Should I tell my wife I've been visiting massage parlours?
Q. I'm a married man in my early 50s with a big secret. I've developed a habit of visiting massage parlours and receiving massages that end with sexual stimulation and orgasm. This started a few months ago and I love the excitement of headin...
A. 14 February 2017: Well I am glad to hear that you have stopped visiting them. Hopefully not telling her will work out for you.... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 31 January 2017: Great to hear your good news. Wishing you a happy future together.... (read in full...)
Can you be pregnant with negative test results?
Q. I had sex with a guy one night in September. I dont really remember what happened but i know we had sex. We used a condom but i am unsure if he secretly slipped it off or of the condom may have failed. It isvDecember now and my stomach looks ...
A. 16 January 2017: So how did you get on?... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 9 January 2017: Let us know how it goes and remember we are all here for you.... (read in full...)
Why did he tell me about his ex wife?
Q. I like a guy I work with and have been getting closer to him. We've known each other for a few years now but before I was very shy. We have a bit of an age difference so that made me a bit more hesitant as I wasn't sure if he would be interested. ...
A. 6 January 2017: Yeah it does sound like he is interested in you. He is sharing his past with you and opening up to you, not to make you jealous but so that you understand him more, and that he is single. If you like him then you should invite him out for lunch and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got distracted while texting me
Q. Please tell me if I should be pissed here. My bf and I were having a conversation by text and right in the middle of it, he disappears. Stops texting. So I texted him "u went away?" Then about 5-10 minutes later he replied "sorry I got distracted...
A. 6 January 2017: I am glad you let this go, because if you are this clingy then the relationship will never last, as he will get miserable and feel suffocated. ... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 6 January 2017: Off course you can't, many would feel the same as you. Either you are fully part off his life or not at all, it is not fair on you to be a part time girlfriend, I hope he does the right thing.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't include me in his birthday plans
Q. Is my boyfriend trying to distance himself from me? Or is he trying to break up with me slowly? My boyfriend is acting like a jerk and didnt invite me to his birthday celebration. We spent NYE together and everything was normal. He was ...
A. 5 January 2017: You need to ask him, two years is a long time so yes his behavior is very strange. You just need to say you saw the pictures and why has he been ignoring your messages. Let us know how you get on. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife I've been visiting massage parlours?
Q. I'm a married man in my early 50s with a big secret. I've developed a habit of visiting massage parlours and receiving massages that end with sexual stimulation and orgasm. This started a few months ago and I love the excitement of headin...
A. 5 January 2017: Do you think you will tell your wife? ... (read in full...)
We've Texted, met, dated. What do you think is going on with him? 3
Q. Meet this guy 40 like me, tons of stuff in common brillent chemistry. We've been talking for about 5wks now, been on 2 dates. He calls me not only to set up dates but to talk. He texts every morning to wish me a good day etc. He texted me yesterda...
A. 5 January 2017: I think you need to stress less about the little things, these are what causes worrying. Just go with the flow and enjoy spending time with him, it looks like it is going in the right direction, don't worry about all the details.... (read in full...)
In just 2 days? How can someone do that - fall out of love and become so cold to someone in such a short period of time?
Q. Hi guys. Glad to be sharing my first post here with you - hopefully you can offer some perspective on what has been an incredibly difficult week... Apologies for how long this is likely to be - I want to make sure that I get as much detail in ...
A. 5 January 2017: I feel for you, such a terrible thing to happen. I get how you are feeling, it leaves you in almost a state of shock. She is not a nice person. If she was she would have explained face to face. She took the cowards way out. My guess is that her ... (read in full...)
I am no longer happy with my BF. what should I do?
Q. I've been with my partner for 18 months, and after 8 months I moved into his parents house after moving out of my family home. (my step sister was kicked out and needed somewhere to live). We've recently started renting a flat together and since mo...
A. 5 January 2017: You need to talk to him about it. No point in just giving up the relationship without trying to work on it. You need to do up a rota where you both do your equal shares off cooking and cleaning. Tell him how stressful it has been for you. Also you ... (read in full...)
Are my dreams of him significant?
Q. i have reoccurring dreams about my ex-boyfriend who left me after 12 years and married someone else but always called and drop by unexpected. he passed away 3 years ago and I still have dreams about seeing him and his wife together. a few days ...
A. 5 January 2017: I think you are dreaming about him because you still think about him a lot and he consumes a lot off your thoughts. It is hard when someone leaves you and you still love them. You need to bury these feelings in the past now and move on with your ... (read in full...)
Can I trust this long-distance love?
Q. I have a long distance relationship and the guy is coming to visit me this weekend... I'm having doubts about our whole relationship... He's been acting strange I'm honestly unsure about where I stand. I mean he's a popular guy and he'll make ...
