. Here are the basics in order to fully understand my feelings about this situation: I am a 35 yr old male and she is 34. We have been in a committed relationship for a year now. We have a what we call "remarkable" relationship that truthfully ...
A. 3 January 2017: It would upset me if my partner said that to me. Off course you are not going to carry on after a comment like that, it would dent any bodies confidence. She may have been in a rush as she had work, only she has the answers. ... (read in full...)
I'm dating but I'm also developing stronger feeling for another guy. Not sure what to do. Help, please?
Q. I started university in September and have formed a good group of friends. I have started to date one of the guys in the group privately and I know he has fairly strong feelings for me. However, I have been talking a lot with one of the other guy...
A. 3 January 2017: If you don't want to date guy one then end things. Don't just settle for someone because they have feelings for you, as he will be the one that ends up heartbroken. You need to decide what you want.
As for guy two, you are in dangerous terr... (read in full...)
How Long Do I Wait? Does he want a relationship?
Q. We have been talking for about 5 weeks now. We are about a 2 hours drive away from each other. We are not in a relationship, just been talking. He has already said he loves me we have sexted and we are planning on meeting up soon. I want to...
A. 3 January 2017: Sexting so soon and him telling you he loves you is a huge red flag. You barely know each other, he either wants a hook up or is going to be very clingy. You need to ask him and be prepared for him to use words to try and get a hook up. I would love ... (read in full...)
I feel fed up not knowing where I stand!
Q. I met a guy 4 years ago through a walking group. We were both interested in each other but for some reason we never got together. I told him I liked him and he had some sort of anxiety attack and panicked in front of me saying he wasn't interested ...
A. 3 January 2017: If he suffers from anxiety then letting someone new in might be difficult for him. However there does not seem to be much interest from his side, therefore I would move on and accept nothing is going to happen. ... (read in full...)
Are my reasons for not trusting her valid?
Q. I don't know if I should stay in my relationship. At times it is excellent she can be thoughtful, giving, and highly sexually charged and also will spend a great deal of time just making sure I'm okay, but I find it very hard to trust her she has a ...
A. 1 January 2017: I think you should follow your gut instinct. She may not cheat on you, but she is not doing a great job off reassuring you either. It sounds like she is very immature for her age and seeks attention from people. ... (read in full...)
I just found his sex doll, I’m upset! What do I do?
Q. I just found my boyfriend of 4 yrs silicone sex doll. I haven't had a chance to talk yo him about it bc his mom has been in the hospital but is now coming home. I can't hold it in much longer. I'm upset what do I do?...
A. 1 January 2017: I guess he has double standards if he asks you not to use any sex toys, just talk to him and tell him how you feel. ... (read in full...)
He's in a band and seems shy. Might he like me, or does he just see me as just a friend?
Q. hello i really like this boy he is in a band we met once when he invited me to watch them perform. he seemed nervous but when we talked he was calm an d when we took pictures he was so close...later in the evening he apologised for being silent c...
A. 1 January 2017: You don't really know so soon if someone likes you until you both get to know each other more. Is he older than you? Do you have company when going to see his band? Remember you need to keep yourself safe.... (read in full...)
I've been feeling anxious and I don't know why. I don't know what to do, any suggestions?
Q. Recently this past few months I've been feeling really really sad and I don't know how to fix that?? I am an honours student in university, I have a great life at home, I am well off financially, and I kinda have everything...not to toot my own h...
A. 31 December 2016: Are you close enough to a family member to talk to them about how you feel? Feeling sad is okay to admit and believe me it does help being able to talk to someone about it. If you don't have anyone you are close enough to then maybe there are groups ... (read in full...)
How could she have a three year sexual affair with this guy, and still have sex with me??
Q. I recently discovered that my wife has been having a sexual affair with a single friend of ours for the past three years, usually when I was at work.... he is single and has had girlfriends in this three year period..She knew this because he came ...
A. 31 December 2016: Have you sat down and spoke with her? Asked her what made her do it, how she could have sex with you both? Are you staying with your wife or have you thought off leaving?
In reality my next step would be to get a sti check if he was also slee... (read in full...)
I'm not going to stop seeing my LDR Bf because a friend doesn't like him. But how do I best handle the situation?
Q. I haven't been dating my boyfriend for very long. He treats me well, loves me and cares about me. We are long distance, so most of my friends have not met him. The thing is my best friend got offended by what he posted online because he has d...
A. 31 December 2016: Out of curiosity can I ask what it was he posted online so I can try and understand this more? If you don't want to share that information I totally understand and just go with what your heart tells you is right. ... (read in full...)
Why does he ask? Why does he keep showing an interest in my dating?
Q. My friend's husband always asks me about my dating every time I see him and seems quite enthusiastic when he asks. Just before they got married a mutual friend said in front of my friend how her husband wanted to date me before they got together...
A. 31 December 2016: Honestly I think he knows you have a crush on him and he is just trying to turn your focus to other men. I think you are holding on to what this mutual friend said because you used to have a crush on him as well. If he liked you in that way then ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is depressed. Is he likely to come back when he's cooled down?
Q. My boyfriend of a year dumped me because he thinks "he's too depressing" for me and he's in a bad place right now. I told him I was okay with it and I'd do anything to make him feel better if he just opened up a little, but he insisted we broke it...
