Why would he? Potential date seems too much in a hurry to meet
Q. Hey all . Ive started online dating a month ago and been talking to a guy at the beginning he took his time getting to know me but suddenly he seems to want to meet fast like the world is going to end and he has to cram it in . Im careful and take...
A. 28 November 2016: Thanks for the update, glad to hear it went well, all the best AH.... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 28 November 2016: I am sorry that you have had to go through this. The only positive thing is you have had a lucky escape, I am glad you have finished with him, and I hope you reported him for the attack. Allow all your family and friends to help you during this ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to avoid going out with me? Or just not interested?
Q. First I would like to give a little background on the situation (please bear with it as it is going to be long). Me and this girl in my class have been talking for a month and i liked her.A few days ago we decided to go for a movie on this sunday. ...
A. 25 November 2016: It sounds to me like she is enjoying the attention that you are giving her. She is just out off a relationship so she probably wants time to get over that, but also you are a clear distraction for her. Don't allow yourself to get hurt.... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are doing the right thing?
Q. Every now and again I still miss my ex, I love her which I hate to admit but I dont want her back. I feel like its having a child who just made you so angry but you still cant help loving them. I am in a new relationship and love my gf, just gone...
A. 25 November 2016: you are with someone now for five years and you are still thinking off an ex?! Really? Gosh that is a long time and must be simply horrendous to be thinking off someone all this time. You said you stayed single a few years but you are not sure you ... (read in full...)
Should my partner go to a family function? They don't approve of our relationship and I cannot go
Q. I am in a same sex relationship for three years now. When i met my partner i came out to my family and friends. My partner was in an abusive relationship and left it to be with me. We were friends for years first. When her family first me me thin...
A. 25 November 2016: However difficult this is for you it must be even more harder for her to have to deal with. Your own family being hateful to you is very hurtful. I think you need to tell her it is her decision to make. Support her in anyway that you can. Yes in an ... (read in full...)
What does my best friend want from me? He is married but keeps asking for a secret relationship
Q. He is married for 7 months. And he wants me to be in secret relationship with him. We are close friends since very long time and back in our college days we used to like each other not genuinely but just like crush on each other. We got so ...
A. 24 November 2016: Simply put he loves his wife but he wants some fun with a girl who will let him. Now you need to ask are you okay with having sex with a married man who has no feelings for you or cares about how you feel?... (read in full...)
My dad's new partner won't let him have a relationship with me. is she insecure?
Q. He cheated with her on my mother!!! Then he left her for my mother after 4 weeks of being with her and dumping my mum. Everytime me and my dad arrange to spend time together she seems to put a stop to it. My dad has to call and text me secretly ...
A. 24 November 2016: Eugh he needs to see that you are more important than she is. She probably doesn't trust him because he is a cheater. Maybe she is jealous off your relationship. Either way he needs to get his priorities right. She seems to be controlling and that ... (read in full...)
Should I have to beg this man to see me?
Q. Hi. I would really appreciate some objective advice as I am feeling very confused and stressed. I started seeing a guy 4 months ago. It was going well until he met my 25 yr old daughter who took an instant dislike to him and made it clear ...
A. 24 November 2016: Have you met these relative that he lives with or is it him always coming to your place? Something sounds dodgy with this guy. I mean we all need to work, but nobody works 24/7. If he really wanted to see you and spend time with you then he would. I ... (read in full...)
Stuck in the middle and not sure what to do with holidays and family
Q. This Christmas my boyfriend's family have very kindly invited us (me and my two children) to their house for 3 days. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and he is really great with my two boys,and he is a fantastic dad to his own daug...
A. 24 November 2016: Aww bless your boys they have hearts off gold. Yes off course they don't want to see there dad lonely. They are so innocent and sweet. He is just being awkward and wanting to paint you as the bad guy. Explain to your boys that santa will be coming ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated but I want him back..
Q. I have been in a 2 year relationship, and after the first year I would catch my boyfriend trying to talk to girls once in a while. He always apologised and used excuses such as "i was bored" "i was just trying out my game again" "it dont mean ...