A. 5 January 2017: When you say long distant relationship, do you mean you are both exclusive? How often do you both meet up and see each other? Have you been together long and do you plan on closing the distance between you soon? These are all important questions to ... (read in full...)
Why in the world can't I move on?! ?
Q. I have been through a couple of serious breakups in my life but for some reason the one that happened recently has seemingly destroyed me. I dated someone for a very short period of time albeit knowing him for over 12 years. We were only together...
A. 5 January 2017: You will move on, but you need to allow yourself that time to heal. He cannot just come visit you. There needs to be a strict no contact rule so that you have a chance off moving on.
He really doesn't know what he wants. He likes the chase but got ... (read in full...)
What can I do? My mother wants me to keep secrets, and her abusive behaviour towards me upsets me.
Q. I've had a rocky relationship with my mother ever since I was little. I try my best to act civil and not let it show how hurt I was about how she treated me when I was younger. Thus she believes we have a good relationship and she has no clue how...
A. 5 January 2017: Take no notice off that first comment, you get people on here who are hateful instead off helpful.
You done the right thing telling your dad. She should not be teaching you to lie, or trying to black mail you. I am sorry that you have to put up w... (read in full...)
I've wasted 20 years trying to be good enough.
Q. I am soon to be 50. I have beautiful children and a low income in a job that is not a career. Have always had a turbulent relationship with both my parents. My mother died recently and my father became manipulative and abusive towards me - he is ...
A. 5 January 2017: Off course it is going to be difficult for you, we all want our dads to love us. Even though he was physically abusive you still want him to apologize and tell you he loves you. Although I cannot see that happening any time soon. Therefore you are ... (read in full...)
Is my ex looking to reconcile, or just hoping to being friends?
Q. Ex gave me two missed calls on the 29th of Dec. He claimed it was accidental. So I didn't react thinking it was genuine mistake. But he wished me a happy new year, and we ended up texting for about an hour. Funny thing about the text was we we...
A. 5 January 2017: Christmas is always a lonely time, and he spent the last seven being in a relationship with you, so yeah am guessing it was a lonely time for him. However try not get your hopes up if you have already told him your views on marriage changed. Just go ... (read in full...)
Wedding is booked. But groom has cold feet. He's 40 and is fearful of commitment. What should I do?
Q. Hi We are due to get married in just a few weeks time. A number of days ago, my fiancee has said to me he has cold feet about the wedding and is overcome with nervousness and fear about the day itself, growing up and getting married. We are ...
A. 5 January 2017: How did things turn out for you? ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I'd like to watch him masturbate
Q. I have a fantasy and I am not sure how to approach my boyfriend about it. I don't want him to think I'm weird/something wrong with me or to embarrass him. I know it is natural for men to masturbate and I have no problem with him doing it. However, ...
A. 5 January 2017: Try not to over think it, you are probably building it up more in your head than it actually will be. While being intimate just whisper in his ear what you want. ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with him? Should I say something to him?
Q. I have a friend who claims he wants to be more than friends We once went on a date 2 years ago but for some reason ill never know he chickened out meeting up again . Fast forward to now he says hes sorted his head out and knows what he wants . ...
A. 5 January 2017: Make a go off what exactly? You two need to get to know each other face to face before even thinking about making a go off anything, a lot changes in two years. He is single therefore no harm in online dating. It seems he is all words and no actions ... (read in full...)
Waiting for a proposal for 3 years and then the ring was not to my taste. Am I worrying about things that matter in this situation?
Q. Iv been waiting over 3 and a half years for a proposal for a wedding After much nagging about marriage I got a proposal with a 219 pound argos ring when he earns over 20 000 per annum which shows no saving as he bought even this on a per monthly ...
A. 4 January 2017: I don't think you both should be getting married, it doesn't sound to me like you are ready. Going to your dad just shows you have no respect for your partner, your poor boyfriend, he choose that ring, it symbolizes love and marriage not the cost. ... (read in full...)
Why tell me about this other girl when he knows how I feel? We live in different countries
Q. My online friend recently changed his bio from in a relationship to single after 3 weeks . I asked him about it and he said that they didn't have social media so that was why. But earlier that week he told me that he wasn't going to tell me their ...
A. 4 January 2017: He does not want you developing feelings for him. You need to remove him from your life. If you are having issues with mental health then he really is not going to help as he likes to play mind games. Stop speaking to strangers online, block all ... (read in full...)
How do I tell a sexting creep I'm not interested without hurting him.
Q. Hi every one, I need help to tell him I'm nit interested. I had a one night stand about 5 months ago, and have been texting him since. But he has tried sexting me for a few weeks now, I keep trying to change the subject, but he's not getting ...