A. 30 December 2016: It's great that you are open to the fact of wanting to make it work but you also need to be prepared for the fact that he doesn't. Yes he is using self pity and pushing you away. That is not fair on you either. Give him space and if he does not ... (read in full...)
How can I prevent my Aunty from showing me up in front of my boyfriend on Christmas Day? Title
Q. I've been with my partner for 6 years, and this will be the first time we are spending Christmas with my family. Though my boyfriend has met the rest of my family, this will be the first time he's meeting my aunty. She's actually a really nice pe...
A. 30 December 2016: She loves to get a reaction out off you so don't give her one. If she shows photos just ignore her, your boyfriend is not going to care. In fact he might enjoy seeing you at different stages off your life. Am afraid most families do have that one ... (read in full...)
I can't take any more with this man
Q. Help me please iam getting emontion abused. i have lost nearly 9 stone but he calls me fatty.wobbly and he knows iam hurt by it but laughts and carrys on.does a day go by when he never done it. I do everything for him.he dont seem to be happy unless ...
A. 30 December 2016: You need to leave this man. Think off your children and be strong for them. They will grow up thinking it is okay to abuse people like this. He cannot take your children without good reason. Go to a shelter and get help. ... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my friend's invitation
Q. If you have a friend who you havent seen for some years but who has made it quite clear that he wants sex with you although not exactly in those words, then it doesnt make sense to visit him in his home does it? I imagine its probably best to not v...
A. 30 December 2016: If he is hinting at sex then you have your answer that is what he wants. As the others have said meet in a public place if you are wanting to catch up and if not then don't bother. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's bisexual behaviour makes me want to call it quits
Q. Hi people! I'm seriously lost in a discussion with myself whether I accept it or not, but already when I'm doubting, I already know I don't... Anyhow. My girlfriend and her best friend are both bisexual and they have had a tight relationship as...
A. 30 December 2016: If you had a best friend who was a girl and you behaved like this do you think your girlfriend would find it appropriate? If the answer is no then leave. It shouldn't matter if it is a woman or a man. We should respect our partners and not do things ... (read in full...)
What should I do? I feel that he does not want any commitment in our relationship
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my current bf for 8 months. When we started he texted often, called often now we barely talk during week days. Though we meet on week ends he do his things like playing games (mostly) or reading about cars or watching shows a...
A. 30 December 2016: I think you know what you should do but you are scared to admit it. He has no intentions off changing. He wants a part time girlfriend but still do his own thing. I wouldn't be happy in a relationship like this anyway, it would not be enough for me. ... (read in full...)
Could this be the beginning of an emotional affair ?
Q. Could this be the beginning of an emotional affair?We've been married about five years. My husband is pretty open about most things, and I feel pretty much that I can trust him. The other day he called me over to see what a co-worker had posted o...
A. 30 December 2016: Honestly I don't see the problem here. Is it not okay for him to have friends? I am in the same situation I get married soon and have a good friendship with a guy at work who I text and talk about from time to time. However my man trusts me. He ... (read in full...)
Why has he turned cold?
Q. I've been friends with benefits with a guy for nearly three years. He not seen anyone else and nor have I. Over the coming months he been kissing my forehead, or holding my hand after sex. Recently we had sex and he we were talking and came over and ...
A. 30 December 2016: That's the thing with Fwb you should only do it if you feel you can handle it. It looks to me from your post that you have caught feelings for this man. You need to be honest with him and ask him where you stand. Don't end up hurting yourself even ... (read in full...)
I need to stop his demands
Q. Hi, i have been sharing for some time with a friend. He start looking for me and sharing with me. But it become a friend with benefits relationship, which i see was a mistake. Although he told me he isnt dating other girls, i dont believe him. A ...
A. 21 December 2016: The moment that you both had sex the friendship was destroyed. It will never be the same again now, you both crossed a line. I do agree you should stop now until you get feelings and end up heartbroken. You are doing the sensible thing. But remember ... (read in full...)
Was it wrong to raise a glass at the graveside?
Q. I am involved in a bit if an argument. A mutual family friend passed away aged 49 from breast cancer. On her 50th birthday some of the family (not her family) and friends took some champagne and celebrated her birthday around her grave. The took ...
A. 21 December 2016: I personally think it was a lovely idea. However when you said they took photos and put them on facebook it made me wonder why? I wouldn't want that to be all over social media. It should be a time for celebrating her life. Sharing stories with her ... (read in full...)
Why does he do this to me?
Q. I've been on and off with a guy I've liked for 2 years. But we haven't had sex. I have tried everything with this guy because I really am unsure of his intentions as he has told me he likes me but nothing's changed. He doesn't meet me when he is ...
A. 21 December 2016: Sweetie he is entertaining himself from your benefit. He has no interest in being with you. He is toying with your feelings and enjoying the attention that you give him. He loves the fact that some girl can't get enough off him and even offers him ... (read in full...)
I love her but don't know to what extent I love her
Q. I am facing a dilemma. Whether to marry, or to leave my girlfriend. I am inexperienced, and I need your opinion on what our relationship looks like to you, and what you think I should do. I also would like to hear what you think is important in a ...
A. 21 December 2016: I think you need to be sure if you are wanting to get married or not. Sorry but for me it would not be enough you wanting to marry me because it is part of my culture. It is clear to see that you are not ready for marriage. That is okay. It is clear ... (read in full...)
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