A. 24 November 2016: I am glad that you have blocked him as he will continue to play mind games with you. The only good thing this guy has done for you is tell you that he won't get back with you. You are weak at the moment because you love him and miss him. Yes ... (read in full...)
My friend has blown hot and cold for three years. What is going through her mind?
Q. This happened a while back. In fact, it's kind of been something that's happened over the years. At the age of 18 I had a part time job at a restaurant and was acquainted with a girl there my age. I wasn't at all attracted to her but she seemed very ...
A. 24 November 2016: Hmm she gained confidence through a drink then when sober her guard came back up. It is clear that she had the hots for you. ... (read in full...)
Truse issues, especially with older men. How can I find a healthy balance and deal effectively with this pressure?
Q. I'm starting to have trouble trusting men, especially older men. Being in a work environment where I am usually the only woman in the department, and a still semi-young one at that, I tend to get the attention from older colleagues. I'm sure mos...
A. 24 November 2016: Is there anyone above HR that you can report to? Your story makes me so angry. If not then go find a lawyer and take out a case. This behavior is not acceptable and you should not have to tolerate it. Believe me there are a lot of decent men out ... (read in full...)
Fiance issues. What should I do? What needs to change?
Q. MODNOTE two issues concerning fiancé combined. . . . . . . My fiancé a couple of years ago, made some very bad decisions and cheating on me many times as well as lied, hid a 2nd phone to be able to chat with other women, and was sleeping wit...
A. 24 November 2016: I don't think a professional will tell him that he has been going around things the wrong way, I would imagine they would tell you that you have. People do forgive and forget all the time and build up trust again. But you can't. You are not able to ... (read in full...)
Should I keep talking online to "her" if I have doubts about "her" ?
Q. I made friends chatting with a 'woman' online. Due to a bug, her e-mail address was revealed to me. (She doesn't know this.) The email address is a male's name. I'm just curious-- what do you think the chances are that this is a woman sharing an ...
A. 24 November 2016: Hmm sounds dodgy to me. ... (read in full...)
She broke her virginity with my brother and friend
Q. Well this happened Saturday during her 18th Birthday celebration, after I left for the night. anyways she had a threesome with one of my best friends and my younger brother and lost her virginity as well. (they did it about four times that night), ...
A. 24 November 2016: Please follow all the advice you have been giving. Also get a new best friend, and have a word with your brother. He should have your back and well he doesn't. What age is your brother? I am sorry you have had to deal with this, how horrible. But ... (read in full...)
How much should I be involved with friends' love life?
Q. As I grow older I recognise things that make me hurt and angry. One of those things that trigger me is when good friends stay friends with people I dont think are nice people and are mean, Another is friends dating people i dont like, also when ...
A. 24 November 2016: My opinion is that you are a drama queen and you make a big thing out off everything so all the attention is on you. ... (read in full...)
Does he really still care for me?
Q. So I'm trying to figure out if my ex still has feelings for me... We broke up just over 2 months ago, we were together for four month and up until the last 3 weeks our relationship was amazing, we broke up because he had decided he was too busy to ...
A. 24 November 2016: Hmm I did read your last post, thanks for the extra information. He broke up with you, therefore I feel if he wanted to get back with you he would have made the move. You emailed him, you say by mistake but we all know that it wasn't. So this shows ... (read in full...)
What's my best stategy?
Q. I want to ask a girl out but i dont now how to because i want to do it in a creative way since i wont be able to do it in person for a long time....
A. 24 November 2016: You want to ask a girl out to do what? Sit talking on the internet to each other for a long time?
Look I get you must like this girl, but a relationship does involve two people actually spending time together. Long distance is hard and it usua... (read in full...)
Won't tell me how he feels
Q. Do actions speak louder than words? He my new guy in my life about 5 months is not one for being open about his feelings. I took a break from talking to him because I felt he didn't want to talk about us and our relationship. He said it takes a lot ...