A. 4 January 2017: I can't help but feel that you have led him on here, where you clear with him that it was a one night stand and didn't mean anything to you? Look you have to be honest with him because it sounds like he is interested in you, really you cannot call ... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting to the news that my Gf of 8 months failed to tell me (until very recently) that her friend was also her ex ?
Q. My gf of 8 months and i have been hitting it off great, discussing issues that come up. She recently informed me that she had dated one of her friends-- who we've both hung out with at parties on a lot of special events, ie birthdays etc. I was ...
A. 4 January 2017: I think you are over reacting. It is more than likely she sees him as a friend and did not want it to be awkward so just didn't mention it to you. I am glad to hear talking about it is making it easier for you. Remember try not give her a hard time ... (read in full...)
How can I meet this guy?
Q. So there was this guy I fancied and asked him for a drink but he ignored me....... anyway I'm over him now but just discovered a friend of his. He was on a the to series first dates and I had this instant attraction to him when I watched it just ...
A. 4 January 2017: You could try mailing him and asking for his number? But don't be disappointed if he doesn't reply. ... (read in full...)
My husband is constantly looking at other women and doesn't even try to hide it
Q. My husband constantly looks at other women not a slight glance a full look , and repeatedly looks at same woman if we are out on a social event . I feel very upset by this as surley the woman in question can see that he is with me yet still looking ...
A. 4 January 2017: Have you spoke to him about this. Next time he does it speak to him LOUDLY and ask darling why are you staring at her when I am right here and give him a big smile. ... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 4 January 2017: He should never have ghosted you a year ago. He should have maned up and told you the truth. However here you are a year later and still feeling left out. It is not fair something has to change. I am well aware teenage girls can be hard work, but ... (read in full...)
I hate being alone and will do almost anything so that I am not
Q. A few weeks ago I posted a question about being reallyyyyyyy sad all the time I am an honours student in university, I have a great life at home, I am well off financially, and I have everything I need (not to toot my own horn but I have a ver...
A. 4 January 2017: I remember your last post. You should go and talk to your doctor if you feel it is taking over your life. You could have depression or some sort off anxiety which Therapy could help with. ... (read in full...)
Does he possibly still like me? Is it normal behaviour to spend Xmas with your ex and not with a child he fathered?
Q. Me and my ex split in November 2013 due to him leaving for a new job then couple months later me finding out he met someone he knew and having a kid with her. Which I've asked many times but he will always denie anything. Anyway Feb this yr he r...
A. 4 January 2017: I think it is a poor show that he could not be bothered spending Christmas with his child. It could be that he was not allowed if they have broken up. I am not sure if he has feelings for you. He obviously just wanted some company at Christmas. My ... (read in full...)
Does a bruise on my boyfriend's stomach mean he is cheating?
Q. My boyfriend came home with a noticeable bruise to the right of his belly button last night and this concerns me. We have had rough sex many times but not recently. I asked him where he got it and he said he has no idea and just noticed it himself ...
A. 4 January 2017: I get bruises all the time and I never know where they come from. I would be horrified if my partner accused me off cheating because of this. Honey I think you need to work on your own issues. Have you always been insecure in relationships or does ... (read in full...)
He is two different boyfriends in one. Mr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. He's making me feel scared. what should I do?
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A. 4 January 2017: He is an abuser. At the beginning he tried to hide his feelings well but now he feels he has you where he wants you he can lash out. Believe me when I tell you this will only get worse. He will keep going until he rapes you and possibly beats you to ... (read in full...)
What do I do? Don't want to split up. Yet also don't want a Bf who behaves like a cheater 2.
Q. hiya everyone me and my fiance have been together for 3 years. A few month ago he started to add women on facebook the women he added were the type of women he said he would like as a girlfriend. I asked him why he was adding them (he hardly uses ...
A. 4 January 2017: Yeah so he is basically lying to your face. Not a good sign. Have you both a date set to get married? Could he be having doubts about this?
I understand that you don't wanna break up with him, but do you want to enter a marriage with someone who ... (read in full...)
A friend has a crush on a guy. I would like to see them become a couple. Or should I help her to get over him?
Q. Hi, My problem is that my best friend is obsessed with her crush and I am obsessed with getting them together. All we both do is talk about this GUY. My friend's obsession is quite understandable because she had a breakup and was very dep...
A. 4 January 2017: I guess you just want to see your friend happy, which is lovely but it is also not healthy to obsess over one guy who might not even be interested in her. You both need to find something else to do with your time. Try new things, meet new people and ... (read in full...)
Why is this happening? He has no time for me. I am fed up and ready to just walk away!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for four years now we have three girls together and now we are having problems because he doesn't involve me in any part of his life what so ever. He doesn't invite me out anywhere when he goes out with his...
A. 4 January 2017: Three children in four years is a big change for most people at your age. Perhaps he is feeling left out of the picture or else he is not ready for the family life. Have you tried talking to him and telling him how you feel?
You are both pare... (read in full...)
Do you think my ex is deliberately calling me on purpose? Is he seeking my attention? Or is it likely that the calls were an accident?
Q. We were together for 7 years, and broke off 4 months ago. He missed call me today (on social media) at 8am. And I texted "u called?" He said it was accidental. So I didn't reply. Then he missed call again at 130pm. I texted this ":/" Then h...
A. 4 January 2017: Yeah he is looking for your attention. It is quite hard to mistakenly call someone let alone twice in one day. If he cannot be a man and just talk to you then I wouldn't bother with his silly games.... (read in full...)
He lies about money, I am fed up with being his doormat!
Q. I would love your opinions please on whether I am being unfair or judgmental. Me and my husband have been together for 15 years. Over the years I have caught him out in lies over money. About five years ago his aunt passed away, I knew she had left...
A. 4 January 2017: Honestly this would really hack me off. Even white lies can cause uproar in a marriage. I wonder why he feels the need to lie. He then gets defensive which is even more annoying. You must have the patience off a saint.
Maybe if you gave us a bit ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I'd like to watch him masturbate
Q. I have a fantasy and I am not sure how to approach my boyfriend about it. I don't want him to think I'm weird/something wrong with me or to embarrass him. I know it is natural for men to masturbate and I have no problem with him doing it. However, ...
A. 4 January 2017: So how did the weekend go? Did it work?... (read in full...)
Is he not interested or just bad at texting?
Q. Recently I've been talking to a guy, we live a long distance from each other so our main form of communication is texting. At first we texted frequently and the conversation flowed. However after a few weeks he kept taking longer and longer to ...
A. 4 January 2017: He doesn't seem to be interested Sweetie. The thing is he texted after a few days as you showed him no interest. He probably likes to chat to you now and again but nothing more. If you are looking to date, try looking closer to home. ... (read in full...)
Can you be pregnant with negative test results?
Q. I had sex with a guy one night in September. I dont really remember what happened but i know we had sex. We used a condom but i am unsure if he secretly slipped it off or of the condom may have failed. It isvDecember now and my stomach looks ...
A. 4 January 2017: Did you get your doctors appointment moved forward? Also get checked for STI's if this was a one night stand. It could just be bloating and worry. If you cannot remember much due to alcohol or drugs then allow this to be a wake up call that these ... (read in full...)
He is moving too fast, talking children, houses and marriage. He already has three kids.
Q. I need some advice I met this guy years ago down the pub via mutual friends he admitted he liked me never felt that same way. He then stopped speaking to me due to new gd etc and now has 3 kids with her who is now an ex September those yr he sees ...
A. 4 January 2017: Please drop all contact with him. Protect yourself and your daughter. This man is not all that meets the eye. Nobody talks about long term goals and tells their family you are their girlfriend when you both are not even dating. Honestly I would ... (read in full...)
I've only had one night stands or FWB ... how do I ask a girl on a date?
Q. Hi guys, I've never had a girlfriend before or been on a date up to yet, more because I've been happy being single rather than an inability to speak to girls. Basically my experience with girls has been one night stands and a few fwbs. However...
A. 4 January 2017: Just approach the girl you like and ask her would she like a drink? Then just let the casual conversation flow. If she says no simply smile and say okay you just wanted to say hello and get to know her a bit better.... (read in full...)
What hope is there for a boyfriendless virgin? I think about sex, a lot. What can I do?
Q. Hi so I'm 17 and I'll be 18 this following year. Whilst I've had "situations" or issues with guys I've never had a boyfriend and never had sex. There was a time where I was close to sleeping with a guy I did not even want to be my boyfriend, bu...
A. 4 January 2017: Keep being mature and hold out for someone special. You are still quite young so I don't see the big rush. I understand that your hormones are probably driving you crazy and it is natural to want to explore. But love and sex are closely connected. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for men to move on so quickly?
Q. Hi, I need some advice. I was in a relationship with a guy for one year. We had a great relationship until September this year then we started to argue because his behaviour changed towards me and I also fell out with my best friend because I ...
A. 4 January 2017: I think you are better off breaking ties with him. You obviously don't trust him therefore just tell him no more contact. ... (read in full...)
I did the most stupid thing I've ever done. How to repair the damage? How can I make it up to him?
Q. Im an idiot for what i did . Theres 2 guys , one texts a lot and makes a lot of effort through texts the other could make me wait a few days for a reply . the one who texts me a lot i see a future with but he drags his feet wanting to spend ti...
A. 4 January 2017: For someone in your age bracket this sounds like a story coming from someone much younger. I am guessing these guys are in the same age range?
You are not dating this guy therefore you have no need to feel bad, you have done nothing wrong. To me h... (read in full...)
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