A. 24 November 2016: You could get a guy who tells you he loves you, sweet talks you all day but never shows it. Sweetie believe me actions are so much more important than words. I know it can be frustrating but some men really don't know how to talk about feelings. If ... (read in full...)
My crush. He's 20, I'm 17. Should I wait 2-3 years for him or not?
Q. I'm a 17-year-old Asian international student. And I'm having a crush on a guy for a few months who is 20 right now. Actually he already had done some sexual stuffs with me although we're not in a relationship. Days ago I confessed to him...
A. 24 November 2016: No am afraid he is just with you for a bit off fun. He has rated you and average girl and he likes hooking up with you but if he wanted to be with you then he would. Am afraid this guy has no feelings for you at all. Please don't wait for him or do ... (read in full...)
Am I falling for the same type of man all over again?
Q. So I've been single for over a year, not been near anyone since and have been working on myself. My last breakup I realised was an entire lie... A lie which ended in a court case for me ex for assault... He should of got ABH if not attempted murder ...
A. 24 November 2016: He is more than likely not the same as your ex. But off course you are going to be cautious. It will take a lot for you to be able to date again and trust someone. Things take time, but it will be longer for you because off your past.
If you alre... (read in full...)
I need to feel confident again!
Q. I have just come out of a lesson long term relationship(8 years). My ex is older than me by 15 years and we barely ever had sex, or even kissed for that matter! We certainly never kissed with tongues! My problem is that I have lost all confide...
A. 24 November 2016: I am sorry that there was no affection in your relationship. I doubt age had anything to do with it though, maybe you both where just not sexually compatible.
If there is someone you like then that is a good focus. There is no reason why you cann... (read in full...)
How do I get my ex to meet up?
Q. How do I get my ex to ask to meet up, and how do I know if there is any hope of being more than friends? My ex and I broke up 2 months ago, we were together for four months, and we havnt spoken since the breakup. . So I accidentally ema...
A. 23 November 2016: hmm it was such a short relationship and after two months off no contact you need to come to terms that he might actually be over it. I think you need to remember why you both broke up and ask has that issue been solved? If it has then sure talk to ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure of the meaning behind what my girlfriend's cousin is writing to me
Q. I am English, and my girlfriend is originally Polish. We went over to Poland in July to meet her family. She introduced me to her second cousin who is our age, who was pretty good at English. At first she said she was shy talking English and would ...
A. 23 November 2016: Yes you could be right, it could be her personality mixed with the fact that she does not have English as her first language. I have had this a few times where people have made me uncomfortable until I have realized that this is the only way they ... (read in full...)
The professor and the student...are we bad for having sexy fun?
Q. I am not going to lie and say I regret this or that this is anything serious. He works at my university as a professor, and yes i am a student there. However, he is in a completely different department to me. He is 38 I am 22 and our university...
A. 23 November 2016: Tricky one, be honest with yourself is it just fun to you? Really? If it was you would not be writing on here about it, neither would you be worrying about what your parents thought, if it was just a private bit of sex.
If I had to guess you have... (read in full...)
Why would he? Potential date seems too much in a hurry to meet
Q. Hey all . Ive started online dating a month ago and been talking to a guy at the beginning he took his time getting to know me but suddenly he seems to want to meet fast like the world is going to end and he has to cram it in . Im careful and take...
A. 23 November 2016: It has been a month, maybe he has just thought to himself it is time and now he wants to rush it before he or you change your mind. Go for it meet him at the weekend in a public place and see how it goes. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Do I confront her about her ex?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I've been seeing this girl for about a month. We were set up through a mutual friend. I've grown to really like this girl. But when we first got together she told me she had went about with a guy who was a bit of a...
A. 23 November 2016: She has not fully let go off the past yet, because if she had then she would not still be allowing him to contact her. I think after a month you are demanding a bit to much from her. She did tell you she wants nothing serious, you are not in a ... (read in full...)
Did I give this much older man the wrong signals by giving him my phone number?
Q. I made a bad mistake. I have been in the US for few years but don't know much about dating as I moved here with my ex husband.I got divorce 2 years ago and I have never dated here and no interest to do so even I get lots of attention. Here is the p...
A. 23 November 2016: It sounds like he does like you. If he insists on dinner again simply just saw No I would prefer lunch as dinner to me is a bit like a date and I don't want to give you the wrong idea.... (read in full...)
If you haven't kissed in a long time is it sort of weird to kiss?
Q. HELP! Please. I 'm going on a second date with a guy, and I'm 22 and although I've kissed people in the past it's been a while since I've kissed someone - more than a year- ( let alone sex haha I think I'm a virgin again, no seriously, anything ...
A. 23 November 2016: It will all come back to you. I guess you are a natural worries. Go with the flow, don't so anything you don't want to. Try starting with giving him a peck instead off a full blowing kiss and take it from there. If sex is painful you probably need ... (read in full...)
Why does my g/f want to go to planned parenthood to get checked out if she's a virgin?
Q. My girlfriend and me are both 15. She said she got her girl thing at 12 but she wants to go to planned parenthood to get looked at. Even her East Orthodox mama said no since she's a virgin and doesn't have to. I'm Pentecostal and I agree with her ...
A. 23 November 2016: So I am guessing from your update you are in fact a guy? Look my guess is that your girlfriend might have some questions she wants answered. She might have a kidney infection or a Urinary infection. Or she may want to ask some private questions. I ... (read in full...)
How do I turn down friends that wish to date me?
Q. Ok my problem is pretty simple - I am recently out of a long term relationship and since I've been single, a few guys I know (old work colleagues, classmates etc) have contacted me via Facebook and asked me out. Unfortunately I've not been attracted ...
A. 23 November 2016: I get that it can be awkward with friends. I would just tell them that you are not over your last relationship and you are not in the right place at the moment to have a date but you do like them as a friend.... (read in full...)
My online girlfriend cheated on me.
Q. So, my girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 years, because of her age and my age we never told our family the truth...that and we live a thousand miles a part and have only gotten to see each other twice. Well a month ago my girlfrien...
A. 23 November 2016: Cheating is not something you do by mistake. It is something you do by choice. If you want to accept that then that is also your choice. But for me it would be a deal breaker. What age is this girl? Have you met her before? ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time getting over her
Q. I've posted about this female in questions a few times before. Basically I'm having a really hard time getting over her and I'm questioning my sanity and what else I can do to get over how I'm feeling. To cut a long story short, a FWB that didn't ...
A. 23 November 2016: No point feeling pathetic over it. You may not have been in a relationship but that does not mean that you didn't care or that you still do. People catch feelings all the time, it is not pathetic. It will get easier. Hopefully you will feel much ... (read in full...)
Sexting and video chat is not enough for me ...
Q. So me and this guy talk but he lives like almost 3 hours away from me, and me and him sext all time but it's just not fun for me anymore... I feel bad because we can'r see each other and sexting is basically all we have... How do I make things fun ...
A. 22 November 2016: what is stopping you both travelling to see each other? It is a flat out you can't which makes me think that neither off you are at a position where you can visit each other. If that is the case you need to ask what happens in the future? You cannot ... (read in full...)
I've taken him back 3 times despite him having broken my trust, now I'm pregnant after a miscarriage and I feel he's straying again
Q. I keep taking my boyfriend back time and time again after he cheats on me or hurts me, and I really don't know why. At first I took him back because I generally felt I was to blame. I'm saying it was my fault, but I did a few stupid things at the ...
A. 22 November 2016: It is never your fault for someone else cheating. If he had a problem he should have spoke to you, if you refused to talk then he should have ended things not ran to the nearest girl with a skirt on. Am sorry but he is adding to your mental health ... (read in full...)
He's so confusing and I don't know what to do..
Q. I am very confused; this is going to sound like a film but im in love with my best friend and I don't know what to do! So we've been friends since January and we've spoken everyday for the past nine/ten months but in September I told him how I f...
A. 22 November 2016: This sounds like a dilemma a 13 year old would have. He needs to grow up and stop playing games with you. You are suffering enough battling with anxiety you do not need him messing with your head on top off it.
I hope you are getting help for your... (read in full...)
Am I his re-bound girl?
Q. He was in a long term relationship which broke down maybe 4-5 months ago. we have started talking online these past few weeks, but have been on each others social media pages since before the break-up ( just as friends or support) He knows i am her...
A. 22 November 2016: 4 or 5 months ago means that yes it is still fresh and you are a support to him. But it does not mean that he is not ready to move on with his life. Don't expect to much, just go with the flow and see what happens. If you feel you are getting ... (read in full...)
Hard to read the sjgnals
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I have a lady fried with whom my relationship was completely platonic.I found her attractive when we first met and she is a good person. We hardly communicate and when we do it's about work related stuff. In the past week, o...
A. 22 November 2016: It seems she is probably looking for a friend, I suggest doing what honeypie says and see what she says to you. ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time getting over her
Q. I've posted about this female in questions a few times before. Basically I'm having a really hard time getting over her and I'm questioning my sanity and what else I can do to get over how I'm feeling. To cut a long story short, a FWB that didn't ...
A. 22 November 2016: If you are not interested in a girlfriend at the moment then that is okay but put yourself out there. Get on with your life. Go on dates, have fun and try and remember you are only young and you are single. It is hard getting over someone and ... (read in full...)
Why do men sexualize women this way?
Q. Why are men so disgusting? I'm not trolling. From what I have seen of men, they are foul. They admit to looking at every woman as a sexual partner, imagining her naked... They think disgusting things. They use disgusting words when referrin...
A. 22 November 2016: Female anon, you made me laugh and then I thought it was more than likely you that posted this question as well to get a reaction out off people. It is like saying all men are built from the same mold. Am a woman but I know that my Fiance is ... (read in full...)
How do people get over being bullied? I can't get over this bullying experience
Q. Hello Aunts. I am struggling to get over an experience which Is effecting my professional and personal life And I wanted to share with you. About a year ago I was working for what id call a "cowboy" firm. Bad accountancy practices, awful manageme...
A. 22 November 2016: Yes get some professional help. Yes you may have been bullied. But things like holidays and sick leave are much stricter where I work. Generally I wouldn't be allowed to take time off for a funeral unless it is immediate family, and also generally ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 22 November 2016: You where right in that it should be him that is keeping away from facebook chat, not you being there to stop him. You know he is doing this behind your back, and am pretty sure it is not just his ex he is chatting to either. I would end things with ... (read in full...)
Is there anything that can be suggested, on ways to best support my partner of five years, over her work and health issues?
Q. My partner of 5 years who is 52 has worked in a bakery for 30 years and her boss has sold up to a family. The wife of the said family does not want her in the bakery or using the delivery truck as my partner suffers from IBS (irritable bowel synd...
A. 21 November 2016: I would talk to her solicitor I have never heard such crap in all my life. It is not there business if your wife has IBS or not. It really is a common thing to have and to be discriminated because off it is simply outrageous. My guess is they want ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 17 November 2016: Why are you both not friends on social media? I think you could be right why he was mad at her. He sounds like a shady character. Now am not saying he is cheating on you, but still talking with an ex is not the best way to make you feel secure and ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent his ex a friend request and she accepted. I don't want to be friends
Q. Here's my issue, I have been in a relationship for 6yrs, rocky sometimes, I found out he has been having chats with his ex, the problem now is I was on face book and came across her page I was curious to find out what she looked like but apparently ...
A. 14 November 2016: I would just ignore it. My guess is that she was curious as to why you added her and that is why she wanted to chat. I think you should be honest with your partner. You say he is mad at her, but I don't understand why when it was you that send the ... (read in full...)